I am horrible at having conversations which is destroying my dating prospects

I can sometimes tell that people are interested in me, like they’ll ask a question about something that I know they don’t actually care about but they wanna show they like me, the problem is, I answer their question then just don’t know what to say back. Like, I know I “should” then ask about them, but it feels so fake and dirty… I’m not actually interested in what this random person’s hobby is. I don’t think their baseball card collection is cool, I don’t wanna know more about their dog, but that’s what I’m “supposed” to do.

I know this sounds cold, but I just don’t care. NOW HERES THE THING, if I actually found myself in a future relationship with them I would care about these things in the sense I would wanna know what kinds of gifts and stuff I could get them, but as for just knowing? Like i just don’t care. AND I HATE MYSELF FOR THIS. I’m gonna guess this is linked to the rigid interests autism trait, and wow I hate it when it comes to this…

I think my best bet to find a boyfriend is through shared activities, because then we’re just enjoying each others company and getting to know each other organically, but the issue is my hobbies are almost exclusively for old people or women, and all the clubs/groups are all women or old people (I’m a straight woman).

Then I try to branch out to other activities, like board games, but it doesn’t work because I truly don’t care about them so it’s hard to bond with people in a club if you don’t even like the club!

I just want to skip the early relationship stage and get right into the calm and settled relationship stage.

I wish I could care but when I truly don’t care, pretending AKA masking just feels so fake. I don’t wanna build a relationship on masking, I want a relationship to be an ESCAPE from masking!!!! But that means if I don’t have masking to survive conversations then my dating life is basically DOA (masking in this sense is just answering the “right” way, like if he said “wow what are you knitting”, I answer, then ask back “what kinds of hobbies do you like?” He says “I like trains and sports” then me, who doesn’t care about either, will pretend and mask by saying “what do you like about those?”)

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u/rlpsc — 14 days ago

“You always have an excuse for everything”

Looking for support, advice and commiseration

I’m so TIRED of hearing this. It gets under my skin like no other comment.

I am a very thorough thinker. If I ask people for advice, it means I’ve thought through and tried every possibility that I found could possibly work for an issue and still come up dry. Unfortunately for me, this means trying a lot of stuff other people suggest or have suggested.

I rule out a lot of possible solutions for very real valid reasons, but when I mention these to someone offering help, they always ignore the actual logic of the reason and always say something like “you’re just looking for an excuse” “you just don’t want to get better” “you always have an excuse for everything”. Like bruh no actually LISTEN TO MY ARGUMENT??? And even worse, a lot of times I’ve even tried the stuff they suggested and they STILL say it’s an excuse!!!! “Just try again” BRUH I HAVE AND IT FAILED AGAIN.

These people think I should just try their dumb ideas that make no sense. And because I’ve been gaslit by these “you need to try things” people, I have in fact tried things I’ve been suggested, often with a very open mind because for a while I succumbed to the guilt they put on me for “not being open”, and what do ya know, they all literally fail, almost always for the exact weak spots I pointed out or for something very close to the problem I noticed.

I hate these people. They just refuse to actually think. It makes me feel like I can’t ask for help and problem solve. They don’t actually care about solving problems, they care about the appearance of working on solutions instead of actually not wasting time on faulty “solutions” so we can actually find a good one.

A recent example, I have difficulty peeing in public because the noises and people around me being unpredictable and the public restroom being an unfamiliar environment to do a very private bodily function. I criticized a solution someone suggested where you go to a hotel and make yourself go, but then I explained that my body won’t let me go and I’d need to start somewhere less intense. Then he said try going to the restroom at home with a phone call, I explained that I already do this, because it’s only physical humans that cause my body to be overstimulated. He then got mad and said “you always have an excuse, you just don’t want to get better”, like BRUH if we just kept going back and forth and refining the option we probably could’ve found something!!!! But no, these people don’t care about actual solutions, they just like looking like stuff is being done even if it doesn’t ultimately help anyone. I for one, prefer not wasting time on things that haven’t worked or don’t work.

This post isn’t about that one instance though, I can easily go through the back and forth in my head, I just wanted to give a real life example of how this plays out.

Are you ever told you always make excuses just because you are a very thorough thinker? The worst part for me is when they imply that I just “don’t want a solution” and “don’t want to get better” from my problems just because I’m JUST SAYING WHAT IVE ALREADY TRIED, and THINKING THROUGH ALL THE DETAILS OF THE PLAN

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u/rlpsc — 16 days ago

Are my filters too strict? I was told that my autism is making me read these signs as bad but they actually aren’t, is that true?

I have some online friends telling me I’m being too strict with the filtering I do with potential matches, and that I just don’t realize it because of my autism. Is this a blindspot from my autism making me picky and have too high expectations or am I being reasonable?

Context 24yo woman with autism, disabled, looking for a life partner and not open to short term

All the numbers here are rough, I don’t count the number of messages or how long we’ve talked, these are just estimates

I will unmatch if:
1 they only talk about themself and never ask anything about me within the first 30 messages. WHY: It shows they aren’t interested in getting to know me.
2 If they ask questions, but not furthering ones about anything I talk about (e.g. if I said “I love song writing, Dolly Parton inspired me to get into it”, I would expect someone genuinely interested in me to ask a furthering question like “what about Dolly inspired you to write music?”) WHY: it shows they aren’t genuinely interested in me. If someone ACTUALLY thinks I’m interesting, they’ll want to know more than the surface level facts of small talk.
3 If they give multiple hints they don’t align with my values. WHY: self explanatory.
4 They ask questions that had they read the text I sent 2 minutes ago they wouldn’t have asked (e.g. if I said “I’m majoring in history at This State University”, then 5 messages later they say “what are you majoring in?”, if they do this twice I unmatch. WHY: it shows disinterest in me. If they asked me a question because they genuinely wanted to know, they would’ve remembered my answer surely for at least 5 seconds. I don’t expect them to memorize me, but if you can’t remember 4 messages back are they even trying to learn?

I have others but these are the big ones that I’m told are “too much”. I’ll admit I haven’t had a date before, but it seems only reasonable to weed out guys like this in my case. Dating takes so much energy, I don’t want to waste it on someone who isn’t genuinely interested in me. These filters really just filter for who seem to really be interested in me.

Not to mention that if I don’t feel like the other person is interested, I lose my energy fast. But I will not tell them that off the bat because then that can be used to manipulate and hurt me. A big lesson I’ve learned from others is don’t outright say what you want with new matches, or else they’ll just do that because they know it’s what you want to manipulate you into giving them what they want.

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u/rlpsc — 20 days ago

Can I jump between two community colleges every semester? (MA)

The reason is, my current community college is on the other side of the state, and offers live zoom classes for an online format, and this is my best format to take classes currently with my disability. Asynchronous just doesn’t go well with me, I need the interaction of a zoom class.

However, there are some subjects I would like to take in person, and I want to give it a shot in the spring semester (I’ve already signed up with the distant one for the fall). It would not be possible to go to in person classes at the same college I go to for zoom classes, it’s too far away and I do not drive, meanwhile my local CC has public transit that could go there.

My question is, would it be possible to take these classes online this semester, then another few IRL at the local one, then summer classes through the distant college again if things didn’t work out in person? It really all depends on how I can manage my symptoms in person. I learn best in person, which is why I’d really like to try that in the spring, and that’s also why synchronous online is the second best option.

My local CC could make things real easy and simply start offering synchronous classes, but unfortunately they haven’t been to kind to my advocacy 😂

I read that the Pell grant (what I’m using to pay for all of this) will only cover one institution per semester, which is why I ask about jumping between semesters. I would love if I could take one online at the far one and one IRL class at the local one, but that wouldn’t work financially if I couldn’t get aid. Which is why I’m asking about splitting it by semester

These are all basic foundations classes btw: English 1 and 2, intro to statistics, Psych 101, Bio 101, etc., no highly specialized courses.

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u/rlpsc — 2 months ago
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The dreaded words “New and improved”

If it wasn’t broken why fix it????? I just lost one of my 5 foods because of this BS and now I’m stressing out. Why do companies feel the need to do this? Well, they just lost their biggest customer in my region. I hate this problem, I wish I had a more expansive diet, I wish I could be healthy, and I wish companies would stop making stupid decisions.

Why do they feel the need to change everything????

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u/rlpsc — 2 months ago

Something I found helpful

For a long time I got overwhelmed with the sheer variety of jobs that exist, but I don’t know how I’d ever get to them. What education is needed, what the timelines look like, etc.. there are also just so many types of specialties and subspecialties, it was all so overwhelming.

Well, i discovered just surfing profiles on LinkedIn has been insanely helpful.

I can look for people in the kinds of fields I’m curious about, and see how they got their start. What they majored in, what their climb to the top looked like, etc.

It’s made looking into potential jobs a lot less intimidating, and a lot less abstract.

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u/rlpsc — 2 months ago

Killed three of my girls in two days, caught the killer, now what do I do with it?

I never actually thought of what I’d do if I caught them. I lost two girls a year ago and set a trap but never got anything. Then I lost two last week, they were found viciously mangled. I found a hole I thought it entered through and patched it, only to find another girl gone the next day and found it made a new hole (my hardware cloth had shifted over years and I stupidly didn’t tie it down, fixed that). I patched that hole and made sure there were no other weak points anywhere, then set a have-a-heart trap my neighbor lent me again right next to the hole. 3 days later it finally caught the suspect, a raccoon.

But now idk what to do with it, this may sound like a dumb question but what do you guys do? I never really thought through what I’d do because I failed so long before to trap previous predators. Yeah that was dumb on my part, but now I’m here and need advice. I don’t have a gun but my neighbor does if that’s what you do.

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

No one offers me support because I don’t “look” like I’m depressed.

I hate this. Every day all day I feel like I want to cry, down to the small details like that tension you feel in your sinuses, the weight in your chest, all of that. The only thing I don’t have is the tears. And that one thing is what makes people not take my sadness seriously.

I tell my mom all the time “I’m depressed”, and she offers no support, no comfort. But the rare time I actually do bawl my eyes out (by pure luck), her demeanor changes totally and she starts offering comfort, verbal support, etc.

I need that every time I’m sad, but she (and others) only offer it those rare chances I have water coming from my eyes. She said her reasoning is that it looks like I’m MORE sad than usual, but reality is, I just don’t have it as outwardly obvious the other days. And not by choice.

I literally tell her and other people every time I’m sad and they only respond when I LOOK sad, otherwise they act like I’m lying or faking. I’m so sick of it.

I need support I’m severely depressed from being lonely, but no one believes me because I don’t LOOK depressed.

I’m so tired of this…

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

Any YouTube channels or podcasts to passively learn A&P?

So like, when I’m actively trying to self study I love content like the Amoeba Sisters, the way they break it down helps it stick. But I’m looking for something less content-dense. Something I can just throw on while cleaning or playing a video game where I could learn a thing or two, without needing to follow along and study the whole video. Just something that I could occasionally learn a few things about how the body works. I find anatomy very interesting and I really wanna nurture this interest of mine, but I currently don’t have the time to properly study and I’m not taking any class to study for. So something to learn a few things while casually enjoying would be cool!

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

Why has it always been so hard for me to pee?

For my whole life (well, ever since I’ve been conscious) I have never been able to pee off of a toilet. I remember in the hospital as a child I couldn’t pee in a bedpan for a half hour they tried to get me to, But I couldn’t. It just wouldn’t start. Then the second I’m on a toilet boom it comes out without any effort.

Then they did a test on me where I was supposed to pee laying down on the table. They filled my bladder to the brim with liquid (part of the test), and I literally could not get myself to pee on the table. They tried having the doctors leave the room, tried bringing my mom in, literally anything to make me comfortable, and after 20 minutes of trying and failing they gave up and let me pee on the toilet. I peed instantly and was so glad the pain was over (it’s PAINFUL having a bladder that full and not being able to release it).

I don’t know why this is, and this has only grown worse as I’ve gotten older. Instead of only being able to pee on a toilet, now I can only pee on some toilets that have a large enough opening or else the small seat presses on my muscles in a way that locks things up and makes it’s impossible to start.

But now it’s not even just that. It’s difficult to start peeing in the first place. I can always start at home on my familiar toilet (I have autism btw which might be part of it, the overstimulation of a new non-home bathroom might be tightening my pelvic floor). In a non-overstimulating public toilet I can usually start if I put in a lot of time and effort (not straining but trying to tickle myself to get it started, running water, rubbing myself, breathing, etc.) but even then I usually only get a small trickle out when otherwise had I been at home the volume would’ve been double. And since it’s incomplete, my bladder gets very angry and causes severe urgency that is much worse with movement. I also once thought this was why bladder, but my difficulty has nothing to do with social pressure or anxiety and doesn’t correlate to how I feel different days.

I can also only start a stream when I have a strong enough urge (which is why the tickling technique helps a little). I can’t start a stream on a partially empty bladder no matter what I do. At home I can strain and get a little out but that triggers an immediate flare of intense urgency and angers my bladder more so I don’t even feel relief after. (Btw when I say angers my bladder It’s just my fun way of saying “causes a flare” lol)

And if I’m in an overstimulating environment, like a mall bathroom with lots of people coming in and out, forget it, no pee is coming out no matter what I try. It’s as if my bladder is totally plugged. I’ve tried things to lower stimulation like ear plugs and other things but they don’t help.

I’ve tried all kinds of other tricks like leaning, stretching, also meds like flomax and anxiety meds, they either do nothing or make things worse. Been to many urologists who either gave me those medications or just sent me to pelvic pt. They said my ultrasound on my bladder was fine and didn’t see anything on my bladder xray with that childhood test.

The only medication which has given me any improvement was vaginal estradiol. Peeing at home was even hard and took me up to a minute to start a stream at home and peeing in low stimulus bathrooms was impossible. Now ever since I’ve been on it, I can start a stream like a normal person at home 95% of times, and I can start a weak stream at those comfortable bathrooms 50% of the time (better than the previous 0%). But the weird thing is, I just had my blood estrogen tested and it was normal. So idk why it works.

I always thought this difficulty started as a teen, but it wasn’t until I put the dots together of my childhood memories that I realized this has always been a problem.

Idk what to do, it sucks that peeing is so hard. I’m working with a PT but we aren’t getting far with this particular issue. And unfortunately this is the most debilitating. I can’t have a social life if I can’t use the restroom outside of my home without flaring (and then becoming incapacitated from the pain), or being unable to pee (and holding my pee causes a flare too).

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

Only symptomatic with movement

When I am sitting still, laying, etc. (as long as it’s a comfortable place), I feel no urgency, I feel fine.

But if I walk around, move, do any kind of activity, I have urgency. Also tightness that makes it very hard to pee.

Additionally, for the longest time I thought I had shy bladder because I couldn’t pee in public.

But then I had to pee immediately after a massage, and the pee just flowed. And this made me realize, that in all other instances where I tried peeing in public, it was always right after a long period of activity. Whether it be walking in a store, carrying things, even just walking around forever trying to find a bathroom. It was always activity right before.

But then I tried my theory again in another socially acceptable place to lay down in public: PT. After some gentle manual release, and more importantly, lying down for 20 minutes, I was able to pee at the office.

I realized that this is why peeing at home is almost always easier: at home I’m usually laying on the couch 20-60 minutes before peeing. The times I’m not, the days when I have lots of work (about 1x every two weeks) it’s HARDER to pee, and I usually always have incomplete emptying those days.

As for urgency, perfect example is right now. I feel fine. But now I’ve stood up and walked to the other room, boom intense urgency. Just stopped moving, after a few diaphragmatic breaths I’m back to urge free. And when I breathe WHILE moving, the urgency is even worse.

This also explains why I am so symptomatic in a moving car. I’ll feel fine when the car is stationary, but when it starts moving and my body begins jiggling with the motion, symptoms reappear. And it’s only when I return inside to lay down that the symptoms fade.

All of this is worsened if I try relaxing while moving. I think this is why I developed a bracing habit when I move, because bracing stops the sensation when I’m moving. But any time I try relaxing while doing an activity, I usually can relax a lot, but the urgency gets so intense my instinct tightens up again,

I don’t know what this means for cause or treatment, I think the solution would be to learn how to relax while moving. I need to figure out how to cause that relaxation effect I get when laying for 30 minutes, in just a few minutes so that I can pee normally again.

I try to practice relaxing while moving right now with pelvic drops, but they always make me feel like I am about to piss myself, and doing jt once usually triggers a day long flare.

Anyone got experience/advice on this?

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

How do I switch gynecologists while on a medication?

I’ve been seeing my first gyn for 3 years, but I want a new one. While she is very comforting and nice, she is very dismissive and uncurious of my issues. She refused even a simple blood test for my highly irregular periods. I want to try out another one to see if I could get better care elsewhere.

My concern is though, I currently get a prescription from this doctor that’s a little controversial with some doctors. Usually only menopausal women get it but given the severity of another problem I have, I get it at 22 years old. And it seriously has drastically improved my symptoms for this problem. Literally life changing, and when I tried to stop it recently, my symptoms came back. I’m scared the prescription won’t be transferred over if I switch.

I found a gynecologist who looks really good, but I want to meet them before having my well woman exam. My current one will only renew my prescription at my annual visit, so I can’t just use my annual visit as my first appointment with a new one because if she’s bad, and doesn’t give me the medication, insurance won’t cover another annual visit.

I am in the US, how exactly do I get an appointment to “feel out” the doctor? To meet them and discuss transition of care over to her, and also get a feel for her kindness and if she’s patient with me? I just don’t want to lose what I have while trying to find something better.

I was thinking of maybe making an appointment to discuss my missing periods, but my PCP already ordered a hormone panel after giving up on the gyn and asking for it from her. And everything was normal. So I have no clue what’s causing my missing periods now, and I’m always afraid of sounding stupid or be dismissed when I keep asking about a problem where tests were normal.

Sorry I hope this post makes sense.

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

Noticing a pattern

I had my first “boyfriend” a few months ago, we met on hinge and within a few days of chatting I became obsessed. I was very good at hiding it, I didn’t express it, I didn’t act on any of my desires out of fear of scaring him away, but oh lord… I was obsessed. Thinking about “our future marriage”, our “future kids”, growing old and dying together, etc.. I couldn’t do any of my hobbies any more, my hobby became dreaming about our future.

Date 1, 2 and 3 went good and only furthered the obsession, but a few days after 3, he pulled away and eventually broke things off with me with the “I’m not ready for a relationship” line. I was devastated for a few days until the thought “F him, if he really loved me he would’ve *made* himself ready, it’s just an excuse”. Mean? Maybe, but it was strong enough to snap me out of the depression, and I gave up dating for a few months.

Reflecting on it too, there were a lot of unhealthy signs of the relationship I overlooked because I was desperate for this relationship (in reality: the fantasy) to work.

After feeling I had healed from that experience,, reflected on it, learned about limerance/infatuation etc., I felt like I was aware of this phenomenon now, so I can control it.

Well here I am again. Found a guy on hinge I’ve been chatting to for a few hours, and the thoughts are pouring in about a future where I’m meeting his parents/getting married/having kids etc..

since I am aware of the spell now, I’m telling myself that these are stupid thoughts and to just “go with the flow and see if I like him, and leave if you see a red flag”. But my brain won’t listen and won’t stop filling in the blanks with dream-situations.

Thankfully this person has one yellow flag from the outset which is helping ground things more in reality, but I’m still sad that I can’t just enjoy things and go with the flow because my stupid brain won’t listen to logic.

How do I beat this into my skull so I can just enjoy the talking stage and whatever comes out of it NATURALLY?

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

What to use as a base for a 12” 9” 6” cake?

I’ve made 3 tiers before but all have been 10” 8” 6”. For those I simply used 4 cake circles stuck together and wrapped with ribbon.

This order I just got is 12” 9” 6”, and I’m afraid I’ll need something stronger than cardboard. I was thinking wood but I don’t know how that’d be done. I was also possibly thinking just more cake boards stacked up. What do you guys use for a base for very heavy cakes?

I want it to be 16” round so I have space for decorations

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

What do you use for a base (cake drum, wood, something else?) for a 12” 9” 6” cake?

I’ve made 3 tiers before but all have been 10” 8” 6”. For those I simply used 4 cake circles stuck together and wrapped with ribbon.

This order I just got is 12” 9” 6”, and I’m afraid I’ll need something stronger than cardboard. I was thinking wood but I don’t know how that’d be done. I was also possibly thinking just more cake boards stacked up. What do you guys use for a base for very heavy cakes?

I want it to be 16” round so I have space for decorations

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

Self hate and projection.

Hi I really need some help processing this with my peers…

So I’m desperate for friends (big shock I know…) and have failed repeatedly to find any with NTs (another big shock 🙄). There are autism groups with an agency I recieve support from, but I have always avoided them, and upon some self reflection, it’s got a lot to do with self hate.

When I look at some of the people in the photos online, for instance I may see one discussing his love for Mickey Mouse. My mind instantly views him as a child, and goes to very mean thoughts like “pfft what a pathetic child, grow up”.

Meanwhile, my dumb self is literally doing the same exact thing. I play webkinz as my only form of video game. The only TV shows I watch are Icarly and H2O Just add water. I am literally doing exactly what he does. The fact is, i view myself the same way. I feel like a pathetic child who needs to grow up. But I don’t want to in this sense, I love these things.

I also think it’s partially because of my mirroring. I don’t tell people IRL about my secret likes, I hide them through anonymous profiles online because I’m so ashamed of being “a child”. But when I have tried coming out of my shell, I get the exact response I had: “pfft how pathetic, you’re playing a children’s game?”. When I was 13 I have a vivid memory of me playing with littlest pet shop toys still, and my mom said “put that stuff away you’re THIRTEEN YEARS OLD you aren’t a kid any more, grow up!”. And I think that’s why I have the thought patterns. Other people are telling me it’s childish and bad, and as usual my autism brain thinks my gut is always wrong and everyone else is right, so I just start following this new arbitrary rule and become just as mean as them.

I know I’m at fault. I’m not blaming others for my reaction. I don’t say ANY of these thoughts out loud to people, I just keep them in my head. And I hate the thoughts. In a way I think I might just be envious of these people I mentally ridicule. They are unashamed of their “childish” likes, they don’t care if people have those bad thoughts about them. They can enjoy them openly without fear or shame. And I never feared shame either, until I was made to.

I was forced to start caring about other people’s opinions on me when hygiene was an issue for me. I struggled with showering and My mother would shame me about how much people hated me and didn’t want to be around me if I smelled. I even had the school counselor kick me out of her office for smelling so bad one day. This scarred me and I think that’s when I began caring what people thought to a large degree. Like, when the school counselor of all people, the person who is supposed to be the most compassionate to the most sensitive kids, literally kicks you out for something you’re struggling with, it hit me deep. I never wanted to feel that shame again. If even a counselor couldn’t care for me because i smelled, then no one will. So when I heard “average people’s” preference for things beyond hygiene, I was scared of the same response, so I just followed along. Who knows what the next “smell” will be. Maybe it’s childish games/movies, maybe it’s outfits, I don’t know.

Now I just feel pain. I judge myself for everything. I have to hide my true self out of fear of shame and judgement. And I hate myself. I have internalized all of these judgements to the point I project them onto others, despite not ACTUALLY feeling that way, but because the training to feel that way has been so deeply embedded into my soul like a cancer.

Idk how any of you could help but I could really use some support processing it, even just saying you understand or some advice… so many people tell me I’m hard on myself and I totally agree, but I feel like I deserve it. I have such a deep sense that I deserve it… I judge myself harshly because I learned that not predicting a judgement can lead to so much pain (I.e. not predicting that being smelly would make the therapist kick me out). So now, I play it safe by trying to judge myself on every action I do, so that I’m “prepared” in case a judgement comes my way.

I actually DO do this, I’ll self deprecate myself in any conversation even when people compliment me. I can’t take a compliment because there’s always a negative someone could pick on, so I pick on it myself so that someone else can’t do it.

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago

Most cash back card I could get? Mainly groceries for business

  • Current cards: (list cards, limits, opening date)
    • Savor Student, $2,000, June 2025
  • FICO Score: 736
  • Oldest account age: 1 year 1 month
  • Income: $12,000
  • Average monthly spend and categories:
    • dining $0
    • groceries: $50-300
    • gas: $0
    • travel: $0
    • other: $50-250 (mainly Hobby Lobby and some Amazon)
    • Monthly total spending can vary, I usually have one large ($750-$1,000) purchase a year.
  • Open to Business Cards: Yes
  • What's the purpose of your next card? Better cash back on groceries and/or better cash back on non-groceries
  • Do you have any cards you've been looking at? I was looking at the Citi Custom Cash but put it off too long (trying to get my credit history to over a year), now I'm back to needing to figure out my best option.
  • Are you OK with category spending or do you want a general spending card? I'm ok with either.

Near all of my spending is for my baking business, I buy a lot of ingredients from grocery stores and restaurant supply stores (which my savor card classifies as grocery). I currently use the savor for everything, and when looking at the custom cash card I thought I'd be able to increase that grocery cash back, but now that that's gone I'm searching for something else.

I have never missed a payment, I pay everything off right when I get my statement.

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u/rlpsc — 3 months ago
▲ 11 r/Webkinz

Ignoring prizes, what Today's Activity is your favorite and least favorite?

Ignoring which ones have the best prizes, what daily activity do you get excited for when you see it on Today's Activities? I'm talking balloon darts, dunk the zingoz, big button of kinz cash, etc., which one do you find the most fun or exciting? On the other hand, which one do you find the most boring?

I personally love the prize klaw. Does it nearly give me a panic attack sometimes? Yes lol. But that's kinda the thrill of it for me lol.

As for my least favorite, that's probably token balloon darts because of Amanda's defective speed meter, it makes it too hard to throw accurately.

What about you?

EDIT: Actually my least favorite is Jelly Bean Challenge, I totally forgot it even existed because I don't even play it any more XD

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