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I’m tired of being made to feel gross because I don’t shave. I have bushes under my armpits but every time I’ve tried shaving I just can’t stand the friction. My hair lets my arms glide so smoothly against my pit. Also I can’t stand the sensation of plain legs.

I even have a slight woman-stache that you can see if you look close. This is the only one I really don’t like the look of BUT when I tried shaving it, I realized that I rest my fingers against that spot on my face a LOT and not having the hair there effects the sensation A LOT, no now I’m always trying to hide the stashe in photos because I hate the look and don’t wanna dye it (I hate skincare/hair care routines. I already hate showering I don’t need some extra routine to exhaust me more)

Anyone else “let it grow”? I always was fine with it but my mother really instilled a shame in it, so now if I wear a tank top in public I feel a repulsion to lifting my arms up, even if deep down I don’t give a crud about what people think about *a natural human feature*. As long as I don’t smell (I use deodorant so thats covered) idk why people are so opposed to body hair.

But then I admittedly am a hypocrite when it comes to men. While hair on me is good for my sensory preferences, I hate hair on men also for my own sensory preferences lol. Getting kisses with a scraggly beard 😖

I fell down a bit of a rabbit hole of listening to demos/outtakes (my favorite from Paul Simon has been the Duncan demo Sam Francisco 2/71, also the Bleeker Street 1964 demo). In that journey I stumbled across Billy Boy, posted in 2023. When I tried researching this track, nothing came up except a blog post from more recently and the person said they had never heard of it before that day. Some of the YouTube comments say it’s AI. Does anyone have any information about this track and its origins and if it’s real or not?

I use worsted weight yarn a lot so I’m very familiar with the recommended US size 8 needles, and 17 or 18x22 stitches = 4”x4” gauge. I have always needed size 6 needles to get that gauge, and the more knitting I do, the more I wonder how anyone could get that gauge with needles any bigger?

I’m truly just confused lol. It’s not as though I’m a loose knitter, in fact, I might have to go down to a size 5 because my wrists are killing me after this cardigan I’ve been making and trying to maintain my gauge lol.

Does anyone get the correct gauge with size 8 needles? How do you do it? I’m not asking so much for advice, I’m fine needing smaller needles, I’m just curious how you make it work! It seems so impossible to my brain.

And if no one actually can get the gauge with the suggested needle size, how did it even become recommended in the first place??

I’m so tired of hearing this line. People treat therapy like it’s water. That it doesn’t cost anything, that it doesn’t pose any risks, that it works, that it helps, that it does literally anything good.

Then when anyone has a pinch of common sense and says “no, lots of people are perfectly fine without it”, the therapy cultists respond with “ThIs Is A SiGN yOu nEeD tHerAPy”. Basically admitting that in their deranged mind, that unless you support therapy, you need therapy. Total insanity,

Other insane things these people say:

“Therapy is like going to the gym or the dentist!!!!! You don’t need to go only when you’re unhealthy!!!”

“Saying you go to therapy is a green flag!!! (In dating)”

Someone said “it’s a waste of money”, the therapy proponent said “that’s what insurance is for”

How privileged can you be? Firstly not everyone has insurance, second most plans have copays, third not everyone has money for said copays, fourth not everyone has the time for a 45 minute appointment every week especially poorer folks, and fifth, people who don’t actually need it aren’t about to go through all the bs of figuring those things out for something THEY DONT NEED.

These people treat therapy like it poses no risks either. Then when you point them to places like this sub they always find a way to say we’re a super small minority. Meanwhile these therapy proponents gladly spoke about how literally all they do is blabber to their therapist for 45 minutes and get minimal feedback, and they’ve been seeing them doing this for OVER FIVE YEARS!!!!

Working with my PT on my difficulty voiding, she suggested belly breathing and other relaxation techniques to help start a stream. I've been belly breathing and doing stretches for weeks which has helped lower my overall pelvic tension, to the point she notices a big difference.

But when it comes to peeing everything seems to be the opposite.

I've been trying to do all of those relaxation tricks that I've found successful, but just doing it on the toilet too, and for whatever reason a stream just wont start. I have to push a little to at least get it to start.

I told her this, and she then suggested for now to do what i need to do to start the stream, but to breathe deep while peeing.

Well, I have now tried that a few times, and immediately when I breathe deep it is extremely difficult to keep the stream. Normally I breathe shallowly while peeing and i have to keep my core slightly tight, and ill get a satisfying void. When I belly breathe while peeing, it feels as if my enlarged abdomen (from all the are) is pressing on my urethra and kinking it like a hose (i know that's not actually how it works, just saying what it feels like)

I'm just totally confused as to why all the rules seem to reverse when on the toilet. It's already pretty hard for me to pee, but if I don't do that light strain or if i breathe too deeply it becomes near impossible to go.

Why is it so backwards? I don't know what else I could be doing, its insanely annoying having such a crucial bodily process be so difficult.

Good things come in threes I guess XD

Got a free extra bagel when I bought my birthday breakfast this morning, got a free second pizza when I got my bday dinner, and now I've won a quickdraw!!!! Happy way to end the day!

(BEFORE YOU COMMENT I AM ABOUT TO FEED MY PET A BUNCH OF CAKE DONT WORRY IM A TOTALLY COMPETENT PET PARENT LOL)

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I got my first credit card a year ago, and I was looking at my credit score breakdown today because it went down 30 points. The thing that seems to have changed it was “increase in debt”. This amount was because my statement the prior month was something like $100, and the next month was around $500. However, I pay off my balance the second I get my statement, and have no loans/debt. This makes it seem like paying off my balance BEFORE getting my monthly statement would be better?

Is it better to pay it right after you make a purchase, or to pay it once you get your statement? I thought waiting for the statement showed utilization and that’s what the credit score likes?

I live in a smaller Metrowest town and I swear I wonder where everyone my age is. What are all the people my age doing in their free time? Are they truly all just locked away at home on tik tok or Instagram?

I can’t attend college because of my disability, I have to work from home because of it too, and a job/college seem to be just about the only two reliable ways to have a chance of meeting friends these days at my age. I’ve tried joining countless clubs, groups, volunteering, online and in person (what few in-person options even exist in this area) and maybe it’s just my area or my preferences, but EVERYONE at the local groups are at a minimum aged 50+. I don’t hate old people, all the people I’ve met are nice, but my god what I’d give for someone my own age…

Websites like meetup are a joke and I don’t know why so many people suggest them. No one seems to actually use them yet they’re always suggested lol.

I can’t travel too far, I’m in southern Metrowest and Boston or Worcester are too far of a drive with my condition, but surely not EVERYONE my age is spending all of their free time in those cities?

My town does nothing for people my age either. The entire town and library calendar is made up of 90% senior activities and 10% child activities. Nothing for us 20 or even 30-somethings.

Been doing relaxation and stretch work with pt for a while. I’ve tried vaginal CBD, Valium, etc. and I still have to strain to pee. It almost feels like there’s a heaviness in my perineum blocking everything, even after a bowel movement. It feels closer to the center of the pelvic floor than a BM. And it’s been this way though for years regardless of whether my BMs are constipated or super soft.

My pt is really emphasizing relaxing when I pee or try to pee, and I’ve been really trying hard to start a stream without straining, but it just won’t. Even with straining I have to lean and move around in order to get it all out.

It’s so weird that all the things I’m told to make peeing easier seem to make it harder, but I think it’s because the only way I seem to be able to pee is straining, so ofc relaxing makes straining harder.

I’m so frustrated that I can’t pee without straining, it’s so hard to deal with. I wish there was some solution I haven’t tried.

I just made cupcakes and halved a recipe that calls for 3 eggs. I’ve used the recipe many times and usually do 2 eggs for half of a recipe and get great reviews, but this time I accidentally used 3. I can’t taste them due to an allergy of mine (making these for someone else), should I remake them or should they be fine?

For context, this recipe WHEN HALVED has 8oz sugar, 8oz AP flour and 1 teaspoon vanilla

My hypertonic pelvic floor can be so bad and easy to flare that it’s very hard to pee in almost any circumstance that isn’t a totally silent and peaceful area. Just the other day my PT told me the second I started talking (to answer a question she asked) my pelvic floor tightened a lot, then proceeded to not let go. This validated an expertise I’ve had for so long. Tiny things make my pelvic floor tight, and usually tight enough that it’s very hard to pee.

So I wanted to try catheters, because my inability to pee in most places has ruined my life, and catheters would let me pee anywhere again, but my doctor said they’d make the hypertonic pelvic floor worse.

And I’m quite defeated now. That was the only solution I had in mind. I’m gonna keep working with the PT as I have been, but it’s just pretty demoralizing. It would be nice to be able to know I can pee anywhere I want to without needing to consider “is my pelvic floor going to work this time?”, and cancel plans because I don’t have a backup.

I almost want to just ignore my doctor because I want to be able to use them so badly. He doesn’t understand how life altering this problem is.

Can women with hypertonic pelvic floor safely use catheters?

You guys convinced me to start with English comp 1, now I want to know what to expect on the day to day level, because trying to imagine that my mind goes blank.

Not the class as a whole, by class I’m asking specifically about those two 90 minute blocks (or one 180 minute block) I’ll be spending in the classroom every week.

Of course each professors class will be different, but I just wanted a general idea of what exactly to expect to be happening in those few hours a week. And what kinds of things you got for homework.

I found a syllabus from another professor at the CC I’ll be going to, but it doesn’t really give me a good idea about what to expect on the class-time level. Like, do they just give tips on writing then you write the whole time? I’ve literally got no clue. My Highschool experience was unconventional so I don’t exactly have a Highschool English class as a reference point

I plan on taking one class a semester due to my disability (which with treatment I hope to be better by the time I’d be ready for nursing school, if not I’ll probably just aim to finish an associates in science and see where life takes me). I’ve already planned out the order, and I’ll be taking all sciences last, since those need to be within 5 years of when you apply to the nursing program

A partial reason I’m doing one at a time is also so I have time to really engage with the content and do my best. Balancing my condition and multiple classes would be too much and I can promise would lead to worse grades and worse retention of information.

My concern is would they look down upon someone taking one at a time? I know nursing schools usually take GPA in sciences especially into high consideration. Would they consider someone who got, say, a 3.8 in all sciences within 3 semesters, differently than someone who got a 4.0 in all sciences in 6 semesters? Neither of these hypothetical people repeated a class. Does taking more time come across as bad to them?

The only thing that planted this doubt in my mind is that the community college I’ll be taking the classes at has an honors program (not honors classes, I just forget the name of the program, it’s just something to put on future resumes), but it’s only available to full time (9+ credits) students, with people from the school saying online the reason is because someone who is part time could ace one class because they only have to focus on the one class, which makes it easier to ace, and therefore not “deserving” of the honors program.

I’d still do my classes one by one due to my personal health timeline, and given my preferred learning style, but I definitely would second guess my plans if they look down upon people who “chip away” one class at a time, or weigh their GPA lower.