u/roguemadness

SPOILERS!!!!

The reading order I have has Darkmore last and since I didn't want any spoilers I didn't look into at all. Now I'm wishing I did so I wouldn't be here. I would of read it right after Ruthless Boys.

I'm having problems jumping in. It's like I'm missing key details that connecting the dots. I don't remember the exact details. I remember something happens and Roary goes to Darkmore. He actually didn't do the crime but he's being the scape goat because I want to say it was actually Rosalie.

What is the key information that I'm forgetting from RB to help me refresh my memory? I read all of RB so any and all details are welcome so there will be no spoilers for me. If you can connect it slightly to Darkmore mostly up to the bank robbery.

I moved to Idaho back in 2018 and I knew it was called the Gem state. What I didn't know is how "easy" it is to go out and find treasures. I'm trying to plan out a day to go and hit different spots. What I can't figure out is what exactly I need. Some people have said I need the bells and whistles. The metal detectors, the hand held one, the different pans with different sifter. Others have said a bucket to carry everything and sunscreen.

What realistically would be useful for a first timer?

TLWR (To long won't read) I went no contact with my biological mother. I am thinking about reaching out to find closer so I can move on. Skip to last paragraph.

I went no contact with my biological mother 6 years ago. Before that we just never talked. Long story short my sister and I were birth control failed, condom broke babies so to say that she didn't want us is putting it LIGHTLY. Growing up was a lot of emotional and verbal abuse with the occasional physical abuse. The physical abuse stopped when we got old enough to be able to hit back and could actually defend ourselves.

At that time I was still somewhat talking to her she was constantly threating to go into the middle of no where, kill herself and no one would ever find her. Sometimes she would just make the threat Monday morning and by Monday afternoon it was like nothing ever happened. When that stopped getting people's attention she upgraded to saying her final good byes and runaway for a few days. Yet again when that wouldn't give her the attention she wanted days turned to weeks, weeks into months. Every. Single. Time when someone in the family caved and got worried I was the one who had to call her. They would try while she was "missing" but she just wouldn't answer. When it got to the point I had to call she would know that it was time to end the games.

All of this was on other people's time. I live in Idaho and they live in Maryland so there is like a 3 hour time difference between us. It didn't matter if I was at work or if I had plans. When they decided it was time for me to call her I had to put my entire life on hold to call her to tell her it was time to knock it off. I don't know where to mentioned this but she is an unmedicated bipolar with huge conspiracy paranoia. We are talking celebrities bathing in aborted fetus's blood to stay young conspiracy nut job. Her medication is poison to her soul. We all just need to accept her for who she is without it. Therapy is waste of time and something about the government tracking something. Her rants are so delusional that you easily tune here out.

When she went so far off the deep end that she told the police her usual kill herself plan. The county police department blew her up on Facebook, twitter and because she never went to the police before it had everyone in the family freaking out. I was at work getting my phone blown up that this time was real, she really did it this time, etc. I ran out of work barely saying what was happening. When I got home I called her and she answered the phone like it was just another day. I can't describe how nonchalant she was when she answered. Overall she didn't care how the family felt, the time being wasted by the police, how I was getting in trouble at work because of the constant family problems.

6 years ago I met my now fiancé and when things got serious I was terrified how her drama would effect us. That's when I wrote her the letter saying until she gets back on her meds and get the help she desperately needs I couldn't play this game any more. She took the letter as a goodbye because she wasn't going to change knowing it meant losing any chance of a relationship with me. Some days are easier than others. Some days are like FDB (Fuck Dat Bitch) by Young Dro and other days I want to crawl into a hole and cry. How could she feel so little about her own child? Seeing my mother in law with my fiancé and his sister, our friend's having kids now and how they would do anything for their kids. How does she not care? I know that as long as she refuses to take her meds, refuse to go to therapy and not want to be better I am better without her. I still feel this invisible cord connecting me to her.

As long as this cord is there I don't see how I could possibly move completely pass this. When I talk and think about it I keep circling back to the whys. Why did she hate us so much? Why if she didn't want us let anyone take us away? Why did she let me go without even a response? The only reason why I know she took my letter as a goodbye was because my aunt told me. She was upset about it and didn't want this to be the way but the maternal fight for her child never kicked in. I was thinking about going to see her to confront her with my whys. I know it won't end in rainbows and sunshine. Knowing her she is going to blame anyone and everyone but herself. I know I won't get answers but maybe what I do get even if it's nothing could give me that closer for that cord to finally be broken.

Has anyone ever tried to reach out after going no contact and get any kind of closer? Even if it went bad did it help in anyway to make this feeling go away? Did you find a way to make this feeling go away?

A bit of a weird question but where do you "contact" ddv? I did it before I want to say on discord where you can throw out ideas to them. For the life of me I can't remember.

Side note what does everyone think of all the dlc worlds gave the daily moonstone chest too? It seems like a win win for everyone. Gameloft will get more people to buy the dlc. After you all the friendship quests they kind of "die off" because all the events and stuff is valley based. This gives you a reason to go to the dlcs. It's like a little thank you for buying the dlcs here's some extra moonstones.

Hello everyone! Like the title says I work with someone who constantly lies for attention. I worked with her and her mom for years on top of she is always talking about how close she is with her family. She is the only daughter and granddaughter so to them she is the perfect princess. It never clicked that the rest of world doesn't veiw her this way. I had to listen to her mom go on a rant about an ex who broke up with her because "he's just a pathetic little boy who can't handle realty and can't see how he just gave up the best woman he will ever meet." He broke up with her because he couldn't handle the drama.

Lately she has been playing the medical card. Every week something medically something is wrong with her or a family member. The thing is her story changes and medically nothing adds up. One minute she her family finds her in the kitchen passed out on the floor and no one knows what's going on. The next she's sitting in a chair, slurring her words, not being coherent then passes out. She said this happened last night but she told this exact story 2 weeks ago. She also said her pupils were so dilated that it looked like she had black eyes. The problem with this. She says it's her pre diabetes acting up. No blood glucose test was done. This kind of eye dilation doesn't happen to a pre diabetic. That would be a completely different thing going on. Even with diabetics the pupils don't dilate they constrict.

Overall if she wants to be the girl that cries wolf so be it. My problem is it effects our job. I respond with basic "yeah" "that's crazy" or just not respond. I know she's just looking for attention and I won't give it to her. When other people walk by she stops them and talks, talks and TALKS about it because they will give her attention. When she does this all work goes on pause. When she is the only one of the two of us that can run certain reports if she stops doing that no work can be done.

On top of that she is on her phone CONSTANTLY. I'm waiting for her to finish the report so we can keep working. Depending on the day it can take 10 minutes it can take 20. She drags it out to almost an hour. She does this knowing we are on a time crunch. In her head if we stay late because "it just takes that long" then we can leave early on Friday. Which every time she does that she gets in trouble that leaving 2-3 hours early to avoid overtime is unacceptable. Her whole attitude is the quirky, dumb blonde stereotype of "I don't know what they want from me."

This is a tricky line of it's just the two of us. There is no avoiding her and there is the level of needing to find the peace to work together. Which I just want to come in, do the job and leave. Her constantly needing to socialize over work, the constant something is always wrong with her that stops her from working or worst making stupid mistakes that can cost hundreds to thousands of dollars and her response is 🤷‍♀️ whoopies. It's infuriating to say the least. I know if I talk to my manager and he talks to her it will be obvious it was me. No one else is in the room to see how much she talks and play on her phone besides me. She DOES NOT take criticism well at all. One day I kind of snap of "we NEED to focus because we are running out of time." She was like a toddler pouting that got told no for the rest of the day.

Hey everyone! I mostly need to vent to the void and this is the safest place on reddit I could think of.

Like the title says today I found out no one on my side of my family is coming to my wedding. My dad's side of the family is small. Both grandparents are dead, my dad is dead and he has one brother. I reached out for his address and in the end he ghosted me. He has 2 sons so my cousins. We haven't heard back from them either. That's the extent of my dad side that isn't going into great aunts, second/third cousins that I don't even know who they are.

My biological mother side is where the drama is. I know it's a cliche now to say your parent is a narcissist but she actually is one. She is also VERY mentally unwell. Quick backstory of my cutting her off. It became her norm for her threaten to go to the middle of nowhere, kill herself and no one will ever find her body. After 2 to 3 months she would turn back up like nothing happened. 6 years ago I told her I couldn't do this anymore. If she actually wants a relationship with me she needs help. Her response was that there is nothing wrong with her and I'm the problem. This made things weird with that side of the family. With my aunt and grandmother "she has always been this way" and "she's just a little eccentric." They play into her delusions of "there goes Deborah again. Thinking that celebrities bath in the blood of aborted fetuses to stay young." That's not an exaggeration. She truly believes that. With me setting my boundaries of I can't keep dropping everything from the other side of the country to rein her in. There response was "we understand that this is a lot but she is still your mother." They have tried poking the idea of me letting her back into my life but I stayed firm to my she needs help. Once she gets back on her medication, goes back to therapy then we can talk. She doesn't want to so from my point of view is that she values being unwell over a relationship with her daughter.

For that side I'm going to go down the list. My half aunt was the first to decline. That one I saw coming. She has a son with disabilities and she is his main care taker. Traveling is something he really can't do. My uncle was next. That was nice return to sender. It wasn't that he doesn't live there anymore he just sent it back without even opening it. Today I found out my aunt and grandmother are just no. I asked why and haven't gotten any answer back. I have two cousins from my aunt. One can't afford it. Which is perfectly fine. I get it, I know her personal situation and it's hard for her. I have two cousins from my uncle. We haven't gotten anything back from them. The only family left is my sister. Luckily she is coming.

I know it's not all hopeless. I am marrying an amazing man with a wonderful family who as done nothing but embrace me from the start. We have loads of friends coming and many are helping with the wedding. Again this is just vent, I don't really need advice because I no one can make them come. If anyone has any good dad jokes I could use a laugh.

I am going to make homemade vanilla extract from Christmas presents this year. I want to start soon so by Christmas it's ready to use. I have a few question

1. Split or don't split the bean? It seems like that's a personal preference but no explanation of why.

2. How many is too many? I am getting 8.5 Oz bottles so I can do a cup of vodka, have room for beans and can shake it. I have seen 1 Oz of beans per cup or 8 beans per cup. Then there was something like single or double fold but too many can make it bitter. I like the sound of the double fold of the more deeper flavor. Roughly how many to think that would be if the bean is roughly 5-6 inches?

3 If I vacuum seal the beans I don't use how long could they last? I'm looking at a 50 count bag. I was thinking of sealing a few of the beans to also give out so they can have a good start of bottomless vanilla extract. If they can be vacuum sealed how do take care of it? Keep it in a cabinet, freeze it?

Any tips and tricks will also be appreciated!

Edit: I forgot another question Madagascar vs Tahitain? Is Tahitain worth the extra money?

I saw a tiktok where someone wanted to get a zodiac academy tattoo. Two ideas she had was a lemon or a potato. She had a few books left and didn't finish Darkmore. Did I miss something??? I haven't read Darkmore yet so I am assuming it comes up there. When does lemon and potatoes come up??? I'm on book 8 and nary a mentioned a lemon or potato unless I just missed it. Knowing the Kipling brothers....do I need to mentally prep myself?