u/rosebud224

i was in the hustle and bustle grind of the corporate world for a little over 10+ years and at my last job for just over 6+. when i first started working i loved my job. it was in health care and after switching from a couple of different jobs i landed at my last job and had just celebrated my 6 year anniversary right before leaving. the longer i was working for my last company the more burnt out i became. it was clear not only myself but every other employee was not cared about yet we were called family. after several incidents i witnessed and what happened to me i decided to leave my job. i applied to everything under the sun with no luck and decided to go the unconventional route and got into dog walking/sitting, babysitting, house sitting, and restaurant work. it has now been almost 1 year of this and i am the happiest i have ever been. i was constantly sick at my last job and haven’t been sick once since leaving. my mental health has improved and life overall is just night and day however i am coming to the realization that while i don’t dread going to work or cry or feel sick to my stomach or miserable 24/7 like i did with my last job i just don’t like working lol??? is this anyone else. while im at work the first few hours of my shifts usually fly by and i am fine but the last couple i am counting down the hours until i can go home and then i do it all over again. i never hear anyone else talk about this. and again i dont hate my job and know i am so much happier than i would be with what i was doing before or sitting at a desk all day but still wonder if ill ever do something where i can truly feel the phrase “love what you do and you’ll never work a day in your life” or however it goes

One of my friends is getting married and we’re going to have a small bach party around town for her and go bar hopping. she is a huge summerhouse fan and we’re trying to brainstorm ideas of things we can do. we want things that can be let into bars and easily travel around with us as well be walking or ubering to each place. we’re thinking maybe shirts or sashes and the only thing we’ve come up with so far is she found her loverboy on the shirts possibly but stick on anything else

any one else have ideas???

my NK’s first birthday is in 2 weeks and i’m invited to the party. i’m thinking of bringing a gift and a book. Do you check with NP before buying to see if they’re ok with it? or just go with your best judgment and surprise them?

also NP just let me know they’re expecting baby #2 do i get them a baby gift for that when they’re further along?

what about getting NK christmas gifts??

for christmas last year i had just started but they got me a really nice gift and then another gift for my birthday

does this man really believe that we think he actually feels guilty?? no we recognize you now have no one after alanna has left so damage control has enter the villa. also not once did he say he’s worried about how kayda feels and what she’s going through seeing that. it’s all about how it’s going to look for him. he’s trying to see how he can spin this. i hope kayda gets out!!!!!!!!!!

My nanny fam just told me that they’re expecting baby #2 and i’m very excited for them! it’s very early but they wanted to let me know and see if i was ok to stay with them with the newest addition because it will be 2 under 2 — which i am absolutely ok with. i regularly sit for another fam that is 3 under 4 so i have experience with this. we briefly talked mostly about being excited and due dates and NK being a big sis. i truly am very excited for this and this family is my unicorn so there is no hesitation on my end to stay with this family for the next several years! i just want to know if there are any questions i need to ask or things i need to do in prep for baby #2.

Things to know

1. we currently have a contract — obviously will need to revise to add baby #2 info and increase in pay but other than that i like the contract we have in place now

2. they said DB will take off 2 weeks after baby is born but then after that they will still want me to come the additional 10 weeks of MB maternity leave to help with the transition

3. contract doesn’t state guaranteed hours but they are so gracious and have been more than fair and i have basically had gh since start

4. they did say it will come with a $5 raise which was what i was going to ask for so i verbally accepted

One of my good friends is getting married later this year. I had fully expected to not be in the wedding because there was people that made sense before i did (siblings and childhood friends) so while we were on the phone one day I asked who was in the wedding party and after listing several people, she stated ‘I was going to have you but’ and gave me the excuse that her fiancé talked her into having **the best mans girlfriend because he felt bad for her and didn’t want her left out the day of.

She told me right then it was the worst decision she’s ever made, how much she regrets it, she can’t believe she let her fiancé talk to her into this but what’s done is done (100% agree with you can’t un ask someone). For me yes my feelings were hurt, I may have questioned why this girl was in it vs me but to have to be told it was going to be you BUT was extra hurtful. i do want to note i know for a fact none of this was done intentionally. i think she said and then realized it and who she was saying it to

To top all of this off she cannot stand this girl. Before I knew she was in the wedding she would complain about this girl to me constantly, she’s not really a friend more so the fiancé’s best friends gf (whom he always says he can’t stand — poor girl i actually feel for her), and since has complained weekly to me about this girl, all wedding related (she’s not rsvp’d yet, she can’t go to bach trip, now she can go, etc). She has said i believe 3 or 4 times how she wishes she had asked me instead and that this is one of her biggest regrets in life and how stupid she feels which yes I’m sure it stinks now realizing you’ll have both the day of memories and pictures of your wedding with someone up there you don’t truly like while you had someone in the crowd who could have been up there instead but there is nothing that can be done at this point.

It has definitely made me think a little bit more about the friendship because her fiancé was able to influence her decision but it makes me question if he even realizes the depth of our friendship. i just don’t know what to do going forward. I don’t want to hurt her feelings because I know her intention has never been to hurt mine. I’m half tempted to suffer through this until the weddings over and hope i don’t have to hear anymore of it. just ugh idk in a pickle

edited to make situation clearer****

Who do you blame more now that we’ve seen everything?

personally I blame Amanda more than West. don’t get me wrong West is an absolutely piece of trash who deserves all of the hate he is getting. his behavior and lack of accountability is horrendous BUT this is his MO. he is not the first guy or the first time he has seen a women in a vulnerable state and immediately start thinking with his dick BUT amanda could have said no, especially considering she had a hell of a lot more on the line to lose than west did/does. there were 2 people that she was going to crush by doing this, she was married, Ciara one of her best friend’s, about to get the best edit of her life, brand deals, everyone was on her side and LOVED her and she still saw all of that and thought let me go for it. as far as west goes he has shown time and time again that he is not a good person, all you have to do is see all the info that’s coming out about him since this all dropped, so i am not shocked that he was the one amanda ended up with. clearly west cares about west. and apparently amanda only cares about amanda.

here’s my issues with amanda and why i blame her more than i do west:

1. amanda has been in the bravo world for years she had to have some inkling that this was not going to go in her favor yet she still did it AND as kyle said it makes her look even crazier for going for this and ruining it all for a relationship where they’re still figuring it out.
2. Ciara is one of her best friends. I do not care which way you slice it you do not do this to friends and not only do you not do this to friends you don’t act like a c**t when confronted about the situation. amanda had absolutely no intention of having a productive conversation with Ciara because she knows she fucked up
3. she knew about meija
4. she can’t even look at Ciara let alone say her name and has no issue rolling her eyes when Ciara was speaking at the reunion. i actually believe because of this she never liked C and has resentment towards her
5. this poor me i’m a victim. ‘i just wanted a good marriage and west swooped in and manipulated me’

edit to add point 6. amanda absolutely was bread crumbing with her instagram posts. the girls who know, know lol. even if it was only subconscious (it wasn’t) she knew what she was doing

anyhoo those are my thoughts im sure i’ll have more later but i just cannot with amanda

I was talking with a friend about all of this summer house drama and now with West getting the boot what the cast will look like. My friend thinks that the entire cast should leave and be replaced with all new people like what happened with VPR but I disagree. Before we found out what went down with mandy and west i thought the cast felt great this summer and like they were vibing and really getting along, minus kyle’s outbursts. i think with all the attention the show is getting now it is the worst time to do a whole new cast. especially since ITC isn’t anywhere near as good as i thought it would be and VPR did awful with the re casting. i would be fine with a little bit of a cast shakeup. send carl, lindsay and kyle strictly to ITC. kick mandy off and she can keep west company. keep ciara, mia, KJ, jesse, ben, dara, bailey, actually show levi and bring on a couple of new cast members to SH. kyle, carl and lindsay can come here and there but not full time. am i alone in wanting this?!