u/sheiswhimsy

Hi, so as the title says, I'm super late on my period, which has been surprisingly regular since my bilateral salpingectomy (tube removal). Before I had that surgery, my PCOS symptoms had been treated with an IUD. So, I was barely having periods, just mild pain. After surgery, they've been moderately painful, regular and usually last around 7 days.

Thinking back to before my IUDs, the regularity of my periods were highly dependent on my stress levels. Two days before my period was supposed to arrive, I got laid off. On top of that, my grandpa died today, so should I be expecting for my period to just get delayed until summer's over?

I feel so bloated, and so uncomfortable with my lower belly and back. I had sex the other day hoping I'd trigger it, but all I got were cramps and more back pain. The back pain is the WORST.

Any advice on how to induce menstruation? I just want to get it over with already, the pain and exhaustion is so annoying, and this is the last thing I need while I'm trying to look for a new job.

Hi, so as the title says, I'm super late on my period, which has been surprisingly regular since my bilateral salpingectomy (tube removal). Before I had that surgery, my PCOS symptoms had been treated with an IUD. So, I was barely having periods, just mild pain. After surgery, they've been moderately painful and usually last around 7 days.

Two days before my period was supposed to arrive, I got laid off, so I'm thinking the delay is due to stress.

Now I'm feeling so bloated, and so uncomfortable with my lower belly and back. Every now and then, I feel pain but like different than cramps. It feels like a targeted pressure on my lower belly. It's not a huge pain, but it just feels very weird. I've been having unprotected sex with my s/o (we're monogamous), and I'm starting to worry thinking I might *somehow* be pregnant. We also just had sex last night, multiple times, so maybe I hurt myself?

Has anyone ever felt this pain? Also, any advice on how to induce menstruation? I just want to get it over with already, the pain and exhaustion is so annoying.

My best friend doesn't have reddit, but she's curious about the following:

For context, Lilly (F24) has had a threesome (FMF) before. Recently, she has found herself wondering if the flashbacks that she has about it make her fruity. Basically, she wishes she'd done more with the girl (but she specified it could be any girl, not that one necessarily). She's only been in straight relationships thus far, so the threesome was the only experience with another girl she's had.

She hasn't gotten laid in about a year, so what I'm thinking is that she's horny af because I've known her for a while and it seems to me she's mostly straight unless intoxicated.

So, thoughts?

Content Warning: Mentioning of other's Cheating and Suicidal Ideation

For context, my partner, Fin (M 25), and I (F 27) have been dating for 4 years and are about to move in together. Fin has a lot of friends around the country that he calls during the week, usually in the evening when he's not with me, as a way to keep up with friends who moved.

Starting 2.5 months ago (Fin checked), a friend of his went through a breakup. Let's call him Buddy (M 27). Fin has known Buddy for a while, and was his best man and photographer at his first wedding (about 8 years ago). According to Fin, that marriage ended due to serial cheating from her part after about 4 years and a few kids. Buddy got into his most recent relationship immediately after that.

Unfortunately for Buddy, the new girl also happened to be a cheater. She left him for another guy during basic training, even though they'd been together for 4 years and were engaged.

Since then, Buddy has been messaging and calling Fin 3-5 times a day. At first it was fine, given Fin has been cheated on and he is an empathetic and loyal friend. These conversations, however, range from repeatedly demanding Fin finds him a "female" to hook up with, to Buddy saying he's going to take his life because he's worthless and his kids would be better off with the life insurance.

It has escalated to the point that Buddy called Fin throughout our weeklong vacation with my parents, which we were really excited about. Recently, he has determined it's best to call at 6 in the morning before work and after work as well. If Fin doesn't pick up the first time, he'll redial once or twice. He'll even leave voicemails. Buddy has apologized for "being annoying", but continues this behavior, saying he's lonely and needs to fill the time he used to spend with his ex (who apparently got called and texted more).

This would usually be Fin's problem, but I recently got laid off. This is the first time I've had to deal with this, so the entire process has been emotionally and mentally draining. Fin has been there for me the entire time, but every now and then, Buddy has to call in the middle of our conversations. We're trying to formulate a plan of action on something and Buddy calls; watching a movie, Buddy calls; sleeping, Buddy calls.

I get irritated because I understand his circumstances, but at what point is this too much for us to handle right now? We're both empathetic, so we know it's a delicate situation, but I'm feeling like his clinginess is affecting our relationship. I feel like my issues are another stressor on his life and the last thing I want is for my partner to feel overwhelmed by me.

It feels awful to consider asking him to back off for a bit, at least until my situation is mostly figured out, but would I be the asshole if we asked him to give us some space?

PS- this is my first time posting on Reddit, I learned about this subreddit from Smosh and figured I might as well:)