u/shilohrenn

Does anyone know how close the two are now? The last time I heard either of them publicly comment on their friendship was when Schwartz visited Sandoval on house of villains and Sandoval told Tyson they weren’t as close anymore bc their bar had closed down. And Sandoval has not been mentioned at all by Schwartz on his season of the valley. I never really see posts of the two of them together anymore and it makes me wonder if they grew apart over time or if Schwartz’s secret animosity towards Sandoval caused Schwartz to isolate himself.

It happens a lot throughout the show but what I’m specifically referencing is when Schwartz and Sandoval are opening their new bar in s9 and Sandoval really wants to name it Schwartz and Sandy’s and Schwartz doesn’t like the name so instead of talking to Sandoval about it he asks Katie to try and steer him off of the name and when Katie does that Sandoval blows up at her publicly multiple times and tom Schwartz does ✨nothing✨

Then behind closed doors he tells her he does hate the name and Katie says she’s not the only person who recognizes that Sandoval steamrolls Schwartz and Schwartz says he doesn’t do that then cut to Schwartz’s interview bite where he says he is scared to have a conversation with Sandoval bc he doesn’t want to get steamrolled!! It’s infuriating he hides behind his nice guy facade and has Katie do all his dirty work then when Katie gets yelled at for it he’s like well Katie why did you say that?

And Katie is most of the time just trying to stick up for him it’s also strange he seems to be scared of any sort of confrontation with anyone else but eager to have public confrontation with Katie.

Location: Texas

My ex has multiple court cases against him from when we were together. He broke into my house and got a charge for burglary or a habitation which he plead down to a misdemeanor. Plead guilty for 2 years probation. Then had another charge for assault caused bodily injury to a family member where he also plead down to a misdemeanor and plead guilty to avoid jail time got another 2 years community service. Then he requested to reopen the case to get off of probation at the beginning of this year & two days after he violated probation so he was re arrested and sentenced again to just more probation.

He has another court case this one the DA picked up I didn’t file charges it’s for assault family / house hold member impede breath / circulation. Right now it’s at a third degree felony I’ve already been told at that last court hearing he plead guilty & accepted another plea bargain. They’ve asked me if I want to go to his punishment hearing which I didn’t get asked to go to for the other trials after he plead guilty they just told me that day what his punishment was. So I am confused if this one is different bc they are trying him for a felony? Is it likely he will actually go to jail for this now that he has other domestic assault charges on his record?

I am hoping to see him finally in jail I hate that he’s been able to avoid it so many times already with plea deals.

I was taking a nap my bf ordered us food, for himself he ordered two loaded up tuna rolls and for me he ordered me 1 avocado roll. When I woke up he told me he ordered us food and that he got me an avocado roll I was kinda disappointed but told him I was grateful anyway that he ordered me something even tho that’s not what I like & by now the sushi place was closed so I couldn’t order anything else. Then it kind of snowballed into this conversation about how he doesn’t seem to ever know what I like and always chooses the cheapest options for stuff to get me.

Like for example it’s peony season right now and I have been mentioning it a lot that the season only lasts one month and we have to get them this month only, he went out to the grocery store where I know they sell peonies and bought me one of those wild flower bouquets out of the 4$ bucket. I was grateful for them I put them in the vase but the next day I went back to the same store and bought myself a peony bouquet for 10$ and put it in my other vase in my room. And I was trying to tell him for 6 more dollars I would have had the flowers I’ve been wanting that I keep talking about and he said when he goes and picks flowers for me he tries to grab what he thinks I will like but I keep telling him what flowers I like and he still will pick different ones.

I’m not trying to sound or be ungrateful I am very fortunate to have a bf who comes home randomly with flowers but it’s just so many combined instances of this same thing where I tell him exactly what I want and he still gets me something different.

Another instance was for Christmas last year I really wanted a nice display shelf for all my collectibles I sent him some ones I liked I even talked to him about how they needed to be the shelves with the closing glass doors so the cats didn’t jump on them.. he bought me a metal utility shelf bc it was cheaper. Again it’s like he is getting a whole explanation from me and still buying a different thing.

I’ve been having a hard time navigating my feelings about this stuff bc I am grateful that he’s trying but it’s so consistent and I don’t want to spend my whole life over explaining what I want and still ending up with the wrong things.

I know his order at every restaurant & when I order food for us I always get him what he wants. I order the same sushi from this sushi place every time we go and he has no idea what my order is. He chose the cheapest thing on the menu for me and spent 20$ on just his meal alone so I don’t feel it’s about money.

He said he tries to get me what I want but sometimes he just doesn’t know was I overreacting by saying anything should I just let it go?

Schwartz never lets up on Katie for a second he picks everyone over her in every situation I can not imagine her pregnant and hormonal and him calling her a nightmare of a human being and chastising her for everything not to mention the fact that he would undoubtedly choose Sandoval over that baby too

Schwartz having messed up sperm from years of drinking was a blessing to Katie’s uterus.

My cat got out of my apartment in a freak accident about a month ago. I had my door open with the screen door pulled shut and a stray cat ran into the screen door from the outside knocking the door completely off the hinges and onto my cat who in a panic ran out of my apartment. We have searched for him every night put up fliers and even set up humane traps and cameras with no luck.

The very summarized version of why me and my ex best friend are no longer friends is that I kept catching her in lies and eventually catching her talking shit about me.

Here’s the shitty part about all this: 3 months before ending our friendship she moved into my apt complex right across from me.

Now I know it sounds crazy to just assume she has my cat but here’s some things that have swayed my opinion in the month my cat has been missing. 1 my cat already knows her and would be comfortable going up to her. 2 she had been wanting a cat and trying to get our mutual friend to give her his cat. And the 3rd reason that caused me to confront her is she posted an IG story that she just got a new cat that looks. Exactly. Like. My. Cat.

I probably should have just staked out her apt but I’m faced with the possibility that someone who I’ve seen do crazier things than steal cats may actually have stolen my cat so instead of doing that I went to her apt to see if my cat was there. She wouldn’t even open the door for me and told me through the ring camera that she didn’t have my cat and I was acting crazy. I ended up just leaving but set up my cameras on my patio to record her windows incase I am able to catch a glimpse of her new cat / possibly my cat.

My mom says I am overreacting and don’t have enough proof but I feel like she would be the type to steal my cat knowing how much he means to me & it’s too coincidental that she gets a cat that looks exactly like my missing one a month after he went missing.

AITAH?

Edit to say my cat is chipped idk why everyone is assuming he is not! I adopted him from the shelter he is chipped with my name and number registered to him!!

Jax multiples times throughout the seasons & life gets called out for liking bigger women, he says to a woman at a club on the show that he likes bigger women, and stassi says on WWHL that Jax’s favorite porn is BBW. He even says during the s8 reunion that he would never fat shame Brittany bc he “loves women who look like Brittany”. After so many people, himself included, confirming he is interested in bigger women he still to this day continues to body shame Brittany. Is it just to hurt her or is he embarrassed of his own fetish for bigger women?

Rewatching season 6 and Ariana defending her brother against stassi & the other girls comments on his creepy behavior (that was filmed!) is crazy to watch now knowing he ends up with DV convictions in the future.

I know they went through a period of time where they were estranged and possibly made up in 2025 but I wonder how she feels about all that looking back. She was obviously rightfully protective of her younger brother but the girls were right to be concerned with his behavior given what happened in the future.

I’m rewatching and seems like everyone has their weird forms of therapy

Jax does reiki therapy, stassi and Katie go to see a spiritual healer, Katie gets her tarot read, Kristen and Sandoval both have a crystal healer, Sandoval actually has so many forms of weird therapies and self help the scream therapy, the meditation therapy, the hypnosis therapist, ally is super into birth charts as a form of therapy etc.

Then they have this one revolving therapist who ig was the only person okay with having a therapy session televised

Rewatching season 5 and episode one Jax claims he saw Kristen going down on Britany and I’m just wondering if this was ever spoken on again by either of them after this season? I know Britany’s family is really homophobic and closed minded and Britany’s mom was upset when she thought Jax may have kissed a guy in a later season so I get why Britany didn’t want something like that getting out and would rather deny it. The way they both respond to the allegations makes me think there’s definitely some truth to what Jax was saying and I feel like at the very least they kissed and at most maybe Jax interrupted what could have become more than a kiss. But also Jax was right every other time he ran his mouth about people hooking up like tom and Miami girl and Schwartz hooking up with every girl on every vacation Katie wasn’t on so maybe there is some truth to it.

We have been together about two years now. He has really bad teeth bc he didn’t go to the dentist a lot as a kid and he has some visible plaque build up. I feel bad bringing up the subject of oral hygiene and going to the dentist bc I know he doesn’t have dental insurance and can’t pay out of pocket for it.

He also drinks black coffee every day and smokes every day so that just adds to the smell. Probably about 4 months ago is when it really started to affect our sex life. It just would overwhelm me I brought it up once and he got really insecure about me saying anything. It was right after he’d woken up from a nap and I just told him his breath was a little hot and he got really upset so I’ve never brought it up again.

But I’m at a point now where when he talks to me I have to face away from him. If he gets up in my face I push him away or try and block my nose from the smell. When he talks right at me it’s just so overwhelming. I want to say something to him bc I know that it could actually be a medical issue but also I know it is one of his biggest insecurities and he can’t even afford to go get his teeth looked at let alone any work done. We pretty much have 0 sex now and it’s bc his breath just smells so overwhelming to me and I can’t get past it.

AIO if I say something to him about his bad breath knowing he can’t do much to fix it?

Me and my bf live in a city 30 mins away from our families we decided last year that once our leases ended we would rent a house in the city both our families live in to be closer to them. I told my mom we were looking at renting a home and since I’ve never looked at homes before would she help us find some good ones bc we don’t know what we should be looking for and she agreed to help.

About a month ago she told us she actually wanted to buy a duplex as an investment property and have us live on one side and help her manage the other side. We were thrilled at the idea bc she offered to give us the same rent we wanted from our potential rentals (about 1400-1500). She has multiple properties already and is very well off financially.

We went and looked at some duplexes but none really worked for our move in time and they all needed a lot of work done. This was when she suggested to the realtor that we actually look at single family homes that me and my bf could live in pay her rent for and then when we save up enough to buy our own home she could rent it out or sell it for profit.

Today me and my bf went to look at some properties with the realtor to help my mom decide what she wanted to buy. After talking with her and the realtor she decided on a few of them worth seeing and we made a plan to go see them all together again. When she called me she mentioned the rent would be 1700$ bc that is the price of the loan. I was shocked bc she had previously mentioned the rent being lower which was one of the main reasons we agreed to rent from her so we’d have an opportunity to save money for our own place. I brought that up to her and she said the loan is what it is and it needs to get paid so I agreed we would be fine paying that amount.

At 1am she texted me asking if me and my bf want to just rent an apt instead. I was confused and asked why she would say that when we agreed to look at these houses today. She said it would be a better idea to rent an apt and wait a year and save up for a house to buy on our own. I tried to tell her that it would be literally impossible for us to save enough money even for the down payment on a house in a year. She said the reason she brought it up was bc I was shocked that the loan would be 1700$ a month and I said yes I was bc you had previously told me it would be lower but I’d already agreed to pay it.

This went back and forth with her telling me it’s better to get an apt now and save. I got really frustrated with her bc it felt like she was backing out at the last minute and we had prioritized looking at houses with her over looking at rentals and now the rentals we could have gotten had all been rented. We also specifically did not want an apartment and told her that. I told her I felt what she was doing was very disrespectful to me and a waste of my time bc I’d passed up a lot of good rentals to go look at houses she told me she had no problem buying for us. I never once asked her for a house she offered to buy it and now a month before I have to move out she wants to talk about deferring the plan for a year.

I told her over and over again we will pay the 1700$ it is not an issue it just shocked me bc it was different than what she originally told me but she just kept making different excuses. I ended up telling her she was really frustrating me and we felt backed into a corner now where our only option was to jump into an apartment bc we have so little time to find something and I silenced my phone bc she wouldn’t stop texting me with more excuses for why we should get an apt instead. AIO?

I have a million girl names I like but a very limited number of boy names and almost every boy name I like my husband dislikes.

My top boy names:

Jack

Sebastian

Sky

Dallas

Sawyer

Landon

I am kind of all over the board with what I like but I really want a good classic timeless name. Jack has been my front runner forever but hubby doesn’t like it so looking for other boy names. :/

I’m gonna try to keep this pretty short. Basically my best friend and I got into relationships at similar times with two guys who also happened to be best friends. We all hung out a lot as a group and adapted a sort of foursome friendship.

Me and my boyfriend broke up very amicably bc of a right person wrong time type of situation (I am unexpectedly having to moving states in a month). After we made the decision to end our relationship instead of doing long distance I told my best friend and asked that she and her bf not talk to me about him as I was trying to move on and she agreed.

Multiple times since our break up she has gone out of her way to ask me about him or bring him up. She works in the same building as my ex and has told me he keeps coming up to her while she’s at work to talk to her. I found this very strange bc I actually found out after we split that he doesn’t really like my best friend and just tolerated her for the sake of the group dynamic.

I think she doesn’t understand that we are still cordial and talk occasionally. He came over to my apt to pick up some of his stuff and I asked him about it and he actually told me that’s not true and she is the one who is going out of her way talk to him. He said he found the whole thing super weird but figured I wanted her to keep tabs on him. After I told him this wasn’t true and I’d actually asked her to do the opposite by not bringing him up he told me every morning since our break up she has come up to him at work to talk to him and he even hides from her to avoid her.

I didn’t really know who to believe at first but in my eyes my ex had no reason to lie about this. I decided to confront my friend about it and she told me the only reason she’s talking to him is to gain information for me but I told her the way she’s acting is super strange and if her and her bf broke up I would never speak to him again bc I’d have no reason to. She said that’s not exactly the case since her bf and my ex are friends and I told her while i understand that there’s a difference between being friendly with someone bc you have to and going out of your way to be overly friendly to someone.

She just kinda kept defending her actions but to me I was really hurt bc it felt like she was disrespecting me and the boundaries I’d set. At the end she basically agreed not to talk to him at work anymore and only when he was hanging out with her bf. Then today I found out from my ex she came up to him at work again and he even told her she needed to stop bc it was upsetting me.

AIO for being upset by this?

I’ve been so stressed my whole life that I probably couldn’t even exist any other way. I was stressed on a 7 day all inclusive vacation in Mexico bc I need everything to go exactly the way I’ve planned in my head or I can’t enjoy it but then it becomes so stressful trying to relax when all I can think about is how much fun I should be having and I need to do all these things to make the most of my time.

Like right now my little brothers graduation is coming up and I’m so stressed I’m not sleeping. I’m writing this at 5am. I am planning the party and want it all to be perfect and for everyone to do exactly what I want and have planned and I hate when the plans are changed last minute bc it sends my ocd in a tailspin. I’m having so many dreams about my teeth falling out or dreams that we have the party and something ruins it.

I don’t know how to not be stressed :/ I find I am clenching my whole body all day my mind is always racing but I also can’t imagine a world where I’m not stressed bc this is all I’ve ever known