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I am just beginning as an adult and have zero credit. I currently use Chime as a bank and I think their Chime Card is really appealing. No fees or interest and 2% cashback on a category I pick. I would use it mainly for groceries. Has anyone used this card? What are your thoughts?

I am the first in my entire family to be going to college so I have no idea what I need. I was thinking of getting the obvious supplies like pencils and pens. I have seen people use like big tote bags on tiktok or backpacks. Do I need like a big pencil case with scissors, glue, and stuff? Should I get a laptop or an IPad? Sorry if this seems stupid or silly to ask. I just dont really know or have anyone to ask

I moved away three years ago to be with my now fiancee. When I moved my family spent so much time reassuring me that they would always be there. In the first half they really were and then every year they just slowly stopped caring for me. I have lived here three years and never once have they visited me. My fiancee is a college student and we both don't have careers just service jobs, twice a year we are expected to take two weeks off to drive 15hours to go visit them. Especially on Christmas. Whenever we soft launch maybe not being able to my family freaks out. I am having an engagement party in Kansas for my fiancee's family, I asked my family to try and come down to meet them. I explained I really wanted my family to finally see my life here and be apart of it. Well it is last minute and they still havent bought tickets to come see me or made any arrangements to come down. They keep telling me how it is such a chore to take time off work, how expensive it is going to be, how they don't know what to do missing a week of work from a paycheck. They told me they would only stay four days. Fine whatever just glad they are coming down.

Well on top of it my sister and I have been getting into a fight. My sister and I were best friends, people thought we were twins. I taught my sister how to read, tie her shoes, and I even helped potty train her when we were kids. Our dad is extremely abusive, I would take all of it just to protect my little sister. We have planned our whole lives to come back together and buy forever homes nearby. I have even made my fiancee rework their live plans so we can. Now my sister barely talks to me. She never starts the conversation, she never calls me, if I try to call she tells me she is busy, she sends me one word texts, she doesnt know anything about my life and never cares to ask.

When I asked her to stay more than four days and offered to drive her all the way back she told me no. Thay really hurt my feelings and I sent a text asking what the hell was going on and explained how I felt a shift in our relationship. My older sister had completely cut me off because I called out her absuive bf for sending our mom a horrible text. That broke me and my little sister knew that. So losing a sibling is somewhat touchy for me. She replied back and called me unhealthy. Maybe I worded things wrong and I feel bad if I made her upset. She told me she was busy with life and basically painted it like I was this obsessive unhealthy older sister who twists things around to get upset about. I tried to explain I am also busy and that I just want to have meaningful conversations and spend some more days with her since my life has been kinda rough. She just threw out an apology that was half ass...

I also had just gotten my GED, we were homeless when I was in highschool so I had to drop out. Now that I have it I am applying for college to get a degree in Sociology and a minor in philosophy. My sister is about to graduate highschool keeps telling me I am going into debt for no reason, I am wasting money, if I take any first Gen scholarships from her she will be pissed because my degree is useless. She didnt even look at my graduation photos I took which is really out of character. When I sent the text I mentioned these and she told me it was a joke. When I asked my mom she told me that I am being sensitive and everyone shows love differently and I am controlling how my sister shows me love.

Am I being too emotional? My family keeps telling me I blow things out of proportion and make things a bigger deal than they are supposed to be. I dont want to keep causing issues but I dont want to not express my feelings if I am sad

The college I am going to doesn't offer a bachelor's in philosophy, only can minor in it or get your master's. Super disappointing because I don't really have an opportunity to go to another college. The main fields of philosophy I enjoy is religious and ethics. I LOVE religious studies. My college offers a ton of certificates of religious studies, I was planning on getting as many as I can. Same with some anthropology and cultural studies certificates. I just don't know what to get my bachelor's in now... I was thinking maybe sociology but I'm not sure if that's really going to correspond with what I am wanting. I don't know a lot about sociology. I could also get a bachelor's in general studies and minor in philosophy but idk if that would be a waste? I have no good adult figures in my life to help me navigate college, I have absolutely no idea what I am doing or anything about college so I'm sorry if I seem stupid or silly. This is all so new and scary to me but I love learning, I want to further my knowledge in a subject that brings me joy.

I have two engagement parties at the end of June for my family and then my Fiancee's family (they live in different states). I have spent all of May SEARCHING in person stores for something to wear. Today I went to four different stores and found nothing. I don't want Shein but everything online is either fast fashion or way out of my budget of $50 per dress. What are some good online stores to look at? The themes of my engagement parties are Love is in bloom and Written in the stars. I hate being a plus size bride to be. I feel like nothing is catered towards us and when it is I have to spend way over my budget. This is supposed to be fun but at this point I am just feeling defeated...

I have two engagement parties at the end of June for my family and then my Fiancee's family (they live in different states). I have spent all of May SEARCHING in person stores for something to wear. Today I went to four different stores and found nothing. I don't want Shein but everything online is either fast fashion or way out of my budget of $50 per dress. What are some good online stores to look at? The themes of my engagement parties are Love is in bloom and Written in the stars. I hate being a plus size bride to be. I feel like nothing is catered towards us and when it is I have to spend way over my budget. This is supposed to be fun but at this point I am just feeling defeated...

Ever since I was a kid studying cultures, religions, and philosophy was my passion. Now that I am looking at college I really want to go into philosophy and anthropology. Every time I tell people I want to do that they ask what I plan on using the degree for? I've even been told I am wasting money to get that degree. I really want to help people and help study religions and cultures. Are there any jobs that are actually out there that will allow me to do this? Or should I change my plan? My plan B is to just go into a education and be a college professor for philosophy but I much rather be doing research.

I really want to open a lesbian club named "Wet Kitty" that is disco themed and the colors are the lesbian flag. Inside I want to have gogo dancing cages with butches in them, lesbian oil wrestling, lesbian stripper nights, drinks and food named after dirty lesbian terms, every Saturday have a night dedicated to black lesbians who helped build our community so much. Just very politically lesbian. A place for lesbians to be naughty, have fun, and experience club culture. I would have it in a basement with two security checkpoints to make sure everyone is safe and no cishet men are coming in.

I feel like not many spaces for lesbians are actually for lesbians. Like they don't celebrate lesbian sexualitiy in a non sexualized way and they don't acknowledge lesbian specific terms/history. I want my club to be completely about lesbians. So lesbian that nonlesbians dont even want to go in

I really want to open a lesbian club named "Wet Kitty" that is disco themed and the colors are the lesbian flag. Inside I want to have gogo dancing cages with butches in them, lesbian oil wrestling, lesbian stripper nights, drinks and food named after dirty lesbian terms, every Saturday have a night dedicated to black lesbians who helped build our community so much. Just very politically lesbian. A place for lesbians to be naughty, have fun, and experience club culture. I would have it in a basement with two security checkpoints to make sure everyone is safe and no cishet men are coming in.

I feel like not many spaces for lesbians are actually for lesbians. Like they don't celebrate lesbian sexualitiy in a non sexualized way and they don't acknowledge lesbian specific terms/history. I want my club to be completely about lesbians. So lesbian that nonlesbians dont even want to go in