
My HOA situation in Raleigh is making me want to leave the state completely.
I know HOAs are bad everywhere, but ours has gotten absolutely insane over the last year. We got a warning letter because our trash can was visible for half a day after pickup. Meanwhile, one neighbor literally has broken furniture sitting outside for weeks, and nobody says anything because they’re friends with the board president.
It sounds small, but it’s honestly become exhausting. Every month, there’s some new fee, rule, or passive-aggressive email. Add that on top of rising costs in Raleigh, and I’m starting to question why I’m even paying this much to feel stressed at my own house.
The funniest part is that we originally moved here because everyone said NC was laid back compared to the Northeast. Maybe that existed 15 years ago, but this area feels nonstop now. Traffic, construction, packed stores, overpriced housing everywhere.
At this point, we’re seriously thinking about leaving for somewhere smaller in Pennsylvania or even back toward upstate New York. I already started talking with Cardinal because I honestly don’t have the energy to deal with open houses and repairs if we decide to go.
Has anyone else hit a point where they realized the area just stopped feeling worth it?