u/toilerpapet

Met all three on Hinge and lined up dates on Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday nights. I won't go into all the details, but I was really excited for the one on Friday. I thought she was exactly my type physically and right when I met her she had a really cool aura. She had a raspy voice which for some reason was really attractive to me (not the ladyboy kind of voice, it was still really feminine). I played it cool during the date even though I wanted to pee my pants from excitement.

We had a lot in common, we were together for over 4 hours. I felt like she wanted to extend it even more because at the end when I offered to walk her to the subway station she said she wanted to walk home instead so we walked over 30 minutes to her apartment. Admittedly on that walk we started to run out of things to talk about and I was getting tired, I'm the kind of person who can be comfortable in silence and don't feel like I need to say random things just to say it, but I know not everyone can and I wonder if that bothered her.

After getting home, I couldn't even sleep all night because I was just fantasizing about us going on more dates and getting married. Unfortunately she didn't reply to my text about meeting again.

I've been on 10 first dates now and none have gotten to a second date but I haven't lost hope yet. I friendzoned two, got rejected by three (including this Friday one), and mutually ghosted the rest.

I wonder if I should actually be asking people for a second date in-person at the end of the first date, what do people here think? I don't do that because I don't want them to feel pressured/obligated to not reject me in-person, but maybe it shows a lack of confidence to ask for a second date over text.

I'm a 27 year old virgin and haven't jacked off in 2 weeks. I've been going on Hinge dates recently but none have panned out. I just matched with a cutie this morning and I had to go to the bathroom right away. I'm about to explode fr

Just got back from my sixth first date as a 27 year old virgin. It was bad, she seemed tired/bored and rarely made eye contact with me and didn't laugh at any of my jokes. We were eating ice cream, and she made an excuse 30 minutes in and left pretty abruptly. Towards the end I did say something weird that she replied to with "why would you say that?". That's my bad, but to be fair the date was going bad up until that point anyway. I was kind of panicking during the date because I felt she wasn't having a good time and didn't want to be there and I was trying to make her laugh. The conversation was dull, her responses were short and she barely asked me anything back. Anyway, not going to let this discourage me and just going to take it as a learning experience. What do you do to try to rescue these boring dates?

Third first date of my life (I'm 27). Found her on Hinge. It was okay, she was late 15 minutes I thought she wouldn't even show up and was about to leave. The conversation was interesting but felt platonic and I accidentally started talking about bad things that I should know to not bring up on first dates.

I thought she was cute and looked better than her pictures but I wasn't really feeling it and didn't want a second date and she didn't show any signs she wanted one either but I'm happy I had the experience.

I had some notes from my last first date for things I wanted to work on, specifically being more fun and positive and asking more questions, that I had some improvement on this time around. My notes for next time are to not mention ANYTHING related to prostitutes and depression.

I have a first date tomorrow at a cafe. I'm going to arrive early and wait outside for her. When we first meet, I guess we should talk a bit and break the ice before going inside right? How much should we talk? God I'm so embarrassed to ask this maybe I'm just overthinking it. When I meet with friends, we just say hi and go inside immediately. I've never met a stranger at a cafe before.

I was matching with around 5-10% of women I sent likes to (and I have HingeX) and I've had my account for months so it's not like some noob boost. But starting 2 days ago my account fell off a cliff, I got no new matches. I've sent probably 200 likes in these last 2 days but got nothing. What happened 😭😭

I only get a like every few days but I match with around 5-10% of women I send likes to, which means I can consistently get at least a handful of new people to talk to every day. From those, around 10% of women agree to a date. So this week I was supposed to go on 3 dates which I actually thought may be overwhelming, but literally all of them flaked/ghosted after we set it up and I ended up going on none. I wonder what this may mean, like if you've been in a situation where you flaked/ghosted, what made you do it? No judgement, I'm just curious what factors may lead someone to do it. I can understand not matching with me, or not agreeing to go on a date, but agreeing and then not going seems kinda weird.

Can someone drop some tips for where to meet FOB asian women for dating? I find them more attractive than any other demographic of women and I would honestly just move to Asia if not for my job being here. I haven't found that many on dating apps (Hinge, Bumble). I heard TanTan has a lot of scammers/fake profiles and CMB is dead. Is that true? Besides apps, where do I meet them? Our social circles don't have much overlap. I can speak Mandarin fluently. Sorry if anyone finds "FOB" offensive but you know what I mean, I don't use it in a derogatory way at all

Guys please I need help, for all my life I thought I was single because I am ugly and I realized recently that I'm actually not ugly, I am just autistic. I get 1-3 matches every day on Hinge and unable to convert any of them into a date. When I ask them out, women either stop replying or say they are busy but will let me know when they are free (they never do). I have tried everything from asking them on a date in the first message to having a big back and forth about our hobbies before asking and none of it works. I am 27 and have only been on two dates in my life. In parallel, I am trying to meet women in real life. I made my first ever female friend at the gym last week. Talking to her even for 5 minutes makes me feel like life is worth living. I can't imagine how incredible it must to have a girlfriend. I am giving myself until the end of the year to do it, if I can't then I am going to move to Thailand and be a passport bro.

I was planning to visit tomorrow and take the Pingxi line from Ruifang. Since these areas are in the northeast which I heard is the most affected by the typhoon, I’m curious what the impact was

Canadian passport holders can enter China visa-free but I’m wondering if there is anything special about entering Xiamen from Kinmen by boat that I should keep in mind or can I simply board the boat and enter? I am assuming the other way around (returning to Kinmen from Xiamen by boat) will be easy. I am currently in Taipei. Thanks for the help

Does anyone have tips and tricks, best place to stand, when to arrive, any special events during the three days? I can go on any of the three days! I want to see cultural things to learn more about this festival and what it means to Taiwanese people. Thanks!

I will be visiting Taiwan for one month and part of that is spending a few days in Kinmen Islands. I want to take the ferry over to Xiamen in China. I have a passport that allows me to enter without a visa. I am going to spend just one day there and take the ferry back at night, or at most one overnight stay. I haven't figured out where I'll get a data plan / money yet.

Has anyone done this trip recently? How was it? I have never been to China before but I've heard it is a bit difficult to travel around since a lot of American apps I rely on are banned and so on.

And I'm still a 26 year old virgin. Just kill me now. Take a gun and shoot my brains out already. I dreamed about this girl literally every day in high school but never had the balls to say anything to her and instead spent 10+ years orbiting her from a billion miles away.

I have plans to go to Taipei and closeby places like Jiufen, Shifen, Ruifang, Yehliu, Yangmingshan, Beitou, and maybe Taroko Gorge.

Besides these places, I have 3 days to go somewhere else. I am interested in: nature, animals, war history, electronics/tech, something different from Taipei, and just general "uniqueness" meaning seeing things that I wouldn't be able to see at home in the US.

I am not interested in going somewhere just for the food (I have a low bar for good food and I'm sure Taipei will far exceed it already). Also I don't mind any costs, within reason.

Here are my thoughts so far:

• Hengchun:old town with ancient city walls, this place sounds very different from Taipei, also it's close to Kenting national park

• Taichung: sounds like the most similar city in Taiwan to Taipei besides New Taipei City (pls correct me if I'm wrong) but has the National Museum of Natural Science which I heard has a good section about semiconductors. Also it's close to Sun Moon Lake

• Kinmen: given its location, this sounds very interesting and unique

• Hsinchu: I heard this place is boring but it has the TSMC offices and I am interested in seeing what this area is like to compared to Silicon Valley (in the US)

I need to pick just one of the above, or maybe two quick trips, like one day in Hsinchu, two days in Kinmen would be okay? But if I were to go to a big city I want to stay for 3 days.

Thanks for the help!

I've seen a lot of posts on this subreddit that Taiwan is great for passport bros but I'm doing even worse here than in the US 😂

I'm Chinese American, so I look like a local I suppose

See my last post for context: https://reddit.com/r/moreplatesmoredates/comments/1t31gex/i_went_on_a_date_for_the_first_time_today_im_26/

This is my second ever date (different girl). Despite being a 26 year old virgin, I still have standards. I normally don't match with ugly girls on Hinge but we have the same niche hobby and I wanted to talk to her about it. After some back and forth I realized she's a genuinely nice person, like the kind of person who makes you want to be a better person yourself. She was also complimenting me a lot like saying I looked handsome, which is the FIRST time I have ever heard that from a woman, leaving me really long voice notes. I felt awkward at this point ghosting her or letting the convo die, so I asked her out and we went to a restaurant last night.

The date itself was okay, there was a bit of a language barrier because she couldn't speak English well. The problem is, normally I'm okay at reading signals when someone shows that they feel unhappy/awkward and I would try to make them feel better but she was so personalitymaxxed that she seemed happy the whole time, so I never actually realized I wasn't being nice to her in the moment. For example, at some point she showed me a picture of a painting she was working on and I said it looked like a 12 year old drew it. I said it with a smile like in a teasing way but I'm not sure if that came across given the language barrier. She also said she had never had a boyfriend before and I should have said something like "what, why?? you are such a nice person" or "oh me too, I've never had a girlfriend" but instead I said "oh I wonder why...". I didn't mean it in the sarcastic sense, it was supposed to be "contemplative" but again I'm not sure it came across well.

She texted me that she had fun and I said me too and left it at that. I don't think she would even want a second date given how I acted. When I got home and replayed the conversation I realized I was not nice to her and I felt bad. This experience made me realize that I am a hateful and lonesome person and it takes a big conscious effort for me to be nice to people. Maybe that's what years of calling people racial slurs in video games when I was a teenager has done to me.

The bright side is this experience also made me realize that when I'm talking to a woman who is more attractive than me and she seems standoffish it may be that she is also forgetting to be nice to me and it's not that she actively hates me. I used to think pretty women just hated me but it's more complicated than that I suppose.

I am a foreigner (Chinese). I am learning Thai. I'm wondering if I just go to a mall and approach people who look like they're not doing anything, for example sitting on a bench, and open with "ผมคุยกับคุณได้ไหมครับ" will that be weird? Of course if they say no I will leave. I am a tourist so I don't have a social circle in Thailand, I have no one to talk to except taxi drivers...