u/unnecessaryeater

My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and we're struggling with something that's starting to affect our relationship.

She almost never orgasms from sex or from manual stimulation. The only reliable way she can orgasm is by using her satisfyer while watching porn. She's really ashamed of this and wants to break that habit because she feels like it's preventing her from enjoying intimacy with me.

I've had previous relationships, so I know that good sex isn't just about penetration. I understand the importance of foreplay, taking your time, manual stimulation and building up arousal. Those things worked well in my previous relationships, so I don't think I'm rushing things or only focusing on penetration.

In the year we've been together, I've only managed to make her orgasm once. That one time gave us hope, but we've never been able to recreate it.

The biggest problem now is the mental aspect. She has become very insecure about it and feels like she has to orgasm. I think that pressure causes her to overthink everything, which only makes it more difficult.

This isn't something new either. She told me she was never able to orgasm from sex with any of her previous partners. I'm actually the first person who has managed it at all, even though it has only happened once.

She's already seeing a psychologist for unrelated issues and asked whether they could help her with this too. Unfortunately, they don't have a sex therapist and seeing one separately isn't covered by her insurance.

We're both starting to feel a bit hopeless because we don't really know what to do next. We'd love to hear from people who have experienced something similar.

Has anyone been through this? Is there anything that helped you or your partner? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

My girlfriend and I have been together for about a year and we're struggling with something that's starting to affect our relationship.

She almost never orgasms from sex or from manual stimulation. The only reliable way she can orgasm is by using her satisfyer while watching porn. She's really ashamed of this and wants to break that habit because she feels like it's preventing her from enjoying intimacy with me.

I've had previous relationships, so I know that good sex isn't just about penetration. I understand the importance of foreplay, taking your time, manual stimulation and building up arousal. Those things worked well in my previous relationships, so I don't think I'm rushing things or only focusing on penetration.

In the year we've been together, I've only managed to make her orgasm once. That one time gave us hope, but we've never been able to recreate it.

The biggest problem now is the mental aspect. She has become very insecure about it and feels like she has to orgasm. I think that pressure causes her to overthink everything, which only makes it more difficult.

This isn't something new either. She told me she was never able to orgasm from sex with any of her previous partners. I'm actually the first person who has managed it at all, even though it has only happened once.

She's already seeing a psychologist for unrelated issues and asked whether they could help her with this too. Unfortunately, they don't have a sex therapist and seeing one separately isn't covered by her insurance.

We're both starting to feel a bit hopeless because we don't really know what to do next. We'd love to hear from people who have experienced something similar.

Has anyone been through this? Is there anything that helped you or your partner? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Hello everyone,

I’m trying to figure out what the best creatine dosage would be for me, because I keep reading conflicting information.

I’m 32 years old, 1.70 m tall, around 78 kg and I’d estimate my body fat to be somewhere around 12 to 15%. I’ve been training for about 14 years, so I’d say I carry a decent amount of muscle mass. A colleague of mine advised me to take 10g or even up to 15g of creatine per day. His argument is that the standard 5g recommendation is too general and that people who have been training for years and carry more muscle mass may benefit more from a higher dose.

For the last few weeks I’ve been taking 10g per day and I do feel “fuller”. Some people have even commented and asked if I gained muscle, but I’m not sure if that’s actually from the higher dose, water retention or just placebo.

However, when I look online, I see a lot of mixed opinions. Some people say 5g is more than enough for muscle saturation and anything above that is mostly unnecessary. Others claim higher doses may provide extra benefits, especially for bigger or more experienced lifters or possibly for cognitive benefits.

So my question is. What would be the best approach here?

Would you recommend sticking to 5g per day, trying something like 10g or is 15g actually reasonable for someone with more training experience and muscle mass?

I’m mainly interested in strength, muscle growth, recovery and overall performance. Not trying to overdo it unnecessarily

Thanks in advance!

Weird early Dutch house/rave track I found. It samples vocals from an old Dutch fairy tale. Feels like peak early 90s, goofy and weirdly catchy.

This investigation by the Dutch news outlet NOS op 3 explores how the modeling industry’s systemic structure created a "pipeline" that delivered vulnerable teenagers to powerful predators like Jeffrey Epstein.

Subtitles in English are available.