u/wearecooked100

if I had the choice, I’d pick being born a woman in the West without even thinking twice.

Just looking back at my own life school, uni, random jobs, corporate; i found so obvious double standards. When women mess up, people are more forgiving. There’s more patience, more understanding. When men mess up, it’s more like “figure it out yourself.” Companies openly say they want more women. Getting a job as a woman is much much easier and a man has to probably become homeless. i have never seen a homeless woman where i live (berlin)

Social life is probably the most obvious difference. If a woman wants attention, validation, or just connection, it’s always there. Post a picture, go out, open a dating app, it’s easy. For most men, it’s the opposite. You get ignored unless you’ve already built status, money, or something impressive.

Dating and relationships are another big one. Men are still expected to provide, to lead, to have their life together. Women don’t have that same pressure. They have way more choice, and realistically, more safety nets. If things go wrong, they’re not starting from zero in the same way a man often is. Majority of women are chasing minority of men.

And then there are things people don’t like to mention. Men make up over 90% of workplace deaths. Suicide rates are much higher for men. Homelessness is mostly male. Even in the justice system, men tend to get harsher sentences for the same crimes.

Even stuff like migration or improving your living situation, women can often do that through relationships. I see it all the time where I live. A lot of women from developing countries come here find a nerdy man here and get settled. For man this is a fairytale.

So yeah, from where I’m standing, the system today kind of gives women the best of both worlds: modern advantages plus a level of social protection that never really went away from history.

Hard to look at that and say men have it easier. Don’t tell that women is less safe. Men are also attacked on streets and this argument that a woman is small and vulnerable does not hold in the current system.

So I am confused should I keep holding or sell the stock. I made like 20$ gain on it. I am a beginner please be kind.

so met a cute girl at a club. took care of her for hours. bought many drinks for her. then at the end of the night she went back with a hot tall white guy from her university dorm lol. just venting. no cure for being ugly.

I was at a Thursday dating events just now, and honestly it sucked. I notice people are afraid of something.. are not really open or approachable, and even the matches I got ghosted me lol. I notice this pattern in other events too: small talk > once conversations gets deeper or vulnerable, people tend to avoid, but that's where the connection happen. What are you afraid of? Either it's that or people are really evaluating hard on red flags and a minor ick turns them off. I really don't get it. We want connection but are afraid of it at the same time.

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I look forward to your comments about trolling me that I am the problem and "no OnE oWeS me a dAtE".

all the women i meet are unemployed but have boyfriends. they live in a nice area and take care of themselves well. also it’s so common to find women selling their bodies or finding online sugar daddies for easy money. they never have to do the hard labors that their male counterparts must do to survive. a man is literally worthless without a job in all aspects of life and much more likely to end himself. he needs to deliver food, do risky jobs, maybe multiple jobs outside instead of just sitting at home and selling his pics.

Every woman in 30s I met here since 2020 feels offended on the question of children. I don’t believe in arrange marriages and don’t relate at all to home country culture, thus goal is to find a person here to fall in love with and eventually start a family. Please don’t say it’s not possible to have children because of “eConOmY”. You guys have no idea how privileged you’re here. Having children is necessary for our society to function and flourish.

Fun to see the triggered folks.

so i am noticing in my housing apartment trash bins section, people just put (bio, packung, plastic etc) all together in the black bin(restmüll), is that normal? i do separate but not sure what the exact rule is to put in the black one.

who fucks who. who kills who. who wins. who loses. all is so predictable. i am dumb and it’s been ages where i saw something which wasn’t so predictable and cringe.

i’m sure many of us were dealt the worst cards possible. how do you deal with the fact that no beautiful woman will look at you twice, unless you pay her.

I’ve started to wonder if it’s me or a ton of folks in Berlin just totally suck at spatial awareness when they’re walking on sidewalks or even in supermarkets.. It feels like people oncoming don’t even bother to move, even when there’s plenty of room. it’s frustrating sometimes like they own the street. I usually keep to the right side, but I’ve had loads of moments where strangers almost clip me and I have to move swiftly to avoid a bump. Yesterday a shoulder to shoulder collision happened with a guy and we exchanged some words and it could’ve been escalated honestly.

It’s not an all the time thing, but enough that I’ve started noticing it, and i had the idea that people here are very serious about personal space but I find whenever I am comfortable sitting alone in a train or tram (like taking space or crossing legs), soon enough a a person will sit infront of me likely to block me or make me feel small (i am 176cm and a have a big muscular frame).

I don’t know. It’s just bothering since a while. I am curious if others here feel similarly?

i like berlin and don’t think i’ll move anywhere else.
kindergartens are closing. current labor force won’t get the fair pension if deaths > births. berlin recorded its lowest number of births since records began, falling 5% to 33,240 in 2025. every district saw a decline, with reinickendorf and pankow the most. deaths also decreased, but still exceeded births by around 4,600.
are you adults in 20s or 30s concerned about this and see any plan to keep the labor force stable?

I am a poc man, I have tried everything. I was even at a party today where I was the guy who forced himself where no one genuinely wanted him. I can see clearly once the woman finds out my origin her body language changes. It’s so sad to experience this in a place where I expected to be accepted for who i’m.
I know you guys will just say ‘do hobbies’ or ‘seek therapy’ but it doesn’t matter. We humans are superficial af.