Anyone else in this boat? What do you do? I enjoy singing and am going to start doing some open mics, but when I sit down and try and write my own stuff, it is almost impossible. I’ll get snippets, but I am honestly not good at all with putting together something cohesive. Do any of you collaborate with writers? What does that look like? Do you pay them?
Hello!
So after a couple posts here, I’m gauging that the general consensus is that learning some basic piano would be a good endeavor to compliment my vocal ambitions and songwriting. Thank you all again for the feedback.
So now my question is this, what exactly is it that I need to learn? Just basic chords? What does learning piano for the purpose of singing/songwriting look like? I am not especially driven to become very good at piano, singing is my thing. The idea is to link with other musicians to be able to sing with, but as far as solo songwriting, what would be the recommended “curriculum” be as far as learning piano go?
For context, I am a new singer, started taking vocal lessons recently, and have been writing over YouTube instrumentals, which is for now hopefully a temporary thing just to get some ideas out. I don’t really want to spend more money on piano lessons to be honest, as my vocal lessons are already stretching my budget a bit.
Hello!
I posted something yesterday about not playing an instrument, and using YouTube instrumentals to work on songwriting as a beginner and someone who is new to vocal lessons. I got a ton of constructive feedback, and I thank everyone who took the time to respond!
What I’m gathering is that learning an instrument can only help. While vocals are definitely still my priority, I’m going to look into what learning piano or keyboard would look like.
My follow up question is, which would be “better?” I know that is a subjective question, but I am curious as to what the consensus is. Piano/keyboard seemed to have the most mentions and, but (and I know, excuses..) it seems like such a challenging thing to learn. Guitar seems more approachable, but the understanding I was getting was that piano would be somehow better for my goals.
I’m not at all opposed to getting a keyboard and taking that route, I’m just curious as to what everyone’s thoughts are on this. Piano seems like an especially gratifying thing to learn long term, but for the now my priority is still vocal training with the intention of singing with other musicians in the short term
Started taking singing lessons last month, and I’m feeling pretty good about it! Started songwriting recently, and this is where I wonder if I’m at a disadvantage. I like to sing more of an R&B, soul type of vibe, but don’t play any instruments at all. What I’ve been doing is finding instrumentals on YouTube (ex searching “Daniel Caesar type beat”) and writing using those. The thought is that will be inspiration to actually get writing, and then maybe down the line link up with other musicians who can actually help create the track to accompany the vocals. Just wondering what other people do in a position similar to mine.
Edit: thank you all for the feedback! I’m immensely appreciative, and have a lot of things to consider now. Thank you all who commented for taking the time and for your thought out responses
Pit tickets are going for over $500 as of today. Would love to be able to get one, but that price is a serious punch in the gut. Any chance resale ticket prices will go down closer to the date?
Hello internet strangers
Feeling a bit down today. 10 months out of a 6 year relationship, and the progress I’ve made, if I can say so, is huge. No contact, moved to a new city that I love so much, new friends that I am so grateful for, got back in really good shape, trying new things, found that I love karaoke and singing and signed up for singing lessons, I’m back in the dating pool and have gone out with some great women, I feel attractive again, and all the things you are supposed to do.
I don’t reel over being discarded like I used to, but I still get so sad and heavy. I still miss her to death, even though she treated me like crap. If I’m being honest with myself, I’d take her back in a heartbeat if she reached out. And I know it’s not fair, but I compare everyone to her. I know, I know, it’s not ok, but I can’t help it. I have people close to me who I am so grateful for, but I still feel so lonely and like something is missing. I did and would have continued to do everything for this woman, but it wasn’t enough.
I have no idea what she is up to. I also have this strong itch for her to see me now. “Look at all that I’ve done! Look at where I am!” If she knew she would not believe it. Even writing this, I know that “it doesn’t matter,” but the heaviness, the sadness, the dreams of reconciliation, the feeling like I have something to prove, they just don’t go away.
I don’t know, I’m just feeling sad today.
Almost a year out from the discard. It has been ROUGH, but I’m slowly, very slowly, getting myself back. I started dating again recently, and I realized that because I was love bombed in the last relationship, I don’t know what’s real and what isn’t. How do you protect yourself from these people? How do you know what’s authentic and what isn’t? For the love of God I can’t invest so much time in another person just to get tossed in the trash again.
I’ve been looking for an over shirt to be able to wear in warmer weather that would match most things, and found this one. I really dig it, but it’s out of stock and I reached out to see when there would be a restock and they said there wouldn’t be. Anyone know anywhere I can find something similar? Much appreciated.
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My (29M) fiancé broke up with me 9 months ago after 6 years together. I have grown SO much. I am confident, have dated other people, and have made huge improvements in my life. However, every morning I still have that twisted feeling in my stomach. I miss her so much, and don’t want anyone else. I want to reach out, but I’m afraid. She hasn’t reached out once. I want to send this to either reconnect, or finally close the door in my mind. If she rejects me again, it’s gonna hurt. But it is so hard living with this idea that maybe we will get back together, maybe I’ll reach out, maybe after x amount of time has passed. I have felt very pulled to send the following:
Hey. I know it’s been awhile, but I’ve gone back and forth lately about reaching out and decided to just do it.
Life has changed a lot for me this last year. I moved to New York, have had a lot of new experiences, new friends, a lot of growth, and a lot of time for reflection. Things are good. Very different, but good. Through all of it, I’ve still thought a lot about you.
I’m not trying to pressure you into anything, but if you’d ever be open to talking sometime, I’d genuinely like that. I don’t know if reconnection is in the cards for us, but I sure would love to find out. Either way, I hope life’s been treating you well.
What do yall think?
I’ll start by saying… life has been fucking rough. But I have been fighting every single day to make something happen.
Without getting into it too much, my life has kinda fallen apart over the last year. I have been doing all the right things though. Working out, moving to a new city, working hard at my job, etc.
I do not make much money. I am blessed, my job is remote and flexible, but I live paycheck to paycheck. I have been positioning myself to get a new job that pays more, worked on my resume, re-worked my LinkedIn, and got a minor promotion at my current company.
Today, the EXACT job I have been trying to get showed up in my email. Pays double what I make now. This would change my life, and I really, really need a win. I applied immediately, and messaged every recruiter and manager in the company to introduce myself. I see a TON of people applied though.
I have the feeling that this job is already mine, but I’d love some insight and support from y’all here. Idk what exactly it is I’m hoping to hear, but wanted to post anyway.
Maybe y’all can create a reality where I get the job as well, and manifest my success story haha.
Appreciate you all