u/youthdreaming

Hi
Just as the title said. How do I get over a friendship breakup that happened years ago?

I had a slight argument with a friend where I felt like I was never really invited to anything with her or she was always sort of wanting to talk to her closer group of friends (who were also semi-close to me at the time so I think that made it a bit worse) when they were around, feeling isolated. The first time it was bc I had suggested to go to a hotel in the city in the uni holidays and when they came around, she went to a hotel with her group of friends instead and I only knew about it through Instagram. That time I had told her I felt a little upset bc that was our original plan at first and we talked thru it.

The second time was when I had suggested to go to a beach resort in the uni holidays (this was a year later) and alas, when the holidays were going to come around I found out she had gone again with her group of friends to a beach resort somewhere else. It’s not like I wanted to be invited. It just felt awful knowing that the plans I always initiated never continued with her and always sort of just continued with her friends. I sort of distanced myself from her the second time and was a little upset, not really hanging much. I realised she never reached out but distanced herself as well and when I reached out to confront her about it because I felt bad that I wasn’t telling her, she instead told me she thought I was being a bitch because I was ignoring her without telling her what was wrong. Now, I know ignoring someone isn’t the correct way to handle any situation but everytime there’s any upset between us, im always the one to want to handle it because she ‘is scared of confrontation’ (she told me this the second time when I asked her why she didn’t come to me to ask why I was upset before automatically assuming I was being a bitch for no reason).

Anyway, all this to say, we talked it out and it was okay but after that it just seemed like she didn’t want to continue the friendship anyway. She was always close to her group of friends but then it seemed like she completely didn’t care to include me. And I sort of accepted it and was closer to our other mutual friend (who also felt the same way I felt as we were a sort of trio). I feel bad about the way it ended and that it did at all. I keep thinking back at our friendship and how we have had convos about her allowing others to talk about her group of friends behind her back and how she never confronted the person saying it - she would always again say she was scared of confrontation. These few bits sort of turned me off the friendship throughout anyway.

My question NOW is - this was 3 years ago. And I still think of ways I could have handled it better. And how we could’ve still been close if I hadn’t ignored her or aired any grievances. I know it’s for the best and we are just acquaintances now , but I would love any advice on how to stop thinking about it all :/

Please bear in mind we stopped being friends in our second year of uni. Idk if that explains anything lol but

TLDR; two arguments with friend throughout friendship, with second ending our close friendship. Did not end bad, but I’m missing what it used to be. Advice on how to not think negatively?

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I tested three times and everytime it came that I have Klebsiella species. That’s all it said so I tried a few things. I stoppped antibiotics because they’re useless and I just tried probiotics with a cranberry supplement. Honestly, I haven’t noticed a huge change but there is less. But, still, no significant change. I take the probiotics as prescribed once daily but I honestly just want something more stronger at this point.

Anything will do please!! Granted that they’re orally. I don’t want to put anything down there for own personal reasons but other than that, I’m down for virtually ANYTHING that will get rid of this.

I also feel like doctors are useless for this area and have just been prescribing me medications that have not worked and telling me that it will just stay with me for a long time which I think is bullshit. There’s no way this will stay , but I’m looking for any option that will at least lessen :/