u/youthdreaming

Hello
I wasn’t sure whether to bracket this as art market or financial tbh

I was approached by a non profit to auction off one of my oil paintings for a charity. I’ve never done this before so I’m just wondering a few things to know of before accepting:

1. They said that I get to keep a certain amount of the proceeds up to the value of the painting itself. Is this usual for auctions? I had the belief that 100% of the proceeds went to the charity - just wondering about this

2. They said that it is up to the value - am curious as to how this would work if it was under the value. I’d be taking it for cheaper than the painting is worth. Wondering everyone’s thoughts and experiences on this

3. Were there any other conditions you guys had? I want to auction the painting off but I do also want my hard work to go to good use and value for the charity (and myself if that percentage was given to me)

Asalamualikum,

Alhamdulillah I am almost done with Umrah. It was such a beautiful trip. I just learnt of this forum and wanted to advise everyone if they can: please feed the cats around! Especially masjid Nabawi there are many (especially near gate 340!) . They are adorable. I’ve sat with them a few times and given them food (and shouted at a few kids who tried to hit them - astagfirullah many parents need to teach their kids to be kinder to these animals. If you see a kid try to hit the cats please advise them not to!).

Food can be bought for cheap at Bin Dawood :) I bought a small pack of kibble and some wet food and gave a few to whichever cat I saw. They are adorable and so loving. And please also give them water in a cup! I usually use the cup from the zamzam station and fill it it with water to the brim and they love it. Every cat I’ve given water to has drank from the cups for a full two minutes, especially in this weather.

We all have to remember we are Muslims and are not going to be here long. Please help whichever being, whether a human, cat or dog. Let’s remember to be selfless 🤲🏼

JazakAllah ❤️❤️

Hello

Looking for women shelters around KL that is known and that you guys have maybe worked with or know. My non profit is looking to collaborate to donate sanitary care and we want to try listing some first and research. If you have any info please let me know! Dm or down below

Asalamualikum,

I’m a visitor in Madinah and I have been trying to feed every cat I see and giving them water in his heat. I just wanted to ask if anyone was able to adopt a cat I saw in front of the Rose cake shop. She/he seemed like she was someone’s cat and was begging for food everytime I looked at her even after I gave her a bit and water. I would adopt her if I could but I will be leaving soon and live overseas. I also forgot to take a photo of her but she was orange and long haired, around one year old I think . Inshallah she’s still there in front of the shop for anyone who wants to take her in. She was adorable and super friendly and I felt so awful leaving her behind. I have contacted Madinah Cats in case they’re able to do something but if not, please update me if anyone is able to take her. There was another cat next to her too but she was more skittish and I didn’t see her after I went back after my lunch.

The address for the shop is:

Rose Sweets,
FMF5+ VGG, Second Ring Rd, Al Aridh, Madinah 42314

If anyone is able to go please message me and let me know. JazakAllah

TLDR: Orange , long haired cat in front of cake shop in need of adoption please help!

Hi all

This all happened almost 2 years ago - My cat had urinary blockage surgery that mostly likely stemmed from an infection / something he ate. We had the surgery at the emergency vet and he was fine after that until I think about a few days later the side where they laid him on the bench for the surgery was no slowly showing some burn marks. I asked the vet and apparently these things happen if he was on the bench for long or his skin was too thin or I’m not even sure. The vet didn’t give a well cut explanation . After the surgery, my cat went from normal to now being very guarded. He’d be scared for me to pet him but also be purring and seem to want the pets as he’d push his head near my hands. But when I try he’d be growling and seem like he’d try to hit me. He’s still the sweetest and wants to come and sleep next to me but when he sees someone want to pick him up or pet him he growls at first and is just very different than how he was before the surgery. He’s bonded with his brother which is good as he’s the only cat other than his mum that he’s okay with being next to. The other cats either don’t like him or he doesn’t like them and growls. I try to keep them separated and have been doing okay with that so far.

Just wondering how you guys have handled a traumatised cat that is showing very very slow signs of progress and what to do to make him feel better? He’s a bit better now than before but still gets stressed over the smallest things. It’s upsetting to watch and I’d appreciate any advice people may have!

Hi

I’m currently in madinah performing umrah alhamdulillah. My period starts in 2 days. I went to my gyno 2 weeks ago and she recommended me to use duphaston from that day (so for the 2 weeks before my period) for 3 times a day. I have taken it consistently but am experiencing spotting. this is my first time taking these pills as I’ve never had to use them before, as my first time I did umrah I was young before my period. I am now spotting slightly 2 days before my period and am going to Makkah in 3 days. I only have this week to finish.

I’m now a bit disappointed as I’m seeing online many women have taken Norethisterone 3-5 days only before their period and it has worked for them. I’m confused and disappointed as my doctor didn’t even mention this pill to me. It seems like a stronger pill . I don’t even know if I can take that one now instead of duphaston and if it will work. I’m so confused :/ I had my concerns about the medication in the beginning anyway but my doctor seemed adamant that I take it 2 weeks and that I was actually late in taking it anyway so ?

Advice on women who have gone through this please??

Hi all

Just wondering about good gynaecologists in KL? I’ve had BV (bacterial vaginosis) and all the gynos I’ve been to only recommend antibiotics and don’t really know much else. It’s not a really well researched topic generally so I’m looking for a really experienced doctor who’s good at this specifically if anyone has gone through it! I’d rather a female doctor but if anything I’d also go to male

I also live in the Ampang area so if the doctor is nearby that would be amazing. If not also just lmk

Thank you :)

Hello

This isn’t really advice I need but just a little clarity I guess? I sort of ended a friendship with my friend around 2 years ago and we made up anyway . But it’s not been the same since and it seems like she doesn’t want to try for our friendship anyway, even though the argument wasn’t that big to begin with. However, I just feel a little hurt that she didn’t want to try to repair our friendship more seeing as her previous relationship with her gf had her forgiving her twice even after the first time where her gf almost cheated (it was a weird situation no time to explain lol) and she forgave her and went back to her like nothing happened. They’ve broken up now anyway after a year , unrelated reasoning to the first time. I guess my question is , what do you guys think of people forgiving their partners more easily than their friend? It feels like for me, she was much more strict. It wasn’t an argument where she needed to forgive me, it was actually the opposite - I had to forgive her for something and there was miscommunication (in which I brought it up first as she is ‘non confrontational’ and would’ve left the situation build up if I didn’t mention anything).

Just need a little clarity and if you guys went thru anything like this. Thanks!

Hi everyone :)

I’m on placement and have been using vacutainer and butterfly. I’m overthinking now how to use the butterfly as I had one miss today that was a bit too close to the surface. It was ok and had a slight bump but now I just need a little confirmation about angles when putting the vacutainer vs butterfly in. I was taught to make sure the butterfly was sort of not in the angle the vacutainer would be which is more 30-40 degrees straight in and the butterfly to be more straight up and not too downward which has always worked. I guess my question is should I first put a 30degree angle when poking the butterfly in and then move it slightly up instead of just on a less angle? I know this doesn’t make sense I’m not sure how to word it all but I’m rly just asking about the angle of poking with butterfly vs vacutainer . I’m overthinking a lot rn tbh bc I’ve been doing this for two weeks and it’s been fine but the one miss has got me thinking lol

Thanks!

Hi
Just as the title said. How do I get over a friendship breakup that happened years ago?

I had a slight argument with a friend where I felt like I was never really invited to anything with her or she was always sort of wanting to talk to her closer group of friends (who were also semi-close to me at the time so I think that made it a bit worse) when they were around, feeling isolated. The first time it was bc I had suggested to go to a hotel in the city in the uni holidays and when they came around, she went to a hotel with her group of friends instead and I only knew about it through Instagram. That time I had told her I felt a little upset bc that was our original plan at first and we talked thru it.

The second time was when I had suggested to go to a beach resort in the uni holidays (this was a year later) and alas, when the holidays were going to come around I found out she had gone again with her group of friends to a beach resort somewhere else. It’s not like I wanted to be invited. It just felt awful knowing that the plans I always initiated never continued with her and always sort of just continued with her friends. I sort of distanced myself from her the second time and was a little upset, not really hanging much. I realised she never reached out but distanced herself as well and when I reached out to confront her about it because I felt bad that I wasn’t telling her, she instead told me she thought I was being a bitch because I was ignoring her without telling her what was wrong. Now, I know ignoring someone isn’t the correct way to handle any situation but everytime there’s any upset between us, im always the one to want to handle it because she ‘is scared of confrontation’ (she told me this the second time when I asked her why she didn’t come to me to ask why I was upset before automatically assuming I was being a bitch for no reason).

Anyway, all this to say, we talked it out and it was okay but after that it just seemed like she didn’t want to continue the friendship anyway. She was always close to her group of friends but then it seemed like she completely didn’t care to include me. And I sort of accepted it and was closer to our other mutual friend (who also felt the same way I felt as we were a sort of trio). I feel bad about the way it ended and that it did at all. I keep thinking back at our friendship and how we have had convos about her allowing others to talk about her group of friends behind her back and how she never confronted the person saying it - she would always again say she was scared of confrontation. These few bits sort of turned me off the friendship throughout anyway.

My question NOW is - this was 3 years ago. And I still think of ways I could have handled it better. And how we could’ve still been close if I hadn’t ignored her or aired any grievances. I know it’s for the best and we are just acquaintances now , but I would love any advice on how to stop thinking about it all :/

Please bear in mind we stopped being friends in our second year of uni. Idk if that explains anything lol but

TLDR; two arguments with friend throughout friendship, with second ending our close friendship. Did not end bad, but I’m missing what it used to be. Advice on how to not think negatively?

Hi :)

I just finished my pathology/phlebotomist course. I have my placement starting Monday (in 3 days). My background has never been in healthcare (working with patients etc) and I was more in academia and research with my degree. It’s still science but now that I’ve started with pathology as an extra skill set, I’m sort of terrified to work with patients! Im more used to working in labs with team mates but not with strangers that I could potentially hurt in the process! (Overthinking I know). Any advice? 🤗

Hi

I’ve had BV for YEARS. I can’t even count how many years. It was worse in the beginning so I took antibiotics and basically took virtually all of them that I could. With some the symptoms left when taking but would come back after. And then if I took them again, they wouldn’t work. It’s honestly a living hell sometimes. I thankfully have no symptoms that involve pain, the only thing I really have is discharge and some days it’s worse than others. Other days I don’t have them at all and others I’m like woah??

I tested three times and everytime it came that I have Klebsiella species. That’s all it said so I tried a few things. I stoppped antibiotics because they’re useless and I just tried probiotics with a cranberry supplement. Honestly, I haven’t noticed a huge change but there is less. But, still, no significant change. I take the probiotics as prescribed once daily but I honestly just want something more stronger at this point.

Anything will do please!! Granted that they’re orally. I don’t want to put anything down there for own personal reasons but other than that, I’m down for virtually ANYTHING that will get rid of this.

I also feel like doctors are useless for this area and have just been prescribing me medications that have not worked and telling me that it will just stay with me for a long time which I think is bullshit. There’s no way this will stay , but I’m looking for any option that will at least lessen :/