r/FamiliesYouChoose

M34. Married. Enjoyed getting to know other guys. Acouple years ago met a younger guy whos like a brother now. So always open to meeting more brothers.

Hi, I’m Ellie! I’m from the UK living in France and I’m looking for an older brother that doesn’t mind me talking about struggles/mental health (but I’ll always respect your energy), share pictures of random stuff I like with and just talk about hobbies, interests, the whole works.

A little about me: I’m married and I have a dog. I really enjoy video games, especially FPS, RPGs, some cosy games, it’s a real mix.
I do a lot of crafts and creative hobbies, I like metal music and reading comics and romance books.
I’m also currently learning to enjoy working out and look after myself more which has always been a bit of an uphill battle for me.

If we’re in a similar timezone then it’s a huge plus!
I mostly prefer chatting on discord, so please keep that in mind.

hii im looking for some friendly peeps and someone i can call my family, ive had a pretty big argument with my parents and ughhh idk haha. my timezone is est and i prefer to talk to someone near my time, im pretty chill and cool i think...? so unless you can prove me wrong i think im a cool person. i love all sorts of music but i always find myself resorting back to mitski (i seriously have listened to ALL of her albums and have loved her for YEARS!!) and lana del rey, i have the COOLEST poster everrr of her!!! im js looking for some cool people to chat with that have actual interests and quirks!!! im also a huge book worm and am looking for new recs daily, i play tennis too sometimes.

hi! i’ve always wanted an older brother, and since i chose to work this summer instead of summer classes, i’ve found myself with a lot more time for other people.
i want someone i can talk and laugh with and play games with (IF my switch lite finally locks in and starts working).
so here’s some facts about me! i’m from the united states, i’m going to college right now for electrical engineering and about to be a junior, my favorite color’s teal, and i have a bass that i can’t really play that well! my favorite engineering stuff is definitely hardware. i reallyyyyy dread software and computer architecture stuff. but im wildly impressed by people that love it.
i really REALLY love minecraft, especially modded minecraft, and i’m waiting on my pc to get fixed so i can play java again. i have bedrock on my switch but it’s a little finicky when it comes to joining other people’s worlds but it sometimes works. im also a big portal fan! i finished portal 1 but i’m still working on portal 2.
i worked at starbucks for a while and i found it really fun. my favorite drink during the summer would be a shaken espresso with sugar free vanilla and in the winter it’d be a white chocolate mocha. i’m definitely not a coffee snob, though. i feel like the people that have ridiculous 30 step setups and personally talk their coffee beans to sleep at night might be a little too into it. i have some weird customer stories from that but luckily i didn’t have the REAL weirdos at my store. so yay me.
i really like cats! i’m allergic, but i wanted to to eventually get a calico cat when im done with school and move out of the barely functioning on campus housing.
i LOVE math and science! although, its begun to lose its charm for me a little bit since its basically my job now as well as what i do all day in school. since that’s sort of lost its fun for now, i’m really into reading and writing at the moment.
it might be a little embarrassing, but i was a big fan of the streamer era from 2020-2023ish, but i haven’t gotten the opportunity to watch many streamers lately because of the fact that i actually have stuff to do now and can’t just sit around paying attention to every single detail to stay caught up.
my favorite movie is spider-man homecoming and obsession. i’m not very much into my marvel phase right now because i overdid it a couple months ago with reading comics every day during class instead of, you know, class. it’s sorta sad since the new spider-man movie is coming out, but i think it’ll make me excited when i actually sit down to watch it. also, my favorite character is tony stark! especially from the extremis iron-man comics. i’ve almost collected the full set.
i really love music and i have maybe around 400 playlists? my favorite kinds are indie and indie rock, but i wouldn’t say i entirely stick to that all the time. my favorite bands are los campesinos, arctic monkeys, and modern baseball. my favorite songs rn are “a modern lay” by modern baseball, “kms” by los campesinos, and “girl” from no buses.
i live in a pretty hot state, but id like to move one day to either another country that has better public transport or at the very least has all four seasons. im thinking maybe more up north if i stay in the US. new york is pretty walkable but oh my god is that expensive. oregon’s pretty cool too. their national parks must be awesome. i’m a fan of sweatshirts and i don’t really get to wear them a lot here.
i’m looking forward to maybe hearing from you! thanks for reading! my dms are open but i’d like to hear a bit about you too if we talk or you comment! :)

Hello everyone.

I've always liked the idea that family isn't always something you're born into. Sometimes it's something you build with people who choose to stay, support you, and genuinely care about you. That's what brings me here.

I'm a 35-year-old married guy looking for a long-term, purely platonic connection that hopefully grows into something that feels a bit like having a sibling. Someone who checks in from time to time, shares life's wins and frustrations, sends random memes, celebrates the good days, and helps carry the weight of the difficult ones.

I'm not looking for anything romantic or NSFW. I'm happily married and only interested in building genuine friendships and meaningful connections.

A little about me:

I've spent the last few years trying to become a better version of myself. I lost around 50kg, built a home gym, and discovered that I genuinely enjoy exercising. More importantly, I've been working on becoming a better communicator, setting healthier boundaries, and being the kind of person people can rely on.

I'm a huge music nerd, especially when it comes to 70s, 80s, and 90s rock, hip hop, and soul. I love discussing albums, artists, and music history.

I enjoy cooking, reading, gaming, football (soccer), professional wrestling, movies, TV shows, and long conversations about philosophy, ethics, and life's bigger questions. Recently I've gotten back into reading and have managed to stick with it for the first time in years.

I also have an 11-year-old dog named Thor, who is basically family and will absolutely appear in photos.

What I'm hoping to find:

Someone around my age or older who values kindness, consistency, effort, and honesty. Someone who wants to build an actual connection rather than exchange a handful of messages and disappear.

I don't care about your gender, sexuality, religion, nationality, or political views. What matters to me is how you treat people.

Life gets busy, and I completely understand that. Nobody can be available all the time. What matters is knowing that both people are making an effort to stay connected when they can.

I'd love to build the kind of friendship where we can talk about serious things one day, send ridiculous memes the next, and slowly become part of each other's support systems over time.

If you're also looking for a sibling-like bond, tell me a little about yourself. Tell me what's been on your mind lately, what you're passionate about, or even something completely random that made you smile this week.

Thanks for reading, and I hope you're having a good day.

Hi. I’ve never had any kind of sibling, ever, in this entire lifetime of mine. Also, I’ve very little, other family—which makes for a lot of loneliness, feelings of not-belonging, etc.

Currently living in the mid-Atlantic U.S., I’m a professional (classical) musician & instructor (& I used to be an environmental lawyer—so I’m into a lot of stuff, generally, I guess). By the way, the “classical musician” thing is certainly NO indication I’m some “hoity-toity” person—I‘m DEFinitely not at all—I enjoy most music, & my interests are fairly wide-ranging. I can be very nutty/silly, and I’m NOT impressed by “status” or socioeconomic this-or-that. I like nice, truly compassionate, authentic people.

I’m active (run or swim almost daily), which I started again in hopes of helping my mood. I’ve really stuck with it, but it hasn’t helped my mood much—I still feel really sad & anxious a lot. It’d be so great to have a mutually supportive (sibling-type/great-friend-type) relationship.

I’m very nice & open-minded/accepting [just NOT into creepy], & I can be very fun/silly/whatnot.

Is there a Gen-X’er on this sub who might possibly enjoy a good sibling-type (preferably sister—but, I don’t know, maybe brother?) relationship with me? We could get to know each other & maybe try it out.

OK. Thank you. I hope you’re doing well—or at least hanging in there!

As the title says i’ve entered a new chapter in life and i’ve never been so lost. Due to past circumstances i’ve always had to act mature for my age even when i was younger, but acting mature can only take you so far without another person. I had someone like that in the past but they tragically passed in 2018 and since then i haven’t really had any older sibling figures. Someone who i think could really help at this stage in my life. Little bit about me: I’m a 22 and pan, still trying to figure stuff out but as of now that’s where i stand 😭. LGBTQIA friendly ofc. Some of my main interests are music and videogames, rlly heavy on music! Some of my favorite artists are lady gaga, charli xcx, bladee, ecco2k and alex g. I have an adaptive personality and can be pretty high energy at times but i do have my own mental struggles. same mental struggles that make life rough sometimes and i’ve had to really adjust some of the things in life in order to live with it. That’s all I can think of for now. If you took the time to read all of this, thank you so much. I really appreciate you taking the time out of your day. 💙

I was never close to any of my extended family and my parents are abusive and toxic so i’m no contact and it’s very hard.

I’ve never felt loved truly by any of my family. They are selfish people and i tried to help them become better people but it was a waste of my time and energy and painful. They don’t take responsibility.

So i would love a mother, father, sibling etc figure hopefully.

I appreciate emotional intelligence, common sense, honesty, openness, humour etc

I always wanted to be a dad, but it wasn’t in the cards, I would have loved a daughter to raise or a son. I se my brothers raising my neices and nephews and o get so sad and envious. I’m married and we’ve been together for a decade. You will have to get to know her as well. If you do t have a dad or you need that I. Your life feel free to dm me. We are a leftist lgbt friendly house hold.

I am a married woman who has struggled with mental health issues since childhood. I was raised in a dysfunctional family. My parents were never available for me. On top of that I was sexually harassed by my own family member for 12 years. Because I was so anxious and depressed I couldnt take the right decisions for myself. Before my marriage I met a man who raped me. After that I tried ending my life but I couldnt as there was still some hope left.

I really need a mom who would love me, understand me and be my support system. I have been craving for a mother's love and affection all my life .

Hello! I'm 21f looking for any female family members only!! No men!!

I'm neurodivergent, chronically ill and lesbian. I'm an only child and adopted.

Anways here are some of my hobbies and interests:

🧶crocheting

🌿 collecting nail polish

🌻 legos

🧿 Crystal's

🌈 thrifting

🔆 animals/pets

🏳️‍🌈watching tiktok

Anyways I'm looking forward to meeting you!! Byeeeeee.

Married teacher, but childless. Currently doing kinship care for my niece and 2 nephews, playing that father like role for a couple of years has been wonderful.

I come from a large, kinda messed up family, so I’d love to show others how good family can be. I’m generally an affectionate, but anxious person.

I’d love to have an appropriate father, uncle or big brother connection.

I’m an outdoorsy person who has done a lot of camping and such, as well as sport for 35 years. Quite a country kinda guy, too.

Can I get a father figure at 19? Is there any way to have someone fill that role in your life when you grew up without one or feel like you still need one? Has anyone here experienced this?

Hi guys!! I’m 14, and as you see I’m after acceptance, because drum roll please. I’m bi, in a family that will probably never accept that!! I’m pretty chill, I love music, movies, horror, writing, reading etc.

Mother, sister, brother, cousin, aunt, uncle? Are you out there?

My long distance partner, the love of my life, my only chosen family, together for almost two years, his health is in trouble. He is the only good thing in my life, I miss talking to him every day. I hope he is alive and we can be together one day. He was hospitalised with an infection, and I have never spent this long without talking to him. I have no support system. He helped me emotionally we have that special connection, I am so grateful I met him and I get to love him. I know we will always love each other, and I hope we can do that while both incarnated on this Earth and have a chance to live together one day and have the life we dream of.

I am forced to live under inhumane conditions, in constant fight or flight. Disabled, in an abusive, toxic, traumatic environment/country. I never had safety, a childhood, or a life. Systematically failed in every way due to the country I was born in and forced to live in.

I need people who are willing to understand me, see me, hear my story, look out for my well being and help me and be my support system. Ever since I was born I wanted to escape this country because I don’t belong here in this culture and there is nothing for me here.

I deserve to be taken care of and a dignified life. I just want safety and security and those needs met. And a place to heal from the ongoing abuse. I need freedom and someone who cares.

Hello everyone.

I've always liked the idea that family isn't always something you're born into. Sometimes it's something you build with people who choose to stay, support you, and genuinely care about you, and since i don't really have a family of my own, that's what brings me here.

I'm a 35-year-old married guy looking for a long-term, long distance, purely platonic connection that hopefully grows into something that feels a bit like having a sibling. Someone who checks in from time to time, shares life's wins and frustrations, sends random memes, celebrates the good days, and helps carry the weight of the difficult ones.

I'm not looking for anything romantic or NSFW. I'm happily married and only interested in building genuine friendships and meaningful connections.

A little about me:

I've spent the last few years trying to become a better version of myself. I lost around 50kg, built a home gym, and discovered that I genuinely enjoy exercising. More importantly, I've been working on becoming a better communicator, setting healthier boundaries, and being the kind of person people can rely on.

I'm a huge music nerd, especially when it comes to 70s, 80s, and 90s rock, hip hop, and soul. I love discussing albums, artists, and music history.

I enjoy cooking, reading, gaming, football (soccer), professional wrestling, movies, TV shows, and long conversations about philosophy, ethics, and life's bigger questions. Recently I've gotten back into reading and have managed to stick with it for the first time in years.

I also have an 11-year-old dog named Thor, who is basically family and will absolutely appear in photos.

What I'm hoping to find:

Someone around my age or older who values kindness, consistency, effort, and honesty. Someone who wants to build an actual connection rather than exchange a handful of messages and disappear.

I don't care about your gender, sexuality, religion, nationality, or political views. What matters to me is how you treat people.

Life gets busy, and I completely understand that. Nobody can be available all the time. What matters is knowing that both people are making an effort to stay connected when they can.

I'd love to build the kind of friendship where we can talk about serious things one day, send ridiculous memes the next, and slowly become part of each other's support systems over time.

If you're also looking for a sibling-like bond, tell me a little about yourself. Tell me what's been on your mind lately, what you're passionate about, or even something completely random that made you smile this week.

Thanks for reading, and I hope you're having a good day.