r/Incontinence

My partner has OAB and mobility issues due to severe arthritis. She can get to the bathroom during the day at home, though she goes every 2 hours or so. At night, she wakes up every 2 hours to go. She is a bariatric patient and I found pullups in her size that fit her well. But she still won't pee in them and getting 2 hours of sleep at a time all night long is wearing on her. One of her concerns is that it is difficult due to her mobility to change every time she wets in them, and they are very expensive in her size. Does anyone have the same concerns and do you have any suggestions for her? Thank you so much.

Just wanted to vent.

Been struggling with wetting the bed after consuming alcohol, need to go toilet ridiculous amounts of times when I drink - and it’s been getting worse when not drinking too.

Had doctors run tests, everything came back clear apart from B12 levels which I’m having shots for.

Anyway, last few times I’ve drank and gone out I’ve not wet the bed, was feeling pretty happy that the issue had resolved and now suddenly the last two times I’ve wet the bed again.

So depressing dealing with it. Anyone have advice on bedwetting and B12?

I had a lot of people recommending me Mega max, but they always seemed to leak for me. found Bumz and tried the medium and it was pretty tight. I went for the large and it was perfect.

I’m a contractor and can’t always get to a place to change or use the restroom, so the high capacity was a must.

Just figured I’d share this here in case other people are having trouble finding the correct product.

Today my pull up leaked in public for the first time—seems like Goodnites are no longer cutting it for my daytime use. I’m not really interested in a higher duty pull up, as my build isn’t super conducive to their fit. The Goodnites worked okay for a while I think because they were designed for kids and I have super skinny legs, but I don’t want to have to think about leaks anymore. I also like that the tabbed diapers are easier to change in public.

I do make it to the restroom about ~60% of the time, so I’d prefer something with hook and loop tapes so I can remove it and reuse it. I also would like cloth backed for the discretion. I’ve been wearing my night diaper (Megamax) since the incident, but both the diaper and the tapes are just so loud.

Are there any cloth backed hook and loop diapers available? I can’t find any on northshore and the incontrol ones don’t come in small. I saw that rearz makes some but I’d really like to avoid the prints if possible.

Hi all,

I am a graduate student who recently began having daytime issues and I’m wondering if anyone can shed some light on how accommodations work at school. My doctor has given me a note saying I require frequent restroom breaks, but I’m in the process of having that amended to include allowing me to bring a bag to the restroom with changing supplies. Obviously this isn’t necessary day to day, but my concern is exam season. I assume the school will take issue with allowing me to bring a bag to the restroom during a test unless someone checks it. I really don’t like the idea of all of my professors seeing my diapers and knowing about my issues.

I’m not 100% sure I’ll even need to change, as an exam is only a few hours so I’m contemplating not even requesting an accommodation. I recognize it’s much wiser to be prepared and not leak all over the place if the need arises. But I also don’t want to show a bunch of strangers this super personal thing for nothing if I don’t have to.

So, to those that have received accommodations to bring a bag to the restroom during exams, how does it work logistically? How many people have to learn of my issue so I can avoid leaking during a test?

i have a few issues that i experience personally when changing diapers and pull ups in public, and i think pretty much all of them would be solved by having an adult changing table and a trash can available in every bathroom

the big problem is that not all places have hooks, which are necessary to put my bag on and get things out of it, but also even once i have a hook, i have to balance things like wipes and powder on toilet paper dispensers and other surfaces

in porta potties it’s especially bad. i am thankful that they at least provide accessible porta potties but basically… unless i want to leave my bag on the ground outside the potty or put it on the gross floor, i have to find someone to hold it and then carry my supplies in my hands. or just forego the wipes and powder because it would go on the floor anyway.

the other issue is having to lean against some mysterious public toilet stall or door to get a new diaper on. i am sure it won’t kill me but it still feels icky to me and it’s quite difficult still for me to change without something to brace myself on

then of course one always needs to have a trashcan to throw away used products

do you all have similar complaints?

and do you think that fixing these issues would be a reasonable accommodation to expect public venues to provide us? part of me feels i am being a little whiny since it’s not like anybody *likes* using public bathrooms

im worried about this happening tbh and have already had one instance where it was almost an issue.

also is there anything i can do/say about security checking my bags even when bags are not banned…? can telling them its medical mean they wont look? should i tell them its medical even if they look, so they wont wonder why i have a ton of diapers and baby wipes?

would having a doctors note about my incontinence be helpful in these situations because i am thinking of getting one to carry in my bag

Hi everyone! We’re a group of engineering students working on a senior design project related to the BD's PureWick system. We’re looking specifically at the wick-to-tubing connection and what you do with the wick when it needs to be temporarily disconnected, such as when getting up, moving around, or taking a short break from the system.

We’re hoping to hear from people who have personal experience using PureWick, either as a user or caregiver.

A few things we’re especially interested in:

• What do you normally do with the wick after disconnecting it temporarily?
• Where do you put/store it while it’s not being used?
• Is there anything about storing or handling the wick that is inconvenient, messy, uncomfortable, or difficult?
• Have you ever had urine left in the wick or tubing after disconnecting it?
• What would make temporarily storing the wick easier or more convenient?

We’re not trying to sell anything or collect personal medical information. We’re just trying to better understand the real-world experience so we can design around an actual problem.

Feel free to comment here or DM me if you’d rather share privately. Thank you!

I’ve been using large shaped incontinence pads inside my normal close-fitting boxer briefs, and I’ve found them surprisingly practical. In a way, I’ve basically converted my normal underwear into a diaper without actually having to wear a diaper.

I know they’re generally intended to be worn with fixation underwear, but my boxer briefs hold them in place well enough that I haven’t found that necessary. I like that I can still just wear my normal underwear. If I use a brand that tends to move around a bit, I just use a little fashion tape at the front to hold the pad in place inside my underwear.

The brand I use has also been incredibly absorbent in my experience. I use their Maxi level, and I’ve found that it can handle a full-bladder flood for me without leaking.

For me, the main advantages are:

1. They’re very absorbent — the Maxi has given me more practical capacity than even some of the highest-absorbency pull-ups I’ve tried.

2. They’re more flexible than a taped product.
   If I make it to the toilet in time, I can just pull my boxer briefs down normally.

3. They’re fairly discreet under clothing, and I don’t have to worry about a pull-up or diaper waistband showing above my waistline.

Obviously, the fit and absorbency will depend on the particular pad and underwear, and what works for me won’t necessarily work for everyone. But I’ve found this setup works really well.

Does anyone else use them this way?

I've had worsening PMD lately. I'm not sure if it's a side effect of the botox causing the bladder to squeeze less strongly, or just a segue into worsening bladder issues. I decided to give Depend Shields a go after chatting with my wife. Not something I've really noticed before the first procedures and I'm about 3 months in now.

My first impression is that these these are thin, but they aren't for more than light leaks and it reminds me of a panty liner. I'm not a huge fan of stick-ins when everything shifts, but it's more from a comfort standpoint, not that I'm likely to have a leak at this point in time.

If you have PMD, what do you use, if anything?