r/Incontinence

I dribble after peeing. I can shake for a while, but as soon as I pull my underwear back up, I will leak a little. It's been embarrassing prior to starting guards that have given me my confidence back.

I prefer a larger more absorbent guard as I don't like to change at work, so normally just change before and after work. If at home I can wear one guard all day.

Mid 50s. Type I diabetic with slightly higher than ideal blood sugar.

Been told I have a slightly enlarged prostate too.

Any other men start using guards with similar circumstances. If so, have things changed over time? I'm totally fine with guards and maybe changing more frequently in the future. Just curious if this is the start of less control in future.

I’m sorry if this question doesn’t fit, I just don’t know where else to post it.
I live with a bei-bladder after cancer. And since my insurance cut down my allowance on single used catheters that my Dr. said I should use, I’m now facing a dilemma. Drinking less has lead to constipation, kidney pain and headaches. Now I can only think of two: buying privately or reusing the ones I have. Since they can add up really quickly, I thought maybe if I just get double use out of it, I could get by. Can I just boil them in normal water? Any special way to disinfect them? I assume I have to cut them open and then replace the lubricant, but that seems to be the easier part.

Anyone got tips and tricks how to run this operation at home? Soake them? Or just was and dry them? Or do I need disinfectant alcohol?

Any advice? Thx.

I prefer to wash the reusables as their own laundry load. Because of that the (minimally) used ones sit stored for a few days until I’m ready to wash them all. Am I harming these, making them “wait?” Any suggestions on their waiting-to-wash-them care? Thanks

So I have pullups (Abena M3) that fit when I ordered them. I've now gained some weight. They do fit still somewhat when I get them on, but they tear a bit.

Does anyone know how to put on pullups that are slightly too small on without them tearing?

They tear now on the left side when putting them on. They didn't do that before. They fit well when I bought them.

I'm going to buy more next month and size up, and size up on tab diapers too potentially (I'll figure this out, don't need help on this). But I'm trying to work with what I have right now. Money is tight.

I have a strong fear of needing to urinate or pass stool when I’m somewhere I can’t easily access a bathroom, such as a lecture, exam, seminar, or bus. I worry that I’ll get an urgent or painful pressure and won’t be allowed or able to leave, so I often use the bathroom beforehand and avoid certain situations.

Plesae help me....My life becomes hell sometimes

I have a flexible cystoscopy booked in for next week, and im kinda nervous/anxious as;

A) people i dont know will see that area, and being transfem it does cause a significant amount of dysphoria.

B) im anxious about the procudure itsself, as they are going to be sticking a camera up into my bladder and being autistic i dont know if any of the lubrication/numbing cream/camera itsself will be a sensory nightmare for me

C) i dont know what they are going to find through it,

D) will the let me keep my plushies with me?

E) i wear conitnence aids on a daily basis due to having a brain blader disconect, and i dont want to pee on any of the doctors/nurses/specilicests as the procudure is taking place, as well as the logistics of it. (E is the one im least worried about,,, as a urology clininc i think that they would deal with this on a daily basis)

I have listed these in order of what is causing the most anxiety/stress, can anyone help with any of it? Has anyone had a similar procudure and what was the experience like?

I have dealt with severe urgency (fecal) incontinence (with occasional accidents) for 2 decades of my life, I have ran to the restroom to have a photo finish once a week that entire time, maximum clench everytime otherwise. I have structured my life around how much I can eat, how fast I can eat, if I am going to be in a car ride, if I can drink water before a car ride, if I can eat at the grocery store, if I can cross a parking lot without having an accident.

I have gone diapered 24/7 as of this month and it has been so freeing. I originally didn't want to for fear of it being read as part of my general age regressiveness, I didn't want to be "That" person, I didn't want to "minor" medical issue to justify wearing diapers all the time and using them for their intended purpose.

After having a couple accidents last month (very unlike me, one full accident without any urgency to start with which had never happened before. I just... went), I decided to try going 24/7 and stop trying to make it to the toilet at all, and I can't believe how much freedom I have. I don't have to limit how much I can eat, or when, I don't have to to pretend I'm not hungry when out and about, I don't have to worry about car rides, I don't have to worry about running to the bathroom and praying it's available.

I was so worried how it would look, I felt so guilty about liking the idea, I felt like I would be one of "those" people manipulating a situation, and now? After just a couple weeks of 24/7 and not having to manage anything? I can't believe I held onto those stupid beliefs for as long as I had. I should've done it years ago. I wore them in secret for 15 years, I love them, I think they're great sensory regulation for autism, but the moment I actually needed them? I waited much too long. Turns out, I can wear a single garment that makes all my struggles go away, I can effectively be cured of a lot of the things that cause issue in my life.

I can't believe I structured my life this way when I could've... just gone 24/7 and it would've been fine. I have been living so long with a 5 minute urgency timer that I didn't realize people could genuinely hold it all day, I thought it was an expression. I thought holding an hour was a heculean feat.

i've had a few bedwetting incidents over the last week, which is what it is - it's never been an issue before but it feels pretty explainable i guess (emotionally a bit overwhelmed, v tired, energy drinks to combat tiredness, drinking with friends - effectively i've created the perfect storm but didn't connect the dots until i'd done some research). while it does feel explainable, i'm also wondering if a trip to the doctor is recommended, or just watch and wait?

i did get some rough news about my mum's health this week, and i wonder if that contributed, because the only two times i had accidents as a child were when there were family issues - is it likely at all?

i guess i want to know what to look out for in future so i can be prepared, it does feel strange this happening twice in three nights after over 15 years of never wetting the bed.

potentially it could happen again and the factors playing in are maybe more likely when i'm away from home - staying with my family will be emotionally turbulent, staying with my fiancé's family always involves a booze up, extended social interaction wears me out and i'm always dead to the world when it comes to sleeping afterwards.

i already had some adult nappies having caught a food bug last year so it's not a massive deal that this is happening, especially when it feels pretty temporary (never combining energy drinks with alcohol ever again, and i'm not a frequent drinker, this week has been an exception) - if i can get through the next few nights without using them they can go back in the cupboard

wearing the nappies doesn't bother me, it's better than actually wetting my bed or someone else's, but i'd rather my parents/in-laws didn't find out, and if i do end up needing one i'll also need to dispose of it which would be tricky to do discretely in someone else's home.

could be that i'm really overthinking this and it's too early to start thinking about this stuff, but i guess the peace of mind of knowing how to deal with it would be nice?

29/M here. No UTI, No BPH.

From more than a year, I have got split streams in urine and also developed a feeling that after I go to pee, i dont empty it fully.

The urine stream splits only if I go with less urine in store.

Then I have a weird peeish feeling for like 1 to 2 hrs after I pee which is uncomfortable. Once I have enough pressure, its much more comfortable and less distracting.

I have gome to multiple urologists that too 3 times, i have tested for prostate, UTI, ultrasounds all are Ok. Even uroflowmetry with a full bladder was ok.

Once I go to a urologist, the peeish feeling problem becomes for better ( without any medicine), but then I feel the same again. I dont know if i have flipped a mental switch or smth.

I dont have those fancy "pelvic floor therapists" around here, just traditional urologists.

I am thinking of trying out pelvic floor related exercises.

Has anyone felt the same? Please suggest what we need to do.

the anxiety and flashbacks (from people making fart noises, covering their noses, fidgeting around to be subtle, talking behind my back, making faces, etc.) are coming back. im humiliated thinking back. its all. i. ever. think. about. id be so happy if i didnt have this. its even mire tough when i want to ppl friends and be social but resort to self isolation bc i feel bad for even being in their vicinity and making them smell me. ;( in hs btw.

So I got a sample from northshore a couple of weeks ago to see if I want to change from Abena during my flair up days. Well, I’m having a flair up lol. I put the megamax on and all I can say so far is wow. I have only had it on about 20 min but the comfort and fit compared to an Abena L4 isn’t even comparable! Normally I wear an over night pad during the day when I’m working (easier to change) and a regular cvs pull up at night and on my days off unless I’m having a flair up. To say the least, I WILL be switching to northshore lol! Their megamax and go supreme are absolutely awesome!

I (20M) am going into my second year at music school and I have recently developed urge incontinence and light fecal incontinence from complications with thyroid disease. I have started to wear diapers since the other options that the doctor gave me just weren’t going to work for me. He said that it would calm down once my thyroid cooperates (I hope in 6 months or so).

Since I am a musician, I have to drink lots of water and pee a lot. I currently am wearing Tena Slip Activefit Ultima diapers during the day, but they tend to get saggy and noticable by the 3rd or 4th hour.

Does anyone have any suggestions for getting throught this transition? I really hope to not be outed in an embarrassing way.

So I’m starting a new job where I will have to change into a uniform every day. How do I bring up my incontinence with HR. If anyone has any advice or what you do to handle everything at work.

I’ve been having some issues after a surgery I had months ago..was having severe bedwetting issues / some urgency problems.i started taking desmopressin and it helps a ton and I also take Solifenacin for the urgency issues which also helps a ton. But the desmopressin isn’t 100%. Is that normal? There are days where it doesn’t work but I would say it’s working 90% of the time. It’s really stressing me out cause I have some trips planned and was hoping I didn’t have to worry about whether the meds would work or not and it’s stressing me out..

Basically what’s your experience with bedwetting meds?

Sometimes we need a little comedy to make things easier. It’s not easy living with incontinence and diapers 24/7, but let me share what happened to me while on

My wife and I were still out an hour after eating and we were in a very public place with a lot of people around. As we were walking I had a sudden very strong bowel movement that seemed to happen all at once.

My wife heard it and asked if I tripped on something because she thought it was my shoe. I let her know that it wasn’t my shoe and that I was pretty sure I just went, I said that I felt the diaper rapidly expand as it caught what it was supposed to do and did its job.

She laughed - at my expense. I said I didn’t think this was funny as I noticed at least 2 people look at me. She said it wasn’t a big deal and even she didn’t know what happened.

She calmly just said let’s find a family restroom and get it taken care of and we did just that.

Looking back it was pretty comical, but I definitely didn’t think so at the time.

Maybe this will make others laugh and lighten their day a little.

Hello everyone, to make this a simple inquiry, I am a 22 year old teacher working in preschool education, and I have been having a continued experience of progressively less awareness when I void. When I started this job 3 years ago, I was regularly in pull-ups, and almost always aware of when I actually needed to pee. Despite the fact that I am diagnosed with incontinence for several compounding reasons, I can’t help but think that I am continuing to become less and less continent with each passing year.

I am now never at work without a high capacity tabbed diaper, and I am regularly completely unaware of the fact that I even used it until I go to change at various points throughout the day. It makes sense in my head, that with time as it becomes more of a normality it would only increase in intensity, but really I’m just curious what other people have experienced. Any input is appreciated; thank you.

I've worn briefs for 5 years now. 24/7 neurologic condition. So I am switching to an external catheter uricup anyone have any experience with these or which bags are best single use or washable. Wheelchair bound. 36/f

Idk how to say it but Ill try my best.

Sometimes when im laying down or just sit on the floor, I would feel like there's something going through my urethra.

It kinda mimics the sensation of peeing even though i felt nothing on the tip. And when I check my pants when it happens most of the time, there are no wet spots too.

It has the same sensation as to when I lift my asset with a towel to dry it.

Im...so confused...

Is it because of irritation...,mentally stressed...,or just my brain or something else??

For context, I'm a 17 year old male.