r/Personality

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After six interview rounds, the final hurdle was a DISC personality assessment. Is this becoming normal?

I honestly don't know how to feel about it.

Over the past few weeks I went through six interview rounds with a startup. There was the recruiter call, a take-home assignment, a presentation, technical pair programming, engineering interviews and culture-fit conversations.

Some stages were straightforward. Others had me questioning myself for days. I barely slept before the technical presentation, and I was genuinely nervous before the pair-programming sessions. It wasn't easy, but at least I felt like they were assessing my skills, how I think, and how I work with people.

Just when I thought it was the end, then came email.

"Just one last step... please complete this DISC personality assessment."

That completely threw me.

I'm naturally soft-spoken. I don't dominate conversations or try to be the loudest person in the room. I listen first, think things through, and when it's time to make a decision, I have no problem taking ownership. The people I've worked with know that's how I operate.

But I couldn't stop wondering whether a personality assessment would see any of that.

After investing so much time in the interview process, I became paranoid that one questionnaire could outweigh everything I'd already demonstrated.

So I did something I'm not particularly proud of.

I spent hours reading about DISC profiles, what companies look for, and how different answers are interpreted. I adjusted my responses to better match what I believed the role wanted.

Was it completely honest? Probably not.

Do I believe I could adapt my behaviour in that role? Absolutely.

I've worked in different teams, industries and customer environments for years. Adapting how I communicate has always been part of the job. To me, that's different from pretending to be someone I'm not.

What surprised me afterwards was what I found when I started researching personality assessments.

There are hundreds of websites designed for employers. They analyse candidates, rank people, predict performance and generate reports.

But I struggled to find anything that genuinely helps the candidate.

Something that says:
"This is how you're naturally wired. These are your strengths. These are the behaviours you could realistically develop for a particular role without losing who you are."

So I built something for myself.

It's a tool that asks me questions, helps me understand my own personality traits, compares them against the behaviours expected for a target job, and highlights both the strengths I already have and the areas that might hold me back.

More importantly, it separates personality from behaviour. It identifies which behaviours are realistically trainable and gives practical suggestions on what I can start practising at work.

The goal isn't to fake a personality.

It's to become more intentional about how I show up professionally, while still being myself.

Oddly enough, whether I get this job or not almost feels secondary now.

Building the tool has made me much more confident applying elsewhere because I understand myself better. I know what I'm naturally good at, what employers might misunderstand, and what I can realistically improve instead of trying to become a completely different person.

I'm still waiting to hear back from the startup.

But I'm curious...

Has anyone else had to do a DISC or personality assessment after multiple interview rounds?

Did you answer instinctively, or did you find yourself thinking about the "right" answer rather than the truthful one?

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u/nftmeta — 3 hours ago
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What is the issue with every personality test?

I have taken a lot of personality tests, and I realised they only ever measure how I see myself. I rate myself, and the result just reflects my own view straight back at me. But the most empowering and revealing feedback I have ever gotten has come from what others have said about me.

So I am building a personality test with the aim of capturing the value of other people's feedback in the form of a personality report.

It is early and I am just trying to work out whether the idea resonates with anyone, or if it is only interesting to me. I am not selling anything. I would really like a few people to try it and tell me honestly what was useful, what was weird, and whether having someone else rate you felt worth doing.

I have linked it here: https://tally.so/r/KYgkKX

Any help would be great. Cheers,
Joe

u/HandleThink9119 — 4 hours ago

What’s a personal trait society praises but you see as a red flag?

For example pettiness. I’ve heard a ton of people praise 50 Cent for being petty because he’s always picking or dragging on conflict with people. People say they love him because he’s so petty.

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u/Far_Beyond4061 — 6 hours ago
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[Academic] How Social Media Consumption Bring Dark Personality Traits to Light (Aged 18+, Fluent English Speakers)

Hi there! My name is Zac and I am a current psychology honours student at Federation University Australia. We are looking for people to participate in a research project investigating personality traits and how social media consumption influences certain beliefs and judgements. We are looking for anyone over the age of 18 to complete a 30-minute survey (and watch some TikToks, some of which may include potentially confronting or offensive content related to social issues). If you are interested in participating, please click the link below. 

Participants can choose to enter an optional prize draw to win one of two $20 (aud) Prezzee gift vouchers to a store of your choice! 

Qualtrics: https://federation.syd1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_4ZrUUEJudrbnMJE

SurveyCirle: https://www.surveycircle.com/6FK8TV/

Participation is voluntary and completely anonymous.

Federation University Ethics reference number 2026-108 

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Everyone here is great at spotting these traits in other people. Which one do you recognize in yourself?

Most of what I read here is about detecting the narcissist, the manipulator, the "dark" people out there. Almost nobody turns it inward.

So I'll go first. Mine's Machiavellianism. Not the movie-villain kind — just a quiet reflex of clocking the strategic angle, reading the room for leverage before I even notice I'm doing it. Useful at work. It also means people sometimes feel handled by me instead of met, and I have to consciously switch it off with the people I love.

The dark triad isn't "them." It's a spectrum — everyone sits somewhere on all three.

So honestly: which of the three — narcissism, Machiavellianism, or psychopathy — do you see most in yourself, and where does it actually show up?

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u/d4rktr1ad — 1 day ago

(30M) How can someone who is ugly, like me, come to terms with their life?

As you can see, nature didn't exactly bless me with good looks, and consequently, I struggle to accept who I am. I’d like to know the best way to navigate life when you haven't been blessed in the looks department. How can I build self-confidence?

u/craquage0 — 2 days ago

help

I am a teenager who was hesvily bullied as a child and am now a massive overthinker and people pleaser. I DREAM of being confident, of dating people but I dont know how. I know I will be much happier but I just dont know how. I want to be a doctor, I think. I don't even know who I am anymore. Any (specific) advice?

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u/BuyWaste3557 — 4 days ago

I'm confused about my personality

I am absolutely unsure and unclear about my identity. At times when I am in a social setting, I feel like a fraud. Ever since I was a child I have lied to everyone about who I was. If you were to ask me anything related to myself, my preferences for example I would go blank and say something but later realise that it was wrong. I tried boxing myself into archetypes but constantly switched them also. There were few years of my life in which I would heavily copy personality of those who I thought were socially successful only to be caught and ridiculed later. I have no sense of self awareness even at the present moment I am having trouble in putting my current situation to words. I have always moulded myself to fit in groups and show myself as someone who i am not to avoid being left out. I am complexed, awkward and good for nothing.

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u/DrowsyDaydream — 5 days ago

Introvert or extrovert?

How do I tell if Im more of a introvert or extrovert?I know there’s ambivert,but I feel like Im most likely an introvert.I like to spend time with people ,however, I get sick of people shortly after and want to spend time alone after a while .I broke up with my ex-bsf in february and I’ve been feeling lonely ever since (even after I spend time with someone) so I cant really tell rn .

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u/Spiritual-Visual3460 — 7 days ago
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Which Big Five trait do you think people misread most in themselves?

I've been thinking about how the five traits get self misjudged. My guess is that high scorers on one trait in particular consistently underrate themselves, because the trait feels so normal from the inside that they assume everyone experiences the world the same way.

For me it's the emotional sensitivity dimension. People high on it often think they're just "realistic" rather than reactive, because their baseline is all they've ever known.

Curious what this community thinks. Which of the five do you reckon people are worst at reading in themselves, and why? And has taking a proper measured assessment ever told you something that clashed with your own self-image?

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u/aryannnn77 — 6 days ago
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How to dominate a conversation?

When people try to sell their excuses which are seemingly false. If we happen to question them , their next statement is , don't you have trust !

I want to establish my control over such people who postpone events ( like due payments) . How can we do that ?

How to generate that influencing power , such that people take us very seriously ?

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u/amb_thirties — 9 days ago

I find Americans so good at small talks and squishy comparing to rest of world.

Hello world 🌹

İ just love the way American people express themselves . So squishy.

I believe succesful relationships are based on small daily talks , compromise and you guys are so good at that so this prevents people from having power struggles with eacother.

Healthy boundaries+small talks: this really attracts me

I sometimes think about dating an American woman who has healthy boundaries intentionally although I am based in bangkok as an expat.

What do you think ?

Ps: I am not from the us or american .

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u/Carliner1 — 10 days ago
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I'm scared about the way I am can anyone relate?

I'm just soo chilled that I don't get into politics with people. Like whether it's at work or with relatives, I never hold any grudges or anything. It's the same with relationships. I never felt desperate or felt the need to be in a relationship although it would be nice to have someone, but I never felt sad about it?

Like I'm soo content with myself, I get confused when people have arguement with each other. I don't get affected alot by people. I don't know if its because I'm in my own world. I enjoy music, nature, movies alot. I don't know if there is something wrong with me. I'm always jolly and laughing.

I don't feel the need that I'm missing out if I dont get into a relationship.

This worries me because I don't know if maybe some parts of my brain or reality is missing because I'm like this. I often think something is wrong with me or the way I'm perceiving life. It's as if my brain or consciousness has found a way to deal with something?

I haven't had any stress or anything. I just feel soo relaxed that it's starting to scare me.

I see people crying because of issues with their love life, but as a single person I'm soo happy?

It's as if something is telling me inside that there is something wrong with me because I should be desperate or sad that I'm single?

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u/HeresJohnny26 — 7 days ago

What’s something about you that people always get wrong?

Could be your personality, appearance, job, hobbies, or anything. What’s the assumption people make that’s completely off?

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u/Even_Reading_8323 — 13 days ago

An Exercise to Identify Your Values

Today I want to tell you more about myself so I can pin this post to my profile.

Today I’ll give you an exercise to help you identify your values. And I’ll share my own values with you. Grab a piece of paper and a pen.

Draw an island in the middle of the sea. The sea represents life. There’s a small boat by the shore. You’re standing next to it. Now draw a star. This star represents your values. You get into the boat, and no matter where you are in the sea (in life)—you’ll follow this star, your values. Now flip the piece of paper over and write down what this star means to you.

When I wrote down my values using this exercise, here’s what I came up with:

  1. Vegetarianism

  2. Physics

  3. Helping children from orphanages

  4. Criminal psychology

  5. Helping people find their purpose in life.

  6. Girls

Write down what your values are. I’d be really interested to read them))))

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u/EdgeOfPersonslity — 10 days ago