u/HeresJohnny26

I get anxiety because I overthink the way I am.

I think it stems from the relationship side of things. People say they get married because they feel lonely and unfulfilled. But for me, I never felt that was the reason or is the reason to find someone. I don't think I ever feel any heartbreaks or desperation for a relationship. That's why I feel scared because I feel that should be the main reason you'd be in a relationship. I was in a breakup once, but I never felt sad or anything. I was like.. 'meh'. But it seems as if there is a genuine consensus that if you break up, you must feel heartbroken.. or if you are single, you must be lonely and desperate for a relationship.

I never felt any desperation to get into a relationship. It's not that I'm avoiding it, but I'm just relaxed. Seems like every guy I know is hunting for the perfect wife, but I never felt that I'm on the hunt or anything like that. I dont even feel I'm missing out. Sure, I wouldn't mind a relationship, but I don't think I'd get bitter over a heartbreak.

Am I normal?

Its soo silly, simple yet Brill. I love it soo much. Such an easy going film. My favourite scene has to be the bathroom one where he gets his pants and drying it. The way hes making thise moaning noises as if hes making love to the hand dryer and the other guy just comes in and is thinking what on earth is going on.

And then when he meets David's boss George and Mr Bean has to cover up the wet patch on his trousers, hes walking in sync behind David, its freaking hilarious lol. It's like what's wrong with this guy. Hes meant to be a DR, but hes acting like some weirdo loool.

I have nephews of my own, and I treat kids as if they are mine. Like I must look after them You know how everyone is protective over their kids.

If I go out somewhere or anywhere, for example a cute kid with their father or mother, I end up smiling and in my head I'm like awww, soo adorable. I feel happy for the parent and kid.

Sometimes I'd go out my way and tell them that their child is adorable. I just like making people happy, but I don't know if that's weird of me to do that?

Like I'm happy for other people and I genuinely am happy for others and go out ny way to compliment.

Am I normal?

I just try to be nice but I don't know if parents may think I'm some weird stranger.

They do respond by saying thanks etc..

I'm just the type of person who embraces people.

Is there anyone else like this?

I get scared that I'm soo laid back with relationships. For example, I never think about being in one. It never crosses my mind. I don't get affected by people or anything. In genuinely laid back and talk to everyone. I'm not an introvert, but I'm just very relaxed and the thought of being in a relationship never occurred to me.

The pressure is there because seems like everyone is getting into a relationship and end up marrying. But I'm just soo relaxed as a single person, I never felt the need to go on dates or anything.

I am already a happy person.

Is there anyone else like me?

Thing is, I'm such a relaxed person. I get on with everyone, I'm always happy, chirpy and never felt the need to have someone. At the same time, if I were to find someone and talk to them, I may think about being in a relationship with them. What I get afraid of is, I'm genuinely a happy person. Politics, whether it be family or friends, I never get angry with anyone. I'm just soo laid back and alot into my music and reading and sports.

But I'm thinking, those who get married, do they do it because they feel 'lonely", or ''desperate '.?

I'm such a relaxed person that I may have missed out on the whole ordeal of finding someone?

I don't feel like it would make me complete or anything, but I get scared because I don't know if I qualify as someone who looks to marriage or relationships.

I don't think I get upset over women or anything. I'm just soo relaxed. Sometimes, i see a sibling who is married and that makes me happy enough for company.

I just don't find it a big thing whether I find someone or not. It wont affect my happiness.

Are there people who have been genuinely just already happy and complete before marriage but then decided to get married because...well...why not?

I see guys saying stuff like 'oh that guys lucky to have her' or someone trying to set me up with a woman and are trying to be my wingman helping me up to get someone, but I never had that thought that I needed someone. For me, it's like 'meh'.. whatever.

I have family members whom are married with kids and I sometimes feel that is enough for me to share my happiness with.

I never felt some sort of eagerness or some sort of desperation to get into a relationship and get married. It doesn't affect my happiness or anything. I'm not totally against it either. It would be nice to have a companion. But I just feel scared about the way I feel. It's not like a numb feeling, but I certainly enjoy going places alone and it didn't occur to me that much that I need someone.

Also, I am a very easy going person. I don't take things too serious. I don't get the arguments and things that happen in marriages and relationships. Why do people want to go through all that as opposed to being relaxed and carefree single?

Am I the only one who thinks like this?

I'm in my 30's and I've always felt soo happy just being me. Like, I never felt lonely and I'm always positive. I never get into drama, because it doesn't affect me. I never suffered or think I can get heartbreak because I love music, art and other things alot. I don't feel the need to fill some sort of void.

But it seems as if marriage is a fulfillment for people and without it they would be lonely and depressed. I'm confused because as a single person I never felt depressed, sad or desperate for a relationship. I can certainly love Someone, but it's not like I'm lacking any love.

Would I consider to be normal?

Like is marriage only for depressed lonely people.

I honestly get scared because Im just a happy positive person and although having a companion would be cute, I never cry about these things. Im just soo happy being me, single.

Im not trying to avoid marriage or anything. Im just saying it's not the epitome for happiness for me.

Not saying I wont be happy if I get a companion, I mean it's a beautiful thing, but I don't get this eagerness or feeling lonely. I'm just soo happy and comfortable.

Are there people who were always like me, but still decided to get married?

I love Japan, t love the people they are hardworking disciplined well respected people. But I was confused by how upset they were when they crashed out. The whole team were hoping to win the WC, but Brazil looked strong. Look, Japan did well and are a strong team, they definitely had chance to win but they were sooo upset like proper crying including the fans.

I was surprised because other fans went that upset.

Do Japanese players / people feel less as a big thing? They need to take it easy.

I don't know what it is but, I don't get affected by drama from other people. Like whenever I go somewhere, there seems to be drama, but I feel soo chilled and relaxed about stuff that I don't know whether there is something wrong with me.

I am not sure what it is, but whether it be at home or work, I'd be in my own world, just relaxed and smiling.

Even if I see an attractive woman, I don't get desperate to get her or anything. I'd love to talk to her, but I never felt like I needed her?

I'm seeing how everyone is always serious whether it be work or social life, but I'm always feel I'm in my own world just feeling high for no reason.

I see everyone else soo serious and it makes me feel that something is wrong with me. Like the whole world has become small and I'm just over relaxed about stuff, or chunk of reality has gone missing.

I get panic attacks because I feel I can't feel the drama of life. I don't know if im numb to it all. I'm just always relaxed and happy for no reason which makes me scares.

I don't overthink about having to be rich or anything. Or needing to impress anyone.

Is this normal?

Do you ever have the situation where your toilets in the office are confined spaces soo it would be awkward to go there if there are alot of people?

Lol.

Soo basically if I'm going to the toilets and notice that someone is going there too, I may sometimes skip going and wait for the toilets / gents to be empty and only then I'll go? Lol.

Also, if I notice theres another man doing his business in the cubicle, and there are only 2 cubicles close to each other, I'd rather use the toilets to pee there?

I find it awkward when there is another person right close to me in the cubicles...its the awkward silence lool.

Also if I'm going to do my other business, I try not to make any sounds lol. I'd wait for there to be noise of a dryer or tap to go off and then make the opportunity to do number 2 loool.

Is that normal lool?

I find that my office is really quiet. I feel like I'm the only obe who says good morning and likes to talk and do my work at the same time, but lately it feels like everyone is soo serious and no one smiles. I get anxious because it's as if everyone is TOO focused on work.

I sometimes feel it's some kind of programming where you are not allowed to smile or anything.

Does anyone have an office environment like that?

It might be the tv programme that did it for me. The main person Harkirat just sounds like a desperate silly person? I don't want to slander her but I was actually laughing at the whole thing. Like people are saying OMG IT WAS HER OWN COUSIN...but noone is looking at how gullible and stupid Harkirat is?

I also felt like the whole ordeal is soo childish and laughable. Like, desperation of love and how in the Netflix series the happy music is playing in the background when shes describing how in love she is making it sound cute. I found the whole thing cringe and stupid lol.

I had my palm on my face the whole time. I didn't feel sorry for anyone, I was just laughing my head off.

Am I the only one who felt like this?

Seems like everyone is just shocked at the cousin but not questioning the sanity of the main person lol.

It might be the tv programme that did it for me. The main person Harkirat just sounds like a desperate silly person? I don't want to slander her but I was actually laughing at the whole thing. Like people are saying OMG IT WAS HER OWN COUSIN...but noone is looking at how gullible and stupid Harkirat is?

I also felt like the whole ordeal is soo childish and laughable. Like, desperation of love and how in the Netflix series the happy music is playing in the background when shes describing how in love she is making it sound cute. I found the whole thing cringe and stupid lol.

I had my palm on my face the whole time. I didn't feel sorry for anyone, I was just laughing my head off.

Am I the only one who felt like this?

Seems like everyone is just shocked at the cousin but not questioning the sanity of the main person lol.

I'm just soo chilled that I don't get into politics with people. Like whether it's at work or with relatives, I never hold any grudges or anything. It's the same with relationships. I never felt desperate or felt the need to be in a relationship although it would be nice to have someone, but I never felt sad about it?

Like I'm soo content with myself, I get confused when people have arguement with each other. I don't get affected alot by people. I don't know if its because I'm in my own world. I enjoy music, nature, movies alot. I don't know if there is something wrong with me. I'm always jolly and laughing.

I don't feel the need that I'm missing out if I dont get into a relationship.

This worries me because I don't know if maybe some parts of my brain or reality is missing because I'm like this. I often think something is wrong with me or the way I'm perceiving life. It's as if my brain or consciousness has found a way to deal with something?

I haven't had any stress or anything. I just feel soo relaxed that it's starting to scare me.

I see people crying because of issues with their love life, but as a single person I'm soo happy?

It's as if something is telling me inside that there is something wrong with me because I should be desperate or sad that I'm single?

Whenever I see them, they look soo cunning and up to something clever. I find them cute aswell. It's the way they hop and just look around. They look and act cheeky and I can't stop laughing at times and have a smile on my face. I love nature and I find it fascinating how it can be beautiful and funny at the same time. I sometimes think some creation are put on earth for our entertainment.

Hey everyone. Theres something that is actually bothering me.

I've noticed that I'm always genuinely happy and positive. What I mean by this is, I've never felt heartbroken or ever felt desperate for a relationship. Like you know you may see someone beautiful of the opposite sex. You know how people are desperate to find someone. I never felt an eagerness to find anyone like that. I've felt content being single and always remained appreciative of life. I appreciate family, friends.

You know how people say 'oh you missed the boat' and things like that, it doesn't really affect me. I just feel really content being me.

I never felt this empty feeling people talk about when trying to find relationship.

I love art, music and travelling alot, I almost forget about the need of a companion . I never hold any grudges against people either.

Am I normal? I often get scared that I'm like this. I even was in a relationship once and it ended, but I never felt sad or anything. My friend was like "I'm really sorry to hear about the breakup", but it didn't phase me.

Am I the only one like this?

Also I realised when an office is quiet, I often don't get why people are quiet.

I get anxiety because I feel I'm not normal lool.

Not soo interested in a relationship. Am I normal?

I need to know whether I'm the only one who feels this way. I don't get too excited over another woman. It's not like I'm I'm longing for a relationship. I'm really at peace with myself, that I don't even look to dating apps or anything. I never felt desperate. I'm just sooo joyful person who appreciates life. I enjoy reading alot, sports, movies etc. I get soo excited about these things and I often feel women and relationships are SECOND to all of this.

Is that normal?

I dont get bothered by any emotional attachment to the level that my heartaches or I feel lonely or sad or feel I MUST GET THIS WOMAN, SHES THE ONE.

I enjoy womens company, but I've always just been just soo happy, content loud jolly person.

What's wrong with me?

tl;dr: Not interested in relationships

I need to know whether I'm the only one who feels this way. I don't get too excited over another woman. It's not like I'm I'm longing for a relationship. I'm really at peace with myself, that I don't even look to dating apps or anything. I never felt desperate. I'm just sooo joyful person who appreciates life. I enjoy reading alot, sports, movies etc. I get soo excited about these things and I often feel women and relationships are SECOND to all of this.

I love women, I find them attractive and admire their beauty, but I don't feel sad about not having someone.

Is that normal?

I dont get bothered by any emotional attachment to the level that my heartaches or I feel lonely or sad or feel I MUST GET THIS WOMAN, SHES THE ONE.

I enjoy womens company, but I've always just been just soo happy, content loud jolly person. Like getting into a relationship is just for company but not because I'm sad ir anything

What's wrong with me?

What I'm trying to say is, if you have siblings, cousins, aunts who have achieved well in life, or they are handsome or beautiful, do you sometimes show off about them to your friends or work colleagues etc?

Sometimes, people get jealous of their own siblings, cousins achievements, but I always have a sense of proudness. Suppose they look really pretty or good looking, I'd show them off to my friends and just like to follow their footsteps.

What I'm getting at is, I'm not the jealous type. Even if my friends have done well, I'd show them off to other people.

I also get proud or admire the beauty of lets say my aunt or cousin sister, not in a perverted way but just happy to be related to them. Is that normal? .

I don't get jealous.

Am I the only one like that?

Is this abnormal?

= I don't hold many grudges against people and I don't let their actions affect me emotionally. I'm not naive or soft or anything. I do talk alot and can be loud, but I don't ever feel any hate towards people.

- When it's really quiet and serious at places like work, I wonder why everyone is soo serious and I start to overthink why its soo serious. Sometimes I'd go out my way to say hello to everyone but I get confused as to why its soo serious and people just look grumpy or afraid to talk. I start to overthink as to whether I'm abnormal or just like talking to people and get concerned if it's really quiet.

- This also gets me panicky and anxious because I start to overthink about whether I'm abnormal or not. I start to think if I'm capable of being in a relationship because I'm really a happy person, I don't find myself that I NEED LOVE or anything. I'm just hyper and cool. I'm not aromatic or anything, I can surely love someone, but I don't think I would ever feel hurt or heartbroken because I don't find that I needed a relationship to begin with as I'm always a positive person. Like I'm not looking to be loved but mainly the physical intimacy is what I'd be after.

When I see love songs there are couples getting angry and crying, arguing with each other and it confuses me because I'm just a really relaxed happy guy, I already feel fulfilled and I would just get into relationship to have good time and see it as an adventure to start family, but I wouldnt find it the epitome of happiness.

People keep saying that you need a relationship to be happy, BUT IM ALREADY A HAPPY PERSON. I get panicky attacks because I feel I'm different. I find music and other stuff soo appealing, I love the sound of music and I get fulfilled by that.

But it's as if people want to be in a relationship because they feel lonely and need to be loved and I feel that there is something wrong with me because, although I do get attracted to women, I don't feel the need to go out of my way to get them or look for a relationship. I don't even like the thought of online dating or anything.

I'm just soo chilled out, and I wonder if this is a dangerous thing. I don't cry over heartbreaks or anything, I just already feel blessed. I don't understand the drama with people needing to desperately find someone and get married or have kids.

Do you guys understand where I'm coming at? I'm just a very positive person, and I just don't feel an extreme need to find someone. Even if I was with someone, I don't think it would make me more or less of what I am.

I see that people are happy single because of their past issues in relationships etc, but I'm not even like that. I don't get the concept of heartbreak. I look forward to other things. I just get scared that I don't qualify to being in a relationship because I'm a positive person.

Am I the only one who thinks like this?

Am I normal?