r/SexTherapy101

My partner and I have been together for almost six and a half years. After being together for a few months, I discovered I had a severe stage of endometriosis, for which I was immediately put on birth control.
We tried a lot of things because nothing worked for me; I kept having heavy periods and symptoms.

It wasn't until begin this year I had my IUD removed and switched to a new, stronger pill that my period finally disappeared and the pain during sex did too.
I'm slowly starting to find sex a bit more enjoyable, little by little, but my libido hasn't returned.

I was wondering about women or people whose partners have the same problem who have regained their libido.
The only way for me so far is watching porn sometimes, but I don't want to keep doing that, My partner doesn't mind it, but still i want to try a different way.

I recently starting hooking up with people after separating with my long term(year plus) partner and sex feels so different. There are some parts I enjoy like how different girls respond to different things, sexual exploration, and the freedom of it all. But I would be lying if I didn't say it was quite bitter sweet.

During sex with this particular girl I just felt an overwhelming sense of sadness. Also Sex feels TOTALLY different when you don't know the person, for better and for worse. I had only been with my girlfriend before this so it's all so new to me. How has sex been for you after breakups, was it a stress reliever for the better, or more bittersweet like in my case? I'm genuinely curious to see how it has went for different folks.

🥲 If you finish first but your partner is still not satisfied, what do you usually do?
Guys: what’s your approach?🤔

Women: what do you actually want your partner to do in that situation?🙄

Genuinely curious about people’s experiences and perspectives. 👀

Siempre que tenemos relaciones dura relativamente poco, igual nunca pensé mal porq llevamos poco de pareja, duramos 4 meses conociéndonos y hace un mes me pidió ser novios, tampoco teníamos mucha privacidad o buenos lugares para tener relaciones, así q siempre pensé q era por eso que duraba poco.

Pero ayer que tuvimos intimidad en su cuarto no duró ni 2min literalmente, después de que él acabó se puso serio y después de que yo le insistiera que me contara que tenía, no me quizo decir, por lo q yo deduje que era q con sus parejas anteriores si duraba más en el acto, y pues el me dijo q si pero que no sabía porq pasaba esto conmigo, además de que no sentía el querer "otro round" porque sentía que "ya había terminado" y que no sabía porq conmigo pasa eso.

Yo lo asocio un poco a que como se la pasa ocupado, tipo, entra a la uni desde las 7am y sale hasta las 2pm, luego se va al trabajo a las 3pm y llega a su casa a las 12 de la noche, entonces me pongo a pensar que como se la vive estresado y ocupado esté influyendo en algo. También cuando le hago oral cuando acaba se le acelera el corazón (una taquicardia leve) y le da mucho sueño después.

La verdad si son cositas q me hacen bastante ruido y me estoy sintiendo mal al respecto, no sé si estoy haciendo algo mal o si no le gusto físicamente lo suficiente.

My boyfriend that was single for nearly 5 years had a terrible porn addiction I never knew because we didn’t talk about it. Long story short I found out a couple of weeks ago he was watching it I asked how often and he said once a month or whenever there was an “urge” he said it’s a habit and has been trying to get better, I got upset a lot and still do because we haven’t been intimate yet because he’s still a virgin and it felt like he put more effort and was selfish to put these urges first then to do something he says he wants to do with me, he has a very highly sex drive and masterbates a lot he will admit he has a problem with that. But part of me feels so disrespected I told him why it was such a big thing to me and he understood so he stopped. I asked him today if he had watched it again and he said no because he wants to be intimate he also struggles with performance anxiety. Anyways, I feel like all of the porn watching for 5 years has made him like this he thinks the same, he said “It’s hard to fight the urge of not watching it when I’m in the mood because it was a habit and a quick fix” I feel like his brain has become so dependent, fixated and wired on the stuff that we may end up not getting there he gets upset all the time because of it he always says “it makes him feel less of a man because he can’t please me”, I just really wish he knew how much this 💩 is effecting literally every little thing with our sex life and it’s just becoming so popular now it’s so sad 😞