r/SexTherapy101

My partner and I have been together for almost six and a half years. After being together for a few months, I discovered I had a severe stage of endometriosis, for which I was immediately put on birth control.
We tried a lot of things because nothing worked for me; I kept having heavy periods and symptoms.

It wasn't until begin this year I had my IUD removed and switched to a new, stronger pill that my period finally disappeared and the pain during sex did too.
I'm slowly starting to find sex a bit more enjoyable, little by little, but my libido hasn't returned.

I was wondering about women or people whose partners have the same problem who have regained their libido.
The only way for me so far is watching porn sometimes, but I don't want to keep doing that, My partner doesn't mind it, but still i want to try a different way.

I recently starting hooking up with people after separating with my long term(year plus) partner and sex feels so different. There are some parts I enjoy like how different girls respond to different things, sexual exploration, and the freedom of it all. But I would be lying if I didn't say it was quite bitter sweet.

During sex with this particular girl I just felt an overwhelming sense of sadness. Also Sex feels TOTALLY different when you don't know the person, for better and for worse. I had only been with my girlfriend before this so it's all so new to me. How has sex been for you after breakups, was it a stress reliever for the better, or more bittersweet like in my case? I'm genuinely curious to see how it has went for different folks.

🥲 If you finish first but your partner is still not satisfied, what do you usually do?
Guys: what’s your approach?🤔

Women: what do you actually want your partner to do in that situation?🙄

Genuinely curious about people’s experiences and perspectives. 👀

Siempre que tenemos relaciones dura relativamente poco, igual nunca pensé mal porq llevamos poco de pareja, duramos 4 meses conociéndonos y hace un mes me pidió ser novios, tampoco teníamos mucha privacidad o buenos lugares para tener relaciones, así q siempre pensé q era por eso que duraba poco.

Pero ayer que tuvimos intimidad en su cuarto no duró ni 2min literalmente, después de que él acabó se puso serio y después de que yo le insistiera que me contara que tenía, no me quizo decir, por lo q yo deduje que era q con sus parejas anteriores si duraba más en el acto, y pues el me dijo q si pero que no sabía porq pasaba esto conmigo, además de que no sentía el querer "otro round" porque sentía que "ya había terminado" y que no sabía porq conmigo pasa eso.

Yo lo asocio un poco a que como se la pasa ocupado, tipo, entra a la uni desde las 7am y sale hasta las 2pm, luego se va al trabajo a las 3pm y llega a su casa a las 12 de la noche, entonces me pongo a pensar que como se la vive estresado y ocupado esté influyendo en algo. También cuando le hago oral cuando acaba se le acelera el corazón (una taquicardia leve) y le da mucho sueño después.

La verdad si son cositas q me hacen bastante ruido y me estoy sintiendo mal al respecto, no sé si estoy haciendo algo mal o si no le gusto físicamente lo suficiente.