as someone who listens to alt music, likes alt fashion. I cannot stand other alt people so i refuse to call myself alt but at the same time i want people to relate to. You ever feel like you dont fit in anywhere? Even in the scene?
And can all baskets be used bottomless?
I dont know why but lately i have been pissing people off this month. Almost everyone hates me. It makes me want to disappear
Please explain, size/oz, texture, ratio, shots. Every place does it so differently, it confuses me everytime.
Some places do cappuccinos that are 6oz, 8oz, 10oz, 12oz, heck even 16oz. Some places do cinnamon or cocoa powder, some places do one shot, some places double shot. Like wtf is it??
Im trying to open a coffee shop and was thinking of doing options between 6oz and 12oz so if some want the traditional kind or if they want a foamier version. What do yall think?
No need to be pissy in the comments pls
And she continues to not help with it. She has negative energy she brings into the house, she is never wrong and only remembers my wrongs. She is going to kill me like this. I could have cancer and she wont change. Im sorry if that sounded insensitive but thats just the person she is.
She will never change.
She gave/gives me chronic stress and makes me feel like the worst person alive. She plays victim all the time and says shit like you're not my daughter anymore, i never want to see you again. And cant help but it stresses me out. She says shit like that whenever shes mad like a thousand times in the past. I had a fight with her and i said you better mean it this time. Because im over her. Im sick of her drama, im sick of her doing nothing with her life and im sick of nothing ever being good enough for her. Im done.
She is a total low life and acts like the world is out to get her. So because of that she is borderline narcissistic.
I wish i had an emotionally mature mom that i could go to for advice and i can hang out with. I really have envy for people who have mothers like that. But every-time i try to spend time with her, shes just negative and she lacks social skills in public. Fuck i really want a stable, emotionally mature MOM. Not a mom child. She never was that. I hope i break that cycle
I was judgmental, hateful, pissy, pushy, nitpicking, SUPER conservative and i am so embarrassed now about it. Were any of you like that as well? I still carry some of my old beliefs but im not so quick to judge someone who thinks differently now.
I think we all have bad experiences with the church and other christians but what christians made you think maybe God is real?
Mine were
- that breathy "spiritual" voice when their real voice sounds nothing like that. Its a performance for their ego
- fake joy, because if you don't apparently you're not christian enough or saved. So you have to act either joyful, knowledgeable and holy in order for people in the church to respect you.
- just christians acting unnatural in general and being performative
- leaders who controlled everything, did what they wanted and like a dictator pretty much.
- members being put up on pedestals
- church members treating the people on the pedestals like cult leaders more than they follow God
- and defending leaders like they are infallible. Are they God now?
Mini rant:
I knew this one girl in church that just took over the half the leadership roles in small groups. She was a covert narcissist, and made her own rules after taking over. In young adults singles group, there is a rule that once youre married youre supposed to move to the married couples small group , she got married but instead she became leader of young singles group. Like who tf said you could do that? The church used to go to was a decent church but after her taking over, it's unbearable to be in the same room as her. And she gives me the creeps, i get bad vibes from her. The girl has nothing else going on in her life, she practically peaked in that church. Its her source of power. And she is everything is listed above.
Dude some christians disgust me. The lowest vibrational people. Just pure darkness i feel from these people. I cant believe i used to think like these people. And let me tell you, that was a time where i was more lost, anxious, depressed than i ever was.
My BIGGEST pet peeve is when people act like this as if they are completely infallible. I cannotttt stand it. But seems like people like this are everywhere and it's actually really rare to find people who arent this way.
Do you think it's unprofessional for someone you are working with to build a business to be condescending towards you? How do you handle people like this? This is my very first business, i dont know where to start or what to do and my general contractor knows this and yet makes me feel like because of me, we are falling behind and makes me feel like im being lazy or incompetent to be an owner. I dont know what to do? I thought he would guide me? Why is he making it seem like it's my fault? I dont think its fair at all.
I am currently trying to open a business and i am having an agent help me out. He has been sarcastic, passive aggressive and condescending towards me and i have a feeling he isn't this way with his other clients.
I have this superpower where i can get people to show their true colors to me because simply they don't respect me, take me seriously and they think they can talk to me that way.
Im stuck because we are half way there and he has been very helpful but i just know that for my next business, i never wanna deal with him again. I just cant stand a condescending person.
I fully admit i have no idea what i'm doing and didn't know where to start in business and defiantly need his help but he has been treating me like i'm incompetent to be a owner and straight up dumb. Also hate when people act nice then rude then nice then rude. I never know what to do with that.
I feel like no matter what, how much i try to grow, prove myself, try to not care if someone doesnt see my potential. Someone talks down to me, treats me like a joke, doesn't want to take me seriously, treats me like i'm dumb, underestimates me.
Why cant people be more open minded and know by now just because you aren't as articulate and has a different way of approaching things than everyone else you arent worthy of respect?
What is it with that? Is it some kind of ego thing that you have to look down on people? I believe that people who are happy with who themselves don't try to make others feel below or stupid. No matter how "successful" or "professional" you are.
Especially when you're getting into something you are new at. I think people should have more grace. I hate condescending, patronizing people, i think it's a very ugly trait to have but it is so so common and people like that are everywhere. It feels so rare to find people who arent.
I miss eating at night, it helped me go to sleep and i miss snacking between meals and i miss drinking my lattes early in the morning. Anyone else deal with this? It's been a month into IF 16:8 and i still crave these things but i resisted. I still want to though. Will it go away? Do you cheat, can you cheat on IF?
Also i always ate when i was hungry. I eat my very first meal around 11-12 noon and then my second meal around 5-6 but i never really am that hungry by then. But i gotta eat within that time frame. I have hypoglycemia and i dont want to risk skipping a meal and getting a low later on but also trying to keep up with IF.
What are your fasting glucose levels, your glucose levels an hour after eating and your glucose levels in between meals?
I am 26F. I was too scared of living and i still am. Never took risks. Lived pretty safe and boring. I dont know what to tell people when they ask about my teen years and what i did instead of going to school. (I dropped out) i was too busy living in my own world inside of my head. Maladaptive daydreaming. I dropped out because i genuinely had zero interest in school and thought i'd do art in some sort. I love all arts. Music, fashion, etc. also seems like smoking and drinking are social stables too and i never did any of that. My body cant tolerate alcohol and my mental health is too messed up to start smoking weed, dont want to fuck it up more and give myself more anxiety than i already have. And smoking in general. The older i get the more scared i become and want to take even more less risks. Because i now know some things arent worth it but im afraid i will regret later on in life.
Did you ever struggle with your identity after leaving Christianity? How did you find yourself? Did your personal beliefs change? Do you feel empty sometimes? Do you have doubts?
Posted this on truechristian subreddit and it proved my point about church christians. They were exactly who i was talking about.
My post:
Here are my church pet peeves/Things my church did that look like religious pride to me but they see nothing wrong with it:
\-Put members up on pedestals and praising them for being "holy"
\-Members calling themselves salt and light
\-The breathy holy voice act they put on only during times of worship and when they talk about God. Theyre real voice is nothing like that.
\-Being obligated to kindness instead of from their true self and heart.
\-Acting like being a decent human is holy
\-Dictator like leaders who control everything and they own the place
\- defending leaders no matter what as if its a cult. Not a church
\-Christians who care about being relevant and cool
Whats christ like about trying to fit in?
\- the mindset of the more knowledge you have on the bible, the more holier you are. Also the more holier you act and breathier the voice, the more holy you are.
What are yours?