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I’m looking for recommendations for good Halal buffets in Sri Lanka, preferably places with a decent variety of food and good quality meat.
I’m mainly interested in places that are properly Halal, not just restaurants that have a few Halal options.

Any recommendations? I’m open to anywhere in Sri Lanka.
Would also appreciate it if you could mention the price per person and what you liked about the place.

Thanks :)

I'm a guy from a middle class family, and I've always wanted to become rich and move into the upper class. Not because I want a luxurious or materialistic life, but because I want a certain level of dignity and security for my family. I don't care about myself I'm even ready to live homeless.

I've seen things that really affected me. There are many incidents for example, my mom being scolded by a nurse at a government hospital in front of everyone, having to depend on crowded buses for everyday travel, I have seen women being harassed while travelling.

Now I don't want my future wife or kids to face this kind of situation. These experiences made me think that when I eventually get married, I want my wife and kids to have a better and more comfortable life. Because of that, I've always told myself that I should only get married once I'm financially stable. The problem is that I'm getting older, and I still haven't achieved a stable income. My family and people around me are starting to worry about my marriage.

Recently, one of my friends suggested something that never popped into my mind, marrying a financially well off woman. Basically, finding someone who is wealthy enough to live a respectful and comfortable life, they don't have to give me a comfortable life, hope you understand.

But honestly, something in me feels like that wouldn't work. So I'm curious about people who have actually experienced this. Have any of you married someone who was significantly wealthier than you? How did it work out? Did the difference in wealth create problems in the relationship or with the families?

And realistically, would a wealthy woman and her family even consider marrying a middle-class man?

I'm not asking because I expect someone to solve my financial problems through marriage. I'm genuinely trying to understand whether this is something worth considering or whether I should just focus on building my own financial stability first.

Salaam,

I’m a Muslim girl, and my family situation is a little complicated. My dad is from a different religion, while my mum is Muslim. He converted when they got married, but he doesn’t practise. I also have half-siblings who follow a different religion.

I’ve been brought up as a Muslim from a young age and have always practised my faith. I went to a Muslim girls’ school until a certain age, so I have a pretty strong foundation in Islam. I pray five times a day, fast during Ramadan, and genuinely try my best to live by my faith.

I’ve been dating a Muslim guy (please don’t judge), and we’ve genuinely been trying to get married. However, his family absolutely does not want him to marry me because of my family background.

Both of our families are well-to-do, and we’re both financially stable ourselves. 

I’m honestly just confused. I understand that my family situation is complicated, but shouldn’t there at least be some room for conversation, understanding, and consideration before jumping straight to judgment? Why can the Muslim community be so judgmental?

I’m not blaming anyone. I’m just genuinely confused and hurt. Is this how a lot of Muslim families are? Or any advice on how to approach this situation? 

PS: Please don’t come at my parents or judge them. None of us know the full circumstances of someone else’s life, and ultimately, only Allah can judge. I’m not blaming the guy’s family either, just trying to understand the situation and looking for some genuine advice. 

Assalamu alaikum guys!

Me and mum often have a lot of arguments and I lash out as well but I eventually end up feeling so guilty. But she’s so unreasonable… I do not like wearing a shawl while eating she always forces me to or argues that I’m disrespectful to her and the food and that I should wear it while I eat or get away from her sight, this almost everytime ruins my mood when I eat. Coz I get angry as this is just a cultural thing and Allah hasn’t commanded us to do so. Everytime I tell her this isn’t Islam we have a heated argument and she’ll shame me for not knowing anything about the Quran ( I most of the time do research when in doubt) even tho she hasn’t personally studied the Quran. She also insist I wear shawl at home because now brother is a “big boy” and I should cover myself. Now this was my last straw coz what the heck?! I can’t be myself in my own house?? It’s crazy and it pisses me off so much. I try to not have arguments but I always take the bait and she’s not emotionally mature enough to understand my point. She’s always picking and choosing Islam. Like fr example.. she’d watch teledramas on fb at night or anytime she prefers but when we play music or anything she’d start blaming how it’s the Shaytan playing at home and that we never listen to her etc… it’s been so unfair for me and I’m so done.. this has been going on for years. Even when it came to ghusl.. I learnt the actual way to perform it last year ( somewhat) and when I explained to her it’s done this way she started arguing that I’m wrong and the only thing we have to do after a shower is do wudu…. She hasn’t caught me taking wudu without shawl or the way I shower yet, if not it’ll be like a bomb blast at home. But I feel so exhausted and when I go against it she’ll cry saying I’m ungrateful and I’m like my father ( they have a shitty relationship) and that I disrespect her so n so.. I hate all these rules so much.

I’m aware I need to respect and love my parents! I love my mum so much I’ve been through a lot with her but I get so irritated and overwhelmed when I speak to her, and then I keep feeling guilty for treating her like this. I don’t know what to do.. I don’t want Allahs anger on me. I love my mother but I’m sooo emotionally distant from my parents due to everything I had to endure since I was a kid.

Reposting coz previous one got removed coz I used the word shyttttt

First of all, I'm truly sorry for bringing out a sensitive topic (for ones easily offended) and if it doesnt match this subreddit, please let me know and i will take it down. if youre younger than 16 and also that youre 10 years old (and perhaps any child/Gen Alpha on reddit), This post is not for you, so kindly leave!

Back to the topic. I may have lived in a soceity that knows about intimacy and romance as usual and been in schools where boys have playfully imitate intercourse in a joyful manner, therefore i have an insight about sex and romance and im okay with it (meaning that i know how to perform intimacy). however i dont know it in cultural perspective (especially sri lankan muslim/moor culture/lifestyle/soceity). So i want to know do we have a wedding night culture or not? if so how is it? is it for virginity testing or something desired like those indians who are too excited? what are the customs and etiquettes of wedding night? Do we have consummation in the culture? i dont have any "big brothers" since i'm one of the eldest in my family and all my female cousin sisters were distancing with male relatives and they are also grumpy (not the fun type). Also what are some wedding nights tips and whatever related that’s within our community?

Also what is sex like among Sri Lankan Muslims? How is the sex life among married couples? Is sex only done for procreation (giving birth/ “family planning”) or done for pleasure and satisfaction as well? Is sex a discreet topic among a limited circle or open topic (like among youths). Is it considered disgraceful or highly accepted? Also how often do married couples perform intimacy (sex or “making out” (non penetration)) (like on a monthly basis, weekly basis or daily basis)? Do y’all have sex as a routine (like Americans every day or every weekend) or depends on mood? Are there couples who avoid sex due to fear and impression of Islam and religiousness (like ones who thinks sex is haram because it’s very “western” and “vague” and people are naked and stuff 🙃). Is sex just basic or do yall spice things up (like making things romantic and women wearing lingerie and playing music in the background and rose petals on the bed and using whip cream and all the stuff etc…)? Is it only missionary or multiple positions? Do people do roleplay and hardcore or only the boring/classic sex? How about sex based on different locations (on hotels, tents, kitchen, sofa, car, outdoor and mile high club) (I know this sounds like a troll but it’s not)? How about fetishism like BDSM, foot fetish, torture/leather, ANR? Also how about sex games related pleasures? I assume that there is no threesome, swinging/partner sharing and voyeurism. And how about aftercare? Do married couples discuss their sex life with other married couples (like as in a tea talk or while hanging out)?

Also for those of y’all who are living with your family (parents/ parents in laws, siblings), how do you manage intimacy (especially when they are at home or when there’s visitors and function (including afternoon) ) ? Do yall feel the pressure or stress during the situation or is it like when both of yall are alone at home peacefully without worries? Also how do yall clean up (with the excretions and mess)? Also what happens when the clothes yall wear are dirty (especially during crowded situation)? How about such when doing family planning (conceiving a child)? And for ones with kids, how do yall manage your pleasure when your kids are at home (like on a weekend/holidays or after school)? Do yall compromise during funerals and cultural/religious activities (and what happens when yall get caught; what would yall do)? Do yall use condom or any alternatives (like pull out method)?

I’m truly for asking all these questions, I know it sounds ridiculous but this is not a ragebait or trolling/spam by any means. Thank you so much for your patience and acceptance. Please don’t judge me ✌🏻

Do you know of someone who spent millions or took loans and had an extremely grand wedding and got divorced or is separated or unhappy with their spouse? Do they regret about spending so much ?

Now, people are coming up to me and saying that I was supposed to win that award. They’re saying it wasn't a fair game. They’re saying he stole my award. And when I think about it, I can clearly see I did a very good job and put all my effort into this. Yet, at the last moment, another person’s name was announced, even though my name was on the nominated list. Someone else stepped onto the stage where I wanted to be. This award meant so much to me. I dreamed of this award for 2 years, so that I could make my parents proud on another level, especially after the sacrifices they made for me. I didn’t sleep for several days and sacrificed so much to put my absolute best work into this. In the end, they just thought someone other than me deserved that stage more. Am I sad? Yes I’m. Do I think I deserve it more? Yes I do. Maybe I don’t. Maybe my stubborn self confidence makes me think I deserved that award more than he did. And maybe I don’t have the capabilities to deserve this. Will I get a chance for this again? Never. But. But. But I will use all the billions of cells in my entire body and make damn sure I don’t ever fookin regret this for the rest of my life. Good luck to the final winner. The wound is fresh. I’m writing all this while the last night’s sleep is forcing my eyes to shut, yet I’m fully awake in my brain. I will start all this, once again, all over again, from today. Yes, I’m yapping about all this here. I don’t care even if people here don’t like it. After all, what’s the point of this sub if I can’t get what’s inside my chest out to my fellow people? Sorry for yapping here. Thanks for reading about this time of my life. May Allah replace what I lost with something far greater. Ameen.

Hi,

A person who i know was getting married. Apparently, he hadn’t paid his monthly mosque dues (the amount collected using the yellow/blue card) for around 9–10 months. His family is poor, and I don’t think they even realized the payments were overdue.

When they went to his mosque to get the required documents/approval for the nikah, the person responsible refused to give it because of the unpaid dues.

I understand that mosques may have rules about outstanding payments, and apparently this happens in many places. That itself isn’t really my main issue.

My issue is how it was handled. The person responsible didn’t properly explain the situation or advise the family on what they needed to do to resolve it. He could have simply spoken to them respectfully, explained what was outstanding, and told them how to sort it out as quickly as possible.

Instead, the mosque management kept sending them from one person to another — “go to this person,” then “go to that person” — wasting their time while they were already dealing with wedding arrangements.

How are people supposed to deal with mosque management that operates like this? l

My GOAT is Mohammed Ali, aka The Muslim Lantern on YT. I also like Towards Eternity. And, of course, whatever Dr. Omar Suleiman owns.

There are others but these are my top 3 I'd say.

Also, previously, I was into Ali Dawah, Hijab etc set. But I don’t watch em anymore for some reason.

Muslim girls/women who have learned to ride a motorbike through a driving school, I genuinely need some advice.

I’m on only my second day of bike lessons and I have no previous experience riding. On the first day, an older instructor taught me by holding/supporting the bike from the side and guiding me around.

Today, I had a different instructor. He asked if it was okay for him to sit behind me on the bike while I practised. I hesitated because I felt a little uncomfortable, but since I’ve never learned before, I honestly didn’t know if this was a normal part of motorcycle training or if I had another option, so I agreed.

Nothing obviously inappropriate happened, but because he was sitting behind me, there was naturally some physical contact while teaching and balancing, and I did feel uncomfortable with it.

My question is: Is it normal practice in Sri Lankan driving schools for a male instructor to sit behind a female student on the bike while teaching? Or can I ask them to teach me another way, such as holding the bike from the side, following me on another bike, or giving instructions from the ground?

Please don’t judge me for not knowing what to do in the moment. I genuinely didn’t know whether this was standard practice, and I’m trying to understand what is normal so I can set my boundaries properly going forward.

I’d especially appreciate hearing from Muslim women who have taken bike lessons in Sri Lanka. 🤍

Assalamu alaikum .my sister is expecting a baby boy Alhamdulillah and we are looking for name suggestions.We like simple names especially names starting with the letter 'A' but other letters are welcome too.If you have a boy’s name in your family or a name you personally love please feel free to suggest it as well.

Would love to hear your suggestions ((:

Hi everyone,

I'm Sinhalese, and I'd like to learn about Islam with an open mind. I'm interested in understanding its beliefs, concepts, and teachings, similar to how we study Buddhism.

Can anyone recommend some good beginner friendly books or resources? I don't mind if they're in English or Sinhala. I don't know much about Islam, so I'm looking for something that's easy to understand.

Thank you!

Assalamu alaikum everyone,
I’ve been reading about Ijarah and Murabaha and I understand the theory, but I’d really like to hear from people who have actually gone through it. If you’ve financed a vehicle through an Islamic facility here, could you share:

1. Which provider did you go with? (Amãna Bank, PLC Al-Safa, LB Finance Ijarah, LOLC Al-Falaah, HNB Al Najah, etc.)

2. How much did you finance, and over how many years?

3. What was your monthly rental, and what was the total amount you ended up paying back?

4. Was the profit rate competitive compared to conventional leasing quotes you got?

5. Any hidden costs — documentation fees, Takaful/insurance, valuation, early settlement charges?

6. How was the process? Fast approval? Much paperwork? Did they need a guarantor?

Even rough numbers help. Happy to take DMs if you’d rather not post figures publicly.
Jazakallah khair