r/SriLankanMuslim

Assalamu Alaikum

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Why isn't it allowed for Muslim women to visit grave yards here. I know some places they do, like kuppiyawatta and thihariya but in colombo why do these men gatekeep our fundamental rights?

My mother is buried at dehiwala mosque graveyard and I want to go pay my respects to her, give me salaams and just be there. And these thabilq uncles won't let us go. Sorry if this sounds harsh but I absolutely loathe these men who make halal, haraam and gatekeep even what Allah himself has allowed.

I am not going to wail and make a ruckus. Just want to bee around my mother. The last place on this earth.

Please those of you brothers who know the religion, do something. Don't let these thabliq men take over and ruin this religion.

If these comes off as harsh or rude, I apologise but I am just mad and frustrated that I am not even allowed to do something which is islamically allowed.

Also this is only in sl. Have friends from other countries who go visit their loved ones.

Edit to add - if someone of you who knows anyone from the dehiwala mosque, can you ask or check why they gatekeeping something which is allowed.

I am a 21 years old female. Most of the time, when someone approaches me with marriage proposals and when I'm conversing with them, like when getting to know them, I feel suffocated.

All the brothers have their lives together, things that make them happy. They are practicing and well educated too. Though they say, "I will help my wife with her interests, this and that," they don't really behave like that. I feel like I have little room to grow as an individual. I don't really know how to put my feelings into words. I have no issue with my future partner leading the family. In fact, I do want someone to lead. I am tired of being hyper independent, but I never asked to be chained.

Often I feel like all the things that make me happy don't actually matter. I don't want my identity to be only someone else's wife, as I have as much soul as them, nor do I want to be treated as mere property when I am a human just like them. I have a broad mind. I am the kind of person who isn't scared to speak up when necessary, who will go out of my way to defend someone. I always run into problems because of that, and I have opinions of my own. I always imagined that my future partner will look at me as a person, not as a rebellious lady who is not easy to control. That we will help each other to grow and respect each other's perspectives. But unfortunately, I don't find the reality the same way.

I am a practicing Muslimah, and I know the rights of a husband. I have no issue with that. But Prophet Muhammad SAW never really asked his wives to shrink. All the women had their opinions. They questioned and defended when necessary. And somehow they make me feel like I am sinful for that or crazy to ask for it.

Our community is so heavily culturally influenced. I am already getting a lot of hate for not being the same. I don't want to fight for my rights and voice even after marriage, God forbid, nor do I want to raise my future children in such environments. I would rather not get married.

Hi, I came across these conversations on a platform called Elakiri after searching for "Muslim." Around 9.9 out of 10 things they say about Islam seem to be based on assumptions or made-up claims rather than accurate information. Nothern Indians saars and some sinhalese doesns't use their "Prefrontal cortex" of brain. These people are easier to controll ( obviously, not a surprise ).

Also, i saw one of the post that actually made me sad about muslim youngsters is attached last ( check the last image ) and thats true, i have seen this being common among the muslim youngsters . They just mean these current muslim younger genrations are not a worthy people as they are just "drug addict" and no longer care about "islam"

and, i don't care about these sinhalese thought on islam at all but the only reason for posting this is the last one.

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Guys, since my schedule just opened up, In Sha Allah I can dedicate 4 hours a week to learning Arabic (not all at once).

So, please drop the options that worked for yall.

Before, I tried the Arabic module lecture series in Zad Academy, but it was in full Arabic mode. Its not suitable for me.

Also, for those who are wondering why I'm learning Arabic, lets say the average human lifespan is 70 years. If you're in your 20s or 30s and spend, lets say, 1 year learning Arabic, In Sha Allah, for the remaining 40 to 50 years you're gonna understand the Quran verses the Imam recites when praying. Imagine how wonderful that benefit alone is going to be In Sha Allah! And of course, there are many other benefits.

Assalamu alaikum w w my dear brothers and sisters.

I’m writing this today with a very heavy heart after so much suffering under my father. My father is almost nearing the age of 60 and he hasn’t changed even a single bit. He’s a narc and an angry man and tortured my mum mentally/ emotionally since they got married. He promised to return from abroad 2 years after marriage but he didn’t keep his word now it’s been more than 30 years. He’s tortured us so badly mentally and financially since he holds power, my mum actually got depressed after having me and went into psychosis several times due to not having proper support during postpartum and so on.. My father is neglecting us and isn’t in the path of Islam either.. he really doesn’t care about us, I’m almost nearing 24 and yet he hasn’t brought up anything regarding my future whether it’s marriage or not.. he funded my alevels and because I messed up he completely let go of me and I had to work hard and resit and now I’m continuing my education by working as a teacher even though I’m severely underpaid. He thinks that providing us food and basic necessities is enough, and makes it look like he’s doing everything for us to the society but deprives us of so many things. For society he’s a good man but only we know what kind of a person he is. My parents haven’t spoken since 2024 and as the eldest I’ve always been the middle person as held up everything together… now I’m interested in someone and him and his family are willing to try to get to know me and my family after a big fight.. ( he had to convince them) and I haven’t told my parents yet because I’m afraid of their reaction. Since I won’t be able to explain to my father this through the phone I wanted him to be present here to break this matter but it seems like he won’t visit SL anytime soon. It’s been 3 years since he visited us and his excuse is that hes “broke” 30 years and no savings no properties or back up future plans… or atleast he could think of what he will do when he can no longer stay there coz they will send him home once he retires (60)….he sold our property and even my mums gold and never bought it back for her… and now he says he has no money and isn’t even willing to think about my marriage or future or even saving up for it, I feel so tensed because I don’t want anyone to look down on me because of my father and I don’t want to be under him and go through this abuse like my mum did. She’s so hopeless and always worried about my future. My father doesn’t want to support my siblings either , always discouraging us regardless of us being high achievers at school and etc… he wants good outcomes yet doesn’t pave us the way for it.

And because I’ve witnessed all of this I have childhood trauma and still feel the effects of it even in my adult hood. I just feel so hopeless because all I’ve known in my life is pain and suffering.. I just wanted a loving father, is that too much to ask for?

No DMs please! Any advice will be appreciated 🩷

In Kalmunai there is a vendor who kicked a dog that was going along with Hindu pilgrims heading to Kathirkamam. In a video he is saying he didn’t know the dog was considered important or “worshipped” by Hindu people.

I do know it is wrong to kick animals and abuse them, but after the incident a lot of people on social media turned it into a racial/religious issue because he is Muslim. I think that part isn’t really relevant. He is 21 and just trying to earn some money selling things on the pavement. When the dog came near his stall he kicked it away. It was aggressive, but I don’t think he did it because of any religious reason.

There is also a lady in another video saying she wants to “off him with a coconut knife”. She is an animal lover and even runs a dog shelter, but I feel like her humanity just switched off in that moment. I don’t understand how people justify that kind of reaction.

Assalamu Alaikum guys,

Any suggestions and guidance on any halal investments I can do with my little savings? I have never done any investments so completely unknown territory for me.. would appreciate any guidance on how to go about it as I don't have family to help me via the halal route.

Jazakallah Khayr

Hi everyone,

( Alt account for obvious reasons )

I'm a queer Muslims and I wanna know how you all manage religion with your sexuality and the social issues that come with it, how do I manage the religious aspects and the constant judging and not being forced into things I don't want at the same time being while keeping my faith

Anyone who had gone thought this experience please help