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Research project
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Research project

Hi all :) I'm Sam, almost 33 years old and am studying my MSc in Human Resource Management at the Open University in the UK. I am currently writing my dissertation, which I am writing on the effect of the 2025 UK Supreme Court ruling on biological sex in the Equality Act 2010 on the perception of safety and inclusion of transgender people in the workplace. For this, I am collecting data from the transgender community, as these voices are underrepresented in this discourse.

I am ftm myself, so this is very close to my heart, and the goal of this study is to give visibility to the experiences and concerns of trans people due to this ruling and to provide recommendations to companies on how they can support trans people in the workplace.

I invite you to participate in my study if you are trans, live in the UK, are over 18 and are either currently working or looking for work. The survey is completely anonymous; however, if you wish to receive a copy of the final paper, you can provide your email address. This is strictly voluntary, though. Please follow the link to the Google Form for the survey. If you do not qualify for participation, you are more than welcome to share the study, as the more participants it receives, the more representative it will be. 

Thank you in advance for your contribution :) You can always message me here or on the contact email provided in the survey if you have any questions.

Thank you to the mods for approving this!

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u/TheMonkophile — 6 hours ago
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My Egg had hatched at 30

Hello,

As the title says I feel like I am late but a lot of it was just living in NE Alabama and being surrounded by religious people.

I have three daughters, I am veteran and tried to be CIS for most my adult life but I always struggled with feeling ashamed of myself for not being brave enough but I am finally making the transition.

I had to block my religious parents because as you can assume they took it very bad. If I could go back and tell my youngerself to ditch the service, stop chasing the goals others expect from me and be myself I would l, but to say I am not nervous now would be a lie. I came out two weeks ago to everyone publicly and the hate people show is so ugly.

Regardless I start HRT on the 8th and I am hoping I can get some minor surgeries and one day bottom surgery. I would love some advice from you babes to steer my transition in the right way. I posted some pictures of myself below. I am 5'11" and I feel tall, and my nose is more masculine and I hate it. I also have the Tria 4x Diode laser and I am hoping to get rid of my beard.

Any advice on how my normal current structure is I.E. what is more masculine or feminine presenting. What I can do I just bought a ton of makeup just got to practice. I shouldn't have cut my hair but I needed to start fresh because I was depressed that day. Also what changes should I suspect on HRT.

I am going to Therapy every other week but I feel really alone now that I have came out but not in a bad way entirely because those who left wasn't worth keeping. Anyways love you all and thank you for being my motivation.

Long hair was cut a month ago. Right before I decided to stop hiding and be myself. I will grow it back out.

u/Verity__Farseer — 18 hours ago
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Flatter chest?

I’ve been trying to use tape because binders are starting to hurt. I’ve tried so many things to get a flatter chest with tape, but it always just ends up looking like a smaller woman’s chest instead of a flat, man’s chest. Any tips?

u/Wild_Ad9280 — 17 hours ago
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How do I deal with pretty severe bottom dysphoria?

I already posted this in another subreddit, but unfortunately, I didn’t get much of a response there, so I’m hoping it’ll go over better here. I hope that I’m allowed to post this struggle here. I’m a trans woman (23) and haven’t had bottom surgery yet, but I definitely want to. I experience a lot of dysphoria regarding my genitals. But I’m trying to find a way to cope with it as long as I still have them… I’m constantly aware of my genitals. I put off going to the bathroom and drinking, because otherwise I’d have to go more often.
If I have to shower, I skip parts of the shower to avoid touching my genitals. If I do touch them, I wash my hands so much afterward because it feels gross in my head. Because of that, my hands are often raw and have cuts and scrapes. I've always disliked and felt gross about them. But it's been about six years now of constantly washing my hands and all that, and it's incredibly exhausting and holds me back so much….. Does anyone else have this too? It feels like I’m the only one who has so much bottom dysphoria. Even if I talk about it to my friends who are trans aswell. What’s the best way to deal with it until I eventually have bottom surgery?
Thanks in advance 🙏

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u/Choice-Vacation8532 — 1 day ago
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Needing help in the Denver area

So as the title suggests I live around the Denver, CO area. I lost my job due to discrimination both due to being MtF and for being AuDHD. I’m also in the process of being evicted from my apartment. I have Medicaid and started the SSI process, but all attempts to find a physician that takes medicaid so I can keep taking my E has failed so far. All the shelters I’ve looked into are full or shutdown and I’m honestly not sure what to do at this point. I hate having to ask for help, I am the type that feels like a burden if I have to ask. But I know that I need to just take the help if I can find it. So this is perhaps a little long winded, but I just need whatever help you all can provide. Resources, recommendations, info, etc. Please and thank you for your time and assistance.

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u/Lufia_WhiteWolf — 3 days ago
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Tell me why I still look so fem

I’m a pre t 17 yr old who plans to go on t when I’m 19 but in the meantime, I’ve been feeling insanely insecure and dysphoric. I hate wearing makeup so I don’t use anything to make my face look more masculine and I want to naturally be able to pass but idk how, I’ve tried my best but it feels like I’m just overall terrible at passing, plus I still have a baby face which I can’t get rid of, even with makeup bc I suck at contour and it makes me feel dysphoric. does anyone have tips on how I can just pass better while I’m pre t?

u/haruharutarutaru — 3 days ago
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Not gonna lie, I feel almost completly hopeless

After 1 yeat of hrt I feel enby at best on a good day, I've tried to voice train but that got me nowhere, I've tried make up but could only go so far, I've never been called ma'am even when I tried to appeal fem and dress fem, I don't know why I tried transitioning with a height of 191cm and honestly I feel liek a fucking idiot for trying to do it, all of my clothing just baggy shit that would probably make a gal look enby asf, at thsi point I'm open to any suggestions in terms of clothing and makeup, I honestly just feel like giving up on it all instead of making other transwomen look like shit with my existence

u/r_cursed_oof — 6 days ago
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I need help finding swim wear

(pic unrelated, just felt pretty)
As the title says, I need help looking for a swimsuit that fits my body type. I’m a trans girl who hasn’t started my medical transition yet, and I can’t tuck because of a surgery I had. I don’t want my bulge to be so visible. I’m going camping with my partner soon and we’re planning to go swimming in the lake. I like 2-piece swimsuits, and I’ve seen some with skirts that I thought were cool, but I’m really open to anything. I’ll take any help I can get!

u/EasyLiving24 — 5 days ago
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Really wanna start hrt but present masculine do you think this is possible my work industry pays really well but full of men [welder] I can’t take it anymore tho I don’t mind being male but I know I’m really a woman at heart can low does help with that ?! Need help please lmk what y’all think

Hi

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u/FreedomDesperate5278 — 7 days ago
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How can I style my hair?

I've been growing out my hair and it's still not the length I want, but what can I do with it at its current length? I don't like to use a ton of product, but I've thought about straightening it or something like that.

Or what can I tell the hair stylist to maybe make it look more feminine?

Inb4: I know a lot of people are gonna say bangs, and that's great, but I'm looking for more of an overall style, not just the front.

First two pictures are me, the rest are some styles I'm thinking I might like to try.

u/kingspooky93 — 7 days ago
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Been leaning more fem then non-binary lately maybe it’s time to try a different name

The pics an old one, but I’ve been wearing my crop tops a lot more lately and have really been feeling the “fem energy” I even went outside a few times in a crop top. I’m not sure why, but I’ve been feeling so much more accepting it myself. Anyone feel something similar before coming out?
Not “coming out” by the way….
Maybe just a little I do really like the name Emily

u/Abyss_s78 — 7 days ago
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AITA here?

My cis-ally friend made a comment that didn’t sit right with me so I took the opportunity to educate her on transmisogyny but she took it the wrong way. Am I in the wrong here?

u/ShadowKyll — 7 days ago
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Can someone help/give advice on half support

Heyo, Im a ftm in desperate need of any advice, in short, I came out at 13 (am now 22), my mother said she supports me, but at the same time never respected my pronouns and keeps dead naming till today, I told her multiple times im not okay with it and it hurts yet nothing really changes, recently she has been calling me her "Manly daughter", like shes trying to give me a chill pill? On the other hand she bought me a binder when I said my old one is just not doing its job anymore, she didnt tell me or anything she just bought it. When I sat her down to talk about the legal stuff like name change, she kinda blew up and told me I will not be changing my name because my dead name that she picked is too pretty for it. I tried to tell her its just not a name for me and if she wanted she could pick out a new name for me (even tho I already have a preferd name) so she will calm down and accept me for who I am, that was 4 months ago and she never spoke about it again, just keeps saying "thats my manly daughter". I am confused whether this is support from her side or I dont know, just trying to somehow get me "back to how I was before".

For other context, I havent found a therapist yet that will take me on in this matter

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u/random_confused1 — 8 days ago