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Do not mistake my peace for weakness.

Do not mistake my patience for blindness.

Do not mistake my silence for not knowing how to respond.

I have worked too hard to become someone better than who survival once forced me to be. I do not want to go backward. I do not want to become cold. I do not want to move like every lesson I learned had to come back out of me at once.

But do not make me play a game I already know how to win.

I warned you once.

There is a version of me I do not reach for anymore because I outgrew him. I disciplined him. I buried the parts of me that knew how to detach, calculate, and move without emotion.

But once that switch flips, it does not ask for permission.

It does not negotiate.

It does not explain twice.

So do not push me into proving I can still be everything I have chosen not to be.

Respect the boundary while I am still offering peace.

Because once I am done, I am not angry.

I am absent.

And I do not come back from that.

So here I am, again. Single.

Maybe I pick incorrectly, maybe I'm too much, maybe I'm not enough, maybe it's all that.

I'm done. I've so much love to give, so many adventures I want to go on, quiet, intimate and tender moments I want - but alas, I'm depleted now.

Love has evaded me my whole life - it's all just a mess.

Maybe I'm meant to be alone, maybe I'm to just meant to make people laugh and brighten their day.

I just miss having a huge cuddle and someone to tell me they've got me. I'm tired of always being alone.

Its nice to be friends with my exes though, but maybe no one needs me anyway...

Those people do not matter.

Neither does what they say about you.

I do not care what your exes, their friends, their family, their neighbors, or anyone attached to your past has to say about me. I do not care what they say about us.

They can speak.

It will not disrupt my peace.

It will not make me see you through anyone else’s mouth when your actions and interactions with me have already shown me who you are.

They can have opinions.

They just will not have access.

They can say what they want from a distance, but they will not say it to me. They know better than to disturb what I have already made sacred. They know boundaries exist here, and they know what happens when those boundaries are crossed.

I do not listen to gossip.

I do not let strangers narrate my life.

I do not let people who never stood in the fire tell me what the flames meant.

They can talk loud when I am not around, but watch how fast that volume changes when I enter the room. Watch how those words they were so quick to throw become silence sitting heavy in their throat.

None of the people before me matter.

We all have a past.

Mine is a field of mines, so I am not here pretending I came untouched, clean, or easy to understand. I cannot change what happened before me for you, and I cannot change what happened before you for me.

I did not know the versions of you that existed then.

You did not know the version of me that survived before now.

But what you know, and what they know too, is that I move to the beat of my own drum. I do not need permission. I do not need validation. I do not need approval from people who only know how to speak on what they were never strong enough to understand.

They can think what they want.

They can whisper what they want.

But when it comes to me, my peace, my life, and the person I choose, gossip stops being entertainment the moment it crosses into my space.

Their words do not control us.

Their opinions do not define us.

Their past access does not outrank my present reality.

And once I am in the room, disrespect no longer feels brave.

It becomes exactly what it always was.

Noise with no spine.

Like I told you, it doesn’t matter if it makes sense to anyone else. If it makes you happy, then that is the only truth that really matters.

We won’t take anything with us when we leave this world. In the end, we all return to silence, with either our regrets or our courage. So do what you believe you must do. Live as if your heart already knows the way.

What I want now is to be the one who changes the way you see the world. The one who helps you find beauty where you once saw only emptiness. The one who loves every part of you: your light, your flaws, your silences, and even the pieces you keep hidden, as if they were too dark to ever be desired.

I want to be the one who stays. The one who chooses you, again and again. The one who would sacrifice everything for you, not out of weakness, but because some souls give meaning to everything else.

Hey you,

You called us a mistake in your last message...

I have turned that word over so many times that it has lost its meaning. A mistake is something wrong. A line said too sharply. A small ruin that can be repaired with sleep and apology.

What we were did not feel small and maybe that's what it isn't reversible. It felt like something buried years ago had forced its way through time and odds.

Maybe it should not have happened. Maybe that is what you meant. Maybe you meant the timing was wrong. The price we ended up paying for it was too much. But wrong circumstances do not make the feelings false. They only make true feelings more vocal.

I cannot call your hands a mistake. I cannot call the way I felt seen either. I cannot call those quiet moments a mistake, when m neither of us had to operate under guise.

That too when we carried history. Fear. Limits. Other lives. Old damage. We carried things love alone could not lift.

But still. Something real happened. And almost survived.

That is the part I keep defending, even now because some memories deserve better than being thrown into one dark bucket with the benefit of hindsight.

Call it human. Call it a fire built too close to a house. But do not call it nothing. We don't grieve for something that was dead on arrival....

I can accept that you left. I can accept that you chose distance. I can even accept that you needed to name it something else to survive it.

But even with that outcome, it was never a mistake. It was love with nowhere safe left to go...

You have my undivided attention.

I removed the distractions. I eliminated anything that could make you question my intentions. Not because I owe that to you. Not because I have to prove myself. Because I have seen where this road goes when the wrong people are allowed too close to what matters.

I will not let outside influence make it look like I am seeking attention from anyone else. I will not let confusion be created where I have already moved with clarity.

I know how this pattern works.

The thoughts start small.
Then they turn into stories.
The stories turn into delusions.
The delusions create distance.
Then the conversation never happens because overthinking takes the place of honesty.

I do not want someone who does not matter filling space they never earned.

I do not want someone meaningless making someone meaningful question where they stand.

So I removed the noise.

Not to perform loyalty.

To protect peace.

To make sure the person who matters never has to wonder if they are being grouped with people who were never even in the room.

She came to me like lightning in a bottle,
A spark I could cradle, but never quite contain.
The split-tongue girl, speaking truths and daggers,
Each word a fire, each silence a strain.
I saw her as the storm worth chasing,
A sky alive with beauty and fear,
But storms don’t settle for steady ground,
And I was never fully here.
She fought for love like it was war,
Claws out, defending what she believed,
And somewhere in the chaos of her fury,
I became the wound she needed to leave.
The dogs, the night, the flashing lights,
A moment that shattered into blame,
I reached for reason, she reached for pain,
And somehow, I was the one she named.
Not for what I did, but what I couldn’t be,
Not for truth, but what she chose to see,
A mirror cracked by fear and doubt,
Reflecting a man she could live without.
And still… I see her in the twilight,
A silhouette I can’t erase,
A ghost that lingers in quiet moments,
A memory I still embrace.
But love, I’ve learned, is not just fire,
It’s not just passion dressed in pain,
It cannot live where trust is fractured,
Or grow where hearts don’t remain.
You cannot build a life on maybe,
Or plant your future in shifting sand,
No matter how tightly you try to hold it,
Some things were never meant to land.

And yet…

If she chose to stay through the wreckage,
Through the echoes, the doubt, the past,
If her hand still reached for mine in the silence,
And she chose me — fully, at last —
Then maybe the storm was never the ending,
But a fire we both survived,
A test of the fragile and fierce in us,
A proof that something real stayed alive.
Maybe the dream we spoke in whispers
Wasn’t just smoke in the air,
But something written beneath the chaos,
Waiting for two hearts aware.
Maybe we could still have the child we dreamed of,
A little light from both our lives,
But not the one that lived in the old soft promise,
That dream would need a different sky.
Not perfect, not painless, not easy to hold,
But honest in all that we’d been through,
A love not built on illusion or fear,
But on choosing each other… true.

And me,

I stand at my own crossroads again,
Not just between her and the past,
But between the man I’ve always been
And the one I need to become at last.
A father in fear, a lover in pieces,
A heart divided between duty and dream,
Trying to untangle what love really means,
And what it was versus what it seemed.
Because she was never just the answer,
And I was never just the cause,
We were two storms colliding in darkness,
Writing beauty… while breaking the laws.
So now I loosen my grip on the lightning,
Even as it burns to let it go,
Hoping maybe it finds its own sky,
Even if it chooses to stay below.
And if she was my lesson in fire,
Then let me be forged, not destroyed,
For I am more than the king of broken hearts,
I am a man learning how to rebuild what was void.

I feel horrible that I hurt you,im so sorry 
, I honestly believed I would never hear from you again. You had me blocked until recently, and during that time he encouraged me to cry to him (in  exchange for …) I was just so fucked up at that point. looking for somewhere to put the pain… And I know you know what this feels like

. I just had  you on such a pedestal and could never really split you black either . And I know that was part of the problem always that you were my FP and I wasn’t yours ever just like some online random that you dropped it on from time to time I get it. It’s awkward. That’s pretty much why I tried to stay away . 
I think even without this, though you were still going to go you always do .I don’t expect to ever talk to you again, but I do hope you can at least silently accept my apology
I really cared about you a lot and I’m sorry I fucked up here. I’m doing my best to try to take responsibility rather than lie or  run

Dear past lover,

I know I said goodbye forever. But if I’m being honest, I am not ready. So I will send out this last message. I will be completely honest. I will be completely stupid. I will be completely vulnerable. I trust that you won’t hurt me using this. one last time.

I am not asking for a second chance. I am not asking to rekindle our relationship. I will not intrude on your life beyond what we shared in the past.

I really loved you, and I don’t mean puppy love or high school relationship love. I really loved you. I am sorry that I hurt you and made you feel like you were second in the relationship. I was fucking stupid. I was stubborn. I let it ruin what we had.

I really cared and valued you. I respected you and I looked up to you for the countless amazing things you did for me and everyone else around you; your energy, your motivation, your determination. Even when you were weak, you were so strong. You were stronger than me. You held me up physically and mentally. I wouldn’t be where I am if I hadn’t met you my first year of college.

You were my person. My person for my everything, every need. My everything.

I often hid my feelings away from you. I rationalized back then and now that I was protecting you from hurting. I was wrong. I was so wrong. I was being a coward. I was only protecting myself. I destroyed what little trust you had in me. I destroyed a chance for reconciliation.

I was really sad when you told me not too long ago that you weren’t fully in love with me; that you knew you couldn’t love me with the hatred you had. I have been using our good times together to cope, to feel hopeful. And for a while after you said that, I spiraled hard. Everything I knew was fake, and even in moments where I thought we were strong, it was fake.

I don’t blame you. I understand that my actions caused you a lot of pain. I still wish that you had told me honestly, truthfully, how it lingered in your mind. I think back and thought maybe if you had told me, it would be different. But I doubt it. It took me losing you to understand the pain that you were feeling.

I wrote about you a lot these past few days. You will never be able to read them. I wrote about you, compared you to stars, to comets, to forever. I used metaphors to give life to our fallen relationship. I turned a depressing situation into one of hope and a monument to fleeting but powerful love. I cried alot editing those pages and words. 

My work has helped a lot of people through the situations, and I find solace in helping strangers and friends alike deal with these emotions through my own writing. I couldn't have reached these people it weren't for you

I am sorry that I hurt you in every way. I was coming from a place with little to no understanding about serious and real relationships. It doesn’t excuse what I did to you. It doesn’t change anything in the present.

You won’t forgive me, but I need to say that I am sorry. I apologized for making you feel insecure and thinking that you were the second choice. That wasn’t my intention, but I hurt you, so who gives a shit about intention? I am incredibly remorseful for it, not because I want the relationship back but because I understand what it feels like and what it means to be a second option.

I am sorry that I made you feel like you were used. One of our last convos, you talked about how you felt like you were used as an intimacy toy during our trip. I am sorry that I made you feel like that. I should have paid attention to your needs. Even if I was tired, that is not an excuse. I abandoned you.

I am sorry that I wasn’t receptive to your needs and wants in general. Had I been able to listen to the way you desired to be loved and comforted, we could have helped each other over the mountains.

You have moved forward in life, and I am so, so, so proud of you. You are being true to yourself and your needs. Welcome back.

For some time during the relationship, I held out hope that you would come back to me as your normal self, to save me from the things that were happening to me. But I am happy that you are here now protecting someone else’s heart.

I am happy that you found this guy. I hope he is the guy you needed me to be. I hope that he takes care of you when you need help, soothes you when you spiral, reassures you when you can’t yourself. I hope your family and friends welcome him in.

I am happy for him. And this is my genuine emotion. I am not jealous. I am genuinely happy for both you and him.

Time will eventually heal me. I will begin to move on eventually. Even if it’s hard and even if the weight of everything makes me paralyzed while the world leaves me behind. When I do, I will look back at our relationship fondly, as a tale as old as time.

As a reminder to take care of my partner’s heart and soul the way I do mine. As a reminder that our love, despite its challenges, was the best thing in my life.

When I do fall in love again, you and this relationship will not be replaced. I will love my partner with all my heart and soul. But falling in love again doesn’t mean I’m erasing our memories and my feelings.

I won’t be throwing it away like it wasn’t real. Because it is. And the way I know it is real is because it is consuming me right now.

I know what I felt for you was real because

It is hard to leave my bed.
It is hard to be in my room.
It is hard to hear IsoKnock.
It is hard to watch Spider-Man.
It is hard to eat baked sweet potato.
it is hard to taste sushi
It is hard to feel warm
It is hard to smell my car
It is hard to smell roses and cherry blossoms
It is hard to go to Target.
It is hard to drive to 626.
It is hard to make origami.
iIt is hard to feel, to see, to smell, to hear, to taste
It is hard to breathe.
it is hard to remember

It is hard. But it gets easier with time.

The love I have for you will persist. And after this email, it will change form. No longer is it something I can hold on to. It will become a tribute to you.

I have fallen hard, harder than the times I broke my foot. Everything is dark and lifeless right now.

But I’ll get up soon. I’ll pick up the pace. I’ll continue to love hard and intensely. I’ll continue to protect the people I love and the people that love me.

I will continue to be the person you have inspired me to be years ago.

I’ll make smart decisions. But for tonight, let me be stupid. Let me be blinded by love one last time.

And tomorrow, I promise I will keep fighting.

Cheers to you, my dear.

Waffle. Z. Zeze. My baby and my love. My soulmate.

I will be drinking my thoughts away tonight. I am legal now. I will drown in my sorrow just for one night.

Tomorrow, I will pick up my sword, my shield, my pen, to continue the fight you started for me.

Someone from your past

The world got quiet, and for a moment, my demons did not come.

I almost believed the silence meant I was free. I almost believed the absence of noise was peace. But I have lived too long in the kind of darkness that learns your name. I know silence does not always mean safety. Sometimes it just means the shadows are gathering themselves.

They always return.

Not always with violence. Not always with chaos. Sometimes they come back as a memory. Sometimes as a smell. Sometimes as a song I did not ask to hear. Sometimes as a face I buried before I knew how to grieve. Sometimes as a courtroom. A flashing light. A hospital bed. A jail cell without a court date. A funeral. A broken stove with a Pyrex. A hungry night with no food for thought. A door locking behind me, never to open again. A phone that never rings. A love that left without enough mercy to say goodbye.

Survival is not pretty, but it is beautiful.

It is not perfect, but perfection was never what I desired.

It is not the clean story people want to clap for after the worst parts are already edited out. Survival is an ugly process. It is shaking hands. Bad choices. Empty pockets. Dirty prayers. Drugs around you. Death beside you. Poverty under your feet. Courts over your head. People judging wounds they could not have lived through. People calling you hard because they never had to become stone just to make it through one more night.

I have walked through places where hope did not feel real. I have watched life take people who still had names in my mouth. I have seen loyalty die before bodies did. I have seen love turn into punishment. I have seen the system look at broken men like evidence instead of human beings. I have carried grief until it stopped feeling like grief and started feeling like part of my skeleton, while refusing to make it part of my identity.

And still, I got up.

Still, I pick myself up.

Not clean.

Not healed.

Not untouched.

I got up with shadows under my eyes and scars in places the world will never see. I got up with rage in my chest, pain in my blood, and memories that still know how to find me when the room gets quiet. I got up even when I did not look like victory. I got up even when all I had left was breath and refusal.

That is the part they do not understand.

The sunrise tells one kind of story. It tells people the night is over. It makes everything look soft, golden, forgivable. But the shadows the scars leave when the darkness rises tell a different story.

They tell the truth.

They tell what it cost.

They tell what had to die inside me so the rest of me could live.

They tell where I was buried and still crawled out.

They tell what I survived when nobody was watching and nobody was coming.

So let the demons return.

Tell them I am ready to fight.

Let the darkness rise.

I have my light ready.

Let the quiet come.

This time, I am prepared to ignore the noise.

I know this place. I have been here before. I have bled here. I have begged here. I have broken here. I have buried versions of myself here.

But I have never stayed dead.

And maybe survival is not beautiful to you.

Maybe it is scarred, guarded, imperfect, and misunderstood. Maybe it is the most disgusting thought you avoid at all costs. Maybe beauty is only in the eye of the viewer.

But your perception will never make my survival feel shame.

It will never make me unsee the beauty that arrived after the suffering.

Because I know what I came from.

I know what I crawled through.

I know what tried to keep me.

And every shadow behind me is not a stain.

It is evidence.

Proof that something tried to take me under.

Proof that something thought the darkness would finish me.

Proof that death, drugs, poverty, courts, grief, betrayal, and every demon that ever learned my name still failed to become my ending.

The sunrise may make the world look beautiful.

But my scars tell the dark truth the sun cannot hide.

I did not become beautiful because life was gentle.

I became beautiful because it was not.

And I still rose. Still I rise regardless of how I am viewed because my pain is beautiful regardless of how you see it.

I wasn’t waiting for anything.

Not really. I was just living in the in-between, killing time, letting days pass politely.

Then someone crossed an ocean and time folded in on itself.

We met where people are always arriving or leaving, with nowhere to be yet. Drinks. Conversation. Glances that lingered half a second too long. A kiss that didn’t announce itself, it just… happened. As if it had been scheduled long before we knew to show up.

Nothing changed.

Everything changed.

It didn’t solve my life. It didn’t make promises. It didn’t even stay.

But it arrived and that was enough to remind me:

You don’t find meaning by waiting for the right chapter.

Sometimes the chapter walks up to you on a platform and rewrites the margins.

there's something about this summer that keeps pulling me backward.

i don't usually live in the past. if anything, i've always been good at letting go, at closing chapters and continuing on without looking over my shoulder. but somehow, memories of you still find me. they arrive silently, without permission, until i'm surrounded by them again.

i've asked myself countless times what it was about you that made you impossible to replace. maybe it wasn't that you were perfect. maybe it was that you were unlike anyone i've ever met. there was something so raw about you, so open, so deeply mental. you were complicated in every way, yet somehow being with you felt effortless. we carried so many flaws, so many problems, but back then they felt microscopic compared to how much we loved eachother.

and yet, love wasn't enough.

i still had to leave. i had to choose myself, no matter how desperately you asked me to stay, no matter how much pain surrounded our goodbye. i couldn't keep sacrificing my own peace to hold us together. leaving broke something in me too, but i know now it was the only choice either of us could survive.

years have passed, and i don't spend my days wishing for us again. i truly let you go a long time ago. that's the strange part. i'm not waiting for you. i'm not searching for you. and yet, every now and then, you still find your way back into my thoughts.

when i meet someone new, there's a fleeting moment where i realize they aren't you. not because i'm comparing them or expecting them to become you, but because something about what we shared has never existed in quite the same way again. then i catch myself wondering why i still measure a memory i've already released.

maybe that's what haunting really is.

it isn't wanting someone back. it isn't refusing to move on. it's carrying the shadow of something so rare that, years later, it still lingers in places you thought were empty. i let you go a lifetime ago, but every so often, your ghost still walks through my mind, reminding me that some people leave your life long before they leave your heart.

The digital silence thunders in my ears, in my brain.

Is this how we romance each other, now?

Is this how people flirt?

I have a hard time breathing

In the oppressive quiet,

In the thick nothingness that my heart is left to chew on.

I choke.

I suffocate.

If you aren't interested, just kill me off with a swift, clean blow.

But instead, I suffer, clinging to hope.

You are not what you think you are

I don't see you broken.

I don't see you a mess.

I don't see you a destructive person.

I don't see you someone sick.

I know and I understand my love.

You were pushed to your limits.

You were abused by their treatment.

You were forced to hide who you truly are.

But for now, after we met,

you don't have to feel shame.

You don't have to keep hiding.

You don't have to not be you.

So, let me take care of you.

I do not think people understand how heavy it gets being strong when you are not allowed to need anybody.

I do not have anyone to lean on when I am in need.

I am who people lean on.

I am the calm voice when someone else is breaking. I am the plan when everything falls apart. I am the hand reaching down into someone else’s hole, pulling them out before they forget what daylight looks like.

But when it is me down there, there is no hand.

There is no voice calling my name.

There is no one checking how deep it is.

There is no one asking if I need help climbing out.

I have learned how to survive in silence because silence has been the only thing that stayed. I have learned how to carry pain without making noise because people do not know what to do with me when I am not useful. They know how to need me. They do not always know how to love me when I need something back.

And that is the part that hurts in places I cannot explain.

Because I have dreams too.

I have goals I want to speak out loud without feeling like I am talking to an empty room. I have visions for my life that I wish someone cared enough to ask about. I have plans, fears, hopes, pressure, ambition, exhaustion, and moments where I just want one person to look at me and say, “You do not have to carry this alone.”

But I do.

I carry it alone.

I build alone.

I fall alone.

I get back up alone.

I encourage myself with words I wish someone else would say to me. I celebrate quietly because there is no one there to understand what it took. I grieve quietly because there is no one there to notice what it cost. I keep moving because stopping would require support I do not have.

And still, somehow, people think I am fine.

They see the strength and mistake it for ease.

They see the discipline and mistake it for peace.

They see me standing and never ask how many times I had to crawl first.

The truth is, I am tired of being everyone’s safe place while having nowhere safe to fall apart. I am tired of being the answer and never being the person someone worries about. I am tired of being understood only when I am useful, respected only when I am strong, and remembered only when someone needs something from me.

I do not want pity.

I do not want saving.

I just want to know what it feels like to not be alone inside everything I am trying to become.

I want someone to see the man behind the endurance. The person behind the provider. The heart behind the problem solver. The dreamer behind the survivor.

Because I am not empty.

I am just tired of pouring from places nobody checks.

And one day, when I finally make it where I said I would, people will call it strength, discipline, resilience, and destiny.

But I will know the truth.

I built a life with no shoulder, no safety net, no witness, and no rescue.

I became the person I needed because no one else showed up.

I cannot believe I never truly realized how ungrateful you were until now.

You treated everything I did like it was owed to you. Like my effort was expected. Like my sacrifice was normal. Like my loyalty, patience, forgiveness, support, and presence were just things you were entitled to receive.

You never showed real gratitude.

Not the kind that reaches a person. Not the kind that makes someone feel seen. Not the kind that says, “I know what you do for me, and I do not take it lightly.”

I never felt appreciated, but I did not know how deeply that absence had affected me until someone else showed me what appreciation actually looks like.

Then someone came into my life after almost a year since you ghosted me, and everything changed.

Every little thing I do feels like a grand gesture to them.

They appreciate me just being me.

They appreciate my help.

They appreciate my presence.

They do not make me perform for value. They do not make me beg to be noticed. They do not make me feel like loving them is a job I am constantly failing at.

They show me through their actions.

They show me through their behavior.

They show me in the quiet moments, in the gentle moments, in the way they are proud to have me in their life.

They brag about me to the people who matter to them.

They make me feel respected without having to ask for it.

And that is when it hit me.

You were using me.

You were passing time.

You were taking what I gave and calling it love because it benefited you.

You let me pour into you while you stood there with both hands open and no intention of ever pouring back.

And once I saw it clearly, I could not unsee it.

It was never that I was not enough.

It was never that I did not love hard enough, give enough, try enough, forgive enough, or understand enough.

It was that you were trying to take as much as you could from someone who loved you enough to keep giving.

Now I understand the difference.

Real love does not make you feel invisible.

Real love does not treat your effort like a utility.

Real love does not consume you and then abandon you when there is nothing convenient left to take.

Real love sees you.

Real love values you.

Real love makes gratitude visible.

And for the first time in a long time, I am not confused anymore.

I was not hard to love.

I was easy to use.

There is a difference.

Some thoughts that have been on repeat in my brain. Things I could say if that were possible.

I’m still here just trying to heal or life or whatever action seems appropriate but it's like I'm starting to sound like some pyscho ex that can't let go. I get frustrated, sad, angry, we said forever, we planned a life.

We're gone, time has moved on, but I can't. I get stuck in the trauma of the situations that unravelled and trying to understand them, to heal from them. It doesn't seem to be working and I don't know another strategy. I can't comprehend that you became someone I didn't know, I can't comprehend the choices, I can't comprehend the spiral that lost control and became something unsalvageable.

Idk how to trust people anymore I trusted you with everything I had. I trusted myself. And it ended wrong. Now I think of trusting people and it starts to trigger anxiety and stress responses. I think about trusting myself and feel ashamed, a failure(even when I tried) then sink inward, close and shut down.

I've realized people are really alone their entire lives. No one ever really knows you, your internal self. Even when you think you know someone they are really the only ones that know themselves, their whole selves. And that's really lonely. Life is lonely.

The story rarely settles in the place we drew the map. We fall into the timing or we fall into the trap. It isn’t always malice, it isn’t always hate. Sometimes it’s the shifting of the gears of human fate. We point the jagged fingers, we cast the heavy blame, to hide the fact that neither one of us could finish out the game. The truth is in the labor, in the waking willing choice: if two souls pull together they will surely find a voice.

Sometimes the love is heavy, it’s a mountain made of lead. A soul that stalks the hallways of the waking of the dead. Sometimes the love is fragile and it simply cannot grow. Too small to beat the winter and the coming of the snow. And sometimes, in the silence, the pulse begins to fade, we wake to find only distance is the choice that we have made. We reach the fork in silence, the place where paths divide, where one must choose to mend it or take the turning wide.

The love we leave behind us does not vanish into air, it changes in the crucible, a cross we have to bear. It curdles into memory or softens into grace, it settles in the quiet, tucked away into the space. It’s a duel edged engine, a force that acts to teach, to pull us towards wisdom that was always out of reach. Standing in the wreckage a choice held in your palm, to let the past destroy your future or find a different calm.

Hey you,

Tonight I wanted to ask you something that would have made you proud.

How do you fight the rebellion inside yourself? How do you live with two opposite truths fighting in the same chest?

One part of me knows I have to move on without answers. The other part still waits, as if answers are some kind of mercy.

They are not. I know that now. An answer would not undo the hurt. It would not go back in time and soften the parts of me that broke while trying to understand you. At best, it would settle the embers. And maybe that is why I still want it sometimes.

Not because it matters. Not because it changes anything. But because some small, tired part of me still wants to know why you looked at the possibility of us and chose the odds instead.

I tell myself whatever happened, happened. Maybe it could not have happened any other way. Maybe we were always walking toward this ending, even when I thought we were building something.

Still, my curiosity sometimes dresses itself as anger. It stands inside me and asks: why not us? Why not once? Why not even try?

I guess I will never know. And maybe that is the lesson I did not want. Not every wound comes with a witness. Not every ending gives you a reason. Not every person who hurts you stays long enough to explain the damage.

Someone once told me being hurt does not make us right. I hated that, then I understood it. Pain can make you honest. It can make you raw. It can show you things you avoided for too long.

But it does not always make you right. And it does not always make them wrong in the clean, simple way you need them to be.

Maybe you were scared. Maybe you were selfish. Maybe you were just human. Maybe all three can be true.

I hope you are better off. I hate that I mean that. I hate that some part of me still wants peace for you, even after losing so much of mine. But maybe that is not weakness. Maybe that is the last soft thing I get to keep.

So no, I am not moving. Not yet. Not in the way people mean when they tell you to move on, as if grief is a room you can simply leave.

I am not running. I am not pretending. I am not making a clean story out of a messy loss. I am standing here, learning how to stop waiting.

I am learning how to stop asking a locked door to become an answer. Learning how to stop mistaking silence for a place I can still knock.

Maybe healing is the moment you stop bargaining with the past. Maybe it is staying still long enough to hear your own heart without their absence speaking over it.

And now there is no explanation that returns me to who I was before you. There is only me, this hurt, this stubborn little hope, and the slow work of becoming someone who can carry all of it without turning back.

I know it won’t reach you. Yes, I have shared this in other subs, but I wish I could share it with you. Because you deserve to know that you fit in this space as well. In fact, you helped create it.

No matter what has happened between us or how far out of reach you placed yourself. There is a powerful, unshakable love for you in the center of me that will never fail or be damaged.

I love you.
I know that may sound scary, but it’s not a scary kind of love. It’s not possessive, it’s not obsessive, not controlling or transactional. It requires no title and asks nothing in return.

You taught me how to do that. How to love that way.

I am simply grateful that you exist.
It’s a healthy kind of love that neither one of us are used to so I choose to embrace and honor it by telling you because you deserve to know that you are not alone.
You have witnessed me at my worst and in your own way you kept reaching. You kept reaching even when I was unable to reach back. And in a way, you saved a part of me that I thought wouldn’t make it.
Thank you .
Thank you, thank you.
A million thank yous would never be enough.

I see you.

I see you and I can tell you that even the worst parts of your past that you’ve shared with me do not make you a monster. They are simply stones on the path that led you to who you are today.
And who you are is so much more than you see.
We are fed a narrative from a very early age that we must acquire or accomplish specific things in this life by a certain age or we are worthless .
And that is the biggest lie we’ve ever believed.
They fed us all a shit sandwich and convinced us that it was fillet mignon.

In fact, you are far more valuable because of your experiences in this life. And I know you haven’t even shared the worst with me. Even still, I hope you know that none of it would make me flinch. I wouldn’t even bat an eye.

We have seen real monsters, and we are not them. Not even close.

You hold yourself accountable in ways that most would never understand. And the few of us who do “get it” are busy punishing ourselves as well.

Would you punish a child through the course of their entire life for acting out immorally before they understand the impact of their actions or would you enlighten them, teach them a better way and show them that they are still worth loving and choosing? Empowering them to become their true potential is the only way. So why not accept that you too deserve that level of grace?

We are all children here. No matter how many years we have walked on this earth.
We are all children. Children who have convinced themselves that they do not need to grow, learn and continuously develop until the very end.

Pride and stubbornness coupled with an inability to overcome shame.

I see us all.

I see us all and just there, even in your darkness, I see that little version of you.

And that little version of you is light in itself. A light that this world tried to extinguish.
The very fact that I see him means that they failed.
You are so worth loving. You are far more than you can even see.

Souls like that, like ours, the ones who look back at the mistakes they have made and still carry the weight of it all, well, they are the epitome of what true achievement is.

Not cars, not houses, not material assets, not anything you can hold with human hands.

True assets are held within the soul.

Let’s learn how to set down the stones we carry. The weight of the world belongs to atlas alone and was only ours to carry for a moment.

A fleeting moment.

The truth is, that kind of self inflicted punishment , the stones of guilt, worry and self persecution, they are the teachers but if held too long, become the true enemy of the human spirit.

Our tightly held grip on those emotions can turn illumination and ascension into self deprecating condemnation when not released.

Those stones block your light and keep it from reaching those who need it the most.
You are the only one who can actually remove those blinders so that you can see your value. And when you begin to see how much surviving those experiences have increased your worth, the world around you slowly begins to see it too.

Hardships slowly become opportunities and success replaces the feelings of failure.

I pray every day that you choose to see your journey through the light of truth and not the shroud of false narratives that our world has draped around you.

Because I saw your light when I needed it most. And without it, I never would have made it out of the dark.
So please, with everything in me, let me share a little bit of my light with you. Because you truly are the kind of person who makes life worth living.