r/antipornography

I had seen a lot of conversations around girls joining in the industry so young,I'm interested to know what you think about the boys and why they join this being so young

So I was wondering porn is bad i know that and masterbating while watching porn that shit is worse but I was wondering having SEX with a partner is that bad too? Like when I masterbate and have sex i do cum so aren't they the same? I'm also a gym freak and I've seen some post that masterbating causes muscle loss so that means sex also causes muscle lose?

Btw I'm just a 16 year old bastard so cut me some slack if i sound like an idiot.

Hey, no idea where to start but I’m 27 m now and it all started with like 12. Back then I was on Kik (chatting app) and dominated by someone )I didn’t even know what I was doing. Since then things have only been going down. My whole sex life is online: twitter , fetlife, Snappchat, dating apps, Porn, cams etc. While in real life I am still a virgin and never even tried dating someone.

Im a super anxious and shy person in general and kind of use this as a validation method. I love getting compliments from doms and being told how useless or bad I am. I enjoy the attention and totally giving up control as I never give up control in real life. I often send pictures or videos doing sexual stuff , often with my face and I have probably already been leaked somewhere.

It all escalated more and more over the years:

Today I have days where I do nothing expect being dominated and watching porn , I even already had rough skin on my dick several times due to masturbating so much.

I consume super extreme stuff like puke, scat , piss , spankings till blood , fisting , animated stuff , exposure, ass to mouth, Trans Dom , gay Slave etc. I am disgusted about all that things when I’m outside and not alone.

Doms already made me do super messed up stuff ass well. Like licking the toilet , ass to mouth , inserting objects or things in my ass (which I sometimes barely got out), making me spank myself till I was all blue (couldn’t even go to gym then due to public showers), making me drink my piss, making me puke etc. All while having me film myself.

I often get apps like fetlife, grinder etc. Just to talk to people setting up plans , but I never met anyone. I only ever loved girls but I mainly sext with trans and guys as it’s way easier to find some that are just as disgusting as me and willing to do that stuff to me. Which makes me question my sexuality, even though I never ever had romantic feelings for a guy. I even don’t care what they look like As long as they are disgusting like me. I get dominated by stinky , old , fat , disgusting people that probably didn’t shower for a weak that I would absolutely avoid on the real world.

And every day things are getting worse and I’m craving more and more messy fetishes and stuff. I keep expending my limits and disgust myself more and more.

All that while my real life is falling apart. I’m isolating myself , losing confidence, hating myself , shouting down my feelings, closing up. My studying is on wait for several years as I can’t bring myself to finish it even though I have good marks. I need to apply for an internship that I have been procrastinating for years. I never even send an application. I have been lying about my life to my family and friends. All just because I hate myself for it. Now it feels harder and harder to get out of it and the mir Ei feel down the more I’m craving to get disgusting and dominated online.

Is there a way out of this?

I (now over 18 and out of high school) know I personally struggled throughout highschool with partners using porn, but thought it wasn’t as widespread of an issue amongst other girls my age, as I only saw stuff about it ruining marriages in older people, but when talking with my younger sister and her friends I realized it really has infiltrated all of their relationships too (some as young as middle school), it has absolutely destroyed a lot of them and their mental health and self image and it completely changes their bfs into monsters as their addiction increases, I even see scrolling on instagram so many younger girls I’m mutuals with like posts about porn destroying their relationships and their mental wellbeing. Also, so many of my girl friends my age (give or take 3 years) talk about how their bfs have ED from porn or never want to interact with them in that way, instead they prefer the screen. High school boys are having erectile dysfunction and losing a desire for real intimacy..!! Most of the boyfriends I’m hearing the most about are also cheating physically as well, or continuously begging for acts outside of my friends boundaries. This is so horrible even young people have to go through it now, young women and girls already have too much on their plate when it comes to self value with media and social influences, and now on top of that boys their age prefer screens over real-life relationships. It is blasted all over social media about the male loneliness epidemic and mental health crisis (which is a legitimate issue as well), however teenage girls are more lonely than ever and with porn being so normalized it’s hard for them to have a safe space to discuss this without being called insecure or controlling or being told that they are young, it’s their first relationships, and they will have to get used to it because it will be present in all future relationships. All of my sisters friends feel so hopeless knowing it will only get worse as they slowly start growing out of what these porn users tend to look for as well considering “teen” is such a popular category.

I am a male, though my IG accounts that of a cat, perhaps I should change his gender to female. his friends are all animals.

Despite this, it is never very long, before a woman in a bikini appears on the feed. Sometimes I automatically 'like' it, other times I hover over it a bit too long. And then three images down the scroll, another woman in bikini on the beach. Then two images down, an AI gymnast, stated to be 18 but looking anything but. Then a high school diving team in swimming costumes, then a marching band girl in hot pants as part of her uniform. The age always tends south.

I try to clean up my feed, often pressing 'this makes me uncomfortable' but it always comes back, to the point where I first restricted my IG use to 20 minutes a day with screen time, and now delete the app and only restore it eery 10 days. Im seriously thinking to delete my cats account and just stay off ig forever.

Why is it that a reputable social media company keeps showing 15 year olds in bikinis/gymnast costumes? The line is obviously thin between an innocent beach photo and pornography, but the way it constantly appears on feeds means someone knows the deal with male sexuality. Should IG have a block on all sexualized images of minors? or should there be an option so that no minors in any state of dress will appear in any image on a feed? It may seem harsh that a high school swimming team can never post pictures of themselves doing their sport, which to them and other is not sexual, but it actually does count as indecent.

Just recently, I was scrolling down cat and dog fees when a video pops up of a female doing a handstand in a long dress, of course revealing her underwear. She lands down and stands up and of course she is a 12 year old girl. The video is from a dog account, with the family posting family pictures of the dog, and the dog is a 'friend' of my cat, but why is that particular video is pushed to the feed, and how should it be allowed?

Firstly, I would prefer a magic button whereby porn could be outlawed/limited to what would be shown in an intimate sex scene in a 'normal' rated 18 movie. I dislike porn, and have had addiction to it (Im M) and really trying to give it up for good though it is a struggle.

Think one has to accept it will always be there. One thing that could help things is disallowing performers under the age of 25. Porn could be formalized, in that all webcam shows, OF, porn sites etc could only show licensed media, much the same way amazon prime or even YouTube cannot just show any old thing that is uploaded.

BarelyLegal, 18, schoolgirl, etc these are all very popular tags in porn sites. If men are (legally) getting used to being aroused to 18 year olds being portrayed like pieces of meat performing in the most degrading way imaginable and unimaginable, then its very likely they will not only get aroused by 18 years olds in general but 16-17 year olds. I mean lets face it, if you see two sisters in bikinis, a 17 year old and a 18 year old, you are not gong to be mentally turned on by one but not the other.

Even though 18 year olds are adults, it is just leading to online peadophilia for young looking 18 year old girls to be shown repeatedly and portrayed as acceptable.

And of course, if you are 18-24, becoming a porn star, webcam model etc is something that will affect the rest of your life. Yes, 18 year olds are adults, but I still think some things can be graded, particularly when in the US you cannot by a drink but can sign your life away by putting yourself online forever.

whenever someone says they dislike sexual media like song lyrics, people always respond with “you’re probably just a kid with no supervision” “puritan” “what did you expect it’s the internet” “why is it shocking all of the sudden? sexual media has alway been a thing””stop trying to control what people say or like” “this is disrespectful to people who actually have SA trauma” “that is not fair to the artist” when all they said was that they don’t like it, was literally called offensive for not liking a sexual song about teens

If you are struggling or think you are in a bad way, look no further than this doco about EDP445. This documentary shows a depraved mind with a backstory all too similar to most (myself included).

I suggest watching this and letting it rerun like a podcast, or watch other channels/streamers react to it. I haven't engaged in the activity since its release.

About 6 months ago I found my dad's tiktok. He was following several teenage girls. Young, blonde with braces. He was also following a meta glasses voyeurism account filled with videos of women and teens being recorded secretly at a water park. I confronted him, and he said he didn't know he was even following those accounts blah blah blah. He then unfollowed all of them. Anyways fast forward to today I noticed he made his tiktok private, and he was following people again. I couldn't see who but when I requested to follow him so I could see, he first unfollowed everyone before accepting me. I asked "were you following teens again?" he said "no those were work contacts." He didn't explain why he unfollowed everyone before accepting MY request. If this is on tiktok, a fairly public app, I can't even imagine what he watches on.. other sites. I haven't told my mom because 1, she'd compartmentalize and ignore it and 2, she'd be broke and borderline homeless without my dad's money. It's hard to be around him. Knowing I was that age once too. I'm in my 20's now and he's getting older. As much as I want to be close with my dad, I can't stomach knowing he is perverse.

Hi everyone,

I'm 31M, my girlfriend is 25F, and we've been in a relationship for 4 years.

I'm not watching any porn since a few years because i understood it's not healthy for me and i also did it out of respect for my girlfriend, even if she never asked it.

I discovered 6 months ago that she watch porn to masturbate almost all the time and she read smut books.

It triggered in me a very strong feeling of disgust and betrayal, breaking the picture i had of her.

I don't think watching porn is cheating but it feels like it.

I don't want to control her but it's been 6 months of painful discussions about this topic and now it's either i'm accepting that she watch/read everything she wants or we're breaking up.

I'm feeling lost, and i feel like she's choosing this stuff over me.

Is it possible to find a compromise?

Cheers

I met a guy, he was cute, sweet, charming, showed up to our date with flowers, was polite, and paid for everything. He sounded like a good guy with left wing values; he brought up on his own that watching porn is so harmful to men and causes impotence. That it should be banned and that it makes men misogynistic.
On our first date, he told me about a stalker who was spreading lies about him.
We were at a flea market, and a short time later, this woman approached me and warned me about him, she said he is a cheater and has STDs.
He was totally devastated, and for some reason I believed him somehow... But I was skeptical.
We were only in contact for a week, but the things he told me kept getting weirder and weirder. He said he looks at pictures of characters from Resident Evil while masturbating. But he said he wouldn’t do that in a relationship, that would be disrespectful.
Well there were other strange things too, but they aren’t relevant to the porn topic.
I couldn’t get that woman out of my head, so I searched for her online and I found her and one of his other Ex. Both of them told me such terrible things: this guy treats women like sexobjects, doesn’t take “no” for an answer, has rape accusations, and is into hitting women and all evil stuff and weird fetishes. He also worked as a pornstar in Berlin. And he lied about everything to me, he isn’t left he is right wing and he also went to jail…. I‘m so scared of this man, I really dodged a bullet here. I‘m so glad that he doesn‘t know where I live.

Heyy everyone! Over the last months watching porn and masturbating took up way to much time of my life... Sometimes I just stared at my phone for hours chasing this high and I feel like Im waisting my life with this. I found this subreddit and I thought maybe you guys could help me to get rid of this bad habit. What are the best ways to quit pornography? What helped you through it?

Great that we having more of these types of communities added to Reddit as it can really use it. Reddit can easily be a HUGE source for the very thing that this sub is against, hate to say that I have experienced it, but the variety and ease of access In Reddit is almost unmatched compared to any other platform that I know of. It would be a huge plus to have Reddit actually help in this matter so I am grateful for this community and others like it (NOFAP, SR, ETC).

My thought was to open a sub in a related arena but not to step on any toes or anything like that just that I think the extend of NSFW communities can be much larger in Reddit more than necessary so other side must also get the attention it deserves.

Literally what the title says. My bf was so addicted to this, that it made me hate myself so much. I already had self image troubles but this just confirms it. I am indeed fat, ugly, not worthy, NOT ENOUGH. It’s been 6 years and I can’t move on. I hate every attractive woman because I’m not her. I’m so jealous of them. I’m trying to lose weight and trying to think positively but I just can’t. I have the body of a linebacker. I will never have my dream body. How can I even live this live full of women living my dream.