u/Pomodoro44

I live at a town in indonesia. At east java. I don't like norm of politeness, passive aggressiveness here. The indirect speech to maintain politeness. But i also say passive aggressive thing when i get offended. Bcs direct talk will escalate conflict. idk now bcs i've been social isolating, but when i was at school, it has "saving face" culture. I've read non violence communication too, but afraid of doing it irl especially when dealing with stranger, bcs afraid to be judged as weird. I did practice it before at home, but recently has stopped bcs i feel tired. I need more mental space to do it.

I perceive indirect speech as manipulative and a way to avoid accountability and honesty. I experienced more eased talking with germans. I have tck background in japan too, but also feel not quite liking japanese communication style of politeness, but can't be sure if it was genuine or performative. Indirect speech often irritate me, as i need extra brain work to guess what they meant actually.

Do you have strategy to deal indirect speech when you prefer direct talks, and living in indirect speech country?

I post same post at r/pria r/perempuan r/indonesia. But only at r/pria my post get removed by reddit filter. I asked mod there if i get banned or not, and their answer is no, my account isn't banned there. Why this happen?

Yang orangnya ga korupsi, jujur, fair, ga curang, bisa dipercaya, akuntabel (ngaku kalo salah)? Boleh minta tolong untuk dibagi ceritanya? Terima kasih

Yang orangnya ga korupsi, jujur, fair, ga curang, bisa dipercaya, akuntabel (ngaku kalo salah)? Boleh minta tolong untuk dibagi ceritanya? Terima kasih

I wonder what kind of ideal economy system and social norm HSPs want to live in? Do we have common interest or just different ideas as hsp?

I want to live in society that when people do job, the job guarantee their happiness. Less stress. For economy, the rich, and more skilled people share their income happily with the poor, less privileged people. People won't have children unless they prepared financially, mentally and parenting skill.

What's your ideal world? Thank you~