r/gender

I feel like my labels are already complicated enough as is, but I'm not sure which gender I feel more attached to currently. The catgender is more new to me than the demigender. I do feel partially like a girl and partially non binary, but I have been attached to feline identities as of late (if calling my hands paws and craving cat ears and a cat tail counts.) Do i need to drop one gender to be the other, or can I be both until I figure out which one I wanna be?

(I'm using they/she/paw pronouns btw. In order of most preferred to least preferred: They/them, Paw/Paws/Pawself, She/her. Despite the fact that everyone calls me her.)

i mean i don’t hate it, i don’t like it either, i get a sense of euphoria when people use pronouns of other genders, i feel more comfortable dressing masc and androgynous but i enjoy dressing feminine on occasion, i wanna hear other people’s thoughts on this

How are women and people of other gender identities marginalized in patriarchal societies? How do gender roles shape the worth of people in society? How does patriarchy dehumanize people of all genders? 

I want to preface this by saying this post is not intended to criticise or judge anyone. I am genuinely curious.

So if you are a masculine presenting woman or a feminine presenting man why don't you identify as trans? And vice versa: if you are trans why don't you identify as a masculine woman or feminine man? Is there any particular reason or is it just a gut feeling?

im a cis woman but my whole life i wanted to be a boy. but nowadays i dont feel like that anymore but i still have one thing in mind that didnt change, having a penis. i hate my genitals and the female organs, and i really wish i had male genitals. not only because its so hard living with this things but also because i feel extremely uncomfortable and disgusted about it. i feel like if i had one id feel so much more confident about my body. i have some masculine features naturally and before when i thought i was a trans boy, anyone would believe it and think im a femboy. i don't want to be guy, i like people seeing me as a woman (in real life only). i wish i was more like a trans woman. i wish i was born a man biologically and then i become a trans woman without surgery, only the hormones to be feminine (please dont attack me for this one, i really dont know how could i phrase it better :c )

i know male genitals have its problems too but i wouldn't mind them. i think id look so much prettier.

ive ben considering being more androgynous or something but i dont know how to start and neither if thats what i truly want. i am a balance of both female and male features, depending on what i wear i can get misgendered easily, if i tell a stranger im a guy, they will believe right away, but if i say im a girl they will believe it too, both without questioning. my face is pretty feminine but my body is a bit more masculine due to my shoulders and back. i need help knowing what i really am, im tired of being confused.

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hii uh i have a scenario

so say there is this person whom i talk to who looks quite androgynous and has an androgynous name too which kinda leads me to think err what gender do they identify as...

should i ask that person for their pronouns (because i'm worried that if they're trans and i ask them, they'll feel insecure about not passing well for a particular gender enough), or assume (which is also bad because it can lead to misgendering, which may also be triggering)?

is there a less possibly offensive option? can i phrase my question to seem more nice?

i've misgendered a friend before unfortunately (i posted on a gc about everyone being beautiful girls as i went to an all-girls' school, had a person disagree so i confusedly replied that they were indeed beautiful but turns out they are nonbinary. needless to say i felt quite bad because i repeatedly assumed the wrong thing, and especially with the rampant transphobia going on in the media, i don't want to make anyone feel dysphoric and upset).

...which is why i don't want to accidentally repeat the same mistake of unknowingly making an assumption, especially since we talk quite a bit.

thank you ✌🏼

So i've been trying to look around and i THINK im polygender

My problem is that i cant understand well if it includes pronouns that someone hasnt yet discovered for themselves

I just dont want to start requestionning my choices badly