r/hikikomori

I’m honestly curious what y’alls daily lives look like. I’ll go first.

I usually wake up around 8 PM, turn on my laptop, and spend the night watching movies or series, or playing something until around 1 AM. Then I make myself food, go back to my room, eat while watching something, and basically repeat that until it’s around 10 AM.

At that point I get too sleepy and pass out. Recently I bought some skincare products, so now I do that before sleeping and after waking up.

It was a user from this sub under the name of u/q03o that made a post a while ago recommending us to massage our jaw. I just wanna give my thanks to him. Although I didn't practice jaw massage, the post reminds me to pick up stretching as a habit. It has been a week since I started, I've feel quite the improvement to my body. What I feel the most is feeling fresh right out of bed. I stretch before sleep and after. It's a trick so I don't make up excuses to avoid it.

I started accompanying my morning with light exercise too. A set of push up and squat is a good starting point. I'm incorporating this slow, as slow as possible to not overwhelm myself with changes. I kept dropping habits due to that reason. I figure that for this one, I shouldn't abandon.

I think one of the reasons I’m so attached to stories like Attack on Titan is because they make life feel purposeful, disciplined, intense, and meaningful. Everyone is fighting for something bigger than themselves. There’s urgency, sacrifice, focus, strategy, teamwork, and this constant atmosphere of pressure and importance.

Then I look at real life and it feels so… biologically mundane.

Partying, clubbing, taking pictures, relationship drama, social media validation, hookup culture, performative affection, etc. It all feels shallow and embarrassing to me sometimes. Even in serious careers or elite environments, people still revolve around the same things: dating, attention, sex, status, appearances, gossip.

I think what bothers me isn’t just “modern society,” but human biology itself. Eating, sleeping, bodily functions, reproduction, emotional dependency — all of it feels strangely degrading and animalistic to me. I know these things are natural, but I can’t romanticize them the way most people seem to.

I wish life felt more mission-oriented. More focused. More like people were united by purpose, discipline, survival, creation, or mastery instead of constantly orbiting social rituals and validation.

Sometimes I wonder if this is why ideas like transhumanism appeal to me so much — the idea of overcoming the limitations and humiliations of biological existence itself.

I think they are the people around me

I just like sitting and waiting for something to happen on social media. I read social media all day, but I comment 0.0000001% of the time compared to how much content I read. Was I ment to participate in life? Some times I wonder and get introspective about how I became a prisoner to my own room.

Are you social even though you're alone, or peace and quiet is what makes your life fulfilling?

How are you all doing today?

What should I do

What do you do to not lose your mind/spend your time?

Anxiety already hit me

I literally lay down all day and night on my phone

It’s literally just me and my phone

No social interaction

Shut in

Isolated

No social life

No friends

Only very minimal talk with mother (like very very rarely - and if not at all )

(Im quiet like all the time + dont speak unless spoken to basically)

It’s been this way so far for 1 yr and 5-6 months …

Im 24 about to be 25 next month

Fucking shit I think I broke my neck...

There is nothing else to do... Everyday.

I currently cope with building legos... Lol

i dont move much at all just moving from room to room a few times a day and its gotten to a point where my legs and feet feel cold and get a wobbly feeling just after a few steps probably due to lack of blood circulation or whatever else

so im asking, how do you guys stay active without going outside?

I don't identify as hikikomori, even though I have social anxiety and I'm still supported by my parents at 29. Many of my problems are duo to my looks.

I was reading about hikikomori in Japan and saw that, even though appearance can be a factor that leads to bullying and isolation, there's often a lot more going on ( family issues, work/school pressure, social expectations, etc.)

I'm curious to know how it is outside Japan (or East Asia). For those who are hikikomori/shut-ins in other countries: is your appearance the main reason you withdrew, or were there other, bigger factors?

They act like everyone has a loving presence in their lives when most of us are actually deeply isolated. Friendship has nothing to do with mutual interests and everything to do with social status so telling someone to just put themselves out there is just psuhing them towards furthur isolation or abuse even since manipulative people can smell desperate lonely victim from miles away.