Just wait until 21 when your skeleton already disgustingly mutilated by puberty, you will never be able to have live the life you should have but it doesnt matter because transitioning is dangerous and your body cant handle such dangerous foreign hormones, what if you regret it? cant risk letting real (cis) humans making mistakes and committing suicide!
31M here, with terrible combination of being introverted and closeted (due to work). Additionally, I have horrendous gaydar to even sense if there’s any comrades in my workplace.
Have been using various dating apps to widen network in the circle but it’s v draining to text endlessly when the conversation eventually leads nowhere.
I do have few very close friends that I regularly meet and talk to, but it’s still unavoidably lonely that they can’t really relate to any of my experiences/challenges in this circle.
Wondering how/where can we meet PLU organically for genuine connection. Appreciate it:)
20M, gay here. How are y’all able to withstand the constant ghosting? It feels like everyone ghosts me all of a sudden even when I think the chats are going alright. I’m starting to think I might be the problem, but I really don’t know what even causes them to ghost in the first place?
25M here, not looking for relationship but been wanting to move out and find a house already, any girls out there who wanna get married (not for love)? 🥲
recently had some thoughts about relationships. f20 this year and i’ve never been called someone’s gf. wife yes, i had a homoerotic rs that lasted quite a while that led me to become even more confused with myself especially since she gaslighted and manipulated me constantly about her feelings and sexuality, which made me feel like the things we did weren’t real, and while she used me she called me her wife. “if you really want it put yourself out there”, i’ve been told, but maybe i’m not “out” enough to find the right person for me.
all my crushes since i’ve been born were women, except for one male ec. i have not labeled myself just for the uncertainty that if i ever want to venture out and date men, it would be out of line of what i am labeled with, plus i really think labels don’t matter. i did have some straight men who were interested, some were sweet, but i never felt the connection with any despite the nice dates. i had a few encounters with women, especially older, that strengthened my women loving, but they never worked out. how do i find even more wlws in sg.
i don’t feel lonely, i had my fair share of community in the school i graduated from up till now, but my identity and romantic status feels very stagnant. i love women and i feel like i would only want to be with a woman, but it also comes with doubts for the future when it comes to coming out to my family whom i know will not take the news well and stability as pragmatic as sg gets. i’ve also started a job recently that won’t allow me to be in the country majority of the time, so i did have the thought that finding a relationship at this stage of my life is going to get even more challenging.
anyways with pride month being over (okay fine i’ll go back into my closet) and seeing so many beautiful couples, i just felt like as i grow older, i should gain more courage, my sexuality included. it’s hard but all i can tell myself is that it’ll be okay, and maybe someday, i’ll find a woman who’ll make love worth finding all the answers for.
feel free to share. just need some decompression.
also is irene (bae) perchance a homosexual i feel a deep seated lesbianess in her. she was part of my awakening.
so for context im 17(m), gay and recently went to pinkdot for the first time a few weeks back with my friend. while it was amazing to be in the presence of so many queer folk and feel the vibrant energy, i didnt get to talk to anyone really or like feel the sense of community i expected.
also ive realised that like i have so little queer friends which is honestly sad but understandable due to the small queer population in sg. + Ive been having some personal problems which have made me feel kinda alone.
just wondering if any of u guys have queer friend grps which r open to new ppl to join n bond with. Or even if u know any events for me to really feel and find community esp amongst other fellow queers :)
Im secondary 3 this year and im so exhausted from being misgendered every single day. The councilor and the year head know about me being trans and when ive expressed my suicidal thoughts due to being constantly misgendered and deadnamed and FORCED to wear the school skirt they bassically just started saying theres nothing they will do about it and rules are rules and that they will send me home if i try to do anything to myself. My year head also went around telling all my teachers to deadname me and not use my preferred name although they were all fine with it and sec 1 and 2 i was at least called by my prefered name. I am legit on hrt but the school still denies to do anything about respecting my identity. I am planning to go jc and i do well in school so i am aiming for the top ones, is there any jc which would be more accepting?:(
examples:
were you in a straight rs and in denial, when / how did you come to terms with your sexuality?
or have you known someone who you later found out was in denial/closeted? before they came out, were there any words/actions of theirs that made you felt they might hv been in denial/closeted?
Hi im 20 and i need to find a decent paying jobs that dont require a degree and also dont mind alternative people + not racist or toxic. PLSSS drop some suggestions. help!! i dont want it to be too physically demanding either... it might sound like im asking for too much... but better to search for the best job suited for me rather than be miserable in a one i dread. if you guys know pls let me know!!
hey guys my situationship is leaving me for her best friend who confessed feelings for her a few months back but said situationship only told me today (Last day of pride month, sigh) and I'm done crying and all and done being the side chick. im still hurting but it feels good to be free, so tell me any funny stories so I forget about all the pain when she told me she liked us both but she would choose bestie over me! pls help my disillusioned mind promise myself that I won't ever go back to her again, I don't want to be a homewrecker.
Hi, I am an incoming international PhD student at NUS. How is the queer scene in Singapore, what kinds of events that take place which I as international student can join (I got to know that I cannot join main pride event of the year).
So I came out recently being Trans (I'm 20).
Of how I came out to my Mom, she caught wind of my Appointment to a Psychiatrist on 5th June and asked me. Also how I found out, it was a long progressive journey in an internal war struggling to get a grip of myself but in the end it was me just denying that I am Trans due to my Family, my Faith (Christianity, Protestant Christian) and the fear of losing the people I love because of coming out.
Last year I was severely depressed the whole year, I became some sort of Hikimori that I isolated myself in my room. The reason why it got that bad is due to fighting the part of me being Trans for several years. One day I tried to attempt to end it all because I felt pressured to choose between being myself and my family and the faith. I love all 3 so it was hard to pick.. So Naturally, my thought process was to end it all so I do not trouble my family with my issue.. Well in the end, Family saved me and this year I am determined to embrace the part of me that I always denied.. Still depressed but not as severe as before.
How I came to how I truly started to embrace myself through self-reflections and talks with my friends that I can deeply talk around this and be open about it. I reflected of how I started to feel wrong being myself and whenever I dressed up, it just felt.. Right. It's not where dressing up as a girl kind of fetish but it's the kind where it felt right. I felt happy. Then I asked my friends "Do you ever dream of being a girl? Like when I was 13, I dreamt of a life being a girl every single day till now" I thought it was normal to dream being a girl till they said "No?? I'm quite okay with being a guy but never dreamt of being a girl". It was quite shocking for me because I thought those thoughts were normal.
Then for 2 years now, I felt uncomfortable and would hesitate going to the public Restroom. Is that strange? I do have to eventually go because I need to relieve myself so I'd often shut my brain off and just go in without looking anyone in the eye. I became conscious about my body, my voice and how people addressed me. I hated all of it. When people call me handsome, I dislike it. Is that weird? Also one day my Mom said I look pretty and look like a girl when I had long hair, I was really happy that day even when she was unaware of it. It just felt right being called pretty.
This is how I found out I have a Severe Case of Gender Dysphoria. So when I came out to my Mom, she said she understood Gender Dysphoria and then referred me to one of her 'Gender Dysphoria' patients in the hospital she worked in. You know who this Patient is? He is just Gay.. So I told my Mom one more time if she understands, she says she does but I explained to her Gender Dysphoria isn't about Sexuality or being Gay. Eventually I also told my Dad but he is the same as my Mom. He said he had a 'Gender Dysphoria' Uncle who acts 'Gay' whenever he is Drunk 😭.
So I came to understand that my parents are just from a different generation that wasn't open to all of this. But my Parents are willing to understand me and accept that I'm.. This. So I told my Dad I'll explain it to my Mom first so she can explain it to my Dad the difference between Gender Dysphoria and Sexuality. She's a Nurse too so she is willing to learn and understand. I tried texting her over the difference but she couldn't process it all because time and time I asked her if she understood what I sent her and she said no. Is there some kind of Link for an explanation? Or an easier way to explain it to her?
hi yall, i'm considering getting top surgery, but i'm not out to most people and don't take HRT, legal or otherwise. i generally look feminine, and i don't care for the masculinising effects of T, i just want a flat chest. i've tried binders before but they don't work well on my chest for some reason?? and i'm somewhat sensitive to adhesives in KT tape. so just looking for some advice here:
- if i go local, will i need a referral from an existing endo/psych that specialises in trans stuff? if so, will they likely try to put me on HRT first? if not, are there any drs i can reach out to directly to ask about this?
- if i look for international providers, what advice would you give and which surgeons would yall say are generally well-rated for this field?
- will i have an easier time if i look for a surgeon that does double masectomy rather than top surgery in particular?
- what should i keep in mind while looking for and contacting/discussing with doctors?
at present, i'm in uni and live with... very traditional... parents. it's going to be a long while before i can move out and save up the money for this, but i'd just like to hear from yall before i get properly started. thanks in advance!
It was my first time visiting the event with friends and honestly it's very wholesome. Though was hoping that the booths would not close that early as the place is big. Overall, a great experience and hope y'all had fun too 😁
Hii im 20 this year and after pink dot yesterday i saw so many people in jfash and alt fashion, which is something ive been wanting to get into for a while. ive been very confused on personal styling and layering & most of the time i dont know what goes with what (and i generally only have tshirts because my mum throws out a lot of thrifted clothes) so if theres anyone who can take a look at my wardrobe or figure out a style for me/give reccomendations that would be great 🥹 ive been into the morikei style recently but i wouldnt want to just have greens and browns, plus i have about 5-6 jirai coords and i have the jirai hair (a bit scared to be jirai in sg though because its so common it doesnt feel like me anymore, plus idk where to buy jirai lenses with degree if anyone has any links)
open to any help!! i usually use pinterest to get boards on how to dress and style myself based on that (but i feel like my wardrobe has NOTHING but graphic tees and drifit)
For context, I am s3 applying via EAE to lasalle diploma next year and am preparing my portfolio
Many of my drawings/animations are based on fictional stories I write, which feature queer people/relationships.
I really want to tell the truth because acting shady probably isnt the best for an interview, but if the interviewer is homophobic, I might not get accepted.
Should I lie and say the relationship is just friends etc, or is lasalle accepting enough?
(I wouldnt even think about telling the truth if it were another school, but yk, arts, lol)
Anyone interested in buying from transtape and splitting the shipping costs? Just checked and it was $22 for normal shipping.
Edit: Closing by 30/6 10pm
I am a closet female and most of my friends don't know that I am actually gay. I don't really have friends I can discuss lgbtq topics with and was wondering how do people cope with this feeling. I was also wondering if there are any schools that has LGBTQ support groups? Would love to meet some new friends of similar ages. If not, are there any other groups that are supportive of such community in sg? Appreciate if anybody could give me some advice!
I’ve read that others required two psychiatric assessments before they could go ahead with top surgery.
I was planning to simply inform my psychiatrist (NUH, also the one that got me started on HRT via referral to endocrinologist in NUH), and then get a referral from there and assume it would be smooth sailing. Of course I would also inform my endo about it but my next endo appointment is some months after my next psych appointment. (I’ve been told that it would be better to do top surgery after some time on T, and it’s been more than a year now so was hoping to move forward)
What is the process actually like? Do I really have to pay out of pocket for the assessments rather than simply inform my psychiatrist? Do I have to call up another department to create an appointment?
Hi can somebody follow me to watch obsession, I LITERALLY WANNA WATCH IT BUT MAJORITY OF MY FRIENDS ARE NOT 18. We can talk first abit ah if u guys want but preferably at tampines cuz um im lazy asf to travel 😭😭😭😭😭😭
Im M18 btw incase anyone wondering and im gay x