Hello all, I'm 32F and looking to meet potential partners. Could anyone chime in with some resources on how to meet other wlws physically and/or online (less preferred)? Personally, I'm open to dating younger or older but specifically looking for communities or events where there's not only 20+ y/o folks. Would be open to joining events, etc. by myself!
Thanks in advance!
I’m a 20M usually interested in girls. But recently I’ve stumbled across some Trans stuff (Male to Female) where they are very feminine and it seemed to turn me on a lot. Eventually rubbed it out to that trans stuff.
So am I still straight or ?
Hi! Femme here, looking to widen my circle of Friends, mine are super busy adult mode right now, so we dont get to travel, MJ, hang out as much..
I would love to meet up over coffee, tea, art jams, intentional chats, laughs, or j u s t chilling..
Happy to meet singles, couples, or small groups!
I’m a foreigner currently staying in SG for work, and I feel that I’ve lost my connection to my species. Where do women-loving-woman hang around here? I badly want to see my people. Doesn’t help that everyone around me (family, co-workers, very few friends) are straight.
I’ve joined the WLW Mixers group in tele long back, but I just don’t have the guts to go to these events alone. I’m an INFJ but anyone who’s super friendly, outgoing or extroverted can 100% also bring out those personalities in me. Adopt me please?
Has anyone ever gotten diy testosterone into sg? if so, how and from where? i've struggled with dysphoria all my life and i don't think I'll be able to hold out four more years living as a girl
Hi, I'm 17M, currently studying at ITE west under the course of tourism.
I've been looking for a new bf and more bi friends since my ex dumped me back in June.
Here are some things about me!!!
1)I do cosplays and make props when I can or when I'm free during the holidays!!
2)I like EDM, Jazz, Soul, R&B, hip-hop, a lot of genres of music!!
3)I like to play sports as well! Such as badminton and taekwondo!!!
4)I like baggy clothes and oversized things such as hoodies or pants when it comes to my sense of fashion loll
5)my personality type is INTP-T, but once I get to know you or anything outside my online presence, I'm very random and out of the box at times, said by my classmates loll
we’re a lesbian couple (29 & 30). wanting to grow our little family. we’ve been in conversations in choosing our clinics and of course, donor options.
we’d actually prefer for our donor to be queer too (hard to find in banks/clinics), and preferably someone we know and trust. we’ve exhausted asking mutuals that we know. but we also really fear how unregulated the fertility business & sperm banks can get. never realised how all consuming this process can get.
Any mtf trans can give me a timeline on what to expect on hrt ☺️☺️ going through private this week.
Abit of context I known I was trans since I was in secondary and was afraid to try anything and also didn’t had the money to do so. Now I am an adult adult decided to transition or wouldn’t be happy with my life
Hi there, 29F Singaporean here. I’m asexual, firmly childfree, and putting myself out here again to see if there’s are any guy in a similar situation.
I’m basically looking for someone who wants a platonic relationship.
Ideally, I’d love to meet someone I can genuinely become close friends with first, someone to hang out with, eat with, complain about life with, attend family things together, and maybe eventually build a peaceful life together.
There is quite a bit of pressure from my family to get married, and I am open to marriage eventually. But I really don’t want to marry some random person just for the sake of being married lol I’d much rather it be someone I actually care about and enjoy being around.
I’m looking for a guys, 29-35 years old, who’s Singapore based (Singaporean would be even better), definitely doesn’t want kids, is okay with me being ace and no sexual intimacy, and is looking for something genuinely long-term.
You don’t have to be ace yourself. Maybe you’re dealing with your own family expectations, maybe a conventional relationship isn’t really what you want either, or maybe this kind of companionship just sounds nice to you.
And I’m definitely not expecting to meet someone and immediately start planning a wedding lol I just want to talk, become friends, see if we actually like each other and figure things out naturally from there.
Hmu if any of this resonates with you :)
I (17F) need more wlw friends with similar interests haha. I’m also interested in something more but I’d rather that happen more naturally, and if nothing more happens it is always good to have more friends
For reference, I like playing overwatch mainly! Very hard to find singaporeans who play ow so if you do please hmu!! I also love genshin, wuwa and valorant.
Long-running and fantastic survey for all those who aren't fully/solely/always a man or woman.
I'm 20 and I'm looking for advice, especially from anyone who grew up in a religious/conservative family or has been through something similar.
I'm queer and ex-Muslim, but my family is very religious and strongly against LGBTQ+ people and people who leave Islam. I've heard them talk negatively about both groups many times, which is why I've been terrified of telling them who I actually am.
I've also always felt very restricted at home. I'm expected to practise a religion I no longer believe in, including praying and wearing the hijab, and I don't want to spend my life pretending to have beliefs that I don't have. Dating is also not allowed, and there is a lot of pressure around marriage, including expectations around arranged marriage once we become adults. I don't want my future relationships or marriage to be decided by my family.
Because of all of this, I've been planning to move out for years. This wasn't an impulsive decision. I saved money, secured a job, found a place, prepared my belongings and eventually moved out without telling my family beforehand. I left a long letter explaining that I love them and appreciate everything they've done for me, but need the freedom to live according to my own values. I also told them that I'm queer and ex-Muslim because I felt that I couldn't continue hiding it.
I had already moved my stuff to the new place before leaving. I had somewhere to stay, money saved, and a job, so I wasn't leaving with no plan. My brother and sis in law found the letter before my parents did and took it away so my parents wouldn't see it. They kept calling me that night and begging me to come home.
This is the part I'm having the hardest time explaining, because from the outside it probably looks like I simply changed my mind and chose to go back.
I know my friends think I was manipulated, and I understand why they see it that way. My brother was extremely emotional and told me that our parents are getting older and aren't in the best health, and asked whether I would feel guilty if something happened to them, like if they died. He also told me that he has always seen me like his own child and that he would care for me forever.
He and my sis in law told me that they accepted me, that they loved me, and that they wanted to help me eventually have the life I wanted while still being part of the family. They also told me that they were planning to move out themselves later this year and that I could potentially go with them.
I asked them to give me some time before coming back, but it was already very late at night. They had told my parents that they had found me and had picked me up, and they didn't want to go back without me. They simply told my parents that I had lost track of time while I was out with friends. I was super exhausted, emotional and overwhelmed and I felt like I had no other choice.
I don't mean that they physically forced me into the car or that I literally had no ability to refuse. I mean that emotionally, I couldn't see another option that I could actually handle at that moment.I had spent years preparing myself to leave because I believed I had to choose between my freedom and my family. Then suddenly, the two people I trusted most in my family were telling me that maybe I didn't have to choose. They were saying that they accepted me and that they would help me build the life I wanted while still having my family.
I love my family. I never wanted to leave because I stopped loving them. What I wanted was acceptance. So when my brother and sis in law told me that they accepted me, part of me desperately wanted to believe them. I wasn't thinking, "I want to give up my independence." I was thinking, "Maybe I don't have to lose everyone I love just to be myself." It was incredibly difficult to keep saying no when they were so emotional and telling me how much I meant to them. I felt guilty, scared, exhausted and confused all at once, so I went back.
I know technically I could have continued with my plan, but emotionally, in that moment, I genuinely felt like I had no other choice. I couldn't bring myself to walk away when they were telling me all of that. It made me feel extremely guilty.
However, the next day, my brother and sis in law started asking me a lot of questions about why I left Islam and what I believe.
When I said that I simply don't believe in Islam anymore, they kept asking me to explain why and what specific values I disagreed with. I gave them surface-level reasons because I knew they might not understand, especially because they are religious and I have heard them speak negatively about people who have left the religion.
When I mentioned things like gender roles and not being able to express myself freely, they said those were "small" reasons to leave a religion. They asked things like whether I left because I believed things considered haram weren't actually haram, or whether I left because I wanted to do haram things.
That really upset me because that isn't how I see my decision at all. I still have a moral compass. I don't need religion to know that I should be kind, honest and considerate of other people.
My brother even asked if I disagreed with religious values such as donating, which really infuriated me. I donate when I can because I want to help people, not because I'm trying to earn "heaven points." It made me feel like they were starting to think that I was a bad person simply because I left the religion.
They also asked me what I believe in if I don't believe in Islam. I explained that I'm agnostic and tried to explain what that means, but when they asked whether that means I believe in God anyway, I didn't really know how to explain my beliefs anymore.
The conversation became increasingly uncomfortable because I felt like I was having to defend why I left Islam rather than simply being allowed to say that I don't believe anymore. They also asked why I didn't tell them that I was queer and ex-Muslim instead of leaving.
I tried to explain that I was scared. I've heard my family talk about queer people and ex-Muslims with anger and resentment for years. I was afraid that if I told them the truth, they wouldn't accept me or would see me differently. I have only ever told one relative face to face because I knew that person was openly accepting and I felt safe with them.
My brother and sis in law said that this was all new to them and that I couldn't expect them to understand everything immediately, and I understand that. I don't expect them to process everything overnight. But I also felt hurt because when I tried to explain why I was scared, some of the things they said made me feel like my reasons weren't valid.
I had already explained everything in the letter I left. They told me they had read it multiple times. Yet I felt like I was being asked to explain the same things again and again, and eventually I felt like I couldn't explain myself properly anymore. They kept telling me how hurt they were by what I had done. I understood their perspective. I understood why they were shocked, why they were scared, why they felt like I didn't trust them and why they were hurt that I left without telling them.
But when I tried to explain why I was hurt, I didn't feel understood in the same way. I felt like their feelings were being treated as completely understandable while mine were being questioned or invalidated.
At one point, my brother and sis in law said that they felt stupid for trusting me and for thinking that I trusted them, which hurt because I had literally come back because I trusted them enough to believe what they were telling me.
I kept telling them that I never wanted to leave my family. I wanted acceptance. I wanted to be able to live as myself without losing everyone I love. They also told me that they would slowly help me get the life I want, both within my family and eventually in life generally, but that it wouldn't happen overnight. But I don't even know if that will happen.
At one point I was emotionally breaking down so much that my brother made me swear on his life that I wouldn't leave like this again. I did. Part of me does trust them and believe that they aren't necessarily trying to hurt me. But another part of me is now terrified that I've made the wrong decision.
It's been almost a week since this happened, and they've been quite distant since everything happened. They don't really look at me or talk to me much, and I'm scared that they resent me or secretly hate me, even though they've told me they don't.
My sis in law is also pregnant, and all of this happened around the same time that they were going to announce the pregnancy to my parents. They told me about it the night I moved out, when they made me come back. I feel incredibly guilty because they kept saying that she needs to be stress-free and that I caused additional stress during what should have been a happy time for them. I never wanted to cause them this kind of pain.
My friends have been very upset with me too. They supported me through the entire process of moving out and were rooting for me for years. They think I let my family guilt-trip me and that I've undone years of planning. I've apologised to my friends multiple times because I understand why they were scared and angry. But I also feel like they don't fully understand why I went back.
I went back because I desperately wanted to believe that I could have both my family and the life I want. And now I'm scared that I have neither.
I also have another problem now: because I've returned home, I probably need to apply to university again. My family has been pressuring me to go to university, but I don't particularly want to start university immediately. One of the reasons is that they don't support me doing the course I'm actually interested in and would rather I choose something they consider more "practical."
I also don't think they would allow or support me going overseas to study, so "just go overseas for university" probably isn't a realistic solution for me.
I don't want to be trapped forever and have no freedom. But I also don't know if this is actually how the rest of my life will be because of my family.
I don't know what to do.
I'm very confused right now and would really appreciate perspectives from people who have been through something similar.
I can’t help but to kinda feel invalidated or imposter-like as someone who identifies as FTM in an all-girls school.
I never felt connected to girlhood and I feel very lonely as I can’t get along with anyone there. I heavily suspect that I may have gender dysphoria and I despise school wholeheartedly with all the strict rules & emphasis on being ladylike.
The only thing I care about is academics so I’m happy that I’ll probably be graduating this year as a sec 4 student.
I kinda want to hide my past of being in a single gender school for a fucking decade after graduation once I (hopefully) enter poly cause people may think I’m being a hypocrite for previously being in such a school while also being trans.
Hi guys, I'm almost 28 years old and I've been single my whole life. Honestly, it took me a long time to accept that I'm gay, and I feel like I wasted my youth not going out to explore and meet new people.
I've been trying to find a partner every now and then, mostly on dating apps, but it feels like a wasteland, and there aren't many people, especially in tiny Singapore. I also connect much better with people in real life and believe that pictures don't do anyone's personality justice, and I feel extremely superficial on apps when that's really not who I am in person.
I've been contemplating going to clubs for the longest time, but I don't drink, I don't like loud music and don't vibe or dance to them, and I hate staying out past midnight ._. I've also looked into local queer groups, but they're either for older demographics or student groups, neither of which fits what I'm looking for.
Does anyone have any suggestions on where or how I can find a partner? (Though I've somewhat prepared myself to live and die alone T.T)
For context, i am ftm. This is just a random qn for my trans friends out there but wanna ask because sometimes i can get away with it, sometimes i cant 💀
Basically whenever i watch movies rated M18, the ushers obviously ask for ur ic so when i present it to them i usually just cover the gender marker and id be fine. However there was a time where the usher asked for my ic physically instead of me just using my thumb to cover the marker and thats when i was like Oh Shit because ive already been on T for quite awhile + cis passing so i started to panic.
Obviously i had no choice and i had to give the uncle my ic and at first it was ok but he quite literally did a double take when looking at me and my ic LOL
Idk how to feel about it bc this happened quite awhile ago and i was expecting that to happen because he was also an old uncle la but i still felt paiseh 😶🌫️
How do yall usually evade this? Do u guys just give up ur ic or do u guys also do the same thing as i do?
hihiii!!
i’m ezther, 19, les and looking for queer gamer friends to play Minecraft/Valo with!!
- My interests / fav games :
Life is Strange 3
Cyberpunk 2077
Red Dead Redemption 2
Valorant
Minecraft (beginner)
- Bonus points if you’re a first year in NAFA Diploma in Digital Illust like me!!
We can talk about art/gaming and maybe irl hangouts!! (E.g Pinkdot / Art conventions!!)
Preferably 18+ peeps!!
I mainly use discord for communication so i’m not active on reddit!!
halo halo so basically what the tittle says! i am looking for more wlw friends to have infinite yap days and maybe play videogames someday!!
i like gaming (specially horror games), baking, sewing, watching movies and a lot of stuff lmao, so prob we already have something in common!! i LOVE seals, so if we talk i'll kindly spam u with gif seals <3. i might be a bit shy at first but i open up real soon i promise
english isnt my first language so i apologize for any mistakes!
Hi mid 20s wlw here! Im a late bloomer so quite new to the queer scene. Currently in IT (male dominated), so it’s been hard to meet queer people as some of my colleagues are openly homophobic :’(
I’m looking to get to know and make wlw friends around my age or older! I will be attending the upcoming Maju forest rally on 16th aug (sun), hoping to find people to go with :) Dm me if ur interested!
I like watching true crime podcast/documentaries (like rotten mango), action shows and tea spills videos! Rn Im watching lesson in chemistry! Open to any show or book recommendations :) Im also trying to exercise more (cycling, going on walks) and exploring new activities (volunteering, cafe hopping)
hiii!! i identify as nonbinary, afab, looking to find more lgbtq peeps in sg to bond with and maybe find a gf? haha idk sorry i don't really use reddit much but thought I'd give it a shot here (sorry if I'm doing things wrong)
some info about me!
interests are
- gaming (genshin impact, hsr, Minecraft, stardew, etc)
- cosplaying (taking a break bc idrh a cosplay group to go w in cons haha)
- music (cavetown enjoyer)
im istp, pretty shy at first but the more comfortable i am w you the more chaotic and louder i get haha, my love language is very much gift giving and spending time w people! ill go out of my way to make sure i get to spend time w you
feel free to dm or anything and I'll try to respond!! or give suggestions on where to meet more queer people, im gonna be trying to go to proud Spaces events when i have some free time next weekend!
Hi 👋, I’m Aeris Violette or just AV 😬
I’m Interested in HRT but I’m not to sure how the process go. Been looking at DIY solutions but I’m just afraid something would go wrong or get into unnecessary trouble.
What I understand in sg we have private and public and I’m leaning towards public so question is how was the experience of going through the process to get HRT by public way?
Thank you ☺️