u/1K1AmericanNights

Hey! I know a lot of people start having kids and then realize they need more help (or different kinds of help) than they expect. Our parents are a flight away but come often to help, and we have 2 kids right now (baby and toddler).

We had always planned for 4 kids.

However, over the course of having these two kids, I think we have realized that utilizing help can be more complex irl vs in our imagination. For example, unfortunately our kids’ bedtime routines have been challenging in practice for the grandparents to do. Of course, this may be easier in 1-3 years, but for the baby/toddler stage, it’s been hard.

Furthermore, I’ve started to realize his parents REALLY care about coming to help my husband when he is solo parenting (which happened once for a weekend trip), but do not have interest or comfort in doing it for me. Which is fine, but it does make me recontextualize how much help they are, on a personal level. I’m a SAHM and it definitely makes me think that we should wait to have our next kid

We have frozen embryos so time pressure is less for us. Definitely curious on thoughts and your own experiences.

Any tips for settings? I fixed it once but it seems to keep resetting. I want it DARK all the time and don’t mind if it’s dark at night either

Separately from the settings q, would an external lamp spotlight help?

My 13 pro max suddenly glitched and now the camera thinks it’s a different phone. It displays the newer zoom options (doesn’t work) and won’t load several types of video recording like cinematic. Portrait mode doesn’t work either. Help?

extra details: When it first happened it said I had a non-Apple camera, but that’s definitely not the case and the problem appeared mid-recording. After restarting, that went away but the camera is still broken