u/Alaina-Eleanor

Selamlar. Benim valide kendi Yapı Kredi vadesiz TL hesabından, Western Union üzerinden yine kendi adına para gönderecek.

Ama uzun süredir karşılaştığımız bir sorundur ki, söz konusu Vadesiz TL hesabı, ödeme seçenekleri arasında yer almıyor, sadece kullanmadığı Vadesiz Euro hesabı yer alıyor. Dedik, acaba banka TL üzerinden mi göndermiyor, ama hayır, mesela ödeme aracı için yeni bir Vadesiz TL hesabı açılabiliyor.

Bunun dışında kendi hesabımda da böyle bir problem var mı diye bakıyorum, ama yok. Başkalarına baktığımda onlarda da böyle bir problemin olmadığını gördüm. Neden sadece annemde çıktığını anlayamıyorum. Sebebini bilen var mıdır?

I wanted to ask about this because I'm an avid comic reader and have been in the X-Men fandom for a while. You can guess the reason behind... the minority, marginalized group metaphor.

However, I really don't feel like it is a good metaphor for the oppressed groups at all, moreso, it is a very liberal interpretation of the oppressed minorities imo.

I wanted to ask of this, because I'm new to the fandom, and I'm also newly learning about the leftist/anarchism from a more academic & intellectual sense. This is why I'm unable to put my finger on the exact problem. It's just that something doesn't sit right with me and I wanna know if there are other long-term fans of this franchise who are also leftists and could come to the mutant metaphor from a leftist approach, that can bring some clarity into this. I didn't know where else to share this.

I'm also curious how would an anarchist/egoist who lives in the same world as mutants, would approach them and see them as?

I wanted to ask about this because I'm an avid comic reader and have been in the X-Men fandom for a while. You can guess the reason behind... the minority, marginalized group metaphor.

However, I really don't feel like it is a good metaphor for the oppressed groups at all, moreso, it is a very liberal interpretation of the oppressed minorities imo.

I wanted to ask of this, because I'm new to the fandom, and I'm also newly learning about the leftist/anarchism from a more academic & intellectual sense. This is why I'm unable to put my finger on the exact problem. It's just that something doesn't sit right with me and I wanna know if there are other long-term fans of this franchise who are also leftists and could come to the mutant metaphor from a leftist approach, that can bring some clarity into this. I didn't know where else to share this.

I'm also curious how would an anarchist who lives in the same world as mutants, would approach them and see them as?

(English is not my first language)

It's not due to their ideology alone. It is their pro-Russian and especially pro-China stance. These nations, especially China, are literally becoming the bastion of white supremacism. They like to act like them being rival to the West will make them hated, but in reality, they're making agreements between each other and partition the world. They won't bring freedom to Ukraine, they'll partition it between Russia & the USA.

Most Russians and Hans take pride in the imperialism, atrocities and oppressions of their nations and if you look at the way they talk to the ethnicities they oppressed (instead of how they talk to white Westerners), you'll realize how much dehumanization there is in their attitudes. Yes they'll talk shit about the West and talk about the "Western propaganda" but they'll still feel and show much more respect to them than they'll respect people of the Global South. I am a non-Westerner who is in vicinity to these nations (my people are oppressed by both of them) and I personally know that both Russians and the Hans consider themselves superior to other ethnicities, alongside white Westerners, because of their domination & successful imperialism. They see the West as a rival they respect, not an enemy. And when they get the chance, they'd rather partake in oppression alongside the West, than against the West.

Supporting China and Russia will not make an alternative, it'll add a new bully at the detriment of the Global South. And I find it concerning that soooooo little minority of leftists are even aware of this. This is why I find the dominance of Marxists in leftist representation to be concerning because most of their loudest vouch for Russia & China.

It's screen is broken beyond repair, the screen needs to be replaced. The glass on the back is also broken, although the damage is small and maybe I can cover it with a phone case.

I took it to some repair shops a few times and they all told me the same thing: this is an old phone, with the cost you'd be spending on its repair, you can buy yourself a new phone.

Now I'm in a limbo. This phone works perfectly fine, it has no software or hardware problems at all for me, but the screen is in shambles. I currently don't have means to buy a new phone with the same quality as Note 8.

What do you think? Should I just keep it as an old thing with me, or should I get it fixed regardless of its cost?

Yeah. After several years in this beautiful country I'm moving. My stuff don't total to a full house. It is mostly my clothes, then books/hobby stuff and kitchen stuff. My biggest stuff are my coffee machine (height 35, length: 45 wideness: 30 cm) & airfry (~25 cm wideness & length, ~30 cm height). I need some boxes to put these stuff in, but most importantly I need those foams to fill these stuff. I know you can buy boxes from post offices (afaik they're not super big but still) or castorama, but idk where to get these foams from. Do you know which shops may have them?

Btw, I can go into Selgros & Macro because I'm a business owner here. So if you know if they sell any bigger boxes or foams please tell me. I'm currently dealing with paperworks and research about moving places & I don't have a car, I also live a little far to Srodmiesce, so I am unable to travel much around to look for myself.

So I'm an INTJ woman (who is AuDHD). I don't mind having female friendships and I prefer having healthy female friendhsips but damn interacting with young women with Fe is so hard for me. Especially with xNFJ women.

I've interacted with this type of girl since I was in school, so I immediately recognise the signs. Weirdly they often turn out to be xNFJs for me; and each time they end up being mean girls towards me even though I actually don't act bad to them at all. I'm saying they're xNFJs because it happens in MBTI circles and always happens with Fe users, especially xNFJs. I just do something and if it happens in vicinity of an xNFJ woman she comments on it with a hint of mockery and belittlement. I kinda started avoiding xNFJ/Fe user women, especially my age (20s or even early 30s). I don't have a problem with healthy Fi user women, and older & mature Fe user women. It happens so often with xNFJs I wanted to talk about it and seek if other xNTJ/Fi-user women can relate. Or is it me being neurodivergent that gets the bully side of these xNFJs?

It's not all Fe users for me. I can actually get along fairly well with xSTP women.

It is weiiiird like before I realized I was demisexual, I deadass used to think people fake their attraction but no these people were comitting to someone and having legit drama over it, over someone they don't know lol. Not to mention rooting for couples. Why am I rooting for anyone I don't see have any proper progress of a relationship when I don't even believe they're genuinely attracted to each other?

Also noticed how many allo women in the fandom root for a couple because they wanna fuck the guy so they self-insert into the girl.

You must be hearing that when women talk about men in long marriages, how that man "immediately knew the one he wanted to marry". Idk this is weird to me, knowing them and having had a lot of male friends. I think humans are humans and this idea can be an underlying sign of a greater problem. I just can't put my finger on it yet. But my very first feeling that came to me was "What's this? Is he choosing a doll from a toy shop?" it feels just so misognyistic idk why.

Someitmes the stories also go with an ex that was discarded by this man and whose time he wasted for a long time untile he "found his wifey."

I think this idea treats men as these "mystic" beings that somehow just know their soulmates, like precogs. It puts them in a very special place. I think this idea operates on a different logic these men hold when choosing "their one", which we need to crack.

That's all. Thanks for reading my brainstorm.

Yeah so I to start with, I'm AuDHD so it can be different to the typical INTJ experience. Or maybe I'm just too ignorant and closed off to most things to improve any intellectual opinions.

Like INTJs are told to be deep talkers but I can't do it all the time. Now I do have my own opinions on things, it's just that I don't have opinions on everything lol. It really takes me a while to form an opinion on things, long-term exposure/observations, research and reference from other people's perspective, rinse and repeat.

Ngl, this situation makes me insecure because I've many xxxP friends and intellectual friends (most of who are xNxP anyway) who can do a lot of idea exploration but I'm just stuck in the same place either agreeing them or too focused on one or two things I have opinions on. I feel like a boring person. You might ask how the heck do you socialize as an INTJ who can't do neither deep, philosophical, opinionated talks and hates small talks? I just shitpost and talk about very random small stuff I notice here and there or talk about what me & the other person wants in life. I guess Se-stimulation convos is how I compensate and that's why I have the most entertaining convos with xSxPs than xNxPs, lmao. In fact memeing, joking and bickering is the primary way I bond with people because it actually tells a lot about the openness and sociability of the other person imo.

My parent's always been impatient. I have no idea what their problem is, or was it inflicted by their parents. They just cannoy stand in the same space for ten seconds before throwing tantrums, they want everything get done in the same time even if that's not really possible. I just can't with their "physicality" and impatience. They keep telling me it is because they're an Aries, well idk zodiac but after putting all the responsibilities on me, just don't expect me to get all your shit done in a matter of seconds. I'm fucking exhausted.

I don't wanna say the names but you know it, those notorious illnesses. Even using their names fking disturb me, this anxiety started during the pandemic and absolutely messed me up. Before that, growing up in a family of older parents I watched my grandma and aunt pass away from breast illness.

I regularly get health scare related to it and I keep it so quiet and stay strong but I'm just fuming inside.

This makes me think of the larger problem we live in today. The fact that people in their 20s get diagnosed and die from illnesses because of environmental and food pollution and we simply don't even have access to any quality food or life to sustain ourselves. The fact that we don't have money to pay for healthcare that is heavily privatized to a point even if you live in a country with free healthcare, you'll not get a quality one unless you go to a private hospital.

The fact that us humans can literally achieve so much, we are so creative and we have so many people who come up with insanely good ideas to help develop humanity. Only to see those people either be fucking assasinated, or never given opportunity in the first place. All the while we're funding wars to kill more people.

We could have, we could achieve, so so many good things. We can overcome most of the anxiety we have with the improvment of our lifestyles, opportunities and sciences. But the human race is instead focused on killing and exploiting each other, which ironically will not even benefit the poeple "profitting" off of these in the long run. Whatever the fuck they are trying to do right now will eventually get them and they'll suffer from it too. No running away to Mars either as they polluted Earth's orbit with millions (if not billions) of satellites that will crash into their rockets the moment they try to escape.

Hey folks I need some advice from older people in navigation of my situation.

So as the title sugggests, I don't have a healthy dynamic with my family. I'm half-Turkish with a Turkish mother and a father who's neutralized citzen. I'm not connected to either cultures (as per my family raising me exclusively "Westernized") but I hold Turkish passport. I've been trying to immigrate elsewhere because it's really meaningless for me to be in a region which I am completely disconnected from, and have no proper family connections in.

My mother is extremely abusive todwards me. But she's my only support system. My father is also abusive (financially) and she's the only one who keeps him in check, so I'm vulnerable to her abuse which she thoroughly takes advantage of. If i am to stand up against her, she threatens my livelihood (which she did even when i was a kid, they're divorced so if I stood up against her, or didn't do what she wanted, she threatened to abandon me or leave me with my dad who would then force me to marry my cousins).

I know I'm responsible with this because I never gained independence. But it was due to my complete neglect (outside of my basic needs). I really had no idea how to navigate in life and I was left to my own tools. This is deadass something i'm just figuring out on my own at 26.

I want to become fully independent from this family but idk how am I going to navigate through this. I want my dad to support me financially for a while, but my mother is the one to keep him in check, and I just cannot live with her. She is just not capable of improving and I've given up on her. She fully expects me to be her caretaker since I'm dependent on them (basically they "take care of me" aka just give me their money and I do everything else, I even pay the bills and do household chores too btw) and if I decide cut things off, she'll hold grudges. She threatens me a lot, she hasn't really acted on much but I really don't know if she will act on it the second I cut her off. She'll become extremely bitter because it's her life goal to just leave the passport of this muslim country and get citizenship of a christian one (we're christians, so). She's depending on me to take care of her needs abroad, but I just can't do this shit. I get verbally and emotionally screwed over on top of undertaking highly stressful responsibilities while I'm also a disabled person (ADHD without diagnosis & medication).

Yes, just my personal opinion and experiences. As an INTJ woman with developed Fi, every single relationship I had with a TP or FP man ended in a heartbreak for me. Even in my friendships (they are better as friends indeed), I can sometimes find them frustrating due to how obstinate they can come off (due to dominant Ti & Fi).

As if it is really hard for TPs & FPs to develop their Fe & Te in a healthy way?

I think xxxJs with undeveloped Fi or Ti would do better with these types because TPs & FPs really need a partner to balance their rich inner world out with realistic approach. But being an INTJ with such strong Fi, I have a hard time to balance them out.

On the other hand I also feel much better with other xxxJ types (the healthy ones) as I noticed. The most contributive friendships I've had in my life were with ISTJs, ENTJs or xNFJs. There might have been healthy and mature xxFPs too but I may have missed them, idk. I think xxxJs, especially xxFJs are more soothing to me than xxTPs are (both being Fe users).

I love ESTPs. Really cool, sincere and friendly people. Very underrated, smart but also lively and fun to be around. I wish I had ESTP besties to forget everything with, and/or have a partner to make a team with. Loneliness sucks. Y'all are awesome.