I'll be in Dublin for 2-days and it is my second time being there. Last time I went on a day trip to Glendalough and Northern Ireland. I went to a couple museums and the Irish Whiskey Museum. Trying to plan for a good few days. Any ideas on day bus tours or cool things to do as a solo traveler?
I haven’t been working in nursing for that long, but a few years has done me in for a lifetime. And it’s not the patients. Sure, some can be annoying to work with, but generally, the patients have been pretty good. No, it’s the pettiness, drama, and sheer immaturity from other coworkers that truly exhausts me.
Before anyone says, “Other jobs have drama too,” I agree. Of course they do. But having worked in other fields (and having known various others who did the same and then ultimately left nursing), I can say with confidence that it simply isn’t on the same level or nearly as malicious. In fact, the professionalism in other fields almost feels like a distant other world at this point. These particular coworkers in nursing don’t just irritate me; they genuinely disgust me and are an example of someone I will never let myself be. I cannot fathom how grown adults can behave so immaturely, be so obsessed with drama, try to make coworkers look bad, and actively make the job harder for everyone around them. Yet, as we maintain a shortage, many cite this very reason as to why they left and it is my top reason why I will move oceans to leave this nightmare.
And let’s be real: most of these people are wellll into adulthood. Why do they *want* to make work harder? Why do they think deliberately making things difficult for their coworkers is somehow acceptable? If they could just wrap their clearly warped brains around one very simple concept, that we are all in this mess together, work would be infinitely better. You help your coworker out, they help you out. That’s how it should work.
But no. Instead, I’m apparently stuck in high school 2.0, except now there are adult responsibilities, patient safety, and twice the stress. All because some deranged coworker wants to gossip about pointless nonsense, stir the pot, or pick on someone.
Please, just grow up. Get some help. It’s sad you can’t function like a full-grown adult in the workplace. You’re not “tough” for acting like a high-school bully or harassing coworkers. You're not the goalpost, you just ignore your own mistakes. You aren't a patient advocate. In fact, you make for conditions that increase errors if you ever bothered to pick up a shred of research on hostile work environments. And don't use burnout as an excuse for poor behavior towards coworkers. You can be frustrated with your job and vocalize that. You're not entitled to take that out on your coworkers.
I haven’t been working in nursing for that long, but a few years has done me in for a lifetime. And it’s not the patients. Sure, some can be annoying to work with, but generally, the patients have been pretty good. No, it’s the pettiness, drama, and sheer immaturity from other coworkers that truly exhausts me.
Before anyone says, “Other jobs have drama too,” I agree. Of course they do. But having worked in other fields, I can say with confidence that it simply isn’t on the same level or nearly as malicious. In fact, the professionalism in other fields almost feels like a distant other world at this point. These particular coworkers in nursing don’t just irritate me; they genuinely disgust me and are an example of someone I will never let myself be. I cannot fathom how grown adults can behave so immaturely, be so obsessed with drama, try to make coworkers look bad, and actively make the job harder for everyone around them. Yet, as we maintain a shortage, many cite this very reason as to why they left and it is my top reason why I will move oceans to leave.
And let’s be real: most of these people are wellll into adulthood. Why do they want to make work harder? Why do they think deliberately making things difficult for their coworkers is somehow acceptable? If they could just wrap their clearly warped brains around one very simple concept, that we are all in this mess together, work would be infinitely better. You help your coworker out, they help you out. That’s how it should work.
But no. Instead, I’m apparently stuck in high school 2.0, except now there are adult responsibilities, patient safety, and twice the stress. All because some deranged coworker wants to gossip about pointless nonsense, stir the pot, or pick on someone.
Please, just grow up. Get some help. It’s sad they can’t function like a full-grown adult in the workplace.
Anyone know where I could find a pair. I’m noticing a lot of knee to thigh high boots are now made large and they don’t look as fitted on my leg.
I admittedly went into nursing during the pandemic after my science degree because it seemed like a safe option. I liked science, healthcare, and the idea of nursing. I liked learning about medications and how the body works. However, once I started working, I quickly realized it wasn’t what I was looking for. I’ve been looking for options since then and it just feels like no one has further ideas, which had made me feel boxed in.
Nursing made me realize I’m very introverted and find the amount of patient interaction in nursing draining. I like diving into the nitty-gritty details, but nursing doesn’t always allow that with the constant tasks to accomplish. Nursing has made me a better worker, a better multi-tasked, and strengthened my critical thinking, but I’d ideally like something where I can really fixate on details and have less interaction with people. 😅 I’m also wanting more flexibility as I’d like the ability to travel more than once a year.
I’ve spent the last year exploring different things, and I’m more confused than ever. I’ve volunteered in research to see if I’d like it, but I’m only doing calls and paperwork. I’ve looked on Indeed, but I’m not sure what I’d qualify for. I’ve looked at some postgrad programs posted online but people say there aren’t any jobs. I’ve made posts online, but people always circle back to nursing. The thing is, I want to branch out from healthcare. I’d love to hear about postgrad programs I could look at, alternative career paths where my nursing background would be an asset, or even careers I’d need to retrain for. I’m in a fortunate position where finances aren’t as much of a concern.
I’ve been trying to search for a career that will build the kind of lifestyle I want, but often when I ask this question, I find people refer back to my current career that doesn’t make me happy. I then feel like I’m left in a feedback loop.
With time, I’ve discovered I want more flexibility, I value travelling more, the ability to work on niche projects, the ability to work solo and with people. I currently work in nursing and I have some experience in marketing. Nursing is not what I want to do for the rest of my life. Long story short, it just doesn’t fit my personal needs. It’s a very extroverted job. I’m introverted. It’s a very Type A job. I’m type B. It lacks flexibility in the sense that I can’t make my own schedule or travel a couple of times a year. I also feel like I lack the autonomy I crave.
I live in Canada, but with careful thought, I have realized I am willing to move to Europe or even the US long-term if an opportunity presents itself for schooling or job transfer. I’m more than willing to go back to school and I love school. I’m just not sure what kind of career options are available and what kind of education I’d need for them.
Bought the drybar blowdrying brush a while back and I was in love. It made my routine sooo easy and I could never get a nice blowout before.
Sadly, after 2-years of use, I’m noticing a lot of shorter hairs that appear to be breakage. I’m not really sure what to do because I don’t love how my hair dries otherwise. I have fine and wavy hair that has a mind of its own. A cowlick in one of the front baby hairs 😭
Has anyone found a solution to this problem?
I’ve always been curious about living in the US, but I’ve been hesitant over the last several years because of the political climate. As I get older, I’m starting to wonder whether I’m going to find what I’m looking for if I stay in Canada long-term.
I’m currently an RN in Canada and have a previous science degree (I completed an accelerated nursing program). My experience has been in critical care and procedural areas. While I’m grateful for my nursing background, I’m increasingly realizing that nursing itself may not be the right long-term fit for my personality and the lifestyle I want. I’m exploring career paths that are more transferable, potentially remote, or allow me to work on innovative projects. I’d also be interested in potentially picking up an opportunity as a nurse in the US under TN for a shorter period of time just to see what it is like for myself. I hear a lot of negative on the Canadian side, but Idk. There seems to be more opportunities for the kind of life I’d like to build?
I’ve looked into different options for career changes in Canada, but I often feel discouraged by how volatile many fields seem, how difficult it can be to break into something new, and how limited most opportunities feel. I could be wrong, but it seems like many roads are either high risk or a dead end. I’ve tried gaining experience in research as well, but I haven’t felt like I’ve found an environment where people are especially excited about the work they’re doing.
I’m interested in areas where my skills might transfer and other fields out of my expertise. I want something a bit more flexible than nursing and maybe where I’m not dealing with people 24/7. I want to be able to do more travelling and as a nurse, I only get to do that once a year. I enjoy learning and would definitely do more schooling if it opened doors, but I’m hesitant to make the investment in Canada without knowing there are realistic opportunities afterward.
I’ve always felt drawn to the US. I spent a lot of time there growing up because my grandparents were from the US, and I remember enjoying the culture and opportunities. I’m curious what the reality is like in recent times for Canadians who have made the move.
Do you feel there are more opportunities in the US compared to Canada? Is dating much different there? Expenses compared to Canada? Making connections and new friends? Does it offer a better lifestyle? Do you regret moving at this stage in time or would you do it again given the chance?
TLDR: Canadian RN with a science background exploring whether moving to the US on a TN visa would be a good move. I’m interested in transitioning away from nursing into something more innovative, transferable, and potentially remote. Great if it connects to my experience, but also not necessary. I’m looking at longer-term options that would be the best fit and that I can eventually transfer with. Curious what careers are realistic for Canadians on TN visas and what life is actually like in the US, professionally and personally. Would love to hear from Canadians who made the move and whether they’d do it again.
Did anyone else realize they had outgrown where they lived, and that it was affecting their dating life?
I live in a small Canadian province, and over the last few years I’ve increasingly felt trapped when it comes to dating.
The dating pool is tiny, and I’ve found it incredibly difficult to meet someone I’m genuinely attracted to who also shares my values, doesn’t do drugs, and has ambitions and a career they’re passionate about. At one point I even wondered if I was asexual, but nope. I think I’m just rarely attracted to the people available here.
I stayed with my ex longer than I should have because he was a good person, and I hoped attraction would grow. Instead, it slowly disappeared. We wanted very different lives. He wanted kids in our 20s and was content staying here, while I envisioned something different. He was also my only ex as I started dating late due to social anxiety. By the time I had outgrown my social anxiety, I had found him in my mid-20’s.
Over the last 2-years, I’ve started wondering if I may have to leave my province if I ever want a realistic chance at finding a compatible partner. Now I’m 30, and all of these realizations seem to be hitting at once. I’m struggling because:
Dating: After 3+ years of online dating here, I honestly don’t think the odds are in my favour anymore. It feels like I’ve already met most of the people I’m likely to be compatible with. There are constantly the same people on the apps and I genuinely haven’t met anyone single out and about. My last several dates have gone like this… guy 1 says he doesn’t do drugs. Is completely sober. I find out he vapes everytime he is outside, drinks at every meal and does mushrooms + pot in his spare time. Guy 2- ghosts. Guy 3- says he wants kids in the next year. Guy 4-moving away in 2-months. Guy 5- moving back to Europe.
Family: My parents are older and have both had recent health issues. They’ve always been there for me, and I’m struggling with the possibility that I may have to choose between staying close to them and giving myself a better chance at finding a life partner. They also get upset whenever I mention moving.
Community: Since the pandemic, I’ve felt increasingly disconnected from my province. Many of my friends have moved away, career opportunities feel limited, and it often feels like the community is shrinking rather than growing. Making new friends has also been difficult because people tend to already have established social circles.
Career: I know I want to switch careers long-term, but I’m trying to figure out how to do that while also deciding where I want to build my life and hopefully meet someone. I wish I’d had these realizations at 20 instead of 30 because the pressure feels much heavier now.
One thing I’ve consistently noticed is that I almost always click better with people who aren’t from here or who have lived elsewhere. Ironically, they usually end up moving away anyway.
I also find myself hesitant to date people whose goal is to settle here permanently, which makes me wonder if I’ve simply outgrown where I live.
Lately I’ve been dreaming about moving somewhere completely different, maybe even abroad. Not because I think moving magically solves everything, but because I wonder if I’d feel more aligned with the people, opportunities, and lifestyle there. The only thing that really stops me is my age and pressure to settle things.
Has anyone else experienced this? Did you find that your lack of attraction was more about your environment than yourself? Did moving somewhere with a larger dating pool or different culture change your outlook on dating, relationships, or even your sense of belonging?
My family wasn’t big on travel when I was growing up, and neither were my friends. Then the pandemic happened, everyone moved away, and I lost opportunities chasing stability that I’m now struggling to come to terms with.
I’ve always romanticized adventure and the idea of living life to the fullest. Now I’m 30, and it’s hitting me that I’ve never experienced living in another country. I don’t love my job either, and I feel like I’m constantly spinning my wheels trying to figure out what I actually want. I know I absolutely don’t want to stay in this career but I have zero idea where to go from here.
I’m feeling increasingly disconnected from life in Canada, and despite trying for years, I haven’t been able to build the kind of friendships where people want to travel or do things together. The friends I did have mostly moved away. I try to plan trips with them but my schedule for vacation time is very rigid. I also haven’t found a partner, so it feels like every part of my life is up in the air right now.
I really want to learn how to plan solo trips or find a way to travel while working. There’s a girl I grew up with who’s been living and traveling abroad for the past six years, and I honestly have no idea how she makes it work. I’d love to build a life that gives me that same sense of freedom and adventure.
I sold a blouse for $5 in brand new condition. It was quite big on me so I did post it as a medium and I thought I put in the comments it was a size small, but fit like a medium. I made the post 2-years ago and just recently reposted it after I moved. I did forget to check the tag and forgot it has a size small on there. I deleted the post after it sold because I tend to use the option to repost everything so I can’t go back to check.
The buyer messaged me wanting a refund as I advertised as a medium and it doesn’t fit her. Should I do so since I definitely didn’t mean to falsely advertise.
So I’m looking at buying another horse and although I make out well, I’m pretty anxious about inflation and now board etc being taxed… I’ve saved quite a bit for a cushion and am looking at career changes + side gigs down the road to maximize income in the face of inflation. It is also to improve my satisfaction with work overall when making a change, but I’m still figuring out what I want.
I’m just curious what others are doing that are comfortably paying for board. I was looking at becoming a certified instructor for a while as something to help fund my horse hobby, but when I looked at all the associated costs with Equine Canada, I was floored. The math simply didn’t make sense as I would have to be doing it nearly full-time to make any profit.
I’ve been looking for a 2-4-year old dressage prospect for mid-upper level for about 2 years and it has been a struggle. There have been maybe 4 I’ve seen or heard about over the 2-years. One sold within a week at a reasonable price and I unfortunately was stuck at work. The others are asking 35k+ and I do not want to spend that much. I’m also running into the problem that people seem to be breaking their horse’s in very early… around 2-years. A coach of mine referred me to a horse she really liked that just turned 1. I actually really like the horse.
I have the experience to bring on a yearling, but I board and our boarding situation is limited. It has also gone up substantially so there aren’t really any cheap pasture boarding options anymore. I do know of a few places I could call and the breeder would be willing to board the horse for an additional 3-4 months. That also means that my other horse would be at a different barn anywhere from 30-45minutes apart.
I do miss riding and obviously a yearling will be further away from that. I was still planning to put a years worth of groundwork into a 2-3-year old but I was excited at the idea of getting back into things again. I do have riding opportunities but not delving into dressage and I don’t know if I’ll be able to manage those riding opportunities + a yearling’s training time + my other retired horse.
The problem I keep running into is there being extremely limited options for what I’m looking for and willing to pay and I wonder if I’ll be running into the same issue next year when I could then have a 2-year old.
I’m newer to the operating room and have had colleagues give me opposing answers to this. Unfortunately it happens often enough that surgeons are late and I want to ensure I’m doing the proper thing. I’ve had some staff tell me to bring the patient in the room for scheduled cases even if the surgeon has not seen the patient to keep times, but I feel this could be a liability if the surgeon had to go over some things with the patient first. I usually call to clarify if the patient needs to be seen, but I’ve been told a few times to not do this and just bring the patient in. What do you do in your OR?
I feel like I’ve been on a hamster wheel since the pandemic and I just don’t know where to go next. I have a degree in biology but struggled to get any jobs or volunteer or internships in my area. Eventually I gave up and went the accelerated nursing route. It’s a stable job and I’ll always have it as a backup but it wasn’t the best choice for me as an introvert 😅 I like people, but it’s just too much all the time with super strong personalities surrounding me. I also recognize how difficult it is to pivot into other paths from nursing. It just isn’t as flexible as I once thought. Long-term I want something that allows growth in salary, skills, autonomy and expertise. I don’t mind working with people and I think it is good to be able to socialize to some degree, but I’ve found I also need my quiet time.
The problem is that I’ve been exploring alternative careers for a while now, whether that’s a master’s degree, a career pivot, or another degree entirely. But I keep hearing that entry-level jobs are becoming harder to break into and I’m very unclear about what paths are actually accessible. I don’t know if I’m looking in the wrong places or if there are options I haven’t considered yet. It just feels like an uncertain time for a lot of people.
I realize ghosting should be used when safety is at risk, but it is used far too often than that.
My friend of over a decade just ghosted me after I had a conversation with her about something hurtful she said about my job. My thinking was we could build stronger ties and she did apologize so I thought. She stopped messaging me back 3-months ago. She would always say how she’s honest to a fault and now I feel betrayed that she even said that because an honest person doesn’t ghost.
I’m obviously devastated. I held the highest respect for this person. We are also in our 30’s and I’d expect to communicate like a mature adult. If she didn’t want to remain friends, then fine, but one should communicate that with the other person like a grown person.
Just an fyi for anyone who ghosts… don’t. It’s cruel and I’m pretty sure I’ve seen children have better conflict resolution skills. If you need time or a break, just say so.
I’m from Canada. Since the pandemic, I’ve found myself feeling less aligned with my home country. Not for the reasons that often get discussed, but because of certain social and cultural patterns I’ve become more aware of over time.
In general, I feel quite isolated here. I have my family, which I’m grateful for, but building new friendships or finding a sense of community as an adult has felt surprisingly difficult. If it weren’t for my family, I think I would have left long ago. I thought this was normal until I took a trip to Europe to visit a friend… everyone seemed so inclusive and welcoming at large. I find people in my own country are standoffish until you get to know them well.
Part of it is what I perceive as a more passive-aggressive communication style. People are often polite on the surface, but not necessarily direct about what they think. Instead, communications tend to come out through subtle comments or indirect behaviour. More than once, I’ve run into people I’m friendly with but not friends with who have seemingly gone out of their way to avoid saying hello in public, which has always struck me as odd.
I’ve also noticed that there are more materialistic comparisons than I realized when I was younger as well. For example, people judging based on what you wear, drive or what job you have.
I know making friends as an adult is challenging almost everywhere, but I’ve noticed that even when I meet new people and we genuinely enjoy spending time together, the connection often fades quickly. Unless someone lives nearby or is already embedded in your routine, it can be difficult to maintain momentum. Most of my closest friends are people I knew from high school, but they’ve all moved elsewhere.
Overall, I sometimes feel that we are less community-oriented than we once were and less accepting of people who don’t neatly fit into established social circles. Maybe it has been like this all along or maybe this is a specific momentum that took place after the pandemic? There often seems to be a strong emphasis on cohesion and conformity, which can make it harder to build meaningful connections outside existing networks.
In recent years, I’ve wanted a change and feeling a lot of uncertainty on how to go about it as I no longer have my 20’s. I feel a bit frozen in place. My immediate family of course doesn’t want me to leave and I also don’t want to leave them. At the same time, my last close friend nearby whom I’ve known for over a decade just ghosted me after I nicely brought up a comment she said that hurt me so I feel pessimistic about the ability to build a community here.
Anyone else feel the same?
I volunteer with a research organization on my days off from work. I originally started because I wanted a better understanding of how the care I provide affects people long term, and also to gain some research experience in case I decide to pivot careers in the future. I’m hoping to expand into data entry and other research-related tasks as well. Outside of this, I’ve volunteered with various organizations for about a decade.
My current role mainly involves making follow-up calls and collecting survey data. During training, I was told that it was acceptable to wrap up about 15 minutes before the end of a shift because the questionnaire takes at least 15 minutes to complete, and it wouldn’t make sense to start a call you couldn’t finish.
During my last shift, I finished all the calls in my file and brought everything to the coordinator about 15 minutes before my scheduled end time. She responded with, “I thought I scheduled you until X time?” At first I thought I had mixed up my hours, but I checked my phone and it was exactly 15 minutes before my scheduled end time.
She confirmed that I was scheduled until X, so I said, “I guess I can fit in one more call.” I ended up calling numbers where I had already left messages since I had called everyone in the pile and, as expected, didn’t reach anyone. I left at my scheduled end time.
I’ve finished 15 minutes early before and nobody has ever said anything. Last month I was also dealing with a heavy workload and a parent’s health issues. They knew I was working full-time during their operating hours up until this point, although I managed some ways to fit them in until I exhausted my flexibility. Last month I was short 3-hours as a result of FT-hours, although I had worked extra hours the month prior to that. I’m also the only volunteer who is actively working a full-time career; the others are university students.
Am I reading too much into this? I’ve never volunteered anywhere that was particularly strict about departure times as long as the work was done.
Ps: I’m sorry. I think I put this under the wrong tag. Just looking for advice/perspectives.
I’m sure there have been plenty of posts asking about medicine as a potential career, but bear with me.
I’m currently an RN, and ever since I entered the profession, I’ve felt it has been a poor fit. I love the learning, problem-solving, and critical thinking involved in the job, but the lack of autonomy, responsibility without authority, inability to develop true expertise in a specific area, and perhaps most of all the constant daily workplace politics have worn me down.
I’m fairly introverted and perhaps a bit neurodivergent. While I’ve always been friendly with my coworkers, I’ve often felt like I don’t quite fit in with the nursing culture in many of the environments where I’ve worked.
Both of my parents were physicians, and I’ve spent a lot of time discussing the possibility of pursuing medicine with them. They’ve been clear that medicine comes with its own challenges. The stress is different rather than less, the responsibility is greater, and people tend to have less sympathy for physicians than nurses. At the same time, they’ve pointed out that I might enjoy the greater autonomy, the opportunity to develop deeper expertise, and the ability to spend more time immersed in medical knowledge and independent decision-making.
I’ve also considered other career changes, but in Canada I’ve found significant barriers to both alternative nursing careers and starting over in a completely different field. Many of the non-clinical nursing roles seem difficult to break into or non-existent, and I haven’t found many alternatives that genuinely appeal to me. It seems other careers are also experiencing cuts and uncertainty for the future. As a result, medicine remains one of the few career paths I continue to seriously consider.
Since the pandemic, costs have been rising quickly, and I’ve already seen several boarding and lesson barns shut their doors for good.
I grew up with horses and have loved every minute of being involved with them. Right now, I can still afford it, but I do worry about whether that will stay true in the future with inflation and rising costs.
I’ve also considered moving provinces before, but it feels more difficult now than ever when boarding costs have increased so much alongside costs of living.
Does anyone else worry about where the horse world is heading long term? Is affordability becoming a bigger concern for others too?