u/Ancient-Fan-2636

Not sure how many of you remember me, I posted much earlier this year (around Jan-Feb) about my frustrations around being a foster teen and never being taken in

good update, I have found a placement that’s been absolutely wonderful for me! I had my baby in March and have been doing fantastic. My foster mom has been an absolute angel throughout the last 6 or so months. I turn 18 this month and moving my case over to voluntary as she has offered to keep her home open to me and my baby for as long as I need.

she only takes in teens and worked in Cali in a foster care agency and knew that pregnant teens were hard to place, so she specifically asked for any to be placed with her if it arises.

To all the FPs who work with us teens, you are absolutely amazing. We are not easy, but we are human and thank you for treating us as such.

EDIT: title is supposed to say erotic transference, apologies, I hate my iPhone.

so, I’m a minor, my therapist is an adult male with a wife and kids. I have a lot of sexual trauma with adult men, but we have a WONDERFUL connection and I don’t want to cause him to discontinue therapy (I have been seeing him since 14 and will be an adult soon, he has actively been there through a lot my traumatic events) but considering my history (we’ve already talked about my hypersexuality, attraction to older men out of trauma, etc) I do think it would be important to work through. How do I bring this up in an appropriate and therapeutic way that doesn’t make it awkward or uncomfortable?? ☹️ i genuinely have been getting so far in my treatment with him I don’t want to ruin anything.

Up until now me and bub have done cosleeping, I’m a single mom and I handle all of our appointments during the week, plus my own shit and I don’t really have a village. He’s now 5 months, I want to start transitioning him to his crib. How should I go about it? I want to avoid CIO so I’m also looking for gentle sleep training methods. Anything helps. TIA!!

ETA: around 2.5-3 months he was adjusted to his own sleep space completely, he’s a good sleeper. I let him in my bed one night while he was really sick and he then only wanted in my bed so I have a feeling he’ll adjust okay, I just don’t know how to go about it.

can I just say that I love formula feeding my baby? I refuse to let anyone guilt me anymore I LOVE formula feeding.

Breastfeeding made me so so anxious and depressed and my bub has officially beeb formula fed for 2 months and I feel like a weight has LIFTED. I feel like a human again!! occasionally I still get sad about the fact my breastfeeding journey ending but then i remember all the nights I stayed up sobbing and realize that it’s for the best, for both of us.

I don’t worry about mastitis, I finally get a reasonable amount of sleep, I’m not washing pump parts or stressing over my supply, if I’m overproducing or underproducing. I’m not fortifying his breastmilk because my milk wasn’t dense enough calorically.

He’s so happy and healthy!! and so am I finally. I wish I wouldn’t have made myself miserable for sooo long lol I tried so hard at my own expense, I made myself suicidal instead of accepting that it’s okay to feed my baby however works. I wish breast is best hadn’t been so ingrained into me during my early post partum :,)

Happy post because i genuinely feel like I’m getting my humanity back at 5 months pp

is that okay??? Just mailed the monitor back a few days ago and found the booklet in my purse. do they need the booklet? 😭

I’m on the episodes where house starts hallucinating amber.. on s5 e23 after he insulin shocks himself and I’m genuinely nervous that she’s gonna show up LOL???? great work on these episodes honestly

edit: oh my fucking god she’s back

my LO is 4.5 months old, sleeps great throughout the night, sleeps well during the day too. My only thing is, no matter what I do, he literally makes himself cry it out before he goes to sleep. He could be in his own bed, next to me, in my arms, his swing, whatever and he just cries and screams. I try the pacifier, a bottle, my knuckle/a teether, nope. Spits it out, keeps screaming, until about 5 minutes later he gracefully accepts the pacifier and/or bottle and then sleeps fine. I’ve tired everything to help at this point. He gets Tylenol before he sleeps for teething, he’s changed, diaper cream on. Mylicon in his bottles. Rocking, bouncing, swaying, white noise, talking to him. Nothing helps expect just sitting there with him and waiting until he’s ready to stop screaming. Is there any reason for this?? do I just let it keep happening??? At this point when he starts doing it I just hold him and tell him all I can do is sit here with him while he’s angry and wait.

Yesterday I found out my fiance was leaving me home at night with our 7 week old baby to rape a 15 year old girl, and may have gotten her pregnant. 15 year old girl reached out to me with proof he then left the house and blocked me on everything, blocked basically everyone he knows, turned off his location on everything and at 3 in the morning today I found out he was on a plane to Texas. I’m honestly just baffled and wondering where the cameras are gonna pop out from and tell me I’ve been pranked??? I don’t really know what to do I am now stuck with a newborn, no support, all of my emotions, no income, and a police report to file.