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in my twenties and constantly trying to improve myself, but I still feel unsure about almost everything.

I’m not smooth or naturally quick at handling situations like other people seem to be. I can be awkward, a little slow, and people sometimes treat me like someone to pity for no obvious reason.

Looking good doesn’t really help when my personality gives off that kind of energy.

I don’t know why I come across this way or where to even start fixing it. I feel like a lot of my anxiety comes from the fear that I’m not ready to handle the challenges of the real world.

Posting here hoping some of you can explain this to me straight. Maybe I'll get better advice from men in their 30s

Today was my first day at the new job. I thought corporate would be different, but one guy already started testing me. He kept pushing me to come outside and smoke. When I said no, he said loudly, “Darr kyu raha hai?” making jokes, taking my name out loud, and basically trying to put me on the spot and make me look soft.

I shut it down, but it still overwhelmed me. I’m not a very sensitive person, but things like this usually overwhelm me.. and i hate it....And I hate myself for being an easy prey in the same way.

Why do people like this do it?

What exactly do they get out of targeting someone who looks innocent?

Is it just boredom, status, insecurity, or something else?

I want to know what actually works to stop being the one they pick?

Please be honest. I need to understand the “why” so I can deal with it better.

In school/college, I was surrounded by stronger friends, so people usually didn’t mess with me.

But here I’m on my own, and at some point in life you have to learn to be on your own.

I’m trying to figure out what the real reason is. Let honestly let me know My mistakes and how to i Stop this.

Do you think it’s because I have low social awareness and don’t sense people properly?

Or is it mainly because I have this soft-boy look ... skinny, soft face, kind of looking like I’ve never even killed a bee in my life . and I never built a proper physique?

I really want to know which one is the biggest factor according to you guys.

Help me find this !

I know calisthenics is way harder than regular gym training, not even trying to compare the two. But how tf do these dudes get this jacked doing calisthenics only 😭

I always thought it was more geared towards a lean, athletic build, so how do some of these dudes get this jacked and big from it?

Baarish me jane ke liye 10/10 jagah hai, lekin dhup me bhi buri nhi thi

Got this black Henley from Myntra because I wanted something minimal instead of graphic tees.

I ordered a slightly smaller size for a better fit since I don’t have a good physique, but now I’m not sure I can pull it off outside 😭

Be brutally honest...does it look good or a bit off? I can still return it, and I don’t wanna look cringe at my internship 😂

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Already sabki life me bhot tension hai, toh apna kya hi sunau...

I turned 22 today.

I'm writing this sitting in my sales office after barely getting any sleep. Heart feels heavy , In a few minutes I'll be back to cold calling people for the next 8 hours, at a job that barely pays enough to cover my commute.

Im a fresh B.Tech grad Unplaced.

Sometimes I wonder how I ended up here.

A couple of years ago, I genuinely believed I'd build something good for myself. I wasn't expecting life to be easy, but I never imagined this would be where I'd be at 22.

I know I had potential.

Somewhere along the way, things just started slipping through my hands like sand.

When things were going well, people were around , celebrated my achievements.

Now that I've fallen behind in race of life , it's just... me. All by my own

Lately I've been missing childhood more than ever.

Those monsoon mornings when I'd go to school wearing that tiny raincoat.

The smell of fresh mangoes

The smell of brand-new books before the school year started.

It's July, 2009.

I'm standing outside my classroom because I forgot to do my homework.

My friend goes,

"Sir isko mat maro, iska birthday hai."

(He still punished me. 😂)

I get home all excited because shaam ko cake bhi toh kaatna hai. Bahar utni hi acchi barish hori Hai

So pehle homework khatam karta hu.

By evening, relatives slowly start coming over.

The cake's on the table.

Everyone's smiling.

Life felt so... small.

And somehow, so complete.

Now it's July again.

I'm 22.

Sitting in an office, wondering where that kid disappeared.

Please don't wish me "Happy Birthday."

If you want to wish me something, bas itna wish kar do ki I somehow get out of this phase.

That I find work I'm actually proud of.

That one day I wake up without carrying this constant guilt on my shoulders.

Because it's exhausting.

I can't even think about the next 40 days.

Eight hours of sales every day.

As an introvert.

For a salary that barely feels worth leaving home for.

My family environment is pretty toxic, so depending on them financially isn't really an option either.

It feels humiliating , if I'd worked at the some mall in retail or picked up random odd jobs, I'd probably be earning more than I am right now.

I just hope that one day, I'll look back at this post and be grateful that I didn't give up.

Right now though...

I just want my life to start moving again.

1-1.5 saal se 5g chala ra tha, Achank se itna slow hogya ki message tak nhi jare😭

No bs , I'm 22M fresh grad ,not getting jobs in tech, broke af and *open to pretty much any job with a decent pay.*