u/Apprehensive-Use2467

I'm in my mid 30s, back at university for a career change and most of my peers are in their early 20s. I am not trying to be hyperbolic, perpetuate generational divides, or parrot the tired 'no one wants to work anymore' rhetoric. I am actually expressing GENUINE CONCERN for the state of their cognitive health and level of functioning. I have never, in my life, been surrounded by so many people with no manners, no decorum, no regard for their professors, for knowledge, for their classmates, for peoples time. The fundamental lack of respect that they show - literally listening to tiktoks aloud in class, vaping inside every single crevasse of a building, not cleaning up after themselves - is astounding. I get it, we were all young, I look back on being 20 and cringe a how insufferable I was. But there was a level of containment. Today, the 'bored and unbothered' generation expects everyone around them to tolerate their apathy and discourtesy as if they are exempt from being functioning members of society. ADDITIONALLY - PLEASE work on your human to human and interpersonal skills. The gen z stare is not funny. Your lack of comprehension, complete and total loss of critical thinking and problem solving skills, co dependency, illiteracy and poor emotional regulation are CONCERNING!!!! Talking to you feels like talking into a mute abyss. Please, for the love of actual god, develop some skills. Its not funny, its not kitsch, its not a meme - its real life whether its palatable or not.

My OSAP was confirmed in June for $21,000 and I just woke up this morning that it’s been reduced down to $9,000 for the year. Barely pays tuition. Anyone else? Why is this happening 4 days before school?

As the title suggest, I have HAD IT with this INSANE push toward tiny appliances. My husband and I are looking for a new rental, not small or cheap I'd say, usually main floors of houses that have been renovated etc for at least 3k a month, and I would say 9/10 times they either have an 18 inch dishwasher, 20 inch stove that you can barely fit a pan inside, or a 24 inch wide fridge. My husband works in construction, the amount of food that man eats just to hit maintenance is insane, how the F am I supposed to fit anything inside the 19 inches of space in the fridge? For the love of actual god, stop being so mother f'ing cheap, install NORMAL SIZED APPLIANCES. I KNOW THEY FIT. I DON'T NEED AN UGLY BUILT IN WINE RACK. I NEED AN F'ING STOVE THAT I CAN COOK ON.

Hi allllll,

My boyfriend and I are looking to do a 10-14 day road trip (round trip) from Toronto to PEI in early October, as thats the only time we can both get time off work. We have a dog, big into nature and hiking, and neither of us have been out east before. We have family in Montreal so we think that would be our first stop, and then looking for advice from there on how to break up the trip and how many days to spend in each place. Also any food/accommodation recommendations would be great as well! I'm sure theres a million threads on this exact question but just wanted to have as much info in one place. thanks everyone :)

This post is not meant at all to perpetuate a generational divide. I am simply just asking about the endurance of friendships! I (32F) have created a decent friendship with two of my younger colleagues/interns (21M and 22F) and I love laughing with them at work and we've bonded over many things, but I have a hard time translating that into a genuine friendship outside of work for two main reasons. 1) I genuinely feel like early 20 year olds experience time on a different frequency. Once 5pm hits, they're completely untethered. They just want to vibe, walk around the mall, check out random stores, window shop, just sit in a random park, walk over here, walk over there. They eat dinner late and go to sleep late. They almost always ask me to hang out after work and I'm just looking around thinking I need to get home, walk my dog, prep dinner and lunch, go to the gym, shower and read my book all before 10pm! I don't have time to just 'check out that park' on a random Tuesday night! 2) This I'm sure is an overgeneralization, but I feel like since they were so young when covid hit, they just have such severely limited life experiences. Dating, romantically, travel, concerts, living independently, partying, drinking, going out, everything. I often find that I have to dial it back a lot when talking with them about my past experiences and it just feels stifling and inauthentic. It's only a 10 year gap, but I absolutely have more in common with someone who's 41 rather than someone who's 21. Just wondering if anyone else has experienced the same and if you have advice, if you feel like you can have a genuine true friendship with someone who is at such a distinctly different life stage than you are?

Hi all,

My partner and I are new to using Feeld and it had come recommended to us by several other couples who were non monogamous as well. I just assumed that the purpose of the app was for couples seeking other couples or a third, but ever since I joined this sub, I’m getting the vibe that Feeld has lost it’s heart and purpose for many of its users. When you signed up for Feeld, what were you hoping to use it for? How come it has diminished so much for people? Have couples seeking thirds ruined the experience for all? Trying to find the source of people’s frustrations here so that learning may benefit us all! Thanks everyone.

Listen I know there are many different types of nonprofits and most do make an impact. I’ve spent 15 years working in various nonprofits and I personally feel that those focused on service brokerage or connecting clients to programs don’t actually achieve anything. My job is 50% telling clients experiencing acute homelessness, poverty, addiction, mental health, domestic abuse etc that they don’t qualify for xyz service, or that waitlists are 1.5 years long, or a funding restructure changed a catchment area, or that there simply isn’t capacity for them to receive immediate support. The other 50% feels like completely made up nonsense just to fill our time and schedule. I spent 35 minutes in a meeting this week listening to upper management argue about which term ‘difficult’ or ‘struggle’ was less stigmatic and more inclusive. We spent 2 hours discussing how the company will now be calling them wellness days instead of sick days, even though our days don’t increase. An entire day focused on ‘shifting the standards and breaking down barriers’ by now implementing ‘land responsibility statements’ instead of land acknowledgments. I’m not trying to make myself redundant or lose my job to AI, but truly sometimes the fakeness of it all makes me want to rip my hair out. Anyone else feeling the same?

My partner (35M) and I (31F) live together but we’re saving up to buy a house so our current place is pretty small. We’ve run into the issue about where exactly the night ends up if only one of us is going out. When having nights together, we are fine to bring the third to our home. But when he goes out solo or I do, we kind of have to rely on the person we’re meeting to invite us back to their place, which some people aren’t always comfortable with. The only other alternatives I could see is us bringing them back to our apartment and remaining in the living room, while I or my partner is asleep in the bedroom (again, if we’re just doing solo nights). Or I suppose a hotel, but that can get pricey quick. What is everyone’s current set up with how the night can unfold in a comfortable way for everyone while maintaining some privacy for all?

Hi everyone! My husband and I are new to this lifestyle but non-monogamy is something we've been talking about for years. I had never heard of hotwifing until 2 days ago, so looking for more information about what this looks like in practice. So far, my husband has slept with one other woman and has taken another woman out on a date, with plans to see her again and possibly (if she's open to it, she knows our dynamic) have an intimate experience with her as well. We have yet to introduce a person(s) into our intimate lives, the experiences have been independent up until now but we are very interested in having a third and maybe a fourth person (couple) join us. I do feel like I get a lot of pleasure just from the experience of him seeing other people though, not necessarily watching him sleep with someone (haven't experienced that yet but open to it!) but just the whole ritual of helping him plan the date, get ready for it, and then the debrief afterward and the arousal and excitement that comes from it. Is that like hothusbanding?? I'm not sure that I want to go out and sleep with other men, but I do get a lot from knowing he is sleeping with other women, and the thought of having both men and/or women join us. I'm just here trying to figure out what my kinks are and looking for some shared experiences from other people! Thanks