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What if Jemma went again to Maveth

If it was Jemma who went to Maveth again, instead of Fitz, would she have known that it wasn't Will but actually "It"? Would she have killed ward before Coulson had a chance?

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 11 days ago
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Skye's fear of the Index

I'm on my re-watch, and this kinda bugged me. Skye isn't some random hacker anymore, as of the beginning of S2 she's an amazing agent. She held her own against many hydra fighters, she shot Donnie Gill, she even shot Ward 4 times. However, when she sees Shield fight the people on the Index at the playground at Wisconsin, people who actually harmed children for the sake of petty revenge, she is scared she will be treated the same?

I know Skye wears her heart on her sleeve and doesn't hesitate to look at the good in people, but she's also quite brainy, she is good at tactical stuff too. Shield didn't attack the three index people just for fun, they responded to the index people going criminally rogue. She, of all people, knows that.

Someone who actually cares about her team, someone who wants to control her powers, someone brave enough to willingly get kidnapped by Ward while still warning the team about him being Hydra, someone smart enough to decrypt entire networks, why was she terrified of seeing May and Coulson and Bobbi go after actual criminals?

Don't get me wrong, I love her, to me she's the heart of the show, it's just that this part didn't sit right with me.

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 1 month ago

Planning to re-visit my childhood city

I lived in Belagavi until 1996, then moved to Chennai. I studied in Phoenix school at my time there. While I don't remember much about the city, I do remember a few things - Military Mahadev temple, freshly baked bread from Snehal Bakery, watching "Home Alone" at Arun talkies, getting my teeth checked out at KLE, etc.

How's it over there? How's the reputation of Phoenix school over there? Any alumni here? Is the bakery still around? Is the theatre still around?

My next planned vacation maybe next year, I'm planning on coming there again. Tell me, what all can I expect?

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 2 months ago

Everything doesn't really need to be sold

Let me begin by saying, I am an artist too, so is my daughter, so are most of my friends. We make a lot of artwork, crochet, bead work, painting, bookmarks, cute accessories, etc. But we don't sell all of them. In fact, we don't make them with the intent to sell at all.

Handmade items are valued because they are handmade, only if that person making it is known to you. Your friends and family will appreciate you making them a crochet keychain because they can appreciate the effort put in by you. However, a random stranger? Why would a stranger buy my 100 Rs keychain over a 50 Rs keychain by a roadside stall? What is the incentive?

Artwork is subjective. And let's be honest, most of us aren't perfect. And our work isn't really practical. A crochet handbag might not withstand 3 to 4 kilos of vegetables everyday plus the washing, but a cloth handbag will. Most of us don't have the extra disposable money to keep buying cute keepsakes just because it's handmade. We gift them, but only on special occasions. I personally gift my friends handmade craft, but only because I love them.

I'm not discouraging craftspeople here. I'm just telling you to consider all these factors while pricing your products. Yes, you shouldn't under sell, but you shouldn't over sell either. Think like a customer, you'll understand pricing better. A handmade plushie costs twice as much as one we get in local stores, and if I don't know you, why will I buy from you? Earrings - they are available in the range as low as 10 to 50 and last over a year without the paint peeling (I have some), why would I pay 200 to an online stranger when I can go grab it directly? Why would I request a stranger to bake a mid-looking overpriced cake for me when I can get it at half the price from a bakery?

Not every craft item needs a price tag.

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 2 months ago

Discuss Divorce before Marrying

As someone who went through an arranged marriage and then got divorced, my two cents. Marry someone whom you would feel confident divorcing. This might seem ridiculous, but it's really true. Ask yourself -

  1. When things go south, will the person I'm marrying shake hands and part with the maturity of an adult or will they take it upon themselves to make me and my family miserable all my life?
  2. If we have kids and things go south, will the person co-parent with the maturity of an adult, treating the marriage and parenting as two different spheres of responsibility?
  3. Will they be mature enough not to let the divorce affect the parenting?
  4. Will they respect me as the "parent of the child" even if I'm not their spouse anymore?
  5. Am I mature enough to be what I expect of my partner?

This won't be solved by any prenup or any legal paperwork. This is human nature - an immature or manipulative person won't stop being so just because they signed a paper.

Some marriages fail, that's just what happens. Today, we have the right to choose our lives over a system. However, there are a few people who just are horrible. And since we might run into them, sometimes marry them and have children with them, it's only reasonable that we are confident to a certain degree who we are marrying.

Note - One might ask - if you have that maturity, why even divorce? Why not make it work? Simply put - Not all marriages can and should be saved. Sometimes, the best decision is to shake hands and part. And sometimes, that's the most mature thing one can do. Just that both need to be on the same page on this.

Edit - If you don't have children, a divorce will be just another bad dream. But if you do, you will have to raise a younger version of that person for the rest of your life. So choose whom you reproduce with carefully.

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 2 months ago

Night Train - Need advice

Hi, I'm coming with family next month for a couple of days. Need a few suggestions, preferably near railway station:

  1. Best place to get sungadi sarees (regular wear kind)?
  2. What else to shop, something that is new for the non-Madurai people?
  3. Best place to eat? Idli, karidosa, parotta, paruthipaal? Jigardhanda I've had once, want to try something else.
  4. Our return train is at 11:30 pm, on a weekday. While I'm aware of the "thoonga nagaram" reputation, is it so everywhere in the city? On weekdays too? How will it usually be at nights, in and around railway station? Will there be enough people not to feel scared?
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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 3 months ago

CIBIL Score - Query

39, F. My CIBIL score is 0. Never taken a loan, no credit cards. While I don't intend to take a loan in the near future, there might be situations in the future where I might need to (Child's education loan, home loan, etc). Will my absence of credit history affect my loan eligibility?

  1. Is a CIBIL score mandatory?
  2. How do I get started?
  3. Can I get loans without CIBIL in reputed national/private banks?
  4. What is the validity situation? For example, I take a loan in 2026 and pay it off without defaulting in 1 year, will I be good for another loan in 2040?

I have never given it a single thought until my child and I were discussing college situation (that's more than 5 years from now). Never had a CC, always thought of it as a trap. While I do have investments solely for the purpose of higher education that I can liquidate, We never know what the future holds, so I wanted to be prepared for the possibility of borrowing.

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 3 months ago

Was Joe really needed?

Jay had two adult children already, went through half of it again with Manny, lived with Dede, raised his company - if anyone it was him who deserved his ride to the sunset. Gloria as well, she raised Manny as a single mom. But no, they decided to have another child in their respective second marriages. In my opinion, it was cliched.

What do you all think?

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 4 months ago

Don't tell, ask

When dating, please do not lead with "I am childfree, what about you?".

Even if your childfree status is known (via socials/dating apps), please ask "What is your stance in having children? Do you want to have children? If so, how many?"

If they say yes, that's the end, right there. Props to them for having a clarity of thought.

If they ask first, push it back to them, saying "after you".

If they are childfree too, they will understand the reason you did this.

If they say "I'm unsure" or "it's up to my partner" - RUN. No one wants to be caught with a person who isn't clear on such an important aspect of life. If you want to make your dating life a project to pull a person to your side of the fence, you have to acknowledge the risk of them enjoying all the benefits of this side and then choosing the other side.

Many people, especially in collectivist cultures, are raised with the idea that having children is the default, and any deviation is unnatural. However, they also think that childfree staus is "just a phase" and if the said person meets the right person, they will "change their minds", so they agree with whatever their partner says just to secure the relationship. (many thanks to the fence sitters who fell).

Better safe than sorry.

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 4 months ago

Some advice for the 20s folks

I'm 39 now, and I wish I knew so much in my 20s that is coming home to roost. I can actually start a series about this.

Disclaimer - I'm a parent myself.

First point - Do NOT listen to your parents on life-changing decisions such as career, marriage, children, parenting, religion, finance investments, etc. They might know a lot, but they aren't you. They aren't going to live with the decisions they tell you to make, you are. And no, don't fall for their emotional manipulation. If they really love you for who you are, they won't make you feel guilty for living your life. I know it will be hard to hear this, but most parents had children not because they wanted to, but because they wanted to prove that they were not impotent. So how much ever "open minded" they want to show themselves as, they aren't always that.

You listen to them and get married to whoever they choose, you might end up regretting that for life. Because first of all, the minute you outsource the most important decision of your life to them, you are no longer a person - you are a commodity to sell to the highest bidder. If you are a girl, you will be judged on your capacity to carry their purebred grandchildren. If you are a guy, you will be judged on your capacity to provide for the whole family. Your personhood matters lesser than your utility - that's not a bug, that's the feature. You can't have it all - you can't outsource marriage decision to someone who sees you as a commodity and then whine about being commodified. Take decisions on your own, and have the courage to fail and try again.

You end up having a child way too early in life, you are trapped forever. In the current job market you are just a number. Having dependents just makes it easy for the companies to treat you like one. And you can't quit because your job is slowly killing you - you have fees to pay. You can't leave a marriage that isn't working for you that easily. By having children very early, you are basically scoring an own goal. If you wish to have children, I request you to first settle in your marriage, get to know each other, spend time with each other, save up money, invest, spend, sleep, then have them. You need to take that decision of "when" based on when you want to, not when your parents want to.

Basically - take ownership of your own life. Parents of adult children are just consultants, not decision makers.

And before anyone comes at me, I'm a parent and I have parents too. Becoming a parent is not unique - literally every living creature on earth can become one. All it takes is unprotected sex. But being a parent, that's hard. That takes a lot of self awareness and acceptance of their child's personhood. Which unfortunately, most of our parents don't have. And no, most parents don't love unconditionally. Because if they did, they wouldn't oppose a love marriage based on caste, or tell their children to adjust in an abusive marriage, or pimp out their children to the highest bidder in the name of arranged marriage, or throwing a fit when their child says they are an atheist or wants to be childfree. They are flawed humans, like you and me, placed on a pedestal, but some believe they belong on the pedestal.

Prioritise your future over their whims. And if you have children, tell them to prioritise their future over your whims.

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 5 months ago

Ravi is both wronged and wrong

Believing him entirely, he was abused by his wife. He's definitely the victim there, no doubt. Without ending his marriage, he had a public affair. That's wrong.

But what's more wrong is both Ravi and Aarti using their children as pawns. She is posting emotion "strong woman mama bear tiger cub" type cringe posts with the children. He publicly had an affair with someone who's not the children's mother, openly, so not hiding that from his children.

Neither of them have the children's goodwill in their mind. If they did, they could easily co-parent. They just choose to dramatize everything. Both lack maturity.

You might be miserable and even suicidal, but you need to behave before your children. That's what parenting is, that's what literally so many of us regular people do.

If something untoward happens, the public opinion will be "no one cares about men's mental health", but the truth is - you start caring for yourself.

I have a question I've asked before too - Why no friend, family member - why is there no support from them? No one from his childhood, his work, family? Even if we assume his controlling wife isolated him, now that everything is public, why has no one come forward? He isn't a nobody, he's a really good actor, why isn't even his close family on his side?

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u/Artoodeetwo_1 — 5 months ago