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Figured there might be a handful of us aged 30-40, so early GenZ / Millennial who are living here, but grew up in Vancouver, and are single over 30. Thought we could create a group chat and arrange meetups that could lead to friendship, maybe something more.

We can be nostalgic about Rainforest Cafe and Playdium at Metrotown, shake our heads when Torontonians talk about “going to the island” or compare Translink to the TTC.

Of course anyone from BC is welcome.

I am curious for POCs born in Canada, do you have a preference for dating within your own race or are open to interracial dating? Moreover, do you have a preference for those born here as well, if you are interested in dating within your own race, or even outside?

I feel this is such a sensitive topic because many POCs with the preference of someone raised here are labelled as racist / classist when it’s a preference for shared upbringing.

I’m a POC myself and have actually met cool people through Reddit who were raised in their home country so I think biases can always be challenged but I was curious if the preference is common among different POCs.

I’m a 34F and recently went for fertility testing for egg freezing. I had done it two years ago but the clinic didn’t accept me due to low AMH and I let it go until I decided to get a second opinion. But this is not my question.

The work ups include virals and I’ve had virals in 2019 too when I worked at a hospital. Every time they’ve come back saying I’m not immune to MMRV and every time I take a booster.

My mom was very up to date with childhood vaccines and I never had the chicken pox so in my teens my mom got me vaccinated as I had gone through puberty.

I don’t plan on doing more immunity bloodwork unless necessary and I can take as many boosters as needed. But I’m concerned about measles outbreaks. I guess if I’m not immune I depend on everyone else getting vaccinated, but I guess people are not doing it anymore. How can I protect myself?

I’m a 34F and recently went for fertility testing for egg freezing. I had done it two years ago but the clinic didn’t accept me due to low AMH and I let it go until I decided to get a second opinion. But this is not my question.

The work ups include virals and I’ve had virals in 2019 too when I worked at a hospital. Every time they’ve come back saying I’m not immune to MMRV and every time I take a booster.

My mom was very up to date with childhood vaccines and I never had the chicken pox so in my teens my mom got me vaccinated as I had gone through puberty.

I don’t plan on doing more immunity bloodwork unless necessary and I can take as many boosters as needed. But I’m concerned about measles outbreaks. I guess if I’m not immune I depend on everyone else getting vaccinated, but I guess people are not doing it anymore. How can I protect myself?

When I first moved to Mimico in 2020, there was a direct streetcar from downtown to Park Lawn. Then it was replaced by a bus for a few years, but at least that exchange at Humber Loop wasn’t necessary. Now it seems to be broken up by the 507 (which is now back to bus service) and the 501. It is frustrating to change at Humber Loop. Why isn’t there something directly connecting Mimico to downtown? I’m dreading the cold winters and waiting at Humber Loop for two stops.

Let’s say that 9/11 in the US happened as it did with the four original aircraft’s being hijacked. But I’m envisioning a scenario where in addition to those, they decide to target three Canadian cities too.

Targets:

1. ⁠First Canadian Place in Toronto. It is the BMO headquarters and the tallest office tower in Toronto in 2001. It is the BMO headquarters and it represents the core of Toronto’s financial district. About 10000 people worked there in 2001 and many prominent firms operate there. It is also connected to the PATH with heavy foot traffic.
2. ⁠Parliament Hill in Ottawa. Since the Capitol was a likely target, Parliament Hill makes sense of being a target as the Canadian equivalent. Parliament wasn’t scheduled to be in session in 2001 so there wouldn’t have been politicians. Chrétien was at home too when he learned of the attacks. However, the Peace Tower could’ve been destroyed and there were probably 2000 - 3000 people working in the building.
3. ⁠I was debating between Le 1000 De La Gauchetière in Montreal or the Hydro Quebec building. I chose Hydro Quebec because that building supplies electricity to not only Quebec, but to the east coast of US triggering blackouts. It also had significance as the Premier of Quebec’s Montreal HQ. And there would’ve been 1500 people working there.

Pre 9/11

There were suspected al Qaeda cells in Montreal in the late 90s. CSIS was aware of the threat, in light of the Millennium Bombing plot (Ahmed Ressam). Amer el-Maati is a Canadian with flight training and is wanted still wanted for questioning and the Khadr family was known to have links too. There were a few others with Canadian passports at the time (according to Google) and having Canadian passports wouldn’t have raised alarm bells should they have travelled to US for meetings with Atta.

Nonetheless, al Qaeda could have still sent 12-15 potential hijackers as those who studied in Europe would’ve likely gotten Canadian visas at the time. Flight schools in Ontario and Quebec in the year 2000 were also available to international students and enough to secure a student visa. However, for them getting additional US tourist visas may have been tricky if there were cross border meetings. This is where maybe these would simply be muscle hijackers who didn’t need to do much of the planning.

The Day Of

On that day, three cohorts of hijackers board flights at McCartier Airport in Ottawa, Trudeau Airport in Montreal, and Pearson Airport in Toronto. They catch early morning flights, same as their US counterparts, heading to either Vancouver or Calgary being cross country flights likely to be loaded with full jet fuel. The Toronto flight is intended to hit Parliament, the Ottawa flight intending to hit Hydro Quebec, and the Montreal flight intending to hit First Canadian. This is to buy hijackers some time.

The attacks are all successful in their targets and hit before 9am, like their US counterparts.

The aftermath

What would happen now? Let’s first estimate the damage in each respective city, considering the targets’ significance in 2001 and the lifestyle. What is the casualty count? What would happen in each city and the rest of Canada?

What also happens to Quebec power and eastern US power with Hydro Quebec attacked?

Airspace in Canada / US

Operation Yellow Ribbon was significant because Canada received many US bound flights. Would that still be the case? What would happen to other flights? Would more flights be shot down? Would they turn back? Would Mexico take the load?

Political aftermath

Chrétien at the time stated solidity with Americans but he was criticized for not going NY sooner. He also was upset when Bush forgot to thank Canada.

Now in this timeline Chrétien would’ve been forced to work more closely with Bush. Do you think he would eventually agree to Iraq?

What additional measures do you think Canada would take?

I also wonder what the political landscape would be in Quebec, if it would shift towards Canadian unity or push separatism?

And how would Canadians as a whole react? Would it create more loyalty to the US? Would it push patriotism? And how would it affect daily life? With Islamophobia or attacks on the large Sikh population?

Any other thoughts, I’d love to hear!

So I’m 34F and back in the dating pool. My issue is that there is no shortage of men available in this dating market. However, after filtering I’m not feeling any attraction. I wonder if it the surplus mentality. Can you offer insights?

⁠With the 9/11 anniversary, I was thinking a lot about the hijackers and especially Ziad Jarrah, as he seemed to have one foot in and one foot out. I feel that he was probably the last piece of Swiss cheese that lined up to execute the attacks. He seemed to have a life to live for and even enjoyed his life in America. I think of some alternative theories.

1. What if he backed out long before 9/11, wanting to continue his flight training and eventually settle as a pilot in America or Germany with his girlfriend? If he did, and didn’t tell any authorities, there was enough time for Al qaeda to find a replacement and continue on. He may have been arrested, and even sent to Gitmo. But even if he did tell, do you think the FBI would’ve believed him? Would he or his family be targeted by AQ and would he have been offered protection by the FBI? I still think on this timeline 9/11 would’ve happened. And it makes me wonder if AQ had other candidates before back out due to fear or other reasons. But, if he was a free man, I could see him giving interviews today on the 25th anniversary.

2. ⁠What if he backed out between Sept 5-10? By then AQ was so deep into the plot that there was no time to replace him. He could’ve simply backed out and the three planes would’ve gone ahead. But he may have been able to prevent it too by reporting to the FBI. If they were able to provide him and his family some form of protection, maybe he would’ve cooperated and could’ve prevented the attacks. Or maybe there wasn’t enough time. It really depends how quick he made the call. For all we know, Atta could’ve been one step ahead and changed the departing flight from Boston to JFK. So this timeline I’m iffy on.

3. ⁠This is on the morning of 9/11 where he does board United 93. We already know that it was delayed and the passengers knew the towers were hit. The flight may have been delayed enough so that it never would take off after flights were grounded. Or he may have simply gotten cold feet and not helped the muscle hijackers or even told them the plot is cancelled. Regardless, the other three planes hit. But in this timeline I think of two possibilities. The FBI would’ve found him and he would’ve gone to Florence ADX or death penalty. But what if he turned himself in the moment 93 landed and offered to cooperate with them? He still might have given valuable intelligence and maybe would’ve gotten off and also be giving interviews today.

I live very close to the Air India 182 memorial in Toronto and try to go there every year on June 23, as my parents lost friends in that crash.

I want to observe a 9/11 memorial this year. Anyone aware of tributes in Toronto?

I genuinely want to hear from Canadian professors who taught at many of the post secondary institutions that primarily enrolled international students that were exploiting the PR pathway. What were your experiences like in the classroom? And now that the government has curbed this pathway, has this affected your job? Or are you relieved?

I’m genuinely curious about the experience of those who taught at UCW, being that it granted graduate level degrees (MBA). We knew it was a PR pathway, but what was is it like being inside the system?

I genuinely want to hear from those who taught at many of the post secondary institutions that primarily enrolled international students that were exploiting the PR pathway. What were your experiences like in the classroom? And now that the government has curbed this pathway, has this affected your job? Or are you relieved?

I’m genuinely curious about the experience of those who taught at UCW, being that it granted graduate level degrees (MBA). We knew it was a PR pathway, but what was is it like being inside the system?

I moved out of province but I remember when I used to ride the Skytrain in the late 2010s I met a lot of MBA students from there who barely spoke English and were open about using it as PR loophole.

I have a colleague from grad school who now teaches there and is posting daily on LinkedIn about their bright students and cutting edge research with partnerships from major Canadian universities.

I have friends and family with MBAs from UBC, UofT, Western etc and they wouldn’t even consider UCW as legit.

But am I wondering, since they are still in business, have they gotten better, or is the reputation still the same?

I posted this in the DOR and TTC_POI subs but they both emphasized freezing embryos. I’m not ready to do that. I’m freezing my eggs because I’m waiting for a partner and my desire to be a wife trumps my desire to be a mom. Now children would be a great add on, but that’s a decision to be made with my partner. I also accept that with DOR I might not have biological children but I can’t rob the opportunity from my future husband by using my few frozen eggs with donor sperm. My question mainly stems from how can I optimize future cycles to get more eggs, knowing my bank will be small and not meet the 20 threshold.

Finally had my first retrieval!

Hey everyone! I’m a fellow DORer and after being turned away from one clinic at 32 to having cancelled cycles due to quick ovulation, I finally made it to retrieval and got 1 egg last week! I know it’s not much but I’m so proud of my body!

I’m currently 34 and I’m egg freezing because I’m still single and I want to wait for a partner first. (I’m not open to the donor route at this time). I still get cycles (though irregularly) but my doctor still won’t call me POI since I’m still cycling. I occasionally have high FSH but generally hovers around 9. My doctor said if I was willing to get pregnant now, IUI would be a good option, but my goal is freezing for now, knowing my early menopause risk.

I understand that 1 egg isn’t enough for the bank so my doctor said a realistic target is 4-5 at my age. I’m open to doing more cycles. My issue is that my AFC usually hovers from 4-6 at the beginning of the cycle but two follicles hog up the stims but the end. Is there a way to evenly distribute the growth so I can potentially retrieve more in one cycle? I have my follow up appointment in a couple of days so I want to come prepared with questions for him.

The protocol we did was estrase priming with letrozole after and stims with double orgalutran to prevent ovulation. And triggering at 17 mm.

I understand that embryos are a better choice, but using a donor sperm is just not sitting well with me at this time. This is a personal choice, and it can change, but it’s something I’m not open to right now. I still want to wait for a partner to fertilize my eggs either and I’m open to using donor eggs if we come to that point. But my desire to be a wife / partner trumps my desire to be a mother and hence why I’m not open to donor sperm at this time. I’m freezing my eggs to give my future partner a chance to be a father, if this is what we both decide on. I’m not freezing my eggs solely to be a mother.

Hey everyone! I’m not sure if this is the right place to post as I haven’t gotten an official POI diagnosis, and I’m considered DOR. My AMH is super low (undetectable) but my FSH can swing from 9 to 60. My REI still won’t say POI because I still get spontaneous cycles that range from 23-35 days, but are unpredictable. I have no other classic menopause symptoms and irregular cycles have been since my late teens / early 20s so I may have been DOR all along.

I’m currently 34 and I’m egg freezing because I’m still single and I want to wait for a partner first. (I’m not open to donor eggs or single parenting at this tine). My doctor said if I was willing to get pregnant now, IUI would be a good option, but my goal is freezing for now, knowing my early menopause risk.

I was initially turned away from an egg freezing clinic at 32 but at 34 I had one amazing doctor who took a chance on me. We had two cancelled cycles because both times I ovulated quickly but we finally managed to retrieve 1 egg at the third attempt and I couldn’t be prouder of my body.

I understand that 1 egg isn’t enough for the bank so my doctor said a realistic target is 4-5 at my age. I’m open to doing more cycles. My issue is that my AFC usually hovers from 4-6 at the beginning of the cycle but two follicles hog up the stims but the end. Is there a way to evenly distribute the growth so I can potentially retrieve more in one cycle? I have my follow up appointment in a couple of days so I want to come prepared with questions for him. Otherwise I’ve budgeted 4 cycles for 4 eggs, knowing it’s the best I can get. I’m just hoping I could somehow get two eggs per cycle.

The protocol we did was estrase priming with letrozole after and stims with double orgalutran to prevent ovulation. And triggering at 17 mm. A natural start did manage to recruit more follicles but I lost the cycle too quickly to ovulation.

Not sure if this is the right sub but I was talking to a lady in an Uber who told me that if one is collecting EI and decides to go back to school to find a new career path, they can get OSAP non repayable grants to do so? I’m a software engineer, navigating a layoff and looking for a new career path as a high school teacher because this is not a stable one. I was curious what the options are as I’m looking for a 2027 start. I couldn’t find anything about it thru google but I thought I’d ask reddit.

Hey everyone! I’m not sure if this is the right place to post as I haven’t gotten an official POI diagnosis, and I’m considered DOR. My AMH is super low (undetectable) but my FSH can swing from 9 to 60. My REI still won’t say POI because I still get spontaneous cycles that range from 23-35 days, but are unpredictable.

I’m currently 34 and I’m egg freezing because I’m still single and I want to wait for a partner first. (I’m not open to donor eggs or single parenting at this tine). My doctor said if I was willing to get pregnant now, IUI would be a good option, but my goal is freezing for now, knowing my early menopause risk.

I was initially turned away from an egg freezing clinic at 32 but at 34 I had one amazing doctor who took a chance on me. We had two cancelled cycles because both times I ovulated quickly but we finally managed to retrieve 1 egg at the third attempt and I couldn’t be prouder of my body.

I understand that 1 egg isn’t enough for the bank so my doctor said a realistic target is 4-5 at my age. I’m open to doing more cycles. My issue is that my AFC usually hovers from 4-6 at the beginning of the cycle but two follicles hog up the stims but the end. Is there a way to evenly distribute the growth so I can potentially retrieve more in one cycle? I have my follow up appointment in a couple of days so I want to come prepared with questions for him. Otherwise I’ve budgeted 4 cycles for 4 eggs, knowing it’s the best I can get. I’m just hoping I could somehow get two eggs per cycle.

The protocol we did was estrase priming with letrozole after and stims with double orgalutran to prevent ovulation. And triggering at 17 mm. A natural start did manage to recruit more follicles but I lost the cycle too quickly to ovulation.

Hey everyone! I’m a fellow DORer and after being turned away from one clinic at 32 to having cancelled cycles due to quick ovulation, I finally made it to retrieval and got 1 egg last week! I know it’s not much but I’m so proud of my body!

I’m currently 34 and I’m egg freezing because I’m still single and I want to wait for a partner first. (I’m not open to the donor route at this time). I still get cycles (though irregularly) but my doctor still won’t call me POI since I’m still cycling. I occasionally have high FSH but generally hovers around 9. My doctor said if I was willing to get pregnant now, IUI would be a good option, but my goal is freezing for now, knowing my early menopause risk.

I understand that 1 egg isn’t enough for the bank so my doctor said a realistic target is 4-5 at my age. I’m open to doing more cycles. My issue is that my AFC usually hovers from 4-6 at the beginning of the cycle but two follicles hog up the stims but the end. Is there a way to evenly distribute the growth so I can potentially retrieve more in one cycle? I have my follow up appointment in a couple of days so I want to come prepared with questions for him.

The protocol we did was estrase priming with letrozole after and stims with double orgalutran to prevent ovulation. And triggering at 17 mm.

Edit: I understand that embryos are a better choice, but using a donor sperm is just not sitting well with me at this time. This is a personal choice, and it can change, but it’s something I’m open to right now. I still want to wait for a partner to fertilize my eggs either and I’m open to using donor eggs if we come to that point. But my desire to be a wife / partner trumps my desire to be a mother and hence why I’m not open to donor sperm at this time. I’m freezing my eggs to give my future partner a chance to be a father, if this is what we both decide on. I’m not freezing my eggs solely to be a mother.

This is a first for me. I’m a senior level professional dealing with a layoff and I applied to lead analyst roles at Lyft. I heard back from a recruiter who initially said I was selected for a data analyst role (which I didn’t apply for) but then she said she made a mistake and it was lead analyst. We scheduled a time to talk. I was recovering from surgery but still made it to the online interview. 5 minutes pass. I sent her an email. No response. 15 minutes pass. I finally decided to leave and asked for another opportunity to reschedule. This was on Thursday. It’s now Monday and I haven’t heard from them. I found the head of recruitment on LinkedIn and sent her a message, saying I’d really like the job but that too no response. I’m just frustrated that companies can get away with this behaviour 😞

Anyone find it interesting how many families of the main characters are raised as single children? Bobby, Connie, Luanne, Joseph, Hank, and Dale are all I can think of. But doesn’t seem right for 1970s-90s Texas homes unless I’m wrong.

I’m a software engineer with two masters degrees and 10 years of experience but I’m on my second layoff in three years. In the past I haven’t had difficulty finding jobs but this job market is brutal and I don’t know if I can keep relying on a boom and bust industry. I worked at Kumon centres from high school to grad school and I enjoy teaching math. And I could probably teach computer science in high school. Should I consider pursuing a B.Ed.?