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ive been really struggling recently and i have no idea how im meant to do this for my whole life

PLEASE give me any advice even if it’s just relating to me or if it’s how to cope it would really help me

please I really need help with dealing with my emotions and just functioning daily I feel like everyone’s moving forward and I’m stuck in place and there’s nothing I can do to stop it

please give me advice please

ive been really struggling recently and i have no idea how im meant to do this for my whole life

PLEASE give me any advice even if it’s just relating to me or if it’s how to cope it would really help me

please I really need help with dealing with my emotions and just functioning daily I feel like everyone’s moving forward and I’m stuck in place and there’s nothing I can do to stop it

please give me advice please

recently I’ve had thoughts to do with relapsing with self harm and debated suicide but I know that I won’t don’t worry but I have thought about the relief I would get. I am clean for about two weeks and i don’t know what to do I have recently gone through a break up and I was contemplating it before and I still am but now I feel that if I do he’ll blame himself and he also struggles with depression but I really dont know what to do it’s just a constant voice in my head but I also don’t want anyone to see and it’s summer and hot and idk what to do.

any advice to stop such idealisation??

recently I’ve had thoughts to do with relapsing with self harm and debated suicide but I know that I won’t don’t worry but I have thought about the relief I would get. I am clean for about two weeks and i don’t know what to do I have recently gone through a break up and I was contemplating it before and I still am but now I feel that if I do he’ll blame himself and he also struggles with depression but I really dont know what to do it’s just a constant voice in my head but I also don’t want anyone to see and it’s summer and hot and idk what to do.

any advice to stop such idealisation??

I have severe depression and anxiety and I am unable to get medication as I am not 18 unless I try therapy and stuff but my anxiety hinders me being able to do this and I am genuinely on the verge of imploding in on myself

any coping mechanisms that ACTUALLY work are much appreciated thank you for any advice

my boyfriend m15 broke up with me f16 four days ago after we had been dating for a year and two months.

CONTEXT:

we ended in good terms although clear I did NOT want to break up, i understood as he said it was due to mental health reasons however I also have severe mental health issues and have never once questioned my love for him.

he was diagnosed with depression at 10 and has continuously struggled since then and attended therapy however he does not enjoy talking about his problems. This spans to me aswell he refuses to talk to me about anything he has told me that he has gone to therapy and has struggled with self image and bad thoughts but will not tell me why. This extends to date and he has never once told me when he is actively struggling which I understood but felt sad as I tell him.

i am also diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety and struggle lots and recently started talking to him about how I felt as it got particularly bad and he has always been there for me. I have never forced him to talk to me about how he feels or why he feels it and I never wanted him to feel forced to.

four days ago he broke up with me due to his mental health we have stayed in very high contact since as we have been best friends for four years and dated twice within that time frame. I have told him I want him to talk to me about it as I want him to get better but he refuses.

we have discussed our relationship a lot since breaking up and we have both mutually agreed we believe we our soulmates (young love and all that but when you know you know ) he has also said he will 100% date me again when he gets better. which gives me comfort but also makes me feel confused because why not now ?? Also wtf ??

he is without a doubt the kindest person I have ever met and he would never do anything to hurt me, or at least wouldn’t of until about a month ago.

due to my SEVERE anxiety which he knows about, I get very anxious when he goes to party’s. No it is not because I am jealous I know he wouldn’t have cheated on me and he hasn’t but I get so scared of something bad happening what that is I don’t know but it is caused due to my anxiety as I assume the worst outcome in every situation. he knows this.

he got invited to a party of one of his friends gf party ( she tried to set him up with two of her friends knowing he was dating me at the time and they are both at said party) and I told him I was uncomfortable and really didn’t want him to especially because there was 30 girls and 8 boys not including him and that amplified my distaste towards the party. I said I’d break up with him if he went. He went.

i did in fact not break up with him as I was never going to (I know but I live this man and I was just saying anything I thought would make him not go) but I had said for two and a bit weeks I didn’t want him to and he said he wouldn’t until three days before and he said he didnt want to let his friends down as they were having a sleepover at his afterwards. if he knew he wasn’t going to go why’d he organise this ?? He has since said it was his biggest regret. I cried to him numerous times about how hurt I felt.

He is currently at a party right now with 35 girls to 10 boys including him the two girls who like him are also there. He promised me he wouldn’t go to aswell. He said his friends wouldnt go if he didn’t so he had to. just as I’m typing this he has just said he is staying there until it ends at 11 after saying they were going to leave at 9 (it is currently 9:12pm)

all my friends have told me to stop contact no matter how badly it hurts and that I deserve better but i love him with my whole heart and we are literally the same person and we get each other like no one else he is also the most attractive person I have ever met I see no flaws in him.

i Genuinely feel my insides imploding in on themselves because of how he’s hurting me what do I ??

please help me

my boyfriend m15 broke up with me f16 four days ago after we had been dating for a year and two months.

we ended in good terms although clear I did NOT want to break up, i understood as he said it was due to mental health reasons however I also have severe mental health issues and have never once questioned my love for him.

he was diagnosed with depression at 10 and has continuously struggled since then and attended therapy however he does not enjoy talking about his problems. This spans to me aswell he refuses to talk to me about anything he has told me that he has gone to therapy and has struggled with self image and bad thoughts but will not tell me why. This extends to date and he has never once told me when he is actively struggling which I understood but felt sad as I tell him.

i am also diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety and struggle lots and recently started talking to him about how I felt as it got particularly bad and he has always been there for me. I have never forced him to talk to me about how he feels or why he feels it and I never wanted him to feel forced to.

four days ago he broke up with me due to his mental health we have stayed in very high contact since as we have been best friends for four years and dated twice within that time frame. I have told him I want him to talk to me about it as I want him to get better but he refuses.

we have discussed our relationship a lot since breaking up and we have both mutually agreed we believe we our soulmates (young love and all that but when you know you know ) he has also said he will 100% date me again when he gets better. which gives me comfort but also makes me feel confused because why not now ?? Also wtf ??

he is without a doubt the kindest person I have ever met and he would never do anything to hurt me, or at least wouldn’t of until about a month ago.

due to my SEVERE anxiety which he knows about, I get very anxious when he goes to party’s. No it is not because I am jealous I know he wouldn’t have cheated on me and he hasn’t but I get so scared of something bad happening what that is I don’t know but it is caused due to my anxiety as I assume the worst outcome in every situation. he knows this.

he got invited to a party of one of his friends gf party ( she tried to set him up with two of her friends knowing he was dating me at the time and they are both at said party) and I told him I was uncomfortable and really didn’t want him to especially because there was 30 girls and 8 boys not including him and that amplified my distaste towards the party. I said I’d break up with him if he went. He went.

i did in fact not break up with him as I was never going to (I know but I live this man and I was just saying anything I thought would make him not go) but I had said for two and a bit weeks I didn’t want him to and he said he wouldn’t until three days before and he said he didnt want to let his friends down as they were having a sleepover at his afterwards. if he knew he wasn’t going to go why’d he organise this ?? He has since said it was his biggest regret. I cried to him numerous times about how hurt I felt.

He is currently at a party right now with 35 girls to 10 boys including him. He promised me he wouldn’t go to aswell. He said his friends wouldnt go if he didn’t so he had to. just as I’m typing this he has just said he is staying there until it ends at 11 after saying they were going to leave at 9 (it is currently 9:12pm)

all my friends have told me to stop contact no matter how badly it hurts and that I deserve better but i love him with my whole heart and we are literally the same person and we get each other like no one else he is also the most attra person I have rêver met I see no flaws in him.

i Genuinly feel my insides imploding im on themselves because of how he’s hurting me what do I ??

please help me

me (18f) and my boyfriend (17m) have been dating for a little over a year, we have had no major arguments and when we do fight it’s more like siblings. I have known him since he was 13 and I was 14.

my boyfriend has had a very solid small group of friends there is four of them in total, one of which I know personally from before we started dating but I no longer keep contact with I would like to add these are all male friends. I am not the jealous type nor controlling but I look out for him and try to keep him from going down wrong paths. however his friends say I “have him on a leash”

ive asked him about why they say this and he says that “they’re jealous I hang out with you and not them” I pestered him more after as that can’t be the only reason, which he followed up with by recalling the time I said I don’t think he should go with them where they’re gonna do drugs even if he wasn’t going to do anything and he agreed with me and went home. I left it at that and just assumed that they were saying this all in good spirits due to the fact they banter with his other friends girlfriend- id like to add they all like her and all hate me but I assumed this was because we broke up after dating for six months for my mental health however this was almost two years ago and since have been together for over a year now with no breaks or breakups but I don’t want to distress my bf and make him feel like there is a divide between us and he has to pick a side.

in his friend group two are single - one of those being the friend i know personally- and my bf and one other of his friend are in relationships I’m not sure how long his friend (Andy 17m) has been in a relationship with this girl (Lily 17f) but it is very new around four months or so. lily is hosting a party she has invited all of her school friends (she goes a different school to my bf and his friends aswell as me) she has invited thirty girls ( not me which is understandable as I’m a year above them and we have never met so I understand this)

26 of the girls are single and two of them have hit on my boyfriend while knowing about us being in a relationship and lily has tried to set them up and one other with my bf while knowing about me aswell. she also invited my bfs group of friends and all four of them will be in attendance. there is four other boys goingthese im assuming are dating girls in the group chat.

this equates to 30 girls to 8 boys ratio.

I do not like the sound of this ratio.

i know everyone always says their boyfriend is the most attractive person ever and all of that but he is, all of his friends say he is the most attractive out of them, his mum tried to get him into modelling, he is built and meets all societal beauty standards and due to the track history of lily and her friends having no respect for our relationship I am very hesitant about him going.

recently I have been going through a depressive episode and it started around the time he told me about this party. I tried to put on a brave face and just let him be happy as I didn’t want to distress him however I couldn’t and I let slip how I felt uncomfortable, he reassured me and told me he would have no alcohol and would push any girls away. this is no longer true. he has since said he is buying a six pack of buzzballs and is having two - yes I know they are not insanely strong but he got tipsy from half a small can of vodka at 5% (it was flavoured and nothing like Smirnoff it was the type that’s meant to actually taste good)

sinve then everyday for almost a week I have cried because of this party, I haven’t told him this but I have communicated every day how I am very uncomfortable with it and he says he is going to see his friends not girls. I do trust him but I’m scared that he’ll be drunk and something bad will happen I don’t know why I think it’s because i dont know what hes like drunk. he has told me that if I dint want him to go he won’t however every time he says it I know he is upset that he might have to miss out so I tell him to go.

I know that’s on me but I feel so trapped as I am unable to stop him from going but I dont want him to go.

my boyfriend also made a pact before I met him at 13 that he would never drink as he saw the impacts it has on their families and how it ruins people, I had no issues against this and didn’t mind howver he slowly progressed to only at special events such as his wedding night I also saw no issues with this but he then said he wanted to try his first sip of alcohol I agreed and we shared a drink and got mildly tipsy as we are both light weights. I felt guilty afterwards as I thought I may have accidentally pressured him to drink but he promised me he wanted to and he wanted his first time drinking with me. I thought it was sweet since then he has never had more alcohol which reassured me that he was still staying somewhat true to himself.

so I’m also upset that he wants to get drunk for the first time at a party with a load of strangers but I don’t want to dictate his life. and since I’ve told him how I feel about him going to the party I feel guilt and that he may be annoyed only slightly but nonetheless annoyed at me for not wanting him to go and I want him to enjoy himself as he’s never really gone to a party before despite being invited.

sorry if this is messy or unclear but am I overreacting ??