u/BluePenguins222

I only recently started wearing my natural hair out after about 5–6 years (probably more honestly) of wearing braids/twists back-to-back with basically no breaks. When I was younger, my mom also relaxed my hair regularly.

My hair would probably be much longer now if I hadn’t ripped out so much of it every time I took my hairstyles down🥲 My aunt says the back of my hair looks very full and healthy, but the front/top area is noticeably thinner.

I’m pretty insecure about my edges/front area, which is why I almost always wear a headband to work. At the same time, I honestly think it suits my face because without it my head/face looks kind of “empty,” like something is missing.

I genuinely can’t tell whether my hair is healthy or not, dense or not, needs a cut or not.

The only thing I know for sure is that it is beyond DRY (no wonder, I don't put any products in it🫩).. From a distance it looks dense/full, but close up it looks kind of sparse, especially near the front. I honestly have no idea what’s “normal” because I’ve only been wearing my natural hair like this for around 2 months.

I mainly need advice on very lightweight products that could help me retain moisture or define my hair a little without weighing it down. I have sensory issues and cannot stand heavy, oily, greasy products. I tried using heavier products once (6th picture) and it genuinely drove me insane, I kept feeling the urge to wash my hair and scrub my scalp until it felt completely clean again.

My afro is also kind of floppy, especially on the sides, and I’m wondering if that means it’s getting too long there and finally needs a trim/cut for shape or if that's normal.

My end goal would be very thick, dense hair like pictures 8, 9, and 10.

(I also added the 2 products I currently use.)

The biggest downside for me so far of wearing my hair in an afro is that my coworkers and best friend keep telling me I look 17 even though I’m turning 23 soon. I don't like that but I also don't want to go back to wearing braids or twists.

Hi everyone,

I’m looking for someone who has both a Xianyu account and access to WeChat/Douyin/Xiaohongshu purchasing.

There’s a qipao/dress I want to buy for 2,600 CNY, but the seller only accepts orders through WeChat, Douyin, or Xiaohongshu. Unfortunately, as an international buyer, I can’t purchase directly through those platforms.

My idea was this:

You would create a Xianyu listing for the dress
The listing price would include:
- the original 2,600 CNY price
- plus your service fee/extra costs
I would then purchase that Xianyu listing through my usual proxy shopping service
Once the payment goes through, you would order the dress from the original seller through WeChat/Douyin/Xiaohongshu

In my head this seems like it could work, but maybe I’m missing something, so please let me know.

The reason I’d prefer this method instead of buying directly outside my proxy service is because I originally thought the dress could be bought through Xianyu, so I already have balance sitting in my proxy account that I’d like to use up. Also, all my other purchases are already stored in my proxy warehouse in Hong Kong, so I’d strongly prefer keeping everything together in one shipment/location.

If anyone is interested in helping, please message me with:

whether this would work
which platform you can order from
and how much fee you’d add on top of the 2,600 CNY.

I'll then send you the Seller's WeChat/XHS username, thank you! 🙇🏻‍♀️

My hair is as dry as the Sahara desert. Do I need a trim/cut?

Need Someone With Xianyu + WeChat Access to Help Purchase a Dress