u/BlundeRuss

Either one question that goes to both of them or a different question for each.

My male friend (I’m male too) invited me to his wedding and told me to be there at 10am. I turned up with my wife around 9.45am. The wedding was actually at midday. He deliberately got me there two hours early so he could rope me into putting up gazebos, dragging tables out and carrying loads of equipment up a steep hill.

I turned up dressed smart, ready for a wedding. He basically said he picked me because I’m strong and do DIY for a living. I’m not the best man. I’m not even one of his six ushers (none of which were there yet, because they were “getting ready”!!). He had about 100 guests he could’ve asked. I wasn’t even invited on the stag. He could easily have sorted the setup the day before or hired people.

Anyway, I said no, definitely not. I’ve actually had some neck/back troubles recently, and I was already dressed for the wedding! I also didn’t want to leave my wife sat on her own for hours while I did construction jobs. I said he should’ve asked in advance and I could’ve said no so he could make other plans, rather than tricking me. His response was: “Hey dude I’m giving you a free meal later, you could at least lend a hand to earn it back.”

I told him I’d travelled a long way, paid for a hotel and bought a wedding gift so I could be part of his day. Being invited doesn’t mean I also owe him manual labour on the morning of the wedding while I’m in my suit.

He was cold with me during the reception and made a point of jokingly bitching about me to whoever I was chatting to throughout the day. At one point I’d had enough and said “serves you right for being a cheapskate about your own wedding!” in a jokey way in front of his bride. But now I’m second-guessing myself.

AITA or was I right to say no?

My male friend (I’m male too) invited me to his wedding and told me to be there at 10am. I turned up with my wife around 9.45am. The wedding was actually at midday. He deliberately got me there two hours early so he could rope me into putting up gazebos, dragging tables out and carrying loads of equipment up a steep hill.

I turned up dressed smart, ready for a wedding. He basically said he picked me because I’m strong and do DIY for a living. I’m not the best man. I’m not even one of his six ushers (none of which were there yet, because they were “getting ready”!!). He had about 100 guests he could’ve asked. I wasn’t even invited on the stag. He could easily have sorted the setup the day before or hired people.

Anyway, I said no, definitely not. I’ve actually had some neck/back troubles recently, and I was already dressed for the wedding! I also didn’t want to leave my wife sat on her own for hours while I did construction jobs. I said he should’ve asked in advance and I could’ve said no so he could make other plans, rather than tricking me. His response was: “Hey dude I’m giving you a free meal later, you could at least lend a hand to earn it back.”

I told him I’d travelled a long way, paid for a hotel and bought a wedding gift so I could be part of his day. Being invited doesn’t mean I also owe him manual labour on the morning of the wedding while I’m in my suit.

He was cold with me during the reception and made a point of jokingly bitching about me to whoever I was chatting to throughout the day. At one point I’d had enough and said “serves you right for being a cheapskate about your own wedding!” in a jokey way in front of his bride. But now I’m second-guessing myself.

Am/Was I overreacting or was I right to say no?

I think British supermarkets are great. I always enjoy going into one when I’m back from a holiday. Just wondered if you rate them too and if so why?

It either tastes of vaguely coffee-flavoured sweet milk, or it tastes like a regular hot coffee that’s been forgotten about and left to go cold. I don’t understand why people drink the stuff. Why not just have a milkshake and stop pretending you’re having a coffee?

A guy asked me who my favourite artist was and I said Van Gogh. He said that's an "extremely basic and obvious answer, come on, try harder!" But Van Gogh IS my favourite artist so what could I say? He went on to say "What's your favourite drink? Water? Is your favourite food plain white toast?" and | just thought it was really rude.

I see so many comments now along the lines of “I knew he was dodgy” and “I never liked him” but at the time of his cheeky chappy days and “My Booky Wook” and being on every chat show all I remember was everyone thinking he was great.

Wow, you’re really fucking spoiling us today!

Just a thought to do with my current circumstances.

Which seems quite patronising. If you take that away and judge the album purely on the songs, it really ain’t that great. If a new artist came along with this album of songs it’d be 2-star reviews at best. A lot of the melodies are poor and the lyrics uninspired. It’s quite a dull, turgid affair. I don’t think Paul McCartney needs the charity. The actual songs aren’t that fab, people just really don’t want to insult Paul by saying so. I say this as a huge fan.

If your carpet/sheets/sofa/curtains/cushions etc stink, then spraying them with a fragrance is not a suitable fix. They stink because they need properly washing. If you spray them, they remain dirty, the root cause of the stink is still there, and now they just smell of bacteria AND febreze. People need to stop using this stuff as a shortcut, it’s grim and lazy.

Nobody really wants this. The songs are poor. It’s like being in prison and convincing yourself the food isn’t too bad actually if you close your eyes.