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I'm an adult, but I still feel like my childhood has a big influence on how I think and act

I had some difficult experiences growing up, and sometimes it feels like I'm still reacting to life as if I'm that kid instead of the person I am now

I want to become mentally stronger, more confident, and stop letting old experiences control me

For people who've gone through something similar, what actually helped you move forward?

How do you stop identifying with your childhood and start acting like the adult you want to be?

I'm looking for practical advice or personal experiences rather than just "get over it"

Just adding more details to get more insight

When I was 8 my father hit my mother basically thrown her to refrigerator and I still remember the entire scene and my mother and mother always scold me today also when I bring that up

They always used to fight in house since i was 5-6 always I didn't felt safe in dinner table etc etc but then they used to settle it and they get happy and just like forget but I couldn't

My mother in anger accidentally while bathing me hit me with a clothes washing brush because I was being notorious and it broke my two lower eats I have cap now.its basically like constantly verbal arguments between them and then they fix it themselves

But they never think about the impact

Plus few days ago in anger my mother brought up divorce and many things like this happened

One more thing came right now I am a single kid so my mother in anger used to say you are so unlucky you didn't even brought any kids after you

I just don't want to share these things but they are keeping out right now

I'm an adult, but I still feel like my childhood has a big influence on how I think and act

I had some difficult experiences growing up, and sometimes it feels like I'm still reacting to life as if I'm that kid instead of the person I am now

I want to become mentally stronger, more confident, and stop letting old experiences control me

For people who've gone through something similar, what actually helped you move forward?

How do you stop identifying with your childhood and start acting like the adult you want to be?

I'm looking for practical advice or personal experiences rather than just "get over it"

Just adding more details to get more insight When I was 8 my father hit my mother basically thrown her to refrigerator and I still remember the entire scene and my mother and mother always scold me today also when I bring that up They always used to fight in house since i was 5-6 always I didn't felt safe in dinner table etc etc but then they used to settle it and they get happy and just like forget but I couldn't My mother in anger accidentally while bathing me hit me with a clothes washing brush because I was being notorious and it broke my two lower eats I have cap now.its basically like constantly verbal arguments between them and then they fix it themselves But they never think about the impact Plus few days ago in anger my mother brought up divorce and many things like this happened One more thing came right now I am a single kid so my mother in anger used to say you are so unlucky you didn't even brought any kids after you I just don't want to share these things but they are keeping out right now

I'm an adult, but I still feel like my childhood has a big influence on how I think and act

I had some difficult experiences growing up, and sometimes it feels like I'm still reacting to life as if I'm that kid instead of the person I am now

I want to become mentally stronger, more confident, and stop letting old experiences control me

For people who've gone through something similar, what actually helped you move forward?

How do you stop identifying with your childhood and start acting like the adult you want to be?

I'm looking for practical advice or personal experiences rather than just "get over it"

I'm an adult, but I still feel like my childhood has a big influence on how I think and act

I had some difficult experiences growing up, and sometimes it feels like I'm still reacting to life as if I'm that kid instead of the person I am now

I want to become mentally stronger, more confident, and stop letting old experiences control me

For people who've gone through something similar, what actually helped you move forward?

How do you stop identifying with your childhood and start acting like the adult you want to be?

I'm looking for practical advice or personal experiences rather than just "get over it"

I'm an adult, but I still feel like my childhood has a big influence on how I think and act

I had some difficult experiences growing up, and sometimes it feels like I'm still reacting to life as if I'm that kid instead of the person I am now

I want to become mentally stronger, more confident, and stop letting old experiences control me

For people who've gone through something similar, what actually helped you move forward?

How do you stop identifying with your childhood and start acting like the adult you want to be?

I'm looking for practical advice or personal experiences rather than just "get over it"

Just adding more details to get more insight When I was 8 my father hit my mother basically thrown her to refrigerator and I still remember the entire scene and my mother and mother always scold me today also when I bring that up They always used to fight in house since i was 5-6 always I didn't felt safe in dinner table etc etc but then they used to settle it and they get happy and just like forget but I couldn't My mother in anger accidentally while bathing me hit me with a clothes washing brush because I was being notorious and it broke my two lower eats I have cap now.its basically like constantly verbal arguments between them and then they fix it themselves But they never think about the impact Plus few days ago in anger my mother brought up divorce and many things like this happened

J Krishnamurthy

Krishnamurti argues that a peaceful and compassionate world cannot be created merely through political, social, or economic strategies such as ideologies or reforms. While these may change external conditions, they cannot remove the inner causes of conflict fear, greed, hatred, and ambition. He believes that real transformation begins with a profound psychological change in each individual through direct self-observation, not through following gurus, organized religion, or any ideology

What's your take on this?

J Krishnamurthy

Krishnamurti argues that a peaceful and compassionate world cannot be created merely through political, social, or economic strategies such as ideologies or reforms. While these may change external conditions, they cannot remove the inner causes of conflict fear, greed, hatred, and ambition. He believes that real transformation begins with a profound psychological change in each individual through direct self-observation, not through following gurus, organized religion, or any ideology

What's your take on this?

Namaste everyone

I've been struggling with attachment to the taste of food. Whenever I eat whether it's meat or vegetarian food I notice that my mind becomes strongly focused on the pleasure of the taste. Sometimes I end up overeating or losing mindfulness because of this desire.

I want to cultivate the attitude that food is primarily meant to nourish and strengthen the body, rather than something I seek for sensory pleasure. I know that suppressing desire isn't the answer, but I would like to lessen my attachment to taste.

From the perspective of Advaita Vedanta, how should I approach this? Are there any teachings, practices, or scriptures that have helped you develop detachment from the enjoyment of food while still taking proper care of the body?

Are day scholars allowed?

Hi,so recently I joined a gym where I will go 1 hour 5 times a week along with my jee prep because it's affecting my health,my uric acid has increased and I have high chances of getting diabetes

So is there any good time management techniques cuz after lectures I have around 9-10 hours left ,is it good?

Hi,so recently I joined a gym where I will go 1 hour 5 times a week along with my jee prep because it's affecting my health,my uric acid has increased and I have high chances of getting diabetes

So is there any good time management techniques cuz after lectures I have around 9-10 hours left ,is it good?

I am having tough battle with lustful thoughts recently

I often convince myself to not be attracted to a physical body which is gross,I imagine what that women will look like in 60-70 years old body and able to sustain but the distraction power is so much it blocks my thoughts and I am unable to overcome

It's feels like I am getting attached to samsara more and more

I’ve been reflecting on whether all major spiritual traditions, including Advaita Vedanta, are ultimately pointing toward liberation rather than fully “delivering” it through teachings alone

In Advaita especially, there’s a strong emphasis on self-inquiry and direct realization. But I wonder do scriptures and teachings only act as pointers, while something essential has to be discovered through personal experience that cannot be fully captured in words?

Is it reasonable to think that even across religions, there might be aspects of truth or liberation that are not explicitly laid out, not because they are hidden on purpose, but because they can’t be fully expressed conceptually?

How do practitioners here understand the relationship between scripture, guidance, and direct realization?

I’ve been reflecting on whether all major spiritual traditions, including Advaita Vedanta, are ultimately pointing toward liberation rather than fully “delivering” it through teachings alone

In Advaita especially, there’s a strong emphasis on self-inquiry and direct realization. But I wonder do scriptures and teachings only act as pointers, while something essential has to be discovered through personal experience that cannot be fully captured in words?

Is it reasonable to think that even across religions, there might be aspects of truth or liberation that are not explicitly laid out, not because they are hidden on purpose, but because they can’t be fully expressed conceptually?

How do practitioners here understand the relationship between scripture, guidance, and direct realization?

I’ve been reflecting on whether all major spiritual traditions, including Advaita Vedanta, are ultimately pointing toward liberation rather than fully “delivering” it through teachings alone

In Advaita especially, there’s a strong emphasis on self-inquiry and direct realization. But I wonder do scriptures and teachings only act as pointers, while something essential has to be discovered through personal experience that cannot be fully captured in words?

Is it reasonable to think that even across religions, there might be aspects of truth or liberation that are not explicitly laid out, not because they are hidden on purpose, but because they can’t be fully expressed conceptually?

How do practitioners here understand the relationship between scripture, guidance, and direct realization?

I have a question,Why do we focus so much on sattvic food?How does it affect us ,Is our love for God to weak that mere onions and meat can affect our mind are we that weak or what?

Forgive my ignorance,But I had this doubt in my mind for many years

Sattvic ,Rajas and tamas aren't they all equally important in life and should be balanced and it's not like eating sattvic food make you more compassionate and good ,if this was true Why did Adolf hi3ler committed so many sins he was a vegetarian,and this doesn't make sense how eating sattvic food makes you a good person when India is mostly vegetarian country yet we know the crimes that happen here whereas in other countries they have built a good system

Our politicians are so corrupt and most of them are vegetarian

Does it really make sense or its just we misinterpreted our scriptures and said to eat only sattvic food

Forgive my ignorance,But I had this doubt in my mind for many years

Sattvic ,Rajas and tamas aren't they all equally important in life and should be balanced and it's not like eating sattvic food make you more compassionate and good ,if this was true Why did Adolf hi3ler committed so many sins he was a vegetarian,and this doesn't make sense how eating sattvic food makes you a good person when India is mostly vegetarian country yet we know the crimes that happen here whereas in other countries they have built a good system

Our politicians are so corrupt and most of them are vegetarian

Does it really make sense or its just we misinterpreted our scriptures and said to eat only sattvic food

Are you following scriptures or are you following buddha teachings and verifying it or what

What's the way are you trying to become liberated

Like do you play just for fun like me I just play events like world cup and scouting camp no interest in squad building or whatever just whenever I am free

Or you play it only to build a strong squad?