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So me and my boyfriend unexpectedly got pregnant. Our daughter is now 9 months old. Ever since I had a baby we just have not been the same. We argue constantly, we have completely different opinions on everything, we have no sex life (bc I don’t want to) and there’s just no romance. We’ve had multiple talks about breaking up but every time we’re like no we don’t want to break up the family let’s keep trying. But im giving up. I don’t want to do this the rest of my life. I’m only 21 years old im too young to have to do it the rest of my life. I don’t want my daughter to grow up constantly seeing us argue. Yes I wish it would work out. That would be the easiest but like I said this has been going on for 9 months. We have more bad days than good. It’s exhausting. How much longer am I supposed to just keep letting shit slide? I’m a stay at home mom right now and have been since I was pregnant but I have been interviewing for jobs just to get some money saved up in case we do break up. He says if we did he wouldn’t just kick me out, he would let me get back on my feet again. But here’s the thing. He would 100% take me to court and fight for custody and that literally makes me sick to my stomach. The idea of her not being with me makes me want to throw up. The idea of her going out of state without me makes me want to throw up. There’s been multiple instances where I have left to run errands for a couple hours and I come back and he’s passed out and she’s just crawling around or screaming and he doesn’t even know. He also either smokes weed or drinks every single day. Like im sorry but I would not trust him with her if we were not together but I know I would have no choice bc my state mostly ALWAYS does 50/50. I just genuinely don’t know what to do.

I have an almost 9 month old and have been out of work since like week 10 of my pregnancy. Recently I’ve been going pretty much insane being in the house all the time. I also would like to be able to have my own money (me and bf aren’t married) and also help out financially. My boyfriend says I really don’t need to work and he would rather me not bc he likes coming home to me and a clean house and stuff. But idk. I had an interview last week and got an offer today for it. It’s not a huge job at all and I won’t be making as much as I would like but it’s the fact I’ll be getting out of the house and also will have some money. But now that the option is actually open for me to work im feeling very emotional and stuck. I would be working 5 days a week from 9am-6pm. The thought of not being with my baby all day makes me literally want to puke. What if she gets attached to the person watching her (boyfriend’s sister) and she loses her attachment to me. What if she doesn’t feed my baby correctly or know how to put her down for a nap or get her to stop crying. What if she hates me bc Im not with her all the time anymore. There’s just so much going through my head. I feel like I’ll immediately regret working. Anyone else go through this? Or any advice?

Baby is about to be 9 months and oh my god I am genuinely going insane. This has to be worse than the newborn stage. She was sleeping in her own bed through the whole night not waking up but maybe once but could just get soothed back to sleep. Now she wakes up every 2 hours screaming and wanting a bottle and then she ends up in the bed with me almost every night. She won’t even nap in her own bed at this point, only on me or in her car seat. I’m so exhausted. She also is just so whiny. She doesn’t even cry she SCREAMS about everything. Is this how it’s going to be? Does it get better? Will she ever sleep through the night again?

I had a baby 8 months ago and can not for the life of me get back to being healthy. I am almost 20 pounds heavier than I was when I got pregnant. I have no motivation. I use to just tell myself im fat and if I want to look good I have to try for it. Well now I just tell myself I just had a baby and can cut myself some slack. I just want to look and feel better. I have tried to count my calories and I do so good then i have a bad day and then that bad turns into a couple of them. It’s like a terrible cycle. I have tried to not buy any junk food and keep mostly healthy stuff in the house. That doesn’t work. Here’s the biggest problem for me, I have dinners with my family 2 times a week and both those times they are eating pizza or tacos or fast food or something. Now most the time I do make my own healthy food and take it over there to eat but they always give me shit and then im jealous bc i just want the good food. Also my boyfriend and friends are CONSTANTLY asking me to go out to eat or go get food from somewhere. Ya I can just eat in moderation and look at the calories but it’s never enough. Everyone around me eats terribly so I think it’s fine if I do too. I’m terrible at portion control. Everytime im eating anything unhealthy im like eh might as well just take advantage of it and go all in so then I eat a lot and then eat like shit the rest of the day. I tell myself “ok this is the day you’re going to do better and start going to the gym”, some days I will literally be ready for the gym and I talk myself out of it. I’ve tried planning out all my meals and snacks the day before but I don’t follow it. I do see a dietitian on July 1st but part of me feels like that won’t even help me. I’m just so tired of this cycle. I don’t even know what to do anymore. It’s 12pm and so far today I’ve had coffee, a bagel with butter, cereal and goldfish. I don’t even feel satisfied. It’s disgusting. I’m also a stay at home mom so I think that has a lot to do with it to. I’m stuck in the house all day and bored eat.

I had a baby 8 months ago and can not for the life of me get back to being healthy. I am almost 20 pounds heavier than I was when I got pregnant. I have no motivation. I use to just tell myself im fat and if I want to look good I have to try for it. Well now I just tell myself I just had a baby and can cut myself some slack. I just want to look and feel better. I have tried to count my calories and I do so good then i have a bad day and then that bad turns into a couple of them. It’s like a terrible cycle. I have tried to not buy any junk food and keep mostly healthy stuff in the house. That doesn’t work. Here’s the biggest problem for me, I have dinners with my family 2 times a week and both those times they are eating pizza or tacos or fast food or something. Now most the time I do make my own healthy food and take it over there to eat but they always give me shit and then im jealous bc i just want the good food. Also my boyfriend and friends are CONSTANTLY asking me to go out to eat or go get food from somewhere. Ya I can just eat in moderation and look at the calories but it’s never enough. Everyone around me eats terribly so I think it’s fine if I do too. I’m terrible at portion control. Everytime im eating anything unhealthy im like eh might as well just take advantage of it and go all in so then I eat a lot and then eat like shit the rest of the day. I tell myself “ok this is the day you’re going to do better and start going to the gym”, some days I will literally be ready for the gym and I talk myself out of it. I’ve tried planning out all my meals and snacks the day before but I don’t follow it. I do see a dietitian on July 1st but part of me feels like that won’t even help me. I’m just so tired of this cycle. I don’t even know what to do anymore. It’s 12pm and so far today I’ve had coffee, a bagel with butter, cereal and goldfish. I don’t even feel satisfied. It’s disgusting. I’m also a stay at home mom so I think that has a lot to do with it to. I’m stuck in the house all day and bored eat.

I had a baby 8 months ago and can not for the life of me get back to being healthy. I am almost 20 pounds heavier than I was when I got pregnant. I have no motivation. I use to just tell myself im fat and if I want to look good I have to try for it. Well now I just tell myself I just had a baby and can cut myself some slack. I just want to look and feel better. I have tried to count my calories and I do so good then i have a bad day and then that bad turns into a couple of them. It’s like a terrible cycle. I have tried to not buy any junk food and keep mostly healthy stuff in the house. That doesn’t work. Here’s the biggest problem for me, I have dinners with my family 2 times a week and both those times they are eating pizza or tacos or fast food or something. Now most the time I do make my own healthy food and take it over there to eat but they always give me shit and then im jealous bc i just want the good food. Also my boyfriend and friends are CONSTANTLY asking me to go out to eat or go get food from somewhere. Ya I can just eat in moderation and look at the calories but it’s never enough. Everyone around me eats terribly so I think it’s fine if I do too. I’m terrible at portion control. Everytime im eating anything unhealthy im like eh might as well just take advantage of it and go all in so then I eat a lot and then eat like shit the rest of the day. I tell myself “ok this is the day you’re going to do better and start going to the gym”, some days I will literally be ready for the gym and I talk myself out of it. I’ve tried planning out all my meals and snacks the day before but I don’t follow it. I do see a dietitian on July 1st but part of me feels like that won’t even help me. I’m just so tired of this cycle. I don’t even know what to do anymore. It’s 12pm and so far today I’ve had coffee, a bagel with butter, cereal and goldfish. I don’t even feel satisfied. It’s disgusting. I’m also a stay at home mom so I think that has a lot to do with it to. I’m stuck in the house all day and bored eat.

Tl;dr- went on vacation and feel like boyfriend cheated on me while I was gone but idk if I’m tripping

So me ‘21 F’ and my boyfriend ‘21 M’ have been together for 2 years and had a kid unexpectedly and our sex life hasn’t really been the same since (to be fair I’m only 7 months postpartum). He wants sex all the time and I just don’t. And for this he has brought up breaking up with me and stuff. He also use to have a BAD porn addiction. Like multiple times a day all the time type shit. He literally had to throw his computer away bc it was a trigger for him. I send him nudes and stuff to jerk off to but he still watches porn and he will lie to me about it. Well this past week I went on vacation with our daughter and I had a feeling he would probably jerk off a lot while I was gone which ok whatever I’m not there. When I got home tonight I went to shower and all the bottles of shampoo were moved around and like not even in the shower anymore. The bath tub was pretty much empty. So I asked him about it and he lied straight to my face and said oh idk and I’m like bullshit what do you mean you don’t know. It took me a few times asking and he finally said okay I sat my phone up and was jerking off to porn. Like idk I got the ficking ick from that bc why did he lie to me about it over and over and what in the hell were you doing to need to move everything out the shower. Then on our side table we have had one condom and a bottle of lube. The condom has been sitting there for WEEKS and hasn’t been moved or anything since it was put there. After I showered I came in the room to get dressed and I noticed it was gone (I didn’t like purposely look for that I just happened to notice) and I’m like hmm what the actual fuck. So I went to ask him and he said oh my god dude I’m not doing this. And just ignored me for a good five minutes until he got annoyed of me asking and said he used the condom to jerk off just bc. And again that pissed me off bc why tf are you lying to me. But why does part of me not believe him? Why does part of me feel like he cheated on me when I was gone? Why is part of me so fucking annoyed he jerked off so many times? Maybe I’m just mad about the constant lying idk.

EDIT: MY BOYFRIEND ALSO WAS SO EXCITED FOR US TO LEAVE LIKE IT WAS VERY ODD. WE ALSO BARELY TALKED WHEN I WAS GONE. WE WERE ARGUING SOME.

I ‘21F’ am a first time mom to my daughter who is just 7 months and have been bestfriends with this girl ‘20F’ for 9+ years but she is single and has no kids. She planned a girls trip for her 21st bday a couple months ago and from the beginning I told her I would most likely not be joining bc I don’t want to leave my baby that soon and that long. They told me to bring her and at first I said no then they talked me into it and I was down for the idea. Now I’m second guessing everything and it’s 9 days away. Here’s why I’m second guessing: 1st reason is on the way there we are driving 6 hours then stopping and driving 7 hours the next day. Then we will be there for a week then on the way home we are doing the full 15 hours all the way home. I wouldn’t be driving but still I’ve asked multiple times to stop halfway on the way home bc I think 15 hours in the car would be too much for my baby. 2nd reason is they are wanting me to leave my baby with her mom at least twice while we go out and I’m just not comfortable doing that and they don’t understand why. 3rd reason I feel like I’m going to be more stressed out then anything on this trip bc I won’t have my boyfriend (babies dad) with me and again it’s a 8 day in all trip. 4th reason I am kinda upset with my friend at the moment bc in the last 7 days we have made plans 3 times and every single time I was ditched by her. There was even one time I had my baby up at 8:30am and in her car seat waiting on my friend and she just never showed up then texted me a few hours later saying she slept in. And I did end up saying something to her after the 3rd time being ditched and she just made up a bunch of excuses and didn’t feel bad at all. So idk I’m really just stressing and torn on if I should just suck it up and go on the trip since it’s so close and I’ve already bought a good amount of things just for the trip or save my stress and tell them I won’t be able to make it. What do you guys think?

My sister is law watches my 6 month old 3 days a week while i work. Well about 3 hours ago I got a call that she had left my baby on the bed for just a few seconds while she was trying to shut the window and my baby had rolled off the bed while she was doing that. She said she landed half on the dog bed and half on the floor but her head did hit the floor. She said she screamed for 20 minutes or so but was fine after that and was playing normally. I immediately left work to go and get her and called her pediatrician on the way. They said as long as she’s acting normal they think she’s fine but gave me some signs to look out for. She does have a goose egg bump on the back of her head but it’s not red and it’s not like a huge one. She’s still acting pretty normal I’d say but is fighting her sleep a lot and honestly I’m terrified to let her go to sleep. I see all these stories online where people have no idea there kid has a brain bleed or anything until later on and it’s either to late to fix it or they do but they have long term problems. The pediatrician also said to watch out for vomitiing but my baby ALWAYS vomites a lot after eating so idk. I’m just terrified. I feel sick to my stomach about it. Nothing like this has happened before.