u/Cultured_slime

I’m 26F and my boyfriend is 27M. We’re in an LDR, and lately I’ve been feeling lonely and disconnected.
He’s a very logical person, while I’m more emotionally driven, though I’ve been working on regulating myself and communicating better. Since the World Cup started, his routine has changed a lot. He stays up late watching games, wakes up early for work, naps after work, then plays his daily games. I know he’s tired, and I genuinely want to understand and support him.

We usually have scheduled noon calls because our schedules don’t line up well. At night, he plays games, and we still chat a bit, but lately the conversations feel very surface-level. We used to have more intentional time, like movie nights or me watching him play games, but that hasn’t really been happening much.

I don’t want to take away his hobbies or make him feel guilty for relaxing. At the same time, I don’t want to ignore my own needs either. Emotional intimacy and intentional time matter to me, especially because we’re long-distance.
We had a serious conflict before that almost ended the relationship, but he chose to stay and we both agreed to rebuild trust, be honest, and communicate instead of keeping things inside. Because of that, I’m trying not to assume the worst, but I’ve been wondering if he’s still happy in the relationship and if we’re both still actively trying to rebuild.

Part of what hurts is that he seems able to stay up and make time for games or friends, but when I ask to talk, he can easily say no. I understand he has his own life and hobbies, but I also want to feel like our relationship still has space in his life.

I’ve even started learning one of his games because I wanted to understand his world more and maybe connect with him through something he enjoys, but he doesn’t know that yet.

How do I bring this up in a way that feels calm and fair? I want to ask if I’m meeting his needs too, and what he needs from me, but I also want to be honest that I’ve been feeling neglected and lonely.

TL;DR:
My LDR boyfriend has been busy with World Cup, work, sleep, and gaming. I want to support him, but I feel emotionally disconnected and lonely. How do I talk to him about needing more intentional time without making him feel attacked?

My boyfriend plays Hunt:Showdown and it’s his main, main game. He plays it every single day, so I’m trying to think of a good birthday gift related to the game.Would official merch be enough, or is there something more special that a big Hunt fan would appreciate? I was also wondering if there’s any realistic way to contact the developers or community team for something like a birthday message, but I’m not sure if that’s possible. His main is Miku.

Any gift ideas from Hunt players would be really appreciated! Thank you

My boyfriend (27M) and | (26F) have been together for almost 6 months in a long-distance relationship.
We recently had a conflict that almost ended our relationship, but we both chose to work through it. I have an anxious attachment style, and I'm actively working on it through weekly therapy. My boyfriend is very independent, logical, and has a secure attachment style.
Since then, l've noticed he's less affectionate. He encouraged me to be more open and honest about my feelings, but whenever I communicate my needs, I feel like he ignores them or changes the subject.
For example, he told me we'd call one day. I asked if we could move it to 5 PM after school and work, and asked him to let me know if that worked. He read my message but never answered. Later, I saw he was online gaming with his friends, laughing and having a good time.
What hurt wasn't that he was gaming—| want him to enjoy time with his friends. It was that he couldn't send a quick message letting me know the call wasn't happening. This isn't the first time something like this has happened.
I'm trying not to let my anxiety make assumptions, but l also don't think asking for basic communication is unreasonable.
What do you guys think, especially from a man's perspective? Should I keep communicating my needs? If so, what's the best way to approach someone who's very logical and independent without making him feel pressured? I really love him and want to know if I'm missing something or if this is a genuine issue.

My \[26F\] bf \[27M\] and I have been together for almost 5 months now ldr. We are each other’s firsts and just recently started to try a couple of things. I observed that he seemed to like eating me out every time we meet. Not that I’m complaining coz that shits feels so good and he’s getting good at it and I did his yesterday for the very first time. He seems so happy about it and came fast coz I have to catch my train to go home and he’s still working online. But we didn’t even make out and I actually love making out with him before doing those stuffs but after cuddling yesterday he just straight out asked me to try this without making out. I mean it’s great but it made me wonder if he prefer to eat pussy than making out for hours.

I [26F] moved abroad to reunite with my mom[42F], but living with her is making me feel trapped and emotionally exhausted but I still have to stay with them for 4 more years and I don’t have a stable job yet because I’m still learning the language.

moved overseas through a family reunification visa to be with my mom, who married a foreigner after she and my biological father separated 10 years ago. After graduating, I worked in my home country for a while, but eventually decided to accept my mom’s suggestion to move abroad for better opportunities.

During my first month here, everything felt like heaven. They welcomed me warmly and gave me time to adjust. But from the second to fourth month, things started to feel like hell. My mom began pressuring me to find a job even though I barely knew the language yet. She told me that things are different here and that everyone has to contribute. I think she was worried my stepdad would think I was leeching off them or being a burden.

So I got a job at the same fast-food chain where she works. It was extremely difficult for me at first because everything was new. Back in my country, I was used to working with my mind, using computers, not doing physically demanding work. Since I was also studying the language, I could only work part-time, but I still started contributing part of my earnings.

Eventually, I got used to the routine and things became more manageable. However, my relationship with my mom still had conflicts, just like it did back in the Philippines. Most of our arguments were about chores. Even when I washed the dishes and vacuumed, she wanted everything done immediately, not later. She wanted the house to be completely dust-free. I did my best and got used to it, but sometimes it felt like she would always find a reason to start a fight with me.

Eventually, I got tired of explaining myself because I felt like she never truly listened to understand me. She only listened so she could respond. So I stopped talking back and would just cry in my room. Meanwhile, she would act like nothing happened and suddenly become happy again when talking to my stepfather.

When I turned 26, my mom kept asking when I was going to have a boyfriend. She would even joke about it at church or with her friends, asking if they knew someone they could introduce to me. So I started thinking that maybe it was finally time. I had never been in a relationship before because I was always focused on my career, mostly because that was what my mom wanted. Growing up, I felt like she only acknowledged my efforts when I got high grades or received awards in school.

So I started dating here and there until I met my current boyfriend. I didn’t feel butterflies with him, but for some reason, I felt safe. He was calm, which felt so different from the chaos I was used to. We are in a long-distance relationship, and his country is about two to four hours away from mine. We became a couple after he courted me for months, but the beginning of our relationship wasn’t easy. My fear of my mom finding out and reacting badly took over, so I chose to hide the relationship from her. I know that was unfair to my boyfriend, so I explained to him what it’s like having an Asian mom and what she might expect, such as him asking for her permission.
Because of this, we rarely call each other. I’m scared my mom will hear me from the next room. At night, when we talk, watch a series together, or when I watch his game, I sometimes have to hide inside the closet just so I can speak to him.

Eventually, my aunt discovered us while we were out on a date. She saw us and told my mom. After that, my mom was disappointed and started asking me a lot of questions. She kept saying that I should choose a boyfriend who already has a house, a car, and a stable job.
I know she probably wants what she thinks is best for me, but the way she expresses it feels less like concern and more like control disguised as, “I only want what’s best for you.” She even called me out for wearing makeup and compared me again to other people my age.
Honestly, I want to leave this household so badly. I do love my mom, but living with her is slowly destroying me. I tried to communicate with her. I told her that I wanted her to listen to understand me instead of listening just to respond or argue against everything I say. But she replied with something like, “So you want me, your parent and someone older than you, to kneel before you and understand you?”
At this point, I feel like giving up. But then she keeps asking why we’re not close, why I don’t share things with her, and why she feels like she doesn’t know me anymore.
Now, she wants me to be with another guy because she already knows his background, even though I don’t like him. She also wants access to my password, the same way she knows my stepfather’s information and has access to his phone. She said it’s because, “What if something happens?” But I don’t understand what kind of situation she is imagining.
I’ve started to notice a pattern with her. She thinks negatively in advance and assumes the worst before anything even happens. That is one of the reasons I don’t feel safe sharing things with her.
I feel torn because I do love my mom, and I know she probably believes she is protecting me. But I also feel suffocated, controlled, and emotionally drained. I’m 26, but I feel like I’m not allowed to make my own choices, date who I want, have privacy, or even exist peacefully without being criticized or compared to others.
I don’t know how to handle this anymore. I want to become independent and leave, but I’m still adjusting to this country, learning the language, and trying to build a stable life here. I feel guilty for wanting distance from my mom, but I also feel like staying in this environment is breaking me.
Has anyone else dealt with a parent like this, especially after moving abroad or living in a strict Asian household? How do you set boundaries when your parent sees boundaries as disrespect? And how do you stop feeling guilty for wanting your own life?

TL;DR: I moved abroad to reunite with my mom, but our relationship has become emotionally exhausting. She pressures me about work, chores, dating, my appearance, and my privacy. She wants control over who I date and even wants my passwords. I love her, but I feel suffocated and trapped. I want to become independent, but I feel guilty and don’t know how to set boundaries without making everything worse.

Planning to apply in Antwerpen Management School, they invited me for an interview. Does anyone know or have experience with what these questions are? Are they about my CV and essays.Any help would be greatly appreciated.

My boyfriend and I have officially been together for 4 months, but we've known each other for 7 months. After an argument, I asked him if he needed space because he'd been distant, even though he said he forgave me.
When I asked, he replied, "Yeah, I need time and space to think about what I want and how to move forward." He also said he wants to see actions rather than words because I keep saying one thing and doing another, and he hasn't seen any real changes. That part really disappointed him.
It's his mom's birthday next week, and I bought her a gift before my boyfriend goes back to his country to celebrate with her. After 3 days of not talking, I'm thinking about going to his apartment tomorrow to drop off the gift and bring him some of his favorite food as a peace offering.
I know I might be making a fool of myself, but I'm afraid of losing him without trying. I was at fault in our argument because I can be impulsive and emotional. What do you all think?
I genuinely regret my actions and want to make things right. I'm willing to swallow my pride and see him because I miss him so much. I dont want him to leave and do nothing

My[26F] bf [27M]and I always have arguments because I get so emotional and do things that hurts him but this time he have been distant after we had an argument caused my me but he said he forgave me but he’s disappointed according to him. He said I’m bipolar, emotional and complex. So I asked him if he needs space and time to think and he said yea I need space and time, thinking about what I want to do moving forward.
Does that mean he doesn’t want to be with me anymore?
I heard from his friend that he’s sick, it’s been days and I want to go to his apartment to check on him but if he still don’t want to talk then I just want to leave some goods outside his apartment coz I’m worried about him. He’s planning to go home and visit his homeland next week and I dont know when is he coming back.

I get anxious day by day but im slowly accepting wtv possibilities tho I don’t really know which side should I lean in. I just want to know if he still wants to be with me since it’s been days and if not then I can start moving on.

I know he loves me and I love him too so so much, I may not be vocal about it but not talking to him is killing me.

I wanna change and stop being emotional so bad but it’s not something instant, I can’t do it overnight

I 26F and my bf 27M LDR, have known each other for almost 7 months and officially together as a couple for 4 months. I am big on emotions and get really emotional and overthinks while my bf is the total opposite he operates mainly in logic. We often argue whenever I miss him and starts to question him about the things he didn’t do. I once blocked him out of nowhere after he said he misses me too but didn’t really do anything about it. There are some miscommunications before and for months I feel like my bf got fed up, understandable. It’s hard for me to directly open up my feelings but meeting him makes me want to tell him directly because I want us to work yet I always end up doing the exact opposite or worse hurt or make him disappointed. I really love him to death and I want to be better. I know he loves me too but I keep hurting him through my impulsive actions.

I went last time to his home for the first time and was expecting he planned things for us but all he said to me was he didn’t really think much about it as long as we see each other and be together its enough. I do appreciate the thought but he knows I’m the person who wants to do some activities together. Also he’s been busy helping his sister move out and also busy at work, told him day before that maybe we should just move the date but he said no. So i went there, he picked me up from the station. Its his ideal date us staying at home together. We talked, do couple things, eat together and watch our series then went nap coz I’m a bit sleepy too. It was fun but when i woke up i checked the time and its about to end, I need to go back home and starts to get sad coz i don’t want to say goodbye and we didn’t really go anywhere idk when we’re going to see each other again. So my impulsive ass gets ready to go home while he’s sleeping and went out of his house after sending him a text “I’m going home, thanks for today” even tho he told me before napping that he will send me home to the station. He’s tired and I don’t want to hassle him as I was staring at him sleeping soundly. The next thing I knew as I was walking outside his apartment he was running after me disheveled (he looks cute) and ask me what’s the matter. I told him nothing just wanna walk and go home. But end up telling the truth coz he won’t believe me.

We talked about it and he did say he forgave me but he’s also valid for saying he’s disappointed coz I keep saying sorry but nothing changed based on our previous arguments. I did appreciate how he cared for me during that date but I feel like it made him feel unappreciated and not enough after I attempted to leave when I don’t even know the way home. After that he still sent me home but he’s quite didn’t get my goodbye kiss just brief hug.

He said that he may be blunt and say hurtful things but it’s the truth. Me on the other hand hurts him through my actions. He said I say things and do the other way round, he told me that he’s not sure if he can trust the words that I say. So I told him that I will just show him actions but how do i do that in LDR, i go on my day and gives him update but he’s distant, maybe needs his own space but idk i just want to make things right. But also i can’t just be unemotional overnight but I admit that I’ve hurt him, i miss him so much.

What do i do? I asked if he needs space and he said yes but here i am spiralling as days go by. I want to work it out but I’m also afraid that I’ll keep hurting him. This is my first relationship and it’s probably the same for him too coz his last relationship was brief and back in highschool

I \[26F\] and my bf \[27M\] LDR, have known each other for almost 7 months and officially together as a couple for 4 months. I am big on emotions and get really emotional while my bf is the total opposite he operates mainly in logic. We often argue whenever I miss him and starts question him about the things he didn’t do. I once blocked him out of nowhere after he said he misses me too but didn’t really do anything about it. There are some miscommunications before and for months I feel like my bf got fed up, understandable. It’s hard for me to directly open up my feelings but meeting him makes me want to tell him directly because I want us to work yet I always end up doing the exact opposite or worse an hurt or make him disappointed. I really love him to death and I want to be better. I know he loves me too but I keep hurting him through my impulsive actions.

I went last time to his home for the first time and was expecting he planned things for us but all he said to me was he didn’t really think much about it as long as we see each other and be together its enough. I do appreciate the thought but he knows I’m the person who wants to do some activities together. Also he’s been busy helping his sister move out and also busy at work, told him day before that maybe we should just move the date but he said no. So i went there, he picked me up from the station. Its his ideal date us staying at home together. We talked, do couple things, eat together and watch our series then went nap coz I’m a bit sleepy too. It was fun but when i woke up i checked the time and its about to end, I need to go back home and starts to get sad coz i don’t want to say goodbye and we didn’t really go anywhere idk when we’re going to see each other again. So my impulsive ass gets ready to go home while he’s sleeping and went out of his house after sending him a text “I’m going home, thanks for today” even tho he told me before napping that he will send me home to the station. He’s tired and I don’t want to hassle him as I was staring at him sleeping soundly. The next thing I knew as I was walking outside his apartment he was running after me disheveled (he looks cute) and ask me what’s the matter. I told him nothing just wanna walk and go home. But end up telling the truth coz he won’t believe me.

We talked about it and he did say he forgave me but he’s also valid for saying he’s disappointed coz I keep saying sorry but nothing changed based on our previous arguments. I did appreciate how he cared for me during that date but I feel like it made him feel unappreciated and not enough after I attempted to leave when I don’t even know the way home. After that he still sent me home but he’s quite didn’t get my goodbye kiss just brief hug.

He said that he may be blunt and say hurtful things but it’s the truth. Me on the other hand hurts him through my actions. He said I say things and do the other way round, he told me that he’s not sure if he can trust the words that I say. So I told him that I will just show him actions but how do i do that in LDR, i go on my day and gives him update but he’s distant, maybe needs his own space but idk i just want to make things right. But also i can’t just be unemotional overnight but I admit that I’ve hurt him, i miss him so much.

What do i do?I want to work it out but I’m also afraid that I’ll keep hurting him. This is my first relationship and it’s probably the same for him too coz his last relationship was brief and back in highschool. I am planning to surprise visit him and talk about it next week. Should I do that?