u/CuriousAsh04

I am 5 months pregnant with our 3rd together. I’m a flight attendant, so my doctor put me on leave until baby comes, bc it’s a lot of work! Pushing, pulling, reaching… and with me being 35 (Advanced Maternal Age lol) that makes me high risk. My husband and I were separated for a year… bc of some sensitive issues I’d rather keep private. During that year, I secured a place to stay for myself and my children, and I worked to support all of us under that roof. Myself and my 4 children. At the end of last year, we reconciled and he moved in with me. In January, I broke my toe so couldn’t work for 3 months. Went back to work, but my checks were a bit lower because of the time I was off. But happy he was there to pick up my slack. Now, I’m off work again. And bringing in no consistent income. I do sub during the week for extra, and I’m waiting on my unemployment to be approved. This has been a super trying time. My husband does not like having to pay the rent by himself. Mind you, I’m still paying utilities and phone bill. But he’s taking care of the rent. I completely understand, it’s basically taking all of one of his biweekly checks. But I truly need his help right now. He says he doesn’t want to be there for me, bc when he needed me, I wasn’t there. For context: we’ve been dating 9 years, married 5. I did surrogacy twice, and was paid for those journeys. During that time, I was not working, so we lived off that money. We split everything 50/50. And whatever extra I had, i would use for the house, buy kids clothes, or just whatever. He wanted me to pay off the rent. I didn’t do that. So that’s what he means by I didn’t help him. Anywho… he is now saying he wants us to move out of my apartment when the lease is up, and stay separately to save. I get that… but I’ll be 7 months pregnant by that time. I don’t want to have to move me and my 4 children to go stay in someone’s home. That’s a lot of people, when I can just tough out these few months until I’m back working. I don’t know… I understand he wants to save… so do I. But he’s only one “body” that will go stay with his grandparents, and it’s a free stay for him. But I’m 5 “bodies” that would have to go infringe on someone’s space. I hate that I’m here. But in our whole relationship I’ve never actually needed him financially like I do now. It’s temporary. I’m on maternity leave… I have a job, that pays well. Ugh, this is so frustrating.

Should I open new accounts prior to filing? None of my accounts are associated with the bankruptcy or past accounts. But curious, planning to file soon, and want to go ahead and get a new account beforehand if so…

Just was hired as an inside sales rep for ADT! Anyone work for them and can give me some info? I’m really just curious about pay! The base is so low… are commissions truly that great? What’s a true paycheck like? The manager I interviewed with said he has reps making $100k+, is this real or only a few that reach these heights?

He woke up and wanted sex. I’m 4 months pregnant, and just not in the mood right now. Could be that I just found out he had a Facebook dating profile… so he got upset. Said he would just watch porn. Told me when he finds someone who wants sex all the time, I can’t be mad. He also called me a bitch… in his statements while talking. Saying “your bitch ass….” And he doesn’t see that the way he treats me contributes to me not wanting it. My feelings are hurt. All over sex. When your wives tell you no, how do you react? I would say, it’s not every time… but I don’t know.

My husband of 5 years, refuses to get off the phone with me while he working. I can drop him off, and 10mins later he’s calling me. This has been everyday. He works in corporate America, so I figure he would be busier. But nope. So today, we had been on the phone for an hour. I dropped him off, took the kids to school, came home… still on the phone. And mostly in silence, I might add. I tell him I would call him back after cleaning and showering. He gets upset, goes to tell me “he wanted to talk on the phone and I pushed him away, today he’s going to start talking to other people, Since being on the phone and being a wife and listening to me or just being there is too much . I will find it somewhere else.” This is literally his go to, if I don’t acquiesce to him, he threatens to go out and find it elsewhere. And he has cheated, so it stings a little, but I’m becoming numb. It just irritates my soul, I don’t want to sit on the phone with anyone while I’m trying to do my daily chores. Honestly throughout the day he calls probably every hour to sit on the phone while he works. It just grinds my gears. But I do it. Today though, I needed to get things done without being tied to the phone. He even told me to prop the phone up, and not get off. So I don’t know. Does this seem like I’m being monitored or controlled? Or am I overreacting?

I am said race that he hates. I’ve just had to endure 45mins of him fussing about how this particular race of women, are ignorant and stupid. He’s going through coparenting issues with his son’s mom. So all of that anger has gone to our whole race. “Why do yall do this or that?” Then “why are you like this?” I had nothing to do with why he’s upset. Whew. I’m 3 months pregnant, and now I have a headache.

Wanted to add that my husband is half this race. So he goes on to say, his mom, aunts, me… his babymother. We’re all the same. And a man will have to date outside of his race…. Etc.

A couple of weeks ago I posted how my husband and I found out we were expecting, unexpectedly. Here I am, now 5 weeks, and we are still trying to figure out what to do. He feels like we aren’t ready for another, what if it brings us apart, what if money is tight, etc… but then he says things like, “would you be upset if it was a girl”, and rubs my belly, he came to me today and told me his cousin told him he could get us the abortion pill at a low cost, and his wife just took one a few weeks ago. I’m not at peace with any decision. I keep praying and asking God for answers, and I don’t feel he’s listening. I’m stuck. I’m wrestling in my mind with what to do. I had an abortion in high school, and vowed not to do it again. But here I am… it would be my 5th, my husband’s 6th. That is a lot of children. But I also took plan b right after, is this God’s plan. I just don’t know. Please pray for me. I feel like I’m under a dark cloud of confusion. I want to make the best decision. The smartest for everyone. God help me.

Please no judgement. I am a 34(F) married to a 36(M). We have 7 children total, 2 together. I love our blended family. Seems we have wound up unexpectedly expecting. My 5th biological child. I am in utter shock, disbelief, and confused as to how to move forward. We both are Christian. And I haven’t told him the news yet, as I’ve literally just found out. (He will know first thing tomorrow after an important interview, I didn’t want his mind off track). We didn’t want anymore. I even took a plan b to be safe. And I guess the little soldier was stronger than that. I just don’t know what to do. I’ve had an abortion when I was 17, worst mistake of my life. I have guilt over that decision daily. But how do we do it with so many? I know we aren’t the first ones to have many children, just financially, socially, I don’t know how we can do it. I’m trying to trust God in this, but I am a ball of confusion.

Please no judgement. I am a 34(F) married to a 36(M). We have 7 children total, 2 together. I love our blended family. Seems we have wound up unexpectedly expecting. My 5th biological child. I am in utter shock, disbelief, and confused as to how to move forward. We both are Christian. And I haven’t told him the news yet, as I’ve literally just found out. We didn’t want anymore. I even took a plan b to be safe. And I guess the little soldier was stronger than that. I just don’t know what to do. I’ve had an abortion when I was 17, worst mistake of my life. I have guilt over that decision daily. But how do we do it with so many? I know we aren’t the first ones to have many children, just financially, socially, I don’t know how we can do it. I’m trying to trust God in this, but I am a ball of confusion.

I took plan B on the 26th. Which was about 12 hours after being intimate, and my husband did finish inside me. We have a lot of children already, so we wanted to have fun, but also be safe. By a lot, I mean… we have a blended family, he has 3, I have 2… and we have 2 together. 7 children! Whew. I thought we were good. But have been checking, because I know I ovulated on the 26th-27th. Tracked with BBT on Oura and LH strips. So here we are… if you’ve made it this far, I don’t think it worked. I am now 8-9 DPO and showing a faint line on a Pregmate test. I wish I could upload the photo here. God help us. I don’t know what to do.

Does this seem like normal pre AF discharge, I’m guessing it’s EWCM? Stretchy, sort of clear, but also a tinge of yellow, also wet. AF is due by Saturday 5/16. I’m CD 26 got a BFN on mid-day urine on an Amazon cheapie. Just curious… I’m having some dull cramping, tiredness, dizziness, and just feeling off. What do you ladies think? (Sorry I thought I could post a photo)

My husband and I have been using the pull out method ever since I removed my Mirena. The other day, we were having sex and he pulled out, came (but he saw nothing) and went back in. And eventually pulled out again, and came (all over me). Now, what’s tripping us up, he’s not sure if he accidentally came inside me the first time since he saw no semen, or if nothing just came out. Is that possible. This was all in the span of an hour. It was like a day or so before ovulation. Just curious if I should be worried. I’m now in day 18 of my cycle. Thoughts?