u/DeerFair8664

What does friendship genuinely mean to you?

TL;DR:
I feel emotionally disconnected from most people in my life even though many consider me a close friend. I want to understand how others truly define friendship, emotional closeness, and what actually matters to them in a real friendship.

I genuinely wanna know how people actually see friendship.

Like… what makes someone a real friend to you? Not in a surface-level “we hang out sometimes” way, but genuinely. What things matter to you the most in a friendship?

For example, some people say:

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Others feel like checking up on each other, asking how someone is doing, remembering small things, or simply showing care is important.

Some people also believe that when you truly know someone’s intentions, even if they say things harshly sometimes, you still understand they mean well because you know their heart.

I wanna know how you personally see it.

  • What behaviors actually matter to you?
  • What things do you pay attention to without even realizing it?
  • What makes you feel emotionally close or safe with someone?
  • What are things people often ignore in friendships that you think are actually important?

Because honestly, I feel lonely around almost everyone I know. A lot of people consider me very close to them, even their best friend sometimes. And I’m not pretending to be someone else or faking my personality. I just act naturally and people seem to connect with me.

But deep down, I’ve never really felt fully connected to anyone.

It’s like I have certain emotional boundaries, needs, or ways of seeing friendship that most people around me don’t really understand. And when I see other people having the kind of connection I wish I had, it makes me realize how much I’ve been missing that feeling.

I don’t know if I expect too much from friendship or if I just haven’t met the right people yet, but I’d really like to hear honest opinions and experiences from others.

I genuinely wanna know how people actually see friendship.

Like… what makes someone a real friend to you? Not in a surface-level “we hang out sometimes” way, but genuinely. What things matter to you the most in a friendship?

For example, some people say:
“we can disappear for months and still be friends, and that’s normal.”

Others feel like checking up on each other, asking how someone is doing, remembering small things, or simply showing care is important.

Some people also say that when you truly know someone’s intentions, eve TBH, i do not believe in friendships sometimes, i am feeling really low and upset

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u/DeerFair8664 — 23 days ago

i had a close friend that things happened between us and because of my bad temper i said mean things to him that end up not talking for nearly a year and now after i apologized and he did so and told me to not end it we got back in touch but each time we have a conversation i regret what i said and i feel ashamed (we are talking just online, just sharing reels and joking around) and after we apologized and did not mention that again. Is it a good idea to mention it again and say that i know i hurted him and i know i was mean and i know eventhough he said that he never blames me because that period i was in a deep depression and i was feeling really really bad or to just be normal and act like that till we can meet and maybe i decide after that, can someone give me an advice because what i heard it is not good to keep apologizing again(it feels kinda repetitive or kinda of not moving on situation)???????????? PS: we was just close friends (male and a female)

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u/DeerFair8664 — 25 days ago

Who else wanna have a secret letter sender friend, what i mean is someone or bunch of people who lives abroad ( not from you country ) and you exchange letters with them from time to time, i really wanna do it. It feels like litterally guys you can talk about anything and you sure the other one while not judge or ignore you or tell you whatever comes to their minds. those letter friend xan help you out even with one advice that came from them in an honest way and they are really people who makes the effort to send you back a letter which really matters, adding to that the fact that you guys can express your opinions/perspective/sadness/happiness/thoughts or anything comes to you minds and you still gonna feel free. I AM LOOKIGN FORWARD TO DO IT TBH

(20f)

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u/DeerFair8664 — 28 days ago