AITAH for wanting to leave the vacation earlier?
My mother has been asking to go on vacation for quite a bit now.
Earlier in the year i wasn’t able to go because of university. so i proposed for my sister to go with her, including her boyfriend. They didn’t want to go: „i’m too old to go with my mother, it’s embarrassing. You go!“ I told her at the moment it’s not really possible thanks to university.
It lead to a big fight, but long story short - she decided to go with my mother in August. It was planned my mother, father, sister and her boyfriend. They booked it but my father couldn’t go, so okay i’m going then, fine. We are in croatia right now.
I have a very bad relationship with my sister as she is just the biggest asshole, when it doesn’t go her way i just get screamed at, etc.
A week before we went my sister was picking fights with my mother as well as me. She decided that we won’t go, but changed her mind every second day. It totally stressed me out and resulted in me not wanting to go, which I told my mother. In the end, i went along with it so my mother is happy. That’s for the backstory.
The vacation is a week long and from day one she has been giving me hell for everything.
I was already at my limits from day one because of her bickering, so i proposed to fly back on thursday, everyone’s against it. However, at this point i just don’t want to hang out with them anymore as my sister constantly gets mad at me. My mother started crying because i wanted to leave as it stresses her. My sister is crying, because she thinks i’m the bad guy now.
I send following text to my sister yesterday, first text shortened:
So, (sister), to be honest, I still want to go on Thursday. I can take the bus to the airport, it's no problem for me. If you want, I'll give you gas money for the trip or whatever you want to keep it "fair," but to be honest, I'm just not enjoying the vacation and I can't relax like this. If it continues like this, I'm going to lose it, and I don't want to ruin everyone's mood even more. All the stress you caused last week about us not going etc. already put me in such a bad mood that I was stressed about coming from the very beginning, especially when you tell Mom a completely different story about us arguing outside, that I supposedly yelled at you, when you were the one who said we weren't going on vacation. I know it's unfair and awful to you guys too, but I know for sure that if I really stay until the end, I'll just go crazy.
I'd really like to just talk calmly with both of you about everything so I can hear your opinions and you mine, and maybe then I'll be in a better mood and won't want to leave. But the way things are going, I don't really feel like staying.
my sister however, never responded, never talked about it with me, and told my mother she didn’t even bother reading the text. She said that i’m the one who doesn’t want to talk.
Should i still tell them i want to leave as i feel bad, or just endure it? If i go there will probably be a bigger fight.
TLDR: I’m having a horrible time on vacation because of my sister and want to leave early as i feel uncomfortable, but they also don’t want me to leave.
AITA for wanting to leave/planning to leave?