u/Difficult_Charity880

I want y'all to quote what Emily would say on hearing the news of the famous NYC proposal that's been trending lately 😭😭 just the thought of her finding out about it is so funny to me.

I think she'd be appalled and compare them to monkeys or sumth💀

planning to do a course over the summer on video editing. I found a course from arfa karim tower and I need advice on whether I should do it or not, or if you have any alternate suggestions on where I should learn from. Please don't suggest youtube or anything free, because I know myself that I won't commit to anything unless I spend a bit of money. This course is for 2 months and 30k, let me know if you think this is a decent option. I'm sharing the outline below.

*Level 3.1: Video Editing*

*Level 3.1, Part A: Basic Video Editing with Adobe Premiere Pro*

*Week 1: Getting Started with Premiere Pro*

- Understand Premiere Pro interface, tools, and workspace setup.

- Create a new project, import media, and set up a sequence.

*Week 2: Core Editing Skills*

- Basic timeline editing: cutting, trimming, and rearranging clips.

- Add simple transitions and sync audio with video.

*Week 3: Enhancing Videos*

- Create titles, text overlays, and simple lower thirds.

- Apply basic color correction (brightness, contrast, white balance).

*Week 4: Exporting and Mini Project*

- Export videos for YouTube and Instagram (basic settings).

- Mini project: Edit a short vlog or personal video (2-3 minutes).

*Level 3.1, Part B: Intermediate Video Editing and Motion Graphics*

*Week 1: Improving Editing Workflow*

- Use adjustment layers and basic creative transitions.

- Introduction to color grading with preset LUTs.

*Week 2: Adding Motion*

- Animate clips (scale, position, opacity) with keyframes.

- Basic green screen editing with Ultra Key.

*Week 3: Audio and Short-Form Content*

- Enhance audio: reduce noise and balance sound.

- Edit vertical videos for reels or TikTok (aspect ratios).

*Week 4: Final Project*

- Optimize workflow for faster editing (e.g., shortcuts, proxies).

- Final project: Create a short promo or social media reel (1-2 minutes).

F21 here! I'm looking for work from 10th June onwards (my last exam). Idk if u remember but I'm the girl who posted about my goal to earn 200k plus in 3 months of summer. And I've been lurking on this subreddit for a few months now

The only posts that get attention here are either super qualified people or the people telling a sob story about how poor and destitute they are lol, and even my normal job post got removed for some reason I don't understand.

Anyways I'd love to have multiple part time jobs in the summer. I got approached by a job for a VA but that guy ghosted me after saying the deal is locked.

I can be a virtual assistant, manage insta dms for business, and literally any random odd work that y'all need done. I'll be available 24/7 too as I am on dms. I have experience in script writing for YouTube, and I'm a 4th semester psychology student, so I'm good at that niche too. I also have experience with an online business cus I ran my crochet business for a year so I can handle social media pretty well, and I've given tuitions too.

The thing is, I don't know how i can make all of this sound good enough to get hired cus most of the decent posts where people post their cvs get ignored on this sub. I'd also appreciate advice on how to approach those who are hiring on dms and lock deals. I'd appreciate any advice fr.

Btwww I also plan to learn video editing in the summer in order to niche down on a good skill that seems to be in demand

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let me start by introducing y'all to what I'm dealing with, aka his personality.

verbally and physically abusive with my mom (physically in the past, not anymore)

kicked my brother out of our house for 4 years and did not go to his wedding only because he broke his engagement with our cousin

Once he saw my sister and I wearing tshirts in our bedroom at night, and the next day he cut them up with scissors so that we never do it again

Did not give me pocket money till the age of 20 and before that he would give me 200 rupees whenever I asked for money. When I asked for something specific he gave the exact money I needed but nothing else. I had to set the pocket money after creating a huge fight and tantrum

Once he picked up his slipper and was about to beat me (my mom stopped him luckily) because I had forgot to tell him what time he has to drop me to school that morning

Last year he was supposed to drop me at a restaurant where I was planning to meet some friends. I had asked for his permission earlier but on the specific day I forgot to remind him. His response was to yell and throw away a wooden trolley and lock himself in his room (I took a cab then)

Our whole lives have been spent with a severely aggressive environment at home, almost daily fight with my mom over the randomest shit and he'd start abusing her.

This post will get too long if I start listing everything. The most recent incedent was the last one, restaurant Wala. After that he didn't speak to me for 4 months and I was also pissed at him. At the end he started talking to me again himself.

In October last year I went to remind him to give me my pocket money. Btw there's no affordability issue here for him Incase anyone is wondering. It's a power dynamic with him. Khair so I was a bit annoyed that I keep asking again and again for a basic need and it creates problems for me when I go to uni.

He said that I should sit and spend time with him for an hour everytime I want it and that way he'll feel "respected". I kept trynna explain that it's a basic need, and it creates problems for me when I don't have it, so I don't always have time to approach it that way. At that point he got mad and started trying to hit himself out of frustration.

I left the money there and went to my room. I was beyond exhausted at that point because even though not all times are bad like this with him, something like this happens every few months. He never makes me feel like he's proud of me, or that I'm a good daughter etc. Even tho I've never gone out of my way to disobey him, and I never ask him to allow me to do things that he doesn't like (overnight trips, too much outings etc)

So out of frustration and feeling this intense lack of empathy from him, something inside me finally snapped after all these years. I went to him, grabbed a bottle of mortien (the insect killer yes) and started beating my head with it as hard as I could. I wanted him to see me in physical pain and empathize with me because he never understands my emotional pain anyway.

He just sat there frozen, didn't try to stop me. My head spinned and I fell down. He still didn't get up. I went to the kitchen to grab a knife to make it seem like I was gonna do something crazy to myself. I was full on screaming and crying this whole time btw. He still didn't get up to stop me. My brother walked in at that moment and took me back to my room.

Then my mom and brother tried to patch things up between us by telling me to suck it up and ignore it till I get married, just like all of my older siblings did. Then they went to him and told him I might be acting out because I'm lonely. And my dads response was ke "she's throwing these tantrums to get married"

That was the moment when I lost all hope. The reason I was doing what I did was to gain his pity on some level. But that one sentence changed something inside me, and I realized that he'll never feel for me what I want him to feel. So I became totally indifferent. For many months it stopped hurting me even, I just stopped talking to him altogether and ignoring his existence. He didn't say anything.

It has been 7 months since that day and i haven't talked to him, nor has he. He complains about my behavior to everyone in the house but doesn't bother solving things.

The reason I did this is because I'm so emotionally drained, if I make things normal he does something crazy ever few months and ruin my sanity.

But these days I just look at him and feel like I'll regret all of this if he's no longer in the world. He's very old, almost 66. And I remember my childhood when he did treat me with a lot of love and gentleness and my heart just feels sad and confused.

I don't know that to do. I know I'm not doing the right thing, but what else can I do?

let me start by introducing y'all to what I'm dealing with, aka his personality.

verbally and physically abusive with my mom (physically in the past, not anymore)

kicked my brother out of our house for 4 years and did not go to his wedding only because he broke his engagement with my phupho ki beti

Once he saw my sister and I wearing tshirts in our bedroom at night, and the next day he cut them up with scissors so that we never do it again

Did not give me pocket money till the age of 20 and before that he would give me 200 rupees whenever I asked for money. When I asked for something specific he gave the exact money I needed but nothing else. I had to set the pocket money after creating a huge fight and tantrum

Once he picked up his chappal and was about to beat me (my mom stopped him luckily) because I had forgot to tell him what time he has to drop me to school that morning

Last year he was supposed to drop me at a restaurant where I was planning to meet some friends. I had asked for his permission earlier but on the specific day I forgot to remind him. His response was to yell and throw away a wooden trolley and lock himself in his room (I took a cab then)

Our whole lives have been spent with a severely aggressive environment at home, almost daily fight with my mom over the randomest shit and he'd start abusing her.

This post will get too long if I start listing everything. The most recent incedent was the last one, restaurant Wala. After that he didn't speak to me for 4 months and I was also pissed at him. At the end he started talking to me again himself.

In October last year I went to remind him to give me my pocket money. Btw there's no affordability issue here for him Incase anyone is wondering. It's a power dynamic with him. Khair so I was a bit annoyed that I keep asking again and again for a basic need and it creates problems for me when I go to uni.

He said that I should sit and spend time with him for an hour everytime I want it and that way he'll feel "respected". I kept trynna explain that it's a basic need, and it creates problems for me when I don't have it, so I don't always have time to approach it that way. At that point he got mad and started trying to hit himself out of frustration.

I left the money there and went to my room. I was beyond exhausted at that point because even though not all times are bad like this with him, something like this happens every few months. He never makes me feel like he's proud of me, or that I'm a good daughter etc. Even tho I've never gone out of my way to disobey him, and I never ask him to allow me to do things that he doesn't like (overnight trips, too much outings etc)

So out of frustration and feeling this intense lack of empathy from him, something inside me finally snapped after all these years. I went to him, grabbed a bottle of mortien (the insect killer yes) and started beating my head with it as hard as I could. I wanted him to see me in physical pain and empathize with me because he never understands my emotional pain anyway.

He just sat there frozen, didn't try to stop me. My head spinned and I fell down. He still didn't get up. I went to the kitchen to grab a knife to make it seem like I was gonna do something crazy to myself. I was full on screaming and crying this whole time btw. He still didn't get up to stop me. My brother walked in at that moment and took me back to my room.

Then my mom and brother tried to patch things up between us by telling me to suck it up and ignore it till I get married, just like all of my older siblings did. Then they went to him and told him I might be acting out because I'm lonely. And my dads response was ke " isko shadi Karni hai isi liye ye aise kar Rahi hai"..

That was the moment when I lost all hope. The reason I was doing what I did was to gain his pity on some level. But that one sentence changed something inside me, and I realized that he'll never feel for me what I want him to feel. So I became totally indifferent. For many months it stopped hurting me even, I just stopped talking to him altogether and ignoring his existence. He didn't say anything.

It has been 7 months since that day and i haven't talked to him, nor has he. He complains about my behavior to everyone in the house but doesn't bother solving things.

The reason I did this is because I'm so emotionally drained, if I make things normal he does something crazy ever few months and ruin my sanity.

But these days I just look at him and feel like I'll regret all of this if he's no longer in the world. He's very old, almost 66. And I remember my childhood when he did treat me with a lot of love and gentleness and my heart just feels sad and confused.

I don't know that to do. I know I'm not doing the right thing, but what else can I do?

I'd say I'm fairly ambitious but in no way am I super accomplished or cool, but I try to work towards my goals. For the last 2 years I have been in a slump mainly because I got accepted in my dream uni but couldn't go because of the expenses. Since then I have been absolutely terrible at my studies, but lately I've been trying to get out of it, focus more on grades and reignite my past self.

Anyways, I wanna connect with like-minded people, because I feel like I need that influence in my life cus the people around me aren't particularly crazy about their goals. One thing i like is when people have dreams that are seem too crazy to be true given their current state. But i like it better when those people are intensely dedicated and wholeheartedly believe that they can get there

Comment below and share your experiences, thoughts or literally anything lol. My dms are also open

I'd say I'm fairly ambitious but in no way am I super accomplished or cool, but I try to work towards my goals. For the last 2 years I have been in a slump mainly because I got accepted in my dream uni but couldn't go because of the expenses. Since then I have been absolutely terrible at my studies, but lately I've been trying to get out of it, focus more on grades and reignite my past self.

Anyways, I wanna connect with like-minded people, because I feel like I need that influence in my life cus the people around me aren't particularly crazy about their goals. One thing i like is when people have dreams that are seem too crazy to be true given their current state. But i like it better when those people are intensely dedicated and wholeheartedly believe that they can get there

Comment below and share your experiences, thoughts or literally anything lol. My dms are also open

I'm looking for books that can teach me the most basic financial literacy, because I have no prior background or knowledge in the subject. Kindly suggest such books