u/DoNotYeild

My avoidant ex recently broke up with me for a second time , he’s an avoidant of some kind . He said :

“Im sorry but I dont think this is going to work out, I am not at the right point in life to enter a long term relationship. Everything's been going downhill and it doesn't look like it's getting any better. And I dont want to be close to anyone right now. I guess im just scared of commitment or proximity or something, but I really need to be alone. Im sorry that im weak enough to run away like this, but I really can't stick to anything or anyone right now. New shit is coming up and everything just seems like it's gonna end soon. I dont want you to have to deal with that, so I'll talk to you later I suppose. Or whenever we meet again. But im gonna try and distance myself from the people around me and see if I can get some control again of my downward spiral. Im sorry”.

Afterwards I didn’t chase or beg this time I simply said ok and if he ever did wanna fix things , or talk whether thats in a couple months or weeks , I respected his decision and held no grudge and cared for him.

Normally he blocks me or unadde me in the past or flatly says me and him will never talk again , but this time he still kept me added . Does this seem like he plans on coming back or contacting me at some point ?

My avoidant ex recently broke up with me for a second time , he’s an avoidant of some kind . He said :

“Im sorry but I dont think this is going to work out, I am not at the right point in life to enter a long term relationship. Everything's been going downhill and it doesn't look like it's getting any better. And I dont want to be close to anyone right now. I guess im just scared of commitment or proximity or something, but I really need to be alone. Im sorry that im weak enough to run away like this, but I really can't stick to anything or anyone right now. New shit is coming up and everything just seems like it's gonna end soon. I dont want you to have to deal with that, so I'll talk to you later I suppose. Or whenever we meet again. But im gonna try and distance myself from the people around me and see if I can get some control again of my downward spiral. Im sorry”.

Afterwards I didn’t chase or beg this time I simply said ok and if he ever did wanna fix things , or talk whether thats in a couple months or weeks , I respected his decision and held no grudge and cared for him.

Normally he blocks me or unadde me in the past or flatly says me and him will never talk again , but this time he still kept me added . Does this seem like he plans on coming back or contacting me at some point ?

My avoidant ex recently broke up with me for a second time , he’s an avoidant of some kind . He said :

“Im sorry but I dont think this is going to work out, I am not at the right point in life to enter a long term relationship. Everything's been going downhill and it doesn't look like it's getting any better. And I dont want to be close to anyone right now. I guess im just scared of commitment or proximity or something, but I really need to be alone. Im sorry that im weak enough to run away like this, but I really can't stick to anything or anyone right now. New shit is coming up and everything just seems like it's gonna end soon. I dont want you to have to deal with that, so I'll talk to you later I suppose. Or whenever we meet again. But im gonna try and distance myself from the people around me and see if I can get some control again of my downward spiral. Im sorry”.

Afterwards I didn’t chase or beg this time I simply said ok and if he ever did wanna fix things , or talk whether thats in a couple months or weeks , I respected his decision and held no grudge and cared for him.

Normally he blocks me or unadde me in the past or flatly says me and him will never talk again , but this time he still kept me added . Does this seem like he plans on coming back or contacting me at some point ?

My avoidant ex recently broke up with me for a second time , he’s an avoidant of some kind . He said :

“Im sorry but I dont think this is going to work out, I am not at the right point in life to enter a long term relationship. Everything's been going downhill and it doesn't look like it's getting any better. And I dont want to be close to anyone right now. I guess im just scared of commitment or proximity or something, but I really need to be alone. Im sorry that im weak enough to run away like this, but I really can't stick to anything or anyone right now. New shit is coming up and everything just seems like it's gonna end soon. I dont want you to have to deal with that, so I'll talk to you later I suppose. Or whenever we meet again. But im gonna try and distance myself from the people around me and see if I can get some control again of my downward spiral. Im sorry”.

Afterwards I didn’t chase or beg this time I simply said ok and if he ever did wanna fix things , or talk whether thats in a couple months or weeks , I respected his decision and held no grudge and cared for him.

Normally he blocks me or unadde me in the past or flatly says me and him will never talk again , but this time he still kept me added . Does this seem like he plans on coming back or contacting me at some point ?

My avoidant ex recently broke up with me for a second time , he’s an avoidant of some kind . He said :

“Im sorry but I dont think this is going to work out, I am not at the right point in life to enter a long term relationship. Everything's been going downhill and it doesn't look like it's getting any better. And I dont want to be close to anyone right now. I guess im just scared of commitment or proximity or something, but I really need to be alone. Im sorry that im weak enough to run away like this, but I really can't stick to anything or anyone right now. New shit is coming up and everything just seems like it's gonna end soon. I dont want you to have to deal with that, so I'll talk to you later I suppose. Or whenever we meet again. But im gonna try and distance myself from the people around me and see if I can get some control again of my downward spiral. Im sorry”.

Afterwards I didn’t chase or beg this time I simply said ok and if he ever did wanna fix things , or talk whether thats in a couple months or weeks , I respected his decision and held no grudge and cared for him.

Normally he blocks me or unadde me in the past or flatly says me and him will never talk again , but this time he still kept me added . Does this seem like he plans on coming back or contacting me at some point ?

My avoidant ex recently broke up with me for a second time , he’s an avoidant of some kind . He said :

“Im sorry but I dont think this is going to work out, I am not at the right point in life to enter a long term relationship. Everything's been going downhill and it doesn't look like it's getting any better. And I dont want to be close to anyone right now. I guess im just scared of commitment or proximity or something, but I really need to be alone. Im sorry that im weak enough to run away like this, but I really can't stick to anything or anyone right now. New shit is coming up and everything just seems like it's gonna end soon. I dont want you to have to deal with that, so I'll talk to you later I suppose. Or whenever we meet again. But im gonna try and distance myself from the people around me and see if I can get some control again of my downward spiral. Im sorry”.

Afterwards I didn’t chase or beg this time I simply said ok and if he ever did wanna fix things , or talk whether thats in a couple months or weeks , I respected his decision and held no grudge and cared for him.

Normally he blocks me or unadde me in the past or flatly says me and him will never talk again , but this time he still kept me added . Does this seem like he plans on coming back or contacting me at some point ?

Recently me and an ex who is avoidant broke up.( he broke up with me) in February, I reached out in June and we got back together and lasted a week before he broke up with me again. Through the relationship he did a lot that crossed my boundaries and would be just overall very hot and cold. He frequently stated he left me because he knew he couldn’t love me how I should be loved and that I was a good girlfriend but that in his words he was “ a bitch” . He blocked me on everything and said very hurtful things from what I assume to push me away , some being he didn’t love me , he didn’t want to care about me anymore etc, he said he’d miss me on some days but he’d never reach out because he valued independence and himself more than anyone. it’s been roughly a week or two and I’ve been crying non stop and struggling . We dated for three years and it was my first long term relationship.

Does it really get better ? Will it one day click for me that he wasent worth the effort and love , or will in all truth I always think about him.

If anyone has any advice, suggestions or anything I’d really appreciate it.

Recently me and an ex who is avoidant broke up.( he broke up with me) in February, I reached out in June and we got back together and lasted a week before he broke up with me again. Through the relationship he did a lot that crossed my boundaries and would be just overall very hot and cold. He frequently stated he left me because he knew he couldn’t love me how I should be loved and that I was a good girlfriend but that in his words he was “ a bitch” . He blocked me on everything and said very hurtful things from what I assume to push me away , some being he didn’t love me , he didn’t want to care about me anymore etc.
when I asked if he would ever miss me or anything of that nature he said “ probably on some days “ but that he wouldn’t reach out because he wanted to be alone .
it’s been roughly a week or two and I’ve been crying non stop and struggling . We dated for three years and it was my first long term relationship.

Does it really get better ? Will it one day click for me that he wasent worth the effort and love , or will in all truth I always think about him.

If anyone has any advice, suggestions or anything I’d really appreciate it.

Recently me and an ex who is avoidant broke up.( he broke up with me) in February, I reached out in June and we got back together and lasted a week before he broke up with me again. Through the relationship he did a lot that crossed my boundaries and would be just overall very hot and cold. He frequently stated he left me because he knew he couldn’t love me how I should be loved and that I was a good girlfriend but that in his words he was “ a bitch” . He blocked me on everything and said very hurtful things from what I assume to push me away , some being he didn’t love me , he didn’t want to care about me anymore etc. it’s been roughly a week or two and I’ve been crying non stop and struggling . We dated for three years and it was my first long term relationship.

Does it really get better ? Will it one day click for me that he wasent worth the effort and love , or will in all truth I always think about him.

If anyone has any advice, suggestions or anything I’d really appreciate it.

This is my first post , I mainly came on here to get opinions and honest truth.

Recently me and an ex who is avoidant broke up.( he broke up with me) in February, I reached out in June and we got back together and lasted a week before he broke up with me again. Through the relationship he did a lot that crossed my boundaries and would be just overall very hot and cold. He frequently stated he left me because he knew he couldn’t love me how I should be loved and that I was a good girlfriend but that in his words he was “ a bitch” . He blocked me on everything and said very hurtful things from what I assume to push me away , some being he didn’t love me , he didn’t want to care about me anymore etc. it’s been roughly a week or two and I’ve been crying non stop and struggling . We dated for three years and it was my first long term relationship.

Does it really get better ? Will it one day click for me that he wasent worth the effort and love , or will in all truth I always think about him.

If anyone has any advice, suggestions or anything I’d really appreciate it.