u/DoublePepper1976

It's stupid to even write this. We were only together for six months, and broke up two months ago. But it was good for me dammit. I need to just buck up and get over her.

I know I sound like a mopy sissy typing this out but I'm pissed whenever people patronise me about the relationship.

We broke up after our first big fight, which I regret to say was over text. I should have done one hell of a lot more to fight to keep her. Relationship wise this was my first long term successful one after a failed situationship beforehand.

My dad is pretty much out of the picture (if I want advice from the person who taught me how to shave, I'd look in the mirror) and never gave any advice, so all my romantic endeavours have been through my own grit. He's such a stubborn asshole that pushes down all his feelings, which is me. We look identical too, so that's a fun reminder whenever I look at my acne riddled face.

But my mum never hid the fact she didn't like her, because she felt that the girl I was dating was too stupid and unmotivated for me. I'm talking Reddit level "Just break up" advice along with eye rolling. Now she wants me to swear off dating while I put my head down and study.

But I could have made it work. I was too weak to fix the relationship and I should have done a far better job. There were problems but I should have been able to make solutions. Problems like -

My mum never hid the fact she didn't like her

We both had high pressure jobs

She had just bought a horse

Her parents didn't enjoy my company

It was her first proper relationship and my second one

Her family were significantly richer than mine

I'm not exactly the greatest guy to walk the earth, looks wise or anything like that

She lived in the city and I lived in the countryside

We lived an hour away from each other, but she couldn't drive and my mum refused to let me drive to her

The train travel took two hours, the taxi from station to hers in total cost £45

I was at uni, she wasn't

I was terrible at displaying my emotions

I listened way too much to people around me

I mean I solved a lot of these issues (I can drive to her area of the city now, I can talk a lot more, I can help out with the horse, I can ignore the naysayers, my uni course has just finished for the summer and I doubt I'll go back) and genuinely want us to start dating again, but she doesn't want too.

Well kinda, she claims she wants to sort some stuff herself first then think about it but doesn't know how long it will take. Clearly she's blowing me off but I'm too much of a poorly socialised dickhead to know so I've even burned the friendship bridge by being oblivious. So I doubt that will ever happen and I hate it so fucking much.

But want to know what I'm even more sick of? The fucking patronising bullshit I get off of the internet, family and friends.

"For God's sake, you're 20. That's so young!"

"6 months? Bah! I've been married for 10 years."

"I don't know what's so hard about deleting her contact."

"Come to me when you've got real relationship issues."

"She was always a bitch. I never approved. Why do you feel bad? She was terrible!"

"It's been a month, give it a break."

"Look, it wasn't a relationship. It was a stupid little dance around. Grow a pair of balls."

"She's definitely banging some other dude. Most likely when you were together."

I'm wanting to do the Spain party trip later this year, and it's open to 35 year olds.

I'm 20, and want to just know if anyone has a rough average age for the company users?

I've recently gotten back into the trilogy because I bought W0A on Xbox (buying the games is a total hassle for no reason, but I digress).

Originally I had hitman 1 and 2 as two separate discs during COVID but now I've got the trilogy. It might be my nostalgia talking but I can't see any real difference, which is spectacular considering it's 10 years on from the release.

Like come on, it's not that hard to call voters of an opposing party "jobless jakies on benefits" or make fun of their accent. It's actually super easy, no inconvenience.

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I live near Largs and had to break up with a lassie from Bearsden because the distance was too much for us to continue. Well more accurately she dumped me over text.

So how far is too far for dating in your opinion? Like half an hour, walking distance, something else?

Unless the partner is violent, known to be angry or whatever then there's no good reason why you should break up with someone over text when a phone call is more emotionally mature.

It just helps provide a better amount of closure and knowledge to the dumpee.

I'm 99% sure I'm joining police Scotland, so I'm curious if you have ever had your personal phone searched? And if so, we're you asked? Ordered? Given a period of grace?

I know, I know. If you've done nothing wrong you don't have anything to hide, but it feels like it's my personal freedom. Or maybe I'm a tech addicted Gen Z lol.

Just asking because I (20, M) was dumped by ex (F, 19) over text about two months ago after being together for six months and idk man.

My dad laughed when I told him two months ago, said it wasn't that serious because he didn't meet her, nor was I experienced enough to make the hour drive so it would have ended at some point and then said it was fine because there were plenty more fish in the sea and I feel like he could have handled that a whole lot better.

Then again I feel stupid for making a post about two months later, idk why I'm thinking about her so hard.

Very confused 20 year old Scottish tourist here on a family holiday lol