u/Dramatic-System3992

Would you date one or are they "too much" for you?

A few months ago this girl my age joined our team and we just clicked instantly. We had pretty much everything in common, same dumb humor, same music taste, same random niche interests, same way of seeing the world etc, I’ve never connected with someone that quickly or that deeply, even outside of work

We’d talk nonstop about mbti, life, plans,stupid things, everything, drink coffee and eat snacks together, take our smoke breaks together (even if one of us didn’t actually need one), and the workday actually flew by. It genuinely felt like I’d found a real friend, not just a “work friend.”

She left yesterday. Today I sat down at our desk (well, my desk now) and it just hit me hard. Her side is completely cleared out. No more random snacks she’d share, no more jokes, no more “let’s step out for a smoke”. The whole area feels quiet and empty in a way I wasn’t ready for.

I know it’s “just a work thing” and life moves on, but man… it sucks. Especially as an introvert who has difficulty finding relatable people to be friends with. I didn’t realize how much I looked forward to seeing her every day until she wasn’t there anymore.

If you’ve ever had a coworker who became a real friend and then they left, how did you deal with it? Did the empty-desk feeling ever go away?

A few months ago this girl my age joined our team and we just clicked instantly. We had pretty much everything in common, same dumb humor, same music taste, same random niche interests, same way of seeing the world etc, I’ve never connected with someone that quickly or that deeply, even outside of work

We’d talk nonstop about life, plans,stupid things, everything, drink coffee and eat snacks together, take our smoke breaks together (even if one of us didn’t actually need one), and the workday actually flew by. It genuinely felt like I’d found a real friend, not just a “work friend.”

She left yesterday. Today I sat down at our desk (well, my desk now) and it just hit me hard. Her side is completely cleared out. No more random snacks she’d share, no more jokes, no more “let’s step out for a smoke”. The whole area feels quiet and empty in a way I wasn’t ready for.

I know it’s “just a work thing” and life moves on, but man… it sucks. Especially as an introvert who has difficulty finding relatable people to be friends with. I didn’t realize how much I looked forward to seeing her every day until she wasn’t there anymore.

If you’ve ever had a coworker who became a real friend and then they left, how did you deal with it? Did the empty-desk feeling ever go away?

I was being scolded and yelled at today at work in front of everyone by a (ENFJ) higher rank coworker over a mistake that honestly could’ve been discussed calmly and privately, the whole room just went dead silent while I sat there feeling humiliated. What really got to me was the fact that nobody else said a word except this one INTJ coworker, he told him he was unnecessarily harsh and that’s not the way to speak with people

It’s strange because INTJs get stereotyped as cold and unempathetic but he was literally the only person who stepped in while the “people-oriented” types stayed silent

That was very nice of him

Salut, je viens de trouver un logement à 520 € hors charges, avec eau et électricité à ma consommation. Le logement est tout électrique (chauffage + eau chaude compris). Je gagne 1600 € net par mois, je vis seule sans enfant.
Comme c’est la première fois que je vais déménager seule j’ai un peu peur des charges, surtout l’hiver, et je me demande si c’est raisonnable pour mon budget. Sans APL, avec des charges estimées entre 70 et 100 € par mois, ça ferait environ 600 € au total, soit autour de 37 % de mes revenus, ce qui me semble un peu serré. Du coup le loyer effectif descendrait autour de 380-430 € + charges, soit 450-530 € tout compris.
Ceux qui sont dans une situation similaire (tout électrique avec un salaire autour de 1500-1700 €), vous en êtes où niveau charges réelles ? Est-ce que l’APL tombe relativement rapidement et sans trop de galère? Avez-vous des conseils pour limiter la consommation électrique (isolation, heures creuses, etc.)? Globalement, vous valideriez ce genre de logement ou vous me conseilleriez de continuer à chercher?
Merci!

What is it like, being homosexual in Russia ?

And why

It’s a common idea among right wingers. That and that homosexual men didn’t have a good male role model/father. I’m gay and I’ve had a healthy childhood and good relationship with my father. I just happen to prefer men? Someone please explain