u/Educational-Buy-62

Hello! Im just curious about this but especially in the U.S, there are a lot of people who are learning Spanish or at least understand Spanish to a certain point so why do native speakers are always so surprised or very sweet about someone else learning Spanish when its the 4th most spoken language in the world? I've seen a lot of comments on YouTube where native Spanish speakers are saying that "they're happy someone is learning their language" when I would say Spanish is very common, at least to learn as well.

For example, I speak Arabic and I am surprised when I see people learn Arabic just because, in my personal opinion, is people would want to learn it for 1. Religious stuff or 2. Business 3. maybe relationship (family/marriage)– there is no other reason I can think of, but with Spanish, its many things. I would get it if the language is 'not common' but Spanish is so common, especially in many states in the U.S also so many people around the world wants to learn it in general too.

This isnt meant as an offence & I hope it doesnt come off that way because im just wondering about it & i'd like to know your opinion as a native speaker. Thank you,

TL;DR: i used to upload my art on social media & stopped doing it because i was feeling jealous over other people's art, and how much engagement they got vs how much I got. Im thinking of going back into social media but im scared.

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Hello, so i used to upload my art on social media a long time ago but I stopped because I kept getting jealous of other peoples work. I kept comparing myself to their work; they were obviously better at it. Not only is my skills not good, but there is no engagement whatsoever. Sadly, what drives me to upload my art online is engagement, but its not even likes, its comments. I want to get many comments and interaction more than likes, but that cant happen unless your art is good enough to comment about.

These past months, I thought of going back to social media but im scared of uploading my art because I know i wont get engagement, especially with how social media's algorithm is. I keep reminding myself that interactions arent important, just 'do it for yourself' but i cant help it, i see so many great art get interactions and i get bothered. Or, which is a worse mindset to think of, see 'bad' art that get more interactions than me & thinking 'how do they get these interactions even tho they suck?' i know this is not good, but I cant help think that.

In the end of the day, I just want human interactions, maybe make friends who share the same interests, but I cant get that if my art isnt worth a comment. How did you/can you get over this barrier?

Hello, so I realised nowadays that some people cant keep the conversation going, maybe its because of the years of isolation due to covid-19, but (some) people dont know how to do the back & forth talking. I would ask a question, for example, and they would reply back with one word and thats it. I would have to ask another question again to keep it going and its very bothering.

Its not like the other person isnt interested to converse, they just dont have that 'flow'. How can I ask continue the conversation despite the one word answers? Sometimes I dont have anything to ask about even though I want to continue the conversation. I hope this isnt making me sound pretentious or anything, I just would like some ideas to keep it going & maybe the other person would get engage in the conversation. Thank you,

Hola, ahora mismo estoy aprendiendo español y quiero alguna recomendación de serie de España. Conozco 'Aquí no hay quien viva', un clásico pero quiero saber más, prefiero un serie de los 90s o más antiguos para mejorar mi español y sabe más de cultura española y palabras. Muchísimas gracias 🙏🏼

(P.S. no he utilizado traductor para escribir esto, así que hay muchos errores, quiero mejorar mi español sin usar un traductor)

Hello so I recently joined a discord server that is related to interest I have and everyone in the server is very kind yet I still feel very left out.

I engage with the server a lot & we would talk about different interests & random things but even if I engage a lot (everyday basically) I feel like no one really 'pays attention', i dont want to be an attention seeker, but it feels like I have to put the extra effort of replying to every person's text just so they can 'remember' me. Some new people joined the group too but they already bonded with other members and while im happy for them that they feel welcomed there (as I did) I feel like ill still be 'left out' no matter what

I realised though I usually reply as an echo chamber to texts, for example if someone wrote a fact about something I reply with the same fact they wrote but add one new thing to tell them im engaged with the conversation but I dont want that, it seems like a robotic response somehow therefore how can I change the way I reply to people?

tl;dr: i feel empty, and I feel like the days are going by & im very unmotivated to do anything

hi. first, sorry for the long post. Ibfeel so empty nowadays its crazy, im not depressed, i dont feel like im depressed at all, but I feel like im living life in a dream, the days are passing by and im doing nothing, just on my phone and for what? social media just gets me really frustrated. I dont even want to watch films or TV series anymore, even though I enjoy it a lot.

I have no hobby, I get scared to start hobbies because I know im bad at them, while everyone is a beginner, its different for me, I also cant find the drive to start doing something, and i've given up on art & editing for a while now because im not liking my results. I should try to be better, but again I feel like it isnt worth it.

I also dont like chatting with people, its weird though, i enjoy talking with other people but I feel like I bore them or I can never have that 'deep' connection, even if we shared interest. There is always someone better at it, especially on group settings.

Im not sure what to do anymore. I feel so empty, im not depressed, just very empty. Nothing is interesting but I want that 'excitement' again. Thank you for reading and if you've any advice, id be grateful

Is this the right subreddit? i hope it is..so I often see comments regarding my country and its negative, it gets to me so badly that I wish I was somewhere else, where the comments about the country is positive. I know there are differences and stuff but its so bad for me.

I genuinely dont interact with people in fear of them knowing where I am from due to the country having a negative view to the world.

I would think that people will 'pre-judge' me and I dont want that. It also makes me very ashamed of where I am from, and makes me hate who I am because thats my 'identity' forever basically.

Anyways, how do I ignore these comments and fear & just say where I am from despite the very negative comments or views on the country? thank you,

holaaa quiero mejorar mi español y me gusta jugar videojuegos tmb así que busco una gente que puedo practicar mi español con

Tengo 26 años (si edad está importante para ti) y juego videojuegos como Marvel Rivals, Kingdom Come Deliverance y Crusader Kings 3 (acabo de empezar a jugar a esos dos), Dead by Daylight, Phasmophobia, Apex Legends (pero no recuerdo mucho porque hace mucho tiempo que no jugué este videojuego)

Si tienes otros videojuegos que te gusta jugar, avísame

I'm only asking people who are learning a language as a hobby, what keeps you motivated to keep learning? there are some days where I feel like giving up and I would say its much harder for a hobby learner to get back to learning than someone whose learning it for work/family/heritage/etc purposes but I always try to come back to study the language because I dont want to lose what I've learnt.

Anyways, what keeps you, as a hobby language learner, motivated? I'm interested to know. Thank you

Not now, because I haven't reached a high enough level (imo at least) but I want to join Spanish-centred servers/circles online. I dont live in an area where there Spanish is spoken so thats why im focusing more on online. But I feel like an imposter, or an 'outsider' whenever I think of joining these groups, it's much different than a non-native English speaker joining an English server because English is a 'universal' language.

I understand that culture, maybe, could be an issue but thats a different story. Have you, as a learner, joined a specific server/forum/circle/etc of a Spanish speaking country and didnt feel like your an outsider?

Not now, because I haven't reached a high enough level (imo at least) but I want to join Spanish-centred servers/circles online. I dont live in an area where there Spanish is spoken so thats why im focusing more on online. But I feel like an imposter, or an 'outsider' whenever I think of joining these groups, it's much different than a non-native English speaker joining an English server because English is a 'universal' language.

I understand that culture maybe could be an issue but thats a different story. Have you joined a specific server/forum/circle/etc of your TL and didnt feel like your an outsider?

Maybe its because work being slow and thus im 'free' most of the time so i got nothing to do but complain. Problem is I keep complaining 24/7 and I do NOTHING about it.

For example i complain about being bored, and I can do hobbies but i dont, I just scroll thru social media. It's because i dont enjoy the hobby, because im only a beginner at it so i always, again, complain that 'whats the point if ill suck at it?'. Another thing is the job, while im doing nothing there i complain about it being boring and instead of applying to other jobs, i dont, because i know ill probably be busy and I don't want that. Whenever someone tells me to take action of whatever im complaining about, I make up unnecessary reasons for it & complain again instead.

How can I stop this? this started to bother my family & friends and I want it to end.

holaaa tengo 26 años y quiero mejorar mi español con cualquier persona que quiera aprender inglés. Quiero mejorar mi habilidad de escritura sin utilizar un traductor

Me gusta ver películas y series. Y me gusta aprender sobre psicología y lenguas también pero si quieres hablar sobre cualquier temas, estoy abierto a ello👍🏼

P.S. todavía no quiero practicar mi habilidad para hablar, solo escribir

TLDR: I keep latching on to my family's friends because I dont have anyone to talk to & its pathetic of me to do that. The friends are NOT my friends and will never be, even if we talk once in a while.

i hope this is the right sub. Anyways, because of social anxiety its been really hard for me to connect with people. Either online or in person, even if we share the same hobbies/interests for example, i STILL cant seem to connect with someone or at least have a little chat with each other (i usually dont know how to continue a convo properly) and that made me pathetic. Why? because i latch onto other people's friends & i hate it.

Like my sibling has friend A & whenever friend A comes around i keep talking to them. We're on good terms, but because i dont have friends of my own i keep wanting to form a connection with my sibling's friend when in the end, ill never be friends because its my sibling's friend and I know that its not a good thing but because i want that connection I keep latching on to other people's friends and in a way its easier (since i know them from my siblings). Of course I try to minimise the talks because im very aware of my behaviour & I dont want to be that type of person

Another example is that my cousin had a party & would invite their friends over and i've met my cousins friends multiple times before and they are fun to be with but anyways the party was cancelled and I was upset...not because of the party being cancelled, its because my cousin's friends werent able to come so I can talk to them...they're very cool people & its just lame on my end that I was upset because of that. who am I to be upset?? they arent my friends and will never be, they are my cousins friends. Because I dont have anyone to talk to that shares the same interest i just keep doing this over & over again. and its very pathetic.

hello, does anyone have any recommendations for 'older' british shows? shows that are made in the 70s/80s. Im not american but I would like to expand my knowledge on more British TV than American ones.

I love sitcoms and my favourites are The Dick Van Dyke show, The Odd couple, Golden Girls, Fraiser (even tho it was made in 90s) to name a few. If there are any series with the same vibes that would be great but also you can say your favourites, it doesnt matter lol