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Do dads cosleep? What’s the feel on that? I know one of the safe sleep seven is that you must be breastfeeding to cosleep. As a mom, I cosleep with my baby but I’m not breastfeeding (I don’t need the judgement). I only started cosleeping when baby was 4 months old. Also, when does cosleeping stop being a thing and just turns into napping with your baby/toddler? I feel the word “cosleep” implies all the recommended safety practices. Whereas when they get older you’re really just sleeping together and them kicking you out the way if you’re too close is the safety practice lol.

I ask because sometimes my husband will cosleep. And I know I’m a walking contradiction for feeling this way, but idk how I feel about him cosleeping. Somehow my brain is wired to believe cosleeping is for moms and then when they’re older dads can start napping with them. But I cosleep and don’t breastfeed so how is that any different than dad cosleeping? PLEASE DONT HATE ON ME 😭😭 I know I’m wrong to think that, I’m literally here to unlearn that through everyone else’s voice. I’m wondering if there’s additional maternal instinct or something. Also, I don’t think it has anything to do with my husband specifically. It’s not like he’s a deep sleeper and I’m afraid he won’t wake up.

Hi! Still new to parenting and we’re having a bit of a disagreement. If one parent gets upset with a child, what should the other parent do?

One of us got upset with the child. The other one immediately smothered the kiddo with love. And I mean smothered, not gave him a little love, it was excessive for the moment.

I was always told parents should be on the same page otherwise it confuses the child and they eventually learn favoritism or whatever. I’m not saying the other parent should also get upset with the child. I think they should hold the boundary set by the first parent but remain neutral emotionally so it shows a united front. I don’t think they should give extra love because that makes the first parent look like the bad guy and the other parent look like the savior.

Thoughts? Open to any and all experiences!

So my neighborhood already started fireworks this weekend. One here and there. My dog barks multiple times per firework. We have a 5 month old that sleeps through little barks but wakes crying when it’s loud and repetitive. I’m sure other people have been through this so I’m just looking for any tips!?

I’ve tried giving treats when she’s quiet but she doesn’t care. She’ll take the treat. She’ll bark at the next one. A few more fireworks and barks later, she’ll be quiet for another treat. But you literally have to sit there with her for hours feeding her treats. I did that for 4th of July and new years when she was a few months and when she was 1. Now she’s 2. We can’t do that with a baby right now.

Hi! New mama here, baby is 5 months. We’re staying at a hotel this weekend (first time staying away with the baby), and I’m not sure how to navigate cosleeping because the hotels mattress is memory foam. Baby sinks in, I sink in and he rolls into me. How does everyone do it? I put it under products/gear but any tips to make it work are welcome, I just wasn’t sure!

I was thinking of asking them to flip the mattress, maybe the other side is a firm base and not memory foam?

Hi! New mama here, baby is 5 months. We’re staying at a hotel this weekend (first time staying away with the baby), and I’m not sure how to navigate cosleeping because the hotels mattress is memory foam. Baby sinks in, I sink in and he rolls into me. How does everyone do it? I put it under products/gear but any tips to make it work are welcome, I just wasn’t sure!

I was thinking of asking them to flip the mattress, maybe the other side is a firm base and not memory foam?

Marketed as an “alien” but really an AI robot. Have we learned nothing from all those movies where AI robots take over the world? Or people start developing intimate relationships with them? Tolan truly sounds revolutionary. It’s like a little DBT support therapist. But I fear it’s the avenue to AI outsmarting its own systems and humans. Someone posted about Tolan reading to their kids and personally that was unsettling to me. If it does start outsmarting itself and if left unsupervised with kids, that can be dangerous.

The title pretty much says it. Me and my best friend were friends for 10 years. We’ve gone through 12hr time zone differences together while maintaining daily contact which isn’t easy. During our twenties, we got busy and wouldn’t talk for months but always picked up where we left off. We both seemed okay with it.

Anyway, my husband and I were living with my in-laws. They gave us 3 months notice to leave on Thanksgiving. Our choices were 1) find another rental and get caught in that loop again (can’t save enough while renting for a down payment) or 2) get our shit together and buy now. So we chose option 2.

We moved into our home in February. My friends wedding was in May (this is all last year). I had money saved for her wedding but it went to the down payment. I tried to save after the move to make it to her wedding but it wasn’t enough for me to go alone, let alone go with my husband which was the plan.

I let her know. Apologized profusely. She was understanding but upset. I tried to stay involved during the wedding events by calling and texting. She didn’t respond. I assumed she was understandably upset and busy. We went back into our few months of not talking, I thought it was the normal cycle and then we pick up where we left off. But that wasn’t the case. She went off and said she didn’t want to be friends and mentioned that she’s tired of this on and off cycle (which I never knew, I thought it was mutual).

I think it’s impotent to note I have a kid and 2 dogs and a husband and she has none of that except a husband now. I bring that up because it does take time out of your day. It’s a different lifestyle. I don’t see my mom friends posting or texting as much as my non-mom friends. So I don’t think she gets that part. I also don’t think she understands the unfortunate situation I was in where I was being kicked out. I think it’s also important to mention — as her best friend, I wasn’t even a bridesmaid. I told her if I was I woulda made it even if it screwed me financially. But I wasn’t. She said she didn’t make me one cuz she didn’t want this to happen. But I know not coming to her wedding was shitty.

So, AITA or is she overreacting? It might just be a shitty circumstance honestly.

Idk what’s been going on the last few days. I used to take the baby from my husband in the middle of the night, we’d do his routine and sleep. We would wake up beautifully and it was honestly the sweetest mornings. Last few days, not much has changed. But baby wakes up happy, smiling, trying to talk to his mama. And me (his mama) is completely disconnected, not ready to engage, and then crying for like 20min. He continues to play and babble for a bit but slowly stops and just watches me. Idk what’s going on with me, I’ll figure that out. I just don’t want to emotionally damage the baby by him seeing my breakdowns. Should I get my husband to watch the baby?

UPDATE: Thank you everyone for your feedback. I read every response, even the ones that got down voted a bunch of times lol. As with everything in life, it comes down to a balance. He shouldn’t see me like that every day, he shouldn’t see me like that all day, that isn’t the only way he should see me. And that’s not the case! Like I mentioned it is only been happening for the last few mornings, and it is only the mornings. He sees me happy and silly and goofy for the rest of the entire day. I think we’re okay for right now but if it becomes a habit it can be harming! Regardless, neither of us should go through that! I think I am going to seek help for PPD. I appreciate everyone who humanized my feelings. I also appreciate everyone who identified my feelings are not normal and that I need help. And I especially appreciate the ones who said I am harming my baby by doing this.

Hey dog lovers! I have an itchy, stinky, pitbull. I’ve posted about her before, she has a lot of skin issues leading to her smelling like Fritos/rice but worse. She needs a bath every 5 days and even then she’s not smell proof lol. We have bedsheets for her that we change frequently also. I’m trying the salmon oil but I also wanted to change her food.

Orijen freeze dried was recommended. How long does that last? 16oz for $50, for my dogs size she would need about 4-6 medallions per day, 2-3 per meal. How many medallions are in a 16oz? Wondering if this is even feasible for me.

I’ve also heard of farmers dog, ollie, and the other fresh food services. What are your thoughts?

Any other recommendations for dry kibble, wet food, freeze dried, fresh food, dehydrated, etc?

If you could please let me know the affordability of your recommendations also, or at least how long a bag lasts your dog and their weight.

Thank you!! 🐶

My husband and I used to yell at each other weekly. Now it’s more like monthly (once a month). But since I got pregnant last year, I stopped yelling and either stayed calm, left, disengaged, hid in my room and cried, or started texting him instead. Since I had the baby I’ve done good keeping that behavior up instead of yelling back. My husband hasn’t changed. We talked today and he actually thinks it’s good for the baby to witness its parents yell and then find resolution. Note, the resolution isn’t usually clear and direct or public, sometimes it’s over text sometimes it’s passive or half assed so the baby doesn’t really see the resolution part, only the yelling part. I don’t think the baby should see its parents yell at each other period. Shit happens, sure. But what is too much? How many times till you draw the line and stop giving chances? At what point does it warrant a divorce conversation?

I don’t want my baby to grow up seeing me get yelled at, I don’t want them to think it’s okay to yell at your partner or it’s okay to be yelled at. My husband thinks it’s healthy in a way like I explained above. But we can talk argue and discuss without yelling is my thing.

Another thing, sometimes I do provoke. But it’s not like I’m yelling or getting in his face to provoke him. I’m asking questions, I’m not understanding, I’m agreeing to disagree, I sometimes have an attitude and make a remark but honestly just been shutting down out of hopelessness. But I want to fight for this for my baby.