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I need some level headed advice because I don’t know if I’m overacting or not. We have a 10 week old and 3 dogs. My husband didn’t get paternity leave because of the nature of his work. I am on maternity leave until October, so naturally the childcare division of labor has fallen on me. That’s a whole different conversation that I’ll save for another time, but bottom line, it has created some resentment on my end.

He is traveling for work this week (Miami) so I am home with the baby and dogs. Of course it’s been overwhelming but I’m doing it. He told me he wouldn’t drink much on this trip because he needs to catch up on work badly, and ended up texting me wasted tonight. Our daughter all of a sudden is not wanting to go to bed and is taking hours to go to sleep, and that in addition to handling 3 crazy dogs is just already throwing me overboard. So when he texted me wasted I just was overwhelmed with anger. He didn’t once ask how we were doing today, didn’t consider FaceTiming us, and is out getting wasted with clients while I am drowning and not eating dinner until 11pm when my daughter goes down every night.

It just feels inappropriate to me to be on a work trip in Miami and get wasted while your wife and newborn is at home. I also have to travel for work every other month and I get how work trips and client interactions are often alcohol centric, but i just don’t feel this is appropriate.

I said goodnight and didn’t respond to anything with emotion because I don’t know if I’m just being resentful and a negative Nancy for not allowing him to have fun or if I truly have some validation behind what I’m feeling.

Looking to join either Lifetime on Atlantic (Prospect heights) or Chelsea piers in downtown Brooklyn. I used to be an equinox member, so ideally something that has the same amenities and vibe.

I am also interested in using the childcare option for my 3 month old every once in a while.

Looking for anyone who has experience with either facility or better yet both. Thank you!

Looking to join either Lifetime on Atlantic (Prospect heights) or Chelsea piers in downtown Brooklyn. I used to be an equinox member, so ideally something that has the same amenities and vibe.

I am also interested in using the childcare option for my 3 month old every once in a while.

Looking for anyone who has experience with either facility or better yet both. Thank you!

Looking to join either Lifetime on Atlantic (Prospect heights) or Chelsea piers in downtown Brooklyn. I used to be an equinox member, so ideally something that has the same amenities and vibe.

I am also interested in using the childcare option for my 3 month old every once in a while.

Looking for anyone who has experience with either facility or better yet both. Thank you!

Looking for good local espresso beans for my Breville Oracle Jet machine. Preferably something light, nutty. My current beans from Nomad brewery pull bitter.

TYIA!

I am 8 weeks pp from my first pregnancy. I’ve been athletic my whole adult life, competing in fitness competitions and doing weight lifting primarily. The year leading up to pregnancy, I wasn’t weight lifting as much because of life and career, but was still able to maintain my weight within 5lbs without working out.

Pregnancy really humbled me. I gained 70lbs and my body just blew up in the third trimester (also had gestational hypertension). My diet didn’t change during pregnancy- I didn’t have a bunch of cravings or eat like crazy. My activity levels were lower than usual but not nonexistent. Tbh, I was shocked how my body responded to pregnancy because I’ve always been super healthy.

It’s really affecting me mentally because I just feel so foreign in my body. I lost 20lbs in the first 6 weeks but weight loss has kind of stalled. I’m breastfeeding and starting to think I’m not one of the lucky ones that the weight sheds off during BF.

I do think pregnancy weight gain has a largely genetic component. Those that gained a lot in first pregnancy, did you experience the same the 2nd and 3rd or did your body adjust better the subsequent times? I’m so scared to get pregnant again now.

My wedding rings stopped fitting me at 36 weeks pregnant. I’m 9 weeks pp and they’re not even close to getting over my knuckle. At first I thought it was mostly water weight, but now assuming it’s also because I’ve gained a significant amount of weight during pregnancy (70lbs 🫠). I’m down 25lbs so far, so I’m surprised they don’t fit considering they did until about 2 weeks before I delivered! Trying to avoid getting them resized and playing the long game, but I miss wearing my rings.

I currently work in lab diagnostic sales (oncology). While I love it, it is a grind and requires constant support and field time. My company has gone through a lot of transition and QOL over the last year alone has decreased significantly for me (I’ve been at my company for almost 4 years). I just had a baby and am on maternity leave and I can’t imagine keeping up with the demand and stress of my current role with a newborn. Even 1 day of PTO is a wash because I can’t get away from client outreaches and the stress of the daily operational stuff. I’m considering transitioning to the pharma side where there is seemingly better QOL from those I’ve talked to. I’d like to be home more with less client demand and overall provides a better work life balance for a family.

Those that work in pharma sales- what does your week look like and overall QOL? How many hours do you typically do (with maintaining success)?

Would be a bonus to hear from anyone who has transitioned from lab to pharma and can compare the two. Thanks in advance!

I’m 33 weeks pregnant and a little late to this, but I just discovered that my workplace covers postpartum doula / night nanny services. I’m debating on which route to go. It seems through Carrot fertility, there are more postpartum doulas than night nurses within the network. From what I understand, PP doulas offer more holistic family support and seem to be more regulated. Night nannies focus more on baby. I see the benefit of both, so I few questions for those that went with either. Of note, I do plan to breastfeed with 1-2 bottle feeds a day (breast milk)

1. Those that went with doula, is it possible to still have nights where they operate more as a “night nanny” if we really just need a night of rest? I understand the need for overall support and I want to be involved as much as possible, but I also imagine there’s going to be some nights where a break will be necessary. Would this be supported, and have you seen the role more interchangeable?

2. What was the sleeping arrangement for baby? We purchased a Snoo for our bedside. Did baby sleep at bedside with you, or did baby stay in nursery on nights that doula was there? If baby stayed bedside, where did the doula stay and was it weird to have them come in at night? This might seem like a silly question, but just curious. We have 3 dogs that sleep in bed with us, so having someone come in and out of our room may be a huge disruption and cause more stress than anything. But on the other hand, would baby not being bedside with us disrupt routine?

Thanks so much in advance!

I’m looking for a meal prep service that offers bulk meat and simple sides for delivery (chicken, ground turkey, sweet potatoes, rice, vegetables). Every meal prep service I am finding does complex prepped meals which I’m not interested in.

I’m having a baby in 6-8 weeks, so want something clean for postpartum breastfeeding fuel and weight loss.

Live in Fort Greene Brooklyn for delivery if that helps!